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Hi, My name is Bailey. I am 15, and I know that is young, but I think I can offer good advice, or at least try my hardest.


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My best friend and I are no longer friends after an argument which ended our friendship. She knows everything about me, even my deepest secrets. She has offered to talk to me about things in about a week, and I'd like to bring up the things we have shared with one another. I want to confirm that everything we have said will be kept secret, but I am afraid if I put it the wrong way she will see it as a weakness and threaten me with it. How do I ask her to not tell my secrets while showing that I can be trusted with hers, and am not afraid of her answer?

This same exact situation happened to me.

The way I took care of it was, I talked to her when she was alone and I said that we shared a lot of stuff with eachother, and I know we are no longer friends now but I think we should stil respect eachothers secrets and keep them what they are..secrets..
I said that I no matter what will keep them secrets even if she tells people, because I am trustworthy. And of course she didn't listen at first and she tested me by telling a not so big secret and I did not tell any of hers, and she tried it again, and I still kept hers. After that she did not do it again, and those secrets will just be between her and I...

I wish you the best of luck on this..if you need anything drop it in my inbox.

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A girl that is one of my best friends did something that I thought was pretty childish. Well about 5 months ago we went up to another town to help another one of our friends with her parents 50th anniversary party. We went up for the weekend to help prepare. Well during the weekend I became close to one of the girls; I'll call her "Gina" that was helping out. We ended up talking to each other the whole time and got along really well. I even asked for her email but then didnt get a chance to write it down. Anyways, during the time that me and Gina were getting along I could tell my friend was getting jealous. She kept saying that we were getting really "chummy". Well I hadnt seen this girl in 5 months because she lives 2 hours away.
So anyways, this weekend my best friend said she was having the friend over whose parents had the anniversary party. I thought it was just her invited. While today I phoned to say hi. I couldnt go over to visit because I had to work. In the background, I could hear talking. I asked who it was. My other friend (not my best friend) said it was Gina. I said "you never told me she was over"! Then my best friend got on the phone and lied. She said "yes I did", so she wouldnt look bad but I know she didnt. So now i'm quite upset. I know she lied because she didnt want me to know that Gina was over because she was jealous. Should i confront her?

Yes, I do think you should confront her. You need to tell her that you are allowed to have more than one friend. She really needs to understand that, because it is not healthy for her to be like that. I have had friends like that before, and it was really hard to have other friends with them always getting upset when I would hang out with another friend instead of them. So I really do think you should sit her down and tell her about how you feel. She probably will not take it well, and she may be mad, but I think it will be beneficial in the long run.

Good Luck..

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I met this girl this year, and we quickly became best friends. We ate lunch together every day, saw eachother outside of school, and we had English together so we would always see eachother. Semester 2 began, and she started to eat lunch with the guy she liked and his friends, leaving me all alone. I found a new group of friends while she continued hanging out with her crush and his group of friends. I confronted her about it right after it started and we argued about it so much we didn't talk for 2 weeks. We made up, but things still aren't the same. She says its important that she gets the guy, but I always thought our friendship was more important. It's been a while now, and we still don't talk often (VERY rarely), never see eachother, and I don't know what's going on in her life anymore. I want our friendship back, but I don't want to fight about it again and have it be even worse. What can I do?

I know this is not want you want to hear but I am going to give it a try anyways:

I really think you need to just move on. I think you should just forget about her, because that is what she did to you. And so that really means is that she was not a true friend. I think that you should really just find new better friends, and just try your hardest to move on.

It will be tough, but after a while it will be fine...

I wish you the best of luck....

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Hi, this is going to make me sound really messed up. Sometimes I laugh uncontrollably when a situation doesn't call for it. Today for example my parents were fighting, and I just started laughing. I didn't find it funny at all and I was really upset about it, but I couldn't stop it. It also happened once when my friend told me her mother died.. I laughed as I told other people, even though i felt awful about what happened..
Is there something wrong with me? I hate not having control over my reactions like this.

It is your way of reacting to a bad situation.

It happens to a lot of people...I mean laughing when your friend's mom dies, is a bit extreme, but it is just a way with dealing with a bad situation.

It is not your fault, but you just need to try your hardest to hold it in..

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What does wishing on 11:11 mean?

Make a Wish!!!

It is fun! Like when I am on the phone with my boyfriend, I will always tell him to make a wish!

So if you are ever with a friend, and you see 11:11...tell them to make a wish!!

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hey..thanx for answering it..but idk if she will take it hard or not..i can't tell her in person because i just can't be mad at her..so i told her to get on msn for a few minutes and she will be..but she takes things way seriously and i don't want her pissed at me..but they have sex a lot..like if they don't they will never live again or something..then they ditch people to go screw..we were at a party last night..they didn't use a condom and don't understand that she can still get prego..idk..but answer back with somehting specific i can do to lighten this up a LITTLE please? thanx for answerin so quick..u have msn?

Yes, I do have MSN. my sn- stickpeople25@hotmail.com

So if you want to talk on that I am on right now if not then just send me a thing in my inbox and I will just tell you on here.

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So, I'm a boy, my friend is a girl..her boyfriend has recently gotten back and they are w/ eachother a lot. So they had sex a few times the first week, and it's been like 3 weeks now. They have sex at least once every day(i'm pretty sure) but if not, just about. Well i don't care, because her bf is my friend too..but what DOES actually piss me off is that we were watching a movie, and when her mom went to church, the very second she pulled out of the driveway, they ran to her room to have sex. leavin me there alone..i don't want to piss her off but i want her to know that it bugs me..how do i do it w/out hurting her?

I think that you just need to tell her honestly how you feel.

I really don't think that you will hurt her by telling her, if she is a friend then she will understand.

So reallly just tell her the truth.

I hope everything goes good!

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so last night my ex boyfriend called to talk. it was around 11:45. well i have not talked to him in about 2 or3 weeks which is my fault becuase i have not felt that i could talk to him without getting upset. well anyway for some reason i picked up. well the converstion was basichey how have you been what you been up to and so one. and then for some reason i started to get upset and quiet. he kept asking me what was wrong but i would not tell him that i was upset becuase it is still hard to talk to him without getting upset anyway he acted mad becuase i wouldnt tell him waht was wrong and was like know i dont like being lied to and i just said dont worry about it. should i have told him that it stillhurts to talk to him even though i do love him. and it has been a month since we broke up. why would he get mad and upset because i would not tell him what is wrong. is this a sign that he is hurt to or that some part of him still wants to be with me. he wants me to pick him up next week should i? he did not say why?

It sounds like you just really need to get this guy out of your life.

I think that you should just really get him away and never let him get back in. Because he is clearly upsetting you.

So just get him away and you will just feel better. So overtime you will just feel a lot of better.

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In your opinion, how old should a girl at least be before she has her first kiss? 4th graders dog-drooling all over each other's chins don't count.

Well, it deffinately differs among people, but I think 12 should be the youngest.

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Hi! I'm a 16/f, tan, brown hair, blue eyes. I need eyeliner and mascara sooo i was just wondering if I should go black/brown mascara with brown eyeliner or just black mascara and black eyeliner! heLp!

I think you should do brown eyeliner and black mascara.

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My name is Jay im actually a coulmnist on this website but would like advice from someone else for a change.

The thing is i moved to Spain 4 years ago and i fell in love for the first time and the girl is great. But now i have moved back to my home country and she has moved to another country and the only thing i have is her e-mail adress. But since she didnt even notice me when we were in the same place how is she supposed to talk to me on MSN or anything. I have no clue what to do, i cant get over her.

What should i do? Im 14 by the way.

I would deffinately send her an email, it will take a lot off your shoulders, because at least you know that you are doing all you can.

So just send an email to her seeing how she is doing and everything, and go from there.

Good Luck!

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i have a song on itunes i would like to put on myspace but i dont know how to. so can someone tell me how i can get a code for it so it plays on my myspace. thnx

No sorry as far as I know the only way is to go to the myspace music section.

But if there is a video for the song then you can always get the video.

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16female single. Long story short:
(this has been going on for about a month now)
1 class with an older boy
Always stares at me
i sit on the other side of the room
whenever i look up low and behold he's staring at me
we've talked once over the computer and said one thing to me at school:(what page was the homework on?)
he is definatley NOT shy, i am tho
he is single as well

do you think he may like me?
or does he just like to look at me?

Just because he looks at you does not mean he looks at you.

Talk to him, get to know him.

That is the only way you will be able to really know.

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I have a problem ... i'm 90 pounds but i'm short and I don't eat anymore because i'm scared to become fat. But because of how short I am my stomach is kind of big. I need to get some advice ... what to eat, what not to eat, what work-out's are good etc. Thanks!

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Eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner

no sugar so no pop at all

lots of water

running

walking

crunches

sit-ups

push-ups

Oh, and you're not fat at all.90 is nothing.

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Whats Yeast infection?

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&rls=HPID,HPID:2005-31,HPID:en&oi=defmore&defl=en&q=define:yeast+infection


google it.

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Ok, I'm a 13/F and I'm happy like 24-7. I mean everyone always comes up to me and asks me how I could be so happy all the time. I mean everyone knows me as the "happy peanut" (school nickname don't ask lol) And I mean I am. And I'm always the friend people come to if they have a problem or if they need someone's shoulder to cry on or anything. But I mean lately everything in my life's been going wrong. My dad's left my family, a kid who was like my brother just died. and I mean I don't know how to talk to anyone about it because they always come to me. And like no one else. And I just want to like SCREAM!! I don't know what to do. It's like I've lost controle of my own life and can't get it back together again. I just want someone to know what's going on. The bad stuff. Because someone needs to know or I'm going to go insane. But I just don't know how to tell anyone. I rate 5's for any answer!! Good or bad, long or short. I'm really in some need for advice. Thanks a bundle if you can help =D ♥Samm

I kind of know how you feel in the way of your life getting out of your control...but I did not even try to get help I held it all inside...and that led to drugs, drinking, cutting, and just bad shit.

My advice to you is to seek out help before you completely lose control like I did. Go tell your mom or someone that you would like to see a councelor, trust me they can help you more than a friend or family member can. They listen to what you say and do not judge you on it.

And if you are too scared to ask somone you can always go to your school councelor or even a teacher. I would advise you to go to an adult, because young teens do not understand a lot of things like this unless they have been through it themselves..

I wish you the best of luck with everything...and if you need anything just drop it in my inbox.

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I can't get over my fear of guys. I just can't be myself around them, i flirt by total accisdent and i put myself down around them, like i ahev this one fried he CAN DO EVRYHTING, 5 instruments, 3 types of dance, sports, he does it ALL. Compared to me i cant do anything i feel really abd about ithisa dn wish i could just act somewhat at the same level of succesfulness as him. I'm trying to learn to do mroe things because of him but until then, i don't know how to act like myself, teh thing that makes it worse around this particiular guy is that we used to go around,a nd i think i have leftover felings for him, nad hes in 7th grade im in 8 th, evrybody tells me he is immature and i dont think tehy want me to be friends with him but im sacred it i wont be friends wiith him then ill be even more scared of guys then i am now. this iused to eb abig problem i coudlnt even say a word to guys and now im good, but i just need help ebing myself. Confidence!

Maybe if you learned to spell a little bit you could have more confidence....

Well I think you need to NOT change yourself for a guy. Ugh....that is the biggest mistake girls make. Is when they change themselves to look better for a guy. It is stupid. You will not be with this guy forever, and you have your whole life to live, and this is only one guy out of the billions in the world. And if you have to change yourself for him, he is not worth it. Go find yourself a new man that you act yourself around!

Good Luck!

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i know this is weird, but...normally im not happy. my futures pretty much shit. i cut and i know i shouldnt but i dont know how to stop.


when i listen to music it feels like everythings going to be ok and my future actually HAS something in it. whats up with that?

It's not weird at all.

That is how I used to be.

I used to cut and I eventually got sent to a hospital for it, and I know how it feels to not be able to stop. Because even after going to the hospital, it was soooooo hard to not do it.

But about the music, music is like an escape. You can lose yourself in it. It I guess speaks to you. You can understand it, the song understands you. I know exactly how you feel, and it is not weird at all, it is good because if gives you a feeling of happiness.

So don't think it is weird...

If you ever need anything drop it in my inbox.

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Right, my best friend is usually really nice, but recently she keeps putting me down, mostly about things that arent even true. She keeps pointing out people and saying they're taller than me and teasing me about my 'frizzy' hair. Shes even started being mean about the things i like. Like my big eyes she says are weird and the other day she said "I like my tummy better than yours" and i really like my toned tummy. Even though most of it isnt true, its really getting me down. What should i do? Please do not tell me to talk to her about it because she would just tell me i'm being stressy.

Get better friends, leave her. Get away from her.

She is just a big bitch!

You do not need that, just dis her and find better friends. Because it will just get worse.

Good Luck!

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Ok heres the deal my bf has been in a relationship before me with another girl and he was very serious with her and while they were going out he treated me like crap. Then, they broke up and he was all upset bc he said she was the love of his life, blah blah blah. So then me and him start to flirting and stuff and we both like each other and he asks me out well I said I need to think about this and the next day I find out he's back with her. Well he dumped her and then we some how end up together. But now he says he loves me and a part of his always has and was thinking of me when he was going out with her, but how do I know this it feels like he's using lines on me that he used on her and idk if their genuine or not or if he's just saying this and is going to end up changing his mind, P.S. this boy said he had liked me since fourth grade and it's been a while since then and we've dated before, THANKS SORRY ITS SOO LONG!!!!

Break up with him, sounds like he is a bull shitter(sorry) but i think you need to leave him.

Sounds like he is just using you to try and get over her, but he will probably end up hurting you and go back with her...so if you don't want to get hurt, you should get out!!!
Good Luck!

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