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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!

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Last night I felt really sad. I'm not sure what it was... I wasn't sure if it's the fact that I knew I was going to miss my boyfriend when he goes off to vacation, and I'm just hoping nothing will happen. Or if it's stress from me trying to make it work. If I was tired. Sad that I'm not exactly "satisfied" from this relationship due to how he treats me... Or because of school? Yesterday night I was with him, and things went pretty well. And I left feeling sad. I was worried about him because he was stressed out about many things and he didn't wanna talk about it. Maybe I was just feeling sad because he's stressed out, he didn't seem as affectionate as he was before? I'm not sure.

But it's the feeling where I really miss someone, or feeling really sad on the inside and you think that if you cry it'd relieve it. Which I did, and it made me feel a bit better but not as much. What do you think it could possibly be??

It could be the stress of all of it happening at once and it gets hard to handle. Sometimes us girls just need to cry.. why dont you watch a sad movie.. When ever I feel sad like I just need to cry, I watch my favorite movie simon birch... I laugh and cry and then I feel better good luck

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There is a guy who accidentally texted me as a wrong number. I told him it was wrong, but he continued texting me on multiple occasions, knowing I was someone he didn't know. We had some nice conversations and flirted a bit. He lives about three hours away from me and is 16. He wants to come visit me, but he can't drive. I'm 17 and can drive, but not that far - my parents wouldn't let me. I wouldn't want to either because I don't really know him. One day he got very intense with the flirting and asked if he were to ask me out what I would say. I told him maybe, clearly stressing that we don't each other and would have to get to know each other in order for me to date him. He then asked that if we dated if we would make out a lot. This kind of creeped me out. He also asked if we were now dating, I told him no because we have never met. I haven't texted him since that time and have just ignored his texts, but I feel bad. I don't know what to do and my friends tell me just to continue ignoring him, but I don't want to hurt him. Help! He also asked for a picture, but i refused to send one saying my phone was broken. He wanted to friend me on Facebook but I never told him my last name and he never asked for it.

Well if you are creeped out by it then yea maybe you should just keep ignoring him.. maybe tell your parents you need your number changed... I dont think you could have a relationship with someone you have never seen or even seen a picture of. But if you want to let him know what going on just text him and say hey, I am sorry but this just isnt going to work out.. And leave it at that. good luck

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I've had my navel pierced for 5 months now.I was cleaning it this morning and when I dried it up with a Q-tip there was a little blood and a bit of yellow discharge but it wasn't a lot or seeping out of the holes. My belly ring isn't red, I don't have a rash, there are no bumps around it, and it's not inflammed or has green pus. Does anyone know if it might be infected even though there are no other signs?

It could be the start of an infection.. try doing the sea salt water treatments on it again

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I'm a girl and only 13 so I don't have to worry about it yet! but does giving birth hurt? Cause I want to have Kids when I'm older I just don't want it to hurt. It seems like it would.

Yes I gave birth twice, it was the worst pain I have ever expirienced and I have been through a lot/. I even had an epidoral (numbs you from the waist down) and it still felt like my insides were being ripped from my body... BUT although it is the most horrid pain you will ever feel.... It is totally worth it!

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Remember me? the girl you gave your AOL to? i am so sorry i didnt contact or update you earlier, but alot has been going on.. he came back to me, and he says he wants me back now, and hes still going on vacation but says he isnt gonna drink at all, and that he knows he fucked up bad, and he loves me so much and wants me back, and every single day he gets online for me, and writes me , and calls me baby and says hes so sorry, but im not feeling his apology, so i told him no.. but he isnt taking that for an answer, but at the same time, it doesnt seeum like hes making SO much of an effort.. like a few im sorrys, but it doesnt so sincere if you get me? his friends say he regrets it real bad but doesnt wanna come off as desperate.. he keeps talking to me all the time, to be honest i love him so much, and i would love to be with him again.. but only if i saw that he was making an effort to be with again,he is sort of, but not as much that i can feel it.. im being COMPLETELY honest here, im not sugar coating anything causei t wont get me anywhere, i just need your advice on what to do, understand my position, when he writes me, and calls me baby and all that, and says he wants to be with me again i get all weak.. and i cant just ignore him, but i need your help on what to do, i dont wanna give into him either because he fucked up so badly.. any advice? :)

Well if you love him and you want to give him another shot than tell him that he needs to make more effort and he has to prove to you that he has changed... And that you are not promising anything, but if he proves he has changed (and this will take time notjust over night) then you will be with him.
If you dont think he is being sincere about all of this then maybe try being friends and growing into a relationship. But dont let him "sweet talk" you into going back right away and def dont let him bully you into it.... Go back if and when you are ready... If you need anymore help you can email me (remember all you have to do is send an email I cant add aol is different) or come back here and I will be glad to help :)

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when i was 10 yrs old i cut my wrist for the first time. it was only to see how it felt, then i did it again when i was 12. my mom was dating this guy who abused her&i didn't like it at all. i even told her&all she said to me was 'be nice'. he moved in&i was furious, they both fought all the time&everyone else hated him. i've been self harming since the day he moved in.
im now 14&just recently cut&burned my right arm. i want to stop but it feels like im addicted
please tell me how i can stop.?

You are right cutting is an addictive behavior. I know I used to do it. And its hard to overcome. Just think of other things you can do to cope with your feelings. When I first stopped it was so hard not to go back. So I would do things like take a washable red marker when I got angry and kind of replaced cutting with drawing the lines or cuts on instead of actually harming myself. Also I threw out all of my razors, sissors, and sharp objects. Once I was so angry and so upset I wanted to cut but I just grabbed a knife and peice of wood that had fallen from a tree and cut it up. Slowly the urge will go away. Try writing in a diary when you get upset or go outside and kick a ball. When you feel the urge just run up to someone and ask them to talk to you or stay with you and not talk if you dont want to. Having someone there will make the cutting urge go away. I am so glad you are going to stop. Good luck

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So im 17 Years old And My neighbor Is 20. He Flirts with Me And Then Says It's Nothing Serious. He Took Me Out For A Drink Yesterday And We Went For A Walk At The Park, There we Saw His friends And He Introduced me As His Bestie. Then we Get Home And He Starts To Flirt Again And Says That Im Beautiful And That Any Guy That Is With Me Is One Lucky Guy. We Both recently Broke Up With Our Bf/Gf. Then He Said That he Had A Sex Dream About Me... And Then he Said We Can Still Have A Good Time Without The 'Physical Touch" This Is All So Confusing And i Like Him but I Dont Know What he's True Feelings Are For Me.

Sounds to me like he likes you. So talk to him and tell him how you feel and see what he feels. Also make sure its okay with your parents if you date because you dont want him to get in trouble good luck

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I was making out with this guy and afterwards my upper lip had a small bruise
Is this normal ?

I did a little search for you on this and I found out that getting bruises on your lips could be from many different things. He could have bit you or maybe you bit your lip while kissing. Also you could have a health issue. I would suggest going to your doctor and having him/her check it out and make sure that its nothing to worry about

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I love animals -- and I've always loved animals. Now, I have a kitten and he's absolutely sweet, and adorable though he likes to bite and scratch me sometimes.

Regardless, I honestly just feel like hurting him but I don't know why! All sorts of things come into my mind on how I can hit him, or kill him.

And I've already a couple of times, roughly thrown him or shoved him off of me when he was jumping on my hand/fingers to bite.

I mean I also get these thoughts about my family members from time to time as well like my brother. I love him, but even sometimes I want to kill him and I get really odd thoughts like wanting to stab him while he's asleep, or this one time when I was renovating my closet.. I felt like bashing his head with a hammer while he was alseep.

I don't know what's wrong with me (besides being crazy)!

This is not a normal behavior. Wanting to hurt someone by hitting them is normal but youre not supposed to act on it but having thoughts about killing someone and actually thinking about how you would do it is not normal. I advise you go to the hospital and tell them what is going on... Dont be afraid they will help you good luck

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My ex and i broke were together for a year and a month, and have been broken up for one month. Through the one month, we would talk on and off and sometimes he'd be a complete dick and other times he'd be really sweet. He invited me to hangg out with him 2 weeks ago and said bring a friend so i said ill bring my friend Kyle.. and he blew up on me and everything because i was going to bring a guy even though when we broke up he told me he wasnt in love with me etc. so i didnt think hed care. And after that night we had no contact for two weeks up until two days ago, he called me and asked to hang out and i said sure. so it was me and him and we had so much fun.. he held my hand like he use to, kissed me and everything. but he is really into the clubbing and smoking scene which is whatever. then yesterday he called me and we hung out again all day.. we had so much fun and he would tell me he missed me so much and even got tears in his eyes etc. and kissed me alot. then today he texted me and i told him i was going out to a club etc. and we talked on and off. but then around 11 he called and said its going to rain so be safe please. things like this hed never do during our relationship. and he said he still loves me but i said theres a diffrence in loving someone and being in love and he said im not there yet.. but he still talks to other girls and i talk to guys which reallly made him jealous the past two days. so idk what to do? does he want to start something again or using me to pass the time before he goes off to college?

Its hard to tell talk to him and tell him how you feel and ask him what he wants from this

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hey. i dont think i am very pretty. please tell me ways i can look pretty as far as hair styles and ways i can do my hair,makeup,facial cleansers, clothes, etc. if this helps, i am 13 and have blonde hair which is layered and straight with a sidebang and blue eyes. please no answers that say "you are preety just the way you are. u dont need to do anything" i am not looking for those kind of answers.

http://makeup.lovetoknow.com/Makeup_for_Blue_Eyes_and_Blonde_Hair

the link above has make up tips for people with blonde hair and blue eyes

and here is a link that will show you some cute hairstyles
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XUvbnRZIGqA

have fun

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17/f, i broke my virginty yesterday. it was protected sex. i had my periods till day before. and now all of a sudden, the very next day after sex, i got my periods again. am i pregnant? pls temme d precautions. wat shud i do now.? y is it hapenning>

Its normal to bleed after your first time having sex if you used protection most likely your not pregnant

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point, blank, period, IM A FREAK. ive been thinking about giving my boyfriend oral sex [with a condom of course]. it makes me horny just thinking about it. the only thing is i don't know how long its supposed to be. what if i want to stop just as its getting good to him? any help?

When you are giving oral sex then you are in control. When he gives you oral he is in control. Thats the way it works you go as long as YOU want. If you feel like you are done and you dont want to do it anymore but he is not "finished" then you can just finish with your hand or sex. He will enjoy it if you finish orally or in a different way. Little tip though. Use your hand and mouth that way it doesnt go in too far and if your mouth gets tired your hand can take over for a bit :) good luck and have fun

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is it a myth that if men suck on your boobs, they grow? because my boyfriend does it multiple times a day and ive been in the same bra size.

No this wont make your breast grow. Now if you started to produce milk then yes they would grow but shrink back down when the milk dried.

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What is the cause of stomach cramps/aches in a 11 year old girl?

She could be getting ready to start her period the average age in the united states for starting your period is 12 and she is close. also she could be constipated if its worrying you take her to the doctor good luck and I hope she feels better soon

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female, 17. okay, SO, its summer. I was talking to 3 guys, nothing big, just summer flirting, ive hung out with 2 a lot and the third one not so much, im not really interested in that one. the guy i was talking to first is really nice and he asked me to be his prom date, 2 months later he asked me out and i said yes. this weekend he went on a cruise and the 2nd guy i was interested in asked me to go out and just hang out with him, i said yes and took 2 friends with me, i didnt think it was anything serious. we ended up going to the movies and he paid for me and everything, he texted me today and said he wants to be more than friends. heres the thing, i dont really want to because last summer we had a summer-fling going on and then he suddendly stopped talking to me and started going out with another girl, so i dont know what to tell him, he doesnt know i have a boyfriend nor do i want him to know at this time. thanks in advance(:

Just tell him how you feel let him know that you really like him but a friendship is all you can offer right now good luck

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he talks to me like im just a friend but he was the one who hugs me and holds my hand and said he loved me. I feek as if he just said he liked me just beacause. we havent talked in a week and wen he pik=cked up the phone today we had nothing to talk about but he kept going on and on about how this girl i go to school with is hot and stuff and keeps saying it. Does he love me like i love him? we are both 11 and i am a girl.

Aww huni he is a young boy who just isnt ready for love. I know you really want this but dont worry you are going to find someone someday that is going to make you so happy and feel so loved and treat you like a total princess

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Hey! I have Brown eyes black hair and a médium skin tone. I also wear glasses and i wanted to know if you could give me any color suggestions and looks that will make my eyes pop while wearn glasses.




Please rate this advice!

I have brown eyes and dark hair as well and I am going to beauty school. I am glad you came to me for advice :)
First let me tell you that people with brown eyes can wear many colors unlike those with blue and green eyes. Which is awesome :)

I like to wear browns occasionally but remember to stay away from browns that are close to your eye color it will make your eyes look dull.

Deep purples, blues and greens look fab with brown eyes.
You can also use a combination of browns and the other colors listed above.

My favorite colors that make my brown eyes pop is black and greys and with brown eyes you can never go wrong.

I use a pale grey first and apply it from my lash line all the way up to my brow bone. then I add a dark grey from my lash line to my crease and the I take a eyeshadow brush (you can use a paintbrush if you dont have one .. i do ) and lightly dust black from the outside corner of my eye to the middle of my crease.. thicker at the outside and then thin toward the crease... and then add some black liner and mascara this makes my eyes look amazing.

also try using purple liner and eyeshadow together this has an awesome effect on brown eyes.

here are a few links to pictures of awesome eyeshadow colors with brown eyes...


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http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=eye+shadow+color+for+brown+eyes&view=detail&id=80AA6F622966619C221DE6C1504E8C406E8F7AF0&first=0&qpvt=eye+shadow+color+for+brown+eyes&FORM=IDFRIR

2
http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=%22blue+eyeshadow++brown+eyes%22&view=detail&id=45B5B09B79EE70F933A24A081ECCB698CCF39093&first=0&FORM=IDFRIR

3
http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=green+eyeshadow+for+brown+eyes&view=detail&id=AD1095895C535E3FA4B570DCB70054A36446981B&first=31&FORM=IDFRIR

4
http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=green+eyeshadow+for+brown+eyes&view=detail&id=E2887D21C07363DEE95CDF92F5E1009C4EC09290&first=61&FORM=IDFRIR

5
http://www.ucmakeup.com/img/SmokyEyes.jpg

hope this helps and have fun with your make up :) come back if you need anything else

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right, im 17 and im struggling right now with a sticky situation i seem really confused with my love life, like i dont know what i want right now.
i've dated this guy for over a year and it was the best but around november last year he ended it then he came running back to me , so i decided alright il give him a chance but hmmm i went on holiday right and when i came back he kept saying we were gonna get together but now its been 7 months and im tired of waiting i still have feelings for him & such but i got to the point where i cant take it anymore. he wanted to see me but i rejected him ,
another thing is that i've known this other guy for quite some time but recently we started talking alot and i really like speaking to him he always compliments me , hes nice we have good convos and well thats something me and my ex dont have , he never compliments me hes done things to me that has made me hate him so much but yet i always end up forgiving him and giving him a chance , around febuary he started dating this girl while he was telling me he wanted to be with me and ah i dont know what to do , he left her for me but i cant forget what he done :( plus he also had the cheek to tell me he had sex with this other girl but how it meant nothing..i understand i appreciate his honesty but it hurt alot cause even though we weren't together it killed me inside...
sometimes i feel to move on from him but I CANTT i dont know what stops me from moving on i wanna get over him but i have feelings.
However im afraid im gonna end up falling for this other guy, the way he speaks is so different im SOOO CONFUSED :(
i thought i would be happy to get back with my ex one day but the past helps me recognise his errors too.
please help me im really on the urge to losing it ;/ :( pleaseeee !

Honestly reading this I feel that you should stay away from the ex and go for this other guy. Your ex hurt you and he never tries to make you feel good. You deserve better than that. I know its hard but you should move on and drop the ex like a bad habit. good luck and best wishes

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So I have been dating this guy for two months, the first boyfriend I have had in a while because I stopped dating after a serious relationship. But I really like this guy, he's amazing, but he has a temper and easily offended and is very sensitive. We joke around and call each other names and it's always fun. Well I went camping last weekend without him and when I got home the first thing I did was go so him, his friend was there and I didn't know so I slept in his bed for an hour or two then went home, this was the last time we saw each other. Well my phone has been broken lately so I haven't been able to really talk to him. I talk to him maybe twenty minutes a day through verizonwireless online texting. Usually when I get off work, we both work so we only hang out certain days, he worked til 7 wednesday but I expected we'd hang otu because it was our 2 month anniversary, he asked me to go the movies with him and I said yes, I told him to look up playing times and he said he was too lazy because he just got off work. And I said you're a lazy little grumpy boy after work aren't you? (: and he said he didn't want to hang out since obviously he's being a lazy grump and then just stopped talking to me. So we didn't go on our date, then my friend B went over to his house the next night because they're best friends, they got super drunk and it made me mad that he would hang out with his friend but no me on our two month, even when he worked even longer that day. I texted him and told him and upset me and he didn't reply. the next day I texted him off my friends phone at work and told him we need to fix things or it isn't going to work and I want it to work. He said no what's your problem? And I said I just want us to treat each other nicer and try not to take things so hard because we always end up fighting, and he said well you act so rude sometimes I feel like I am back with my ex. and I got super upset and told him that I don't want to be compared to her any more and I try my best and i don't want to be thought of as her. and my friend b told me that my boyfriend wasn't sure if he should stay with me I told him I wasn't sure either. But I really want to fix it, I really adore this boy and he lights up my life. What should I say or do to fix it? please help :/

Sit down with him and tell him that you love and care about him and you dont want to lose him and tell him how you feel about everything. Let him know that it is hurting you and if he loves and cares for you he will try to change this. If he doesnt then leave and find a good man who will love you ad treat you the way you deserve to be treated good luck and best wishes

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