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How could you be nice to people without them taking advantage of you?
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the nice people always get taken advantage of..usually..i understand how you feel..once you say no the first time you will feel bad and probably change your mind and say yes but once you start to do it more often people will see that you are standing your ground and you wont take them taking advantage of you anymore!
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You sometimes have to say no politely, gently but firmly in a diplomatic way. Being nice is overrated. Don't be nice at the expense of your own needs. Try to find another way of getting out of certain situations. I can't really speak specifically, just generally. If you have a specific example of a situation like this we could help you too.
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You need to start by setting firm limits for yourself (such as, I won't allow myself to _______ ). You have to stay true to yourself and don't LET them take advantage of you. Don't be afraid to tell someone that you can't do something for them. A friendship should be a 50/50 thing. If you feel that you are giving more than your share on a regular basis, then it is no longer a friendship. I have always been "the nice person" who let everyone walk all over me. As I have gotten older, though, I have gotten smarter, stronger and have found ways to be more assertive and self-protective. Good Luck!
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Its a case of 'treat them how you would like to be treated'. I wouldnt go in with the attitude that you're gonna be used or taken advantage of. There will ALWAYS be someone else like you. Try to notice if you think they are taking advantage of you then speak to them about it. :)
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