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At lunch today, I started talking to my friend ( a guy) about his "girlfriend" (nothing bad or anything), like in front of her. She's at the table. I forget what I said, but it was just about them too. And then half our table went to get lunch but his *girlfriend* and I didnt, so we were there alone. Then she told me she broke up with him last night, so I was like "oops" in my head. And when they all got back, my 2 friends (the ex gf and bf) were like so unhappy. He had his head down..and in the next class he looked like he was going to cry. He's a good friend of mine and I felt so bad that I brought it up..because I didn't know about it. I don't know exactly what I am asking for..it's just that he was so upset. so..i dunno?? :'(
Just talk to him& tell him you're really sorry you brought it up. It's really not your fault since you had no idea about it. Just be a good friend& be there for him like you would any other day..I'm sure he'll appreciate it! Goodluck:] -Amber
I was walking home one day with 4 of my guy frnz and we r all really close and we alwayz have fun, well we were walkin home *john-my boyfrnd* was one of the 4 guyz and the rest were both of our frnz we were walking home 2 my house , and there are alot of woods by my house, well we were passing the woods that has a clearing way deep in it, and they were like lets go see wuts in the clearing, and so we went, they were all behind me and before i knew anything one of them wuz on top of me, i thought they were joking around but then they started laughing and kissing me all over my body,john was doin it to, i couldnt believe it, and then they started taking off my clothes, i tried to stop them but it wuz 4 against 1 and they were holding me down, i wuz so scared and i didnt want to call for help becuz they r my friends, it wuz horrible they each started to molest me, and the weird thing wuz they all had condoms, so it was like they planned it all out- or they r just weird and carry around condoms- but they just kept molesting me and john wuz joining in, they then let me get dressed and john carried me on his back home, i felt disgusting, but he would let me get down, and then when i got home they kept trying 2 take off my clothes again and feeling up my shirt while i wuz on the phone wit my parents, they finally left and i went 2 school the nxt day, and every1 started asking me if i really had sex with john, and i didnt kno wut to do or say, and then john walked up 2 me infront of every1 and said "that was an amazing nite last nite" and then now every1 thinks im a slut for gettin raped by 4 guyz that i couldnt help... wut should i do??? tell my parents??? Teachers??? POLICE??? p.s. im only 14...
OMG That's really horrible, first off I'm really sory that happened to you! Yes, you really need to tell someone! It'd be best to tell your parents first..and they should call the police! Those guys have no right to do that to you, or anyone at that matter! I honestly don't think you should be with your so called boyfriend anymore either! That's really weird of them to gang up on you like that though! But DEFIANTELY go tell someone with authority! You should also look into getting yourself checked for STD's or pregnancy:[ Goodluck hun,& I hope everything works out for you! I'm soo sorry!
to make a long story very short, a guy named mike has liked me since 7th grade...and i was never interested, persay, now, i like him, and i know he likes me, but hes so shy! everygirl hes dated or liked he never made a move on. tomoro well both be at this haloween party- the parents wont be home and i really want him to open up to me.. talk to me... and if i need to make a move, i will... how do i make a move ona guy? and how can i make him open up and talk to me?
Well while you're at the party bring him aside& talk to him..maybe he'll be more open. Alot of guys I know are shy& they open up when their friends are around.. I don't exactly know how to make him open up to you, just try talking to him. Maybe if you start talking first he'll be more outgoing. About making the move on him..just look him in the eyes& he should get the idea..but if not just..go for it! Hope I helped!
I'm 15 and I haven't had a boyfriend, ever. I'm not like wierd or that ugly either. I'm pretty outgoing and have a lot of friends. But am I doing something wrong?!?!
Man I hate when people ask if something is wrong with them or whatever..From what i know..you are NOT doing anything wrong! There's absolutely nothing wrong with not having a b/f at the age of 15! I know alot of girls& guys who haven't have a b/f or g/f yet! You'll find him sooner or later;] Goodluck!
To give some background information, I am 14 years old (female). I am currently dating this amazing guy who is 16. He's a very very nice guy and I think that I'm falling in love with him. Well, I started dating when I was 12, yes I know that was young but I wanted to be "cool". My first boyfriend was from church (14) and I had this great friend (13)from my church. I always saw them flirting and I really didn't think much of it. One day, we were at a youth group meeting and I found the two of them making out behind the church and I was completely heart broken. I broke up with him and then I moved onto boyfriend #2 who was 15 and I was 12. He was still having sex with his ex girlfriend so that was the end of us. Finally (4 boyfriends after the one that had sex with his ex... all of the others cheated on me too...) I found this guy that was PERFECT... So I thought. We were together for 4 months and I was in love. He was the first guy that I said "I love you" to and actually meant it. Things in my life couldn't have been better. Then around our 3rd month of being together, he got on the subject of sex and I was like well, I want to wait a little bit because I'm not ready. He kept telling me "No you're ready, I love you blah blah blah." He was presuring me into having sex with him and I was going to give in. Luckily, I was having things going on in my family at the time and I could never see him so he broke up with me and I found out that he was cheating on me with some 17 year old girl ( He had sex with her) And she thought she was pregnant. I went into this depression and I was cutting and tried to commit suicide. About a month later I met this amazing guy named Tim. We've been dating for 5 and a half months now and I love him, I know I do. He had the same situation with his ex girlfriend, she started doing drugs and she cheated on him and she pressured him into having sex and he wasn't ready (They didn't have sex though.) The thing is, I'm still nervous as HELL to fall in love with him because I don't want to get my heart broken again... He's #7 and I want him to be the one... I really do but I'm so so so scared that I'm going to get hurt again. I've told him that and he tells me that he'd never do that to me, EVER. I've heard that line over and over again. I feel like I trust him, but I really don't know. Can anyone help me try to get over being paranoid?? I really feel like I love this guy and I want to make it last.
PS: He goes to a different school than I do.
Thank you SO much if you can help.... Sorry this was so long =/ I really need the help though.
My friend's motto..it's perfect in this situation *If you aren't willing to risk it all, then you don't want it bad enough* If you're scared to take the risk of falling in love& getting hurt again, then you don't want him bad enough. If you don't take the risk you're going to be scared& worrying about it until you decide to finally get over your fear. Goodluck hun..and I'm sorry all that has happened to you!
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okay well my ex boyfriend danny and me went out for 2 months..well we were going out he started to hang out with his ex all the time and ye i did get jealous..n then one night he was telling me how he only told me he loved me becuase he was confused about her..so the next day which would be 2 months he dumped me for her..he asked her bak out and she said nobecuase she cant see them together..now danny is asking me back out..and i said yes i will give him another chance..he says he wants to be with me forever and he aid evryday he sees me he is falling in love with me even more and he said when i turn 18 he wants me to move with him..he says he will do anything for me and he is always here for me..i want to go back out with him because i do still love him but i dont want him to hurt me again..n i told him that n he promised me that he wont and he thinks we can last.
do you think i should giv him another chance???
i realli love him alot...he means evrything to me.... i mean wat if i dont n it would have worked out...n then later in lyfe i am wondering wat could have happened
You have a good point there, but then again..think on the other side. What if you DO go back with him& get hurt even worse. I honestly don't think you should get back together with him after what he did. If he told you he only loved you b/c he wasn't sure about his ex, then there's a chance that the same thing will happen again! It's really up to you, if you feel you can honestly trust him..then go for it! Just be careful& watch out! Goodluck hun!
hey well start it off im 13-m. ok well about how hard would it be to find a girl that is like only interested in sex after marriage for dating material? because seems like everywhere i look on here, theirs a pregnant girl or one worried about it. i'm just talking about like later in my life, in my twenties right out of college. just to be prepared. also, i was reading a book, and a guy asked the girl if she was a virgin, and she said that she wasnt even embarrased. so are you like supposed to be embarrassed if your a virgin?
(deeply confused in matters i shouldn't have my paws in)
It seems like you're a smart guy with his priorities right where they should be:] There are girls out there, yea I've noticed alot of under-aged girls getting pregnant as well. But it's their decision! And yes, some girls& guys are embarassed about being a virgin. It's mainly b/c they are afraid of the reactions the other people will give them for being a virgin.Well atleast that's what I think! I'm a virgin& VERY proud:] Goodluck in your search hun!
Aight...i like this guy that i usedta date...we dated for like most of the summer...BUT we broke up cuz i wuz an idiot and kinda got blinded by another guy...my x got a new gf (im pretty good frnz wit her)for a little and i wuz extremely jealous but i didnt say nething...now they broke up and he's free...he's starting 2 b really nice 2 me but my frnd lex talked 2 him and he said that he duznt kno if he would go out wit me again...but that wuz b4 he started being nice 2 me again...i dunno if he likes me or not...i try 2 b really nice 2 him and if i could i would go out wit him again...like i would love it! haha we had so much fun and i screwed it up...Should i tell the sexie little devil...or just wait 2 c wut happens in the nxt few weeks b4 sayin nething???
Hit me up with an answer...
-XLEEW-
HAHA sexy little devil, that's cute lol! Well maybe you should talk to him straight up..& ask him how he feels. I've learned that guys like it when girls can ask them things like that instead of having other friends do it for them. It kinda seems like he might be interested in you..so I say go for it! Goodluck! Hope that helped ya!
what are some fun things to do after homecoming dance that dont get to expensive?
Get a group of friends together& go to someone's house. That's what I might be doing;]
I'm 14 i have bluish green eyes, long dark hair, and tan skin. although i have been told by guys that i am pretty, they all say they could never date me because of my body. i am 5'8 130 LBs (a size two pants) with a size B cup. i have never met a guy who liked tall girls. i am starting to get selfsonscience. HELP!
It shouldn't matter what they think. My brother's g/f is 5'8 and she never had a problem with finding a boyfriend. I know a few tall girls just like you, but when guys stop being so gosh darn shallow is when they'll realize what a great girl you really are. Goodluck!
13 - female
I started my period about 9 months ago and I know that it takes about a year or 2 to get into an exact cycle..but how do you know when you're gonna have your period..because I don't wanna have a leak at school or something and not know about it until I get home! Please help!
It comes baout every 4 weeks, mark it on your calendar the day you get it& count 4 weeks from that day. Always keep *extras* on you just incase! You'll feel the pain before it comes..just as a warning! But if you're one of the lucky ones who don't get cramps, then just keep up with the calendar!;] Goodluck!
hi,
i was readin your column and i saw you were talking about bra sizes.ok, i have the same "problem", as you call it. im young and i have a big chest for my small frame. would you ever consider breast reduction surgery? my back hurts a lot from my boobs, and they always make me insecure with my looks, like my clothes are always too tight. do you think 13 is too young to think about surgery?
thanks!!
-*Natalia*-
Yea, that is too young, even I'm too young for sugery..I was considering that as well! But you're not done growing. Wait until you're like 16/17 b/c then you'll pretty much be done growing by then. If you were to get surgery now, then there is a possibility that they could get even bigger than they are now. But talk to your doctor about the back pain though, that can get serious. Goodluck hun!
hey, i was just wondering..
what age do you think its ok to get your nipples peirced? ive been wanting to do it for a long time, but my mom thinks its "innapropriate". oh, yeah, i guess i should mention that im 13. so..your thoughts? am i too young, or am i old enough to get er done?
TOO YOUNG! LOL, wait till you're older hun, maybe 16 at the least! MUCH LOVE
-Amber
Alright, and from your feedback "ugh..youre supposed to agree, dammit. jeez..you suck" ..I'm not here to agree with you..I'm here to GIVE ADVICE..hence the website "Advicenators"..I'm so sorry I didn't give you what you wanted to hear but you know, you'll have to get over it eventually& I'm also sorry for believing 13 is too young to have your nipples pierced..that's just..gross! Have a nice day!:]
ok i'am 13 and i wear a 38d bra . they have been this way since like ever and i grow out of my shrits in three months evey time i buy them .and my boobs keep on geting bigger and bigger how can i make my cloths fit better and i all ready wear an extra large in shrits because of my chest.please help i rate really good.
merle
I have the exact same size& problem..but I'm 14 almost 15..I know EXACTLY how you feel. But there is really nothing you can do about it:[ I wish there was as well, but there's not. All you can do is just keep wearing baggy shirts..I never do& I don't have a problem with finding shirts, but I also grow out of them fast! Goodluck hun!
do u people think its weird if ur a girl and tell a gurl u luv dem like when they are about 2 get offline? cuz my friend online who is lez said dat 2 me and i said it bak cuz i have known her 4 a while and she is like 1 of my best friends. is there sumthin wrong with that?cuz now that i think about it it kinda seems weird i juss said it witout thinkin.
much luv people!!
holla
Alot of girls say that to each other..even me. I'm not a lesbian but maybe you should ask her if she considers you as more than a best friend? Maybe that's why she says it..or, it could just be a friendly "love ya" like many girls do. Hope I helped!
ok.. my mom has been smokin since she was 16 and shes now 39. she constantly smokes and its disquisting. she says she wants to quit but she never trys and she says shes afraid that if she quits shell start eatin a lot and get realli fat. i told her id rather hav her fat then die of lung cancer but she dont care. can u think of anything i can do to make her quit cuz itz not only gunna kill her it hurts my dad, dog, kitten, and me and im tired of r house smellin like smoke. help please i rate 5s
Tell her how worried you& the whole family is about her smoking& risks of lung cancer! She should understand how upset it makes you all, and maybe she'll consider quitting.
Well, theres this guy that i used to like and i still kinda like him. hes awesome and sweet and hot and stuff and me and my friend shannon decided to go to teh movies and i invited him to go with us and he went with us and he started liking her and now they are kinda "talking" and it makes me very sad bc idk what to do. i dotn want to tell him or her that it makes me sad bc he thinks i dont like him anymore and shannon says that she wont do anything with him unless i say its ok but still i dotn like it and me and him were talking about it today online about how i didnt like him anymore and there was no point for me to bc he didnt like me and then all of a sudden he started talking about shannon adn how theyre hanging out on friday and stuff .. and it makes me sad. what do i do?
There's nothing you can do unless you talk to him. I mean, they have every right to hang out whenever they want..but if you still kinda like him, why did you tell him you didn't? I smell a bit of jealousy going around:[ If you don't like the fact they are interested in each other then bring it up with one of them..or both! Goodluck hun!
ok i have this really good friend named andy but hes become more than a friend for the past 3 weeks or so but he likes my other friend amber. but the problem is that hes always flirtin with me in class and in the halls when hes not with amber but then when we go to ambers locker i feel like i dont really exist or so and i just dont know what to do i mean i really........like him but does he like me or amber should i get over him? ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh lol
leah
He could like both you& Amber..He's prolly confused on who/what he wants! But I'd say get over him, if he's playing with your emotions or feelings now, immagine how they'd be if you two got together? There are a lot of guys who do this to girls, and it plays with their minds so much, but they don't realize it. Goodluck:]
Before you get your first period do you aloways feel angry and stuff and do you always get cramps? Thanks!
There are a few different signs that you're about to get your period, i.e getting annoyed really easily, being tired, unusually hungry, cramps, back pains& such. But not everyone gets cramps, they are the fortunate ones! Goodluck with all that! ;]