SecretDreamer95's advice column

Throughout discussions of the Pit Bull breed, you will notice two words repeated over and over again: Responsible Ownership. With media hysteria and BSL (Breed specific legislation), we good owners, find ourselves endlessly having to defend our breed. Every bad story and headline damage our dogs even further. Irresponsible and ignorant owners have done almost as much damage to these dogs as dogfighters have. The Pit Bull is an exceptional breed that requires exceptional dedication and ownership. This page may seem to paint a grim picture of Pit Bull ownership, but the breed's very survival depends on new owners knowing what they are getting into, and ALL owners being responsible and protecting the breed's reputation.

like most animals it depends oon how they are brought up. some days have a wild side.

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For valentines day I always make a big thing out of it but I don't have as much money this year but I still want to do something special. What should I do?
By the way ;) I think you know who this is =D

Hey Lover..I had a gut feeling when I got a message telling me someone wanted my advice lol. Lemme see if I am any good at this haha..

NOTHING..!! stay home, turn the lights down low and give your hunny a valentines night to remember..;). I am sure you have some sexy lingerie laying around somewhere..light a few candles (put the dog and cat outta the room lol)..turn on some sexy music and..do a strip tease for him ;) I am sure he would like that better then any $20.00 gift or card.. ;).. no romantic supper..no roses...lol just you, him and a bed..;)..

lemme know what you think

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I know idea what category to put this under, and technically it has to do with gift giving cause its a birthday present to myself.. =]

I have about a dime size birthmark on my side, its dark brown, and I've decided I'm going to cover it with a tattoo.
Any cute tattoo ideas?
I was thinking maybe a flower with a lady bug or butterfly? (But not a sunflower! my friend has one and i dont want her to think im stealing it)

Or maybe some hearts and stars cause those are always really cute..

Any ideas are greatly appreciated. =]

I love dolphins!! ;) stars and moons as well but i love dolphins. get one hehe..

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At what age should a girl be able to shave her legs?

i was 9-11! lol young yeah but it's kind of akward wearing shorts with legs even with al ittle bit of hair hehe. whenever you feel comfortable..

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okay, im a nineteen year old female and i really want a baby. im NOT old enough, and i know im not ready, but i cant help wanting one. there is no way that i will have one right now, because i dont want to hurt the chances of my child's future, so i WIll wait to have a child. i was just wondering if anyone has ever felt the same excitement for motherhood so young, like me. and, if you have, i was wondering how you deal with it, because its been making me sad lately.

People say you are not ready but really when you have money and family that help you you are still not ready. I say this not to be mean but to be honest because I have been thinking.. you are not ready because you will never know what that child is going to be like.. ya know what i mean? sick, healthly and so on.. so really you cant be ready when it comes to having a family.

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How could you be nice to people without them taking advantage of you?

the nice people always get taken advantage of..usually..i understand how you feel..once you say no the first time you will feel bad and probably change your mind and say yes but once you start to do it more often people will see that you are standing your ground and you wont take them taking advantage of you anymore!

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15/f
so, im the new girl at my school. im a freshman in high school.ni went to my old school for 9 years and knew everyone in my grade. we were small, but comfy cozy, i could have stayed there, but i decided to switch. i had lots of friends and lots of guy friends. i was really outgoing, and that was just my personality. everyone knew me so i could act however i wanted without anyone saying anything rude. ive never been a new student before so i really didnt know how to act. somehow, these 2 girls who i thought were my friends, started to hate me, and now i feel awkward around them and whenever i do something, i always get a feeling they'll find out and judge me about it, when at my old school, i didnt have to worry about that stuff. i want to be friends with them, but they are extremely bitchy and i dont know what i should say to them. they think i started stuff with them, when i really didnt. but heres what i really need some help on. im not friends with a lot of guys at my school, and its making me feel like ive lost my outgoinging"ness". lots of my friends are friends with guys, but i never put myself out there anymore because im afraid what people will think. i dont know how to get me out of this. its been worrying me for awhile now. i know it takes time to make friends, but i really want some guy friends. anyone know anything i can do?

Yes!! Ignore those girls because they are J.E.A.L.O.U.S of Y.O.U! Now you might be thinking why! Lets see.. You are outgoing and guys like that and its easy to make friends that way. So don't want for them to come and talk to you. you go and talk to them! ask me how things are going and what they like to do and ask if you could sit with them at lunch and then maybe after awhile ask them if they wanna hang out. dont mind those people who may say things about you! they just dont know how to get out there and make friends so they want to make other people feel week and hide! ;) get out there and have fun...i mean u can still keep the friends from your old school..you will always have them! good luck! ;)

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is it normal for your vag to hurt and ache during your period?

I had to get the ultrasound done and everything was fine. Sometimes the cramps are so hard to bare that it hurts down there as well. I find that a HOT bath really helps or a heating pad! .. but if you feel like you should see your doctor it wont be a waste of time. you want to make sure it's nothing for you. good luck! i hope you have good news.

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Umm this is a really weird question

im 15/f

I saw a picture of a penis...no questions please.

Um I think that they are really gross looking... uhh it makes me feel really awkward that all my guy friends have them...ughh
And yes, I'm 15, not 11.

I'm not like, a lesbian or something am i..?

:S

Some girls think they are attractive i mean other wise how can you have sex and be gross at the same time right?? You're normal! I have a friend who is like that she looks at a penis and laughed haha! all through one semester in grade 12 she laughed everytime she talked or thought about a penis lol soo :P no you are not a lesbian. you may be a long time before you get comfortable with it.. you're still young you have a lot of time :) good luck..

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17/f.

to make this very short, my best friend is really jealous of me & gets jealous of anything i say & do, she makes up lies and always tries to one up me. its getting on my nerves so much. its getting worse & worse. i tried to confront her about it, and she gets better for a few weeks, and then its back to her old ways. i just don't know what to do.

'best friends' as a matter of fact DO get jealous of each other.
Okay, so this is going to sound mean but it worked for me. i had friends that didnt want me hanging out with other ppl and so on and so fourth at first i wouldnt do it to keep peace but then after.. i did everything that bugged them because in the end they started to realize that i am my own person and i am going to have a life! try it and see if it works because if you dont you wont be get anywhere in life without having a jealous person bring youdown! let me see how it works there's probably more things you can do . ;) let me know hehe..

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I don't know but...

My dad was accused a few weeks ago of harassing someone. He didn't, just to be clear. The woman who accused him is a lazy person who made up this rumor because she was tired of being told what to do by my dad.

My dad is her boss.
See? She's not too bright. I really hate her.

Her story is false too, and doesn't make sense because she claims that he grabbed her arm and forcibly pushed her into her office to get back to work, when what actually happened was he was nowhere near her, he said "Please leave the room, I have work to do. You get back to work." He didn't walk up to her or anything. But she wanted to lash out at him because I don't even know so she claimed he follows her around and calls her names and physically touches her.

Just so you all know, by "physically touches her" I do not mean sexually. And by "harassing" I do not mean sexually.

The company has to do this investigation on it, because they have to take things like this seriously. I'm just asking...how serious is this? Could he lose his job just because some lazy little bitch was bored??

I'm really scared for him, and he's been mopey for the last few weeks because he's scared too.

What do you guys think? And is there anything I can do to comfort him?

if there are cameras they can check and see what really happened that way your father doesn't get into trouble! and she may get fired for coming up with false alarms on her boss. not a good thing to do for the near future if she wants another job.

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hiya i am having trouble understanding my menstrual cycle and my head is a bit baffled as i think i could be pregnant...my period started approx 10th december....and lasted for apporx five days..when it had finished 2 days later i had sex ...i am just wondering when should i take a test ?

also take it in the morning because your pee is more concentrated.

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Okay, well i get my period on the 30th of every month and it goes for 7 days...it's pretty regular..how many days is my cycle?

on the calendar write down the day you started and ended. when you come on it again count the days from your last period to this one. SOMETIMES it may be different because your body can be going through some sort of stage. it will give you a close idea..

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no speeches and no need of trying to convince me otherwise, trust and believe everyone would be happy if i was dead or better yet to see me suffer, all i wanna know is if i continue to take these sleeping please without eating and drinking period how long will it take for me to die and how will i feel, i don't mind pain, i just wanna know how long

um..why do you want people giving you advice on how to kill yourself? that's wrong on so many levels. life is a beautiful thing even through the crappy moments. there's a reason you are put here on earth so live it to the fullest and be happy!! if we give you advice on how to kill we would get in to a lot of *^*()&*^ *^&&^&*(

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Well Im Actually Really Short, Everyone says that plus dey allwaiz tease me bout it. So i wanna grow Taller but i dont know how, I've alwaiz wanted to be tall. If Therez A Easy But Effective Way to grow (female, teens), would you please let me know. I've tried lots of things, but now i'm desperate. If theres certain things i could eat/drink, or certain things i should do it would really help, plus if you have any ideas in how you can that would b a help too. Thanks

there isn't a way to grow taller. you can wear high heels lol that's probably it. accept it too tall is bad because most guys thinks it's cute when a girl is shorter. :)

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I've had fake/acrylic nails for such a long time now (done by a salon). I'm just sick of going every few weeks, so my problem is.. is there any way I can get them off at home? I don't like it when the professionals take them off because it really hurts their way. Is there any products I can use or soak them in to get them off? I've heard soaking them in soapy, warm water helps but that takes forever! Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.

nailpolish remover is suppose to work!

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I was just thinking about this the other day randomly..

If someone is a loser what makes them a loser? What is the difference between a nerd, loser and a loner? o.0 I am confused. Is a loner the same thing as a loser? Is a loser considered a nerd? Is geek and nerd even the same thing? Ugh..sheesh update me here I'm totally confused

In school people compare other people which I never really understood because in my mind people are always the same and equal.

I am glad you believe everyone is equal. People compare people to what they see them as.

if a female gets a high grade on a test she is sleeping with the teacher and is such a prep. if a make gets a high grade on a test he is a nerd and eww gross and dirty. Okay! They study to get those grades maybe they need the scholarship because their family doesnt have much money and they need that to go to school and get a good grade.

if a person likes to be alone at school because they want to concentrate on their school work. omg, he/she is such a loner i would never want to be in their shoes everyone hates them.
No, not everyone hates them just the person saying that hates them. Maybe they have the best social life outside of school..

Someone can be a loser by the way they dress, what they read, what they eat, how they run..for stupid reasons people call them a loser.

It is very rare to see someone just walk up to someone and ask them how their day is. At school everyone (mostly) are followers. They rather keep their jerky friends then go and make friends with the kid sitting alone at the lunch table. Believe it or not SCHOOL is the worse place to be when it comes to making friends. As long as you stay the way you are for accepting people as they are you will be rewarded in the long run..

kk i hope this makes sence haha. umm let me know kk

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I don't like sex at ALL and I feel that my girlfriend is really pressuring me into it. I told her my past experiences led me to be this way (among other things) and I don't want to hurt her feelings. How can I tell her to just back off?

If you want to tell her she may think you are Gay so you are def going to have to explain it in a way where she knows you are not and that you're just not ready yet. it's going to be hard so good luck. break it to her gently.

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im 16/f
hes 20/m
im 6 & 1/2 months pregnant.

(please dont start with the 'if hes such an asshole why are you having a kid with him?' or 'you brought this upon yourself'. obviously i know this)

im having my ex's baby. id really rather not have him around because hes manipulative, controlling, aggressive, & unpredictable. another reason is because hes been selling drugs lately, smoking weed all day everyday, & the people he hangs out with, i dont want my kid around them.
usually i wouldnt have a problem with smoking weed but if hes going to be handling my kid, plus with other people around it just sounds bad.

my parents & i have decided to make him fight to see the baby. based on what hes said, he thinks that hes going to have the baby half the time, so hes gonna get a house before she comes and etc... I DONT WANT THIS AT ALL. does anyone know anything that could help me have full custody over the baby, or he (if at all) has to be supervised by me when he visits her ?

he has assault & kidnapping charges, would this possibly keep him from seeing the child ?

thanks !

If he has those charges and you take it to court i dont think he will be able to see the baby UNLESS he has a supervisor around him if not you then a social worker. there's a big change you may have most of the custody since he has those charges and if you have proof on him being abusive/drug selling um..that could help. let me know how it goes and if this helps. no child deserves to be in that situation.

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