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i live in israel and at every corner store they have an array of nuts- im addicted to the sugar or candy coated pecans. im not sure what htey are but they are sosososoosos fattening.

how could eat them with feeling guilt free?

or put them in my diet so i dont gain weight?

You can have any type of food in your diet without gaining weight.
As long as you take in less calories than you burn, you won't gain weight.
Say, you normally eat 2000 calories a day to maintain your weight and at the end of the day you have only eaten 1600 calories...if you would like, you can eat 400 calories of anything you want (even candy coated pecans) without gaining any weight.

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after i finish highschool, i'd like to start a band. i don't play any instruments, but i can sing. how do i get started?

Try CraigsList. It's not the safest way, but try meeting in a public place and it could be less risky. Also, post some videos of you singing to YouTube onto CraigsList, so you can find band members that are into your style.

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I am 13....I have a friend named jayde.....it seems like she is always trying to make me feel bad.....she always tlks sh!t bout me.....and she actually tells me herself but its like she's bragging about it...I don't have many friends......I'm fat and ugly..(I think) and I don't have a boyfriend. I can never make new friends. My dad thinks I'm fat. (he's like a toothpick) and my mom thinks I am just depressed.....WHAT DO IDO!??!?!?!?!?!?!

A friend is someone who makes you feel better about yourself not worse. Forget abut Jayde. She is not a very good "friend".

And your dad has no right to be judging your weight. I think you should find a counselor at school to talk with.

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so i have always had ur average teenage girls eatign disorder and htinkign im fat (not that that is a good thing) but recently i lost a lot of weight due to eating little to none (yes i know its not good) and i know i need major help with that but that is not why im posting here.

i have issues with my judging and caring about my friends and THEIR food. like if my friend lies to me or leaves out something she eat i think its so weird when really WHO CARES its no my problem and i dont like to tell my friends when i do eat because i want them to hink im skiiny. its so weird. and its so weird that i even care what my friends eat.

YES I KNOW I HAVE A EATIGN DISORDER
but i want help with the whole judging my friedns and what not issue.....

what do you think?

Hey. I understand what you mean because I've been there.

Personally, I think you're projecting your insecurities onto your friends.

The only way you can stop judging your friends because of their food is to solve your own issues with food.

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hi ok i can't believe i am making a big deal out of this and posting a question about this, but yesterday i overheard some people's conversation about smoking out of a pipe. and i asked her about and i gave her my number and she said she would hook me up with some weed. and she didn't text me but i called her today and she texted me as i was leaving a voicemail and said i wanted some weed. but i am so scared, and i feel stupid for even putting myself in this situation. i've smoked marijuana before twice. i know what the consequences are and yet i still put myself in this situation. this girl said she would let me know. because her dealer didn't have any. i am scared what should i do? i am 20 years old. i mean i know people smoke weed so it's not a big deal but it's dangerous. i just need some advice on what to do. please don't judge me, it's not like i smoke pot everyday.

I personally have never done pot so I'm not going to say whether or not using it is dangerous, however drug dealers are some shady people. Maybe the ones you know aren't, but please don't be naive. You're putting yourself in a dangerous situation by even contacting someone who deals drugs. These people don't care about your well-being, they care about profit.

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Have I met my true love?

Yes. Of course...

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I have the body of a 16 year old but im only 12. Im 5'7 and weigh 220. I have no ideo how im gonna get down to at least 170. That'll be as much as my little sister.(im also big boned) Like i said i dnt know how to loose the weight and i cant get another tube for my bike Plus the dirt roads i live on are a disaster so i have to wait for spring or summer. Especilay durring gym class im a wall flower and im more concentraded on the way i look. I dont like to wear shorts in school. i just want to drop some weight so i can stop worrying about how fat or flabby i look. plz help!!!
PS Im part italian so food is a big part of my life. Ive been stressing out wich has caused me to "over snack" but besides that i eat pretty healthy. : )

There's a lot of hope for your situation :)
You can very easily lose the weight. The first suggestion I'd make is stop snacking. Stick to three regular sized meals. These meals should be well balanced. Try that for a few weeks and let me know how that goes. I'll be willing to help you more after that, but I don't want to overwhelm you with suggestions.

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if you bleed while intercourse does that mean u have hiv

No. Of course not. Bleeding will not indicate if you have/don't have HIV. Bleeding and HIV have nothing to do with each other.

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16/f
it's going to be valentines day and one of my close friends wants to spend the day together. the thing is i don't really feel like spending time with her. on friday she made a very rude comment towards me, i just laughed it off. She's not the type of person you can talk to about how she makes you feel, it will just create an argument. I also recently stopped smoking weed in order to get myself together and she expects me to smoke with her every time we're together.
pros of going tomorrow:
-i might get to see the guy i like because whenever i hang out with my friend we usually invite him over since he lives close
- i get to get out of the house (very stressful house situation)

cons:
-i waste my money (i always pay for everything with her)
-part of me will feel miserable being with her
should i go? if so what should we do? any other opinions will be highly appreciated.

Why are you friends with her? If you have a hard time communicating with her, then the friendship is not a very good one. It's your life. In the end, you're going to make your own decision, but if it were me, I wouldn't go. I'd find something else to do rather than be in bad company.

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Okay last night i was drinking with my friends. and me and my 2 guy friends (I am a female) were laying on the floor all together and they both were fingering me and stuff and now one half of my vagina flap thing is swollen. like the wall of the vagina. not the outside where hair grows.(sorry i just dont know how to describe it) but how do i make the swelling go down? would ice work? please help me!!

Did you throw in the part about you drinking to make you being "easy" seem like it wasn't your fault...? Geez, I'm totally judging you right now.

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So spring break is coming up, and I weigh about 125. Is there anyway I can get down too 100?
HOW! Help me!

You want to weigh 100 pounds? You're right, you do need help! That sounds like a very unhealthy weight unless you're extremely short, which you did not specify.

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I have a cooking blog and I want to make a good valentines day treat to post about. What to make- chocolate bread pudding, or chocolate and pastry cream filled brioche?
thanks!

Chocolate Bread Pudding! Honestly, I've never heard of brioche. It sounds too fancy for me. Keep in mind who your readers are and the ingredients they could afford to buy.

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so i gained 10 pounds this winter -_- and i want to get rid of it asap. I'm 5'4" and 150 my goal is to get down to 120-130. I was thinking if I ran a mile everyday mon-fri and only ate fruits and veggies if it would be good. let me know thanks!

No, no, no! You will loose weight that way, but it'll be from muscle loss. Your body will store fat to keep you alive, but your muscles will deteriorate. You need a little of everything. Carbs, Protein, Fats along with fruits and veggies. Fruits and veggies alone is not the answer.

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I read about my extra credit that my developmental psychology professor handed out. But I don't understand what it's asking or what I'm supposed to talk about. Help??

Based on what you know about your own period of infancy, do you think you would have been categorized as a child who was easy, difficult or slow to warm up? and WHY?

This is how I interpret it:
As a child, did you give your parents a hard time? Were you always crying about something or were you pleasant and always peaceful?

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I'll try to keep it short. One day, I was playing games on my boyfriend's phone when I noticed a series of texts from this girl (we have tons of mutual friends so I was wondering why I didn't know this girl). I went through the texts and I didn't like what I saw. Texts like "smart is sexy", "hanky panky is a fun exercise ;)", etc. were in there and I got really angry. I confronted him about it, but he didn't seem concerned at all. He casually mentioned he's known this girl for a while and they've always joked around like that and it wasn't a huge deal. I'm old fashioned and I see it as a mild form of cheating. Am I overreacting or should I be worried? Thanks so much guys in advance.

No, I don't think you are overreacting. I'd be concerned, too. She's being flirty by being dumb and it's uncalled for on the basis that he already has a girlfriend.

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Ok so a few hours ago my mom took away my mascara and told me that I wear too much... I don't so I told her to quit running my life and I ran upto my room, then my mom yelled at me to come downstairs so I did and she slapped me across the face and told me to never talk to her like that again..... I just went back upstairs and grabbed my razor and held it up to my wrist, I almost killed myself.... but I put the razor away and cried myself to sleep...What should I do to get my life back without my mom hurting me phisically?? Btw, I'm 13 this year

Maybe there's more to the story, but from what you described, your mom had no intention of physically harming you. 13 may be old enough to wear make-up or it may not be. Your mom clearly thinks you are too young. She is not the first parent to have this concern. Respect her rules. You're causing drama over nothing.

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Strange question, but people sometimes say it is "pleasant to hear that person speak" so I'm just thinking... why is that?

I'd say in general, people like to hear voices that are warm, clear and flowy. It's just very easy on the ears.
If someone were to have a really high-pitched voice or mumbled their words, it would be irritating to listen to that person.

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This year (2011) our school is doing a talent show I whant to do ballet but Iam defanet people WILL make fun of me what show I do?

I think you should do a ballet routine, but put it to a current song, so that people could relate.

For example...
When I Look At You-Miley Cryrus
Firework-Katy Perry
Animal-Neon Trees.

Even if you have to slow the track down, so you can do your routine at a more comfortable pace, the audience will love it because they know the song!

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My roommate is kind of weird. I moved in with her in the beginning of December to prepare for this upcoming semester of college. We live near campus. She's been going to this college for 2 semesters already so she knows all about the school. That isn't the point.

She's really quiet and keeps to herself. She always, always eats alone. We never even watch TV together. I hardly ever see her really. I don't know if she has any friends, but I know if she does they never come over. I try to get her to go out and have lunch with me sometimes but she ALWAYS turns me down and says she's busy (usually reading some book, writing some paper, or doing some "research" about something or another). She always DOES seem busy because every time I've been in her room she has stacks of papers and books and it just looks like she is doing a lot of stuff. Anyway, she always seems kind of sad or depressed too though. And it scares me that maybe she's suicidal or severely depressed or something.

What should I do about this?

The fact that she always eats alone and turns down invites to go to lunch could mean she has an eating disorder. idk. maybe that will make sense?

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