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Friend too obsessed? Don't want to hurt her.
So, I'm a boy, my friend is a girl..her boyfriend has recently gotten back and they are w/ eachother a lot. So they had sex a few times the first week, and it's been like 3 weeks now. They have sex at least once every day(i'm pretty sure) but if not, just about. Well i don't care, because her bf is my friend too..but what DOES actually piss me off is that we were watching a movie, and when her mom went to church, the very second she pulled out of the driveway, they ran to her room to have sex. leavin me there alone..i don't want to piss her off but i want her to know that it bugs me..how do i do it w/out hurting her?
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Don't even talk to her about it. She doesn't deserve that after what she did. If it happens again follow them into her room and tell them that they are not going to do that while you are there. Say that it's completely rude and makes you feel extremely uncomfortable. They can find someone else to hang out with if that's what they want to do. If saying all that pisses them off well, they deserve it and you should stop hanging out with them unless it's in a public place. They're walking all over you and they know it. Don't let them do that to you. If you try to be nice and just talk about it, your point will not get across. You need to say "NO" and it needs to come across as a very strong "no".
Some civil talking is necessary too, though. Make sure you do this part in a nice, friend-like way. If you do anything, you need to talk to your friend about how much sex she is having. She is going to end up getting pregnant. There are so many risks to sex especially at a young age. Be the good friend you are and let her know that she's being pretty immature and irresponsible. Sex really can't be that great and after awhile it's going to lose some of its appeal. After that what's going to happen to her relationship? Relationships based on sex don't work out. She's setting herself up for a BIG fall.
Remember, too, that everything is up to you. You don't have to take my, or anybody else's advice. At the end of the day you're going to want to do, and should do, what you feel is right. Good luck!
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You shouldn't let her do that to you...I know if I was her friend I would be totally pissed off too if someone blew me off like that.
Just tell her how you feel. If she is truly your friend then she should understand.
Plus she should know that that was rude.
-Jake
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I agree with the rest.
You need to tell her that you don't treat friends the way she treated you. Don't let them use you as a cover, which is what they did because mom probably wouldn't allow them home alone together.
Tell her that while you want to remain friends, you won't be used again.
Hopefully she will understand and not be pissed. But, if she is, oh well. She will get over it.
If the truth hurts then so be it. You don't use and embarrass your friends like that. :)
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well hey im only 13 but i will try to help you well um first you need tot alk to your friend tell how you feel and what you would expect from a friend and is se dosnt listien tell her to reamember that friends always come first stand up for your self and tell her when he boyfriend dumps her not to come crawling to you and tell to remember who was there before he boyfriend and who was the once that cared adn loved you before your boyfriend came and if she ignores you tell her she's not a true friend and seh needs to learn that friends will always be there but boyz are on and off
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I don't think your friend deserves to be your friend at all. That was absolutely rude, and you need to just stop hanging out with her while she's with her boyfriend.
She should know that it was completly out of line to do something like that so I think you should blow her off as a friend like she did to you.
-TheTeenGirl
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I think that you just need to tell her honestly how you feel.
I really don't think that you will hurt her by telling her, if she is a friend then she will understand.
So reallly just tell her the truth.
I hope everything goes good!
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