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Q: ok well, i REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY like my bf and we have been going out for 4 months. i think he is going to break up with me because he hasnt called for 5 days now AND when we do talk he never really....talks. i seem to be the only one on the phone at times. im not sure what to think. do you guys think he is going to break up with me? should i break up with him first? im so confused so PLEASE help me!!!!!!!!! thanks a bunches!
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Hey girl! Dont worry and dont think negavtive about your relationship with him. Try giving him a call because you should call too he can't always call. Talk to him about your relationship with him. Just relax and dont get upset. Dont try to break up with him just because you think he might break up with you. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: i recently kissed one of my best mates ex boyfriends. they had only broke up about 2 weeks earlier and the reason they broke up was because he cheated on her. she was so upset when she found out he cheated, i was one of her shoulders to cry on. then a week later, whilst talking 2 her ex boy friend, he starts asking me if i would ever be with him. I must admit i did have feelings for him but i understood that i really shouldnt pursue it if i wanted 2 stay friends with my friend. he was emailing me and telling me that he thort he had feelings for me.. i wasnt really sure wat to do, i didnt want 2 lie and tell him that i had no feelings 4 him but at the same time i was constantly thinknig of my friend. then at a party that wknd i had a few drinks and me and this boy got rather close. he told me that if we hooked up we would keep it a secret and no one would ever know, at the time i thort that it would work and i wasnt thinknig clearly. i kissed him 4 about 2 minutes before realising that i would have 2 pay for my actions. we agreed 2 not tell anyone but naturally we both couldnt keep it 2 ourselves. My friend then confronted me and asked me about it, i didnt want 2 lie seeing i new taht would be worse in the long run. i told her the truth but didnt really get a chance 2 tell her all the details and appologise in fully. From that day on she has been avoiding me, we did have a brief talk about it and she said she didnt hate me she was jsut really really hurt, but deep down i no that i have ruined our friendship and taht it is my fault. i really want 2 talk it threw with her and get things back 2 normal but i understand that she needs time and may not ever want 2 forgive me. i really want 2 make up and i regret doing it so much, even tho i have very strong feelings for the boy. it was really stupid of me now thinking back, sacrificing such a good friend for a boy who cheats on his girlfriends and plays girls. i dont know how i could have been so stupid. please help me what do i do 2 not hurt her anymore and not hurt him?
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Who do you really care about? Your friend is always going to be here for you and a guy that cheats wont. Dont let this guy break your friendship like this. Your friend needs time to heal from both a heartache and friendship. If this guy cheated one your friend how can you feel this way about him? Does your feelings towards him feel stronger than the feelings towards your best friend. Try talking to your friend. Dont worry so much about hurting the guy because he needs to get hurt. He needs to know how it feels to be hurt. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: ok well i have a bf that iv been gion out with for about 3 months,im not sure wether to stay with him or not,i mean all of my friends are telling me to brake up with him and try out some other gies,but i love him and sometimes i dont i have no clue what to do,pleasse help me!!!
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Dont break up with him just because your friends say so. I know 3 months might seem short, but it still means something. Follow your heart...if you love him then stay with him and your relationship will get closer. I know you make feel bored with him, but try new things dont think that theres nothing to do. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: Now everyone is dating really young and having boyfriends when their 13. i'm 13 and have had a couple of boyfriends but guys are just plain jerks sometimes at that age. most girls are crazy about dating young but older girls that have waited say that it is worth it to wait to date until your older. does anyone have any opinions on the topic?
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My opinion is wait for the right one. Don't waste time dating random guys. I mean its good to learn from your pass relationships and its good to know what types of guys are out there. Wait until your older because then you'll be more serious about having a relationship. It helps to get to know more people to make your bonds grow. When your older you'll have a better relationship and you'll have more of an opportunity of being together. Dont listen to what your friends say they can't make you do anything. Dont get in a relationship jus to be nice or because you want a boyfriend. Be with someone because you love them, can't stop thinking about him, and cant stop caring about him. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: my bestfriend lives across the street from me.. well she talks to this guy who is 16 on aim and we are both 13 well hes not a virgin... since shes been talking to him her personality has changed big time. hes smokes pot and drinks all the time and shes starting to act like him. heres the bad thing she sneaks out of her house at 2 a.m and doesnt get back until 5 a.m. well she has done this the last 2 nights and im worried that something bad will happen.. they almost got caught out by the police 2 times.. id this keeps up shes gonna end up getting raped or something by him.. how can i tell her to stop this or something might happen.. any advice will be helpful and most appreciated..
thanks
signed
worried friend
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You need to talk to your best friend and tell her how you feel. She needs to know what could happen to her. If she doesn't listen then try talk to your parents to have them talk to hers. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: well i want a new style cuz i ahve this big party to go to and i want it to be ghetto or prep sooo plese give me ips on being ghetto with ghetto clothes or prep with prep clothes Help I RATE HIGH....
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To dress ghetto is like urban so I wear clothes from ecko red, baby phat, roca wear, south pole. Or you can go to a store like Tello's or Rainbow or Rave I dont know if you go to stores, but they got cute stuff. Get shirts that say something and look kinda like graffiti. Earrings should be big hoops and wear chains. Air force ones
To dress like a prep just go to Hollister, American Eagle, Abercrombie, Aeropostal. Go with ripped jeans or skirts and polos, flip flops. Big sunglasses
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Q: ok there is this guy and we went out befor but he cheeted on me and broke my heart but now he is saying he is sorry and that he still has feelings for me and i dont kno what to do cuz i also still like him but i dont want to get hurt......and i am also a cutter and last time we went out i cut alot cuz of what i was hearing about him and stuff...... but i think he has changed and he tells me how soory he was and that he owes me for what he put me though....what should i do? should i trust him again> or should we just be friends?
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If you really still like him and don't want to lose him again then go for it and be with him. He hurt you once don't think that just because he's changed he wont hurt you again. You guys should just be friends until you can trust him again. You should tell him he can't owe you anything because he hurt you and nothing can fix that pain. I think he might be trying to get with you to say sorry, but its like he's forcing himself. You better off without him, but its your decision. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: I have a boyfriend and he really likes me and i like him but theres this other guy that i like alot and i see ihm all the time and he sees me i dont know what to do about ym boyfriend or what to do with the guy i like Plese help i rate high...
Sighned Cunfused
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Right now you need to think about who your going to be happy with and who's going to be there for you when you need him. You might want to take a break with you boyfriend now to think about who you want to be with. You wouldn't want to hurt either of them so think carefully. Don't lead them on until you've figured it out. The questions you should be thinking about are: who makes you really happy? who do you like more? do you love one of them? who's always here for you? who really cares about you? how much do you see or talk to them? Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: i always call my bf. He nerver calls me! whats up with him?
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He's jus shy and nervous. He's scared that someone else might answer and maybe he doesn't know what do say to you. Tell him that you guys can't jus let one person be in charge of a relationship. Let him know it bothers you when he doesnt call and its always you calling. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: theres this guy troy. i really like him and he likes me i think. we hung out today and he took me out to lunch and i donno we get along really good. and we were totally flirting. the only problem is..its my best friends ex boyfriend. their still friends a little..but she broke up with him...its notl ike he broke her heart...she treated him like shit. she doesnt know how lucky she was to have to boy like that! he drove to see her all the time, doesnt cheat, always called, and never canceled on her. hes soo hott too.and he met my mom today. and she likes him to. and were hanging out friday...and when he walked me back to my door today he gave me like the longest hug EVER...but hes my friends ex!! err idk what to do..help?
ps..when they broke up i told her shes going to regret it cause hes such a great guy...and she was like then you can have him..but she said it sarcastically...omgg i dont know.. :(
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Ask your best friend how she would feel if you went out with him. Let her know that you like him. If she's not okay with it then tell her she shouldn't be like this because she's the one that broke up with him. Just because you guys are best friends and that hes ex doesn't mean you can't go out with him. He's not a toy or things that belongs to one person. Talk to your mom too, just to see what she says. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: Sorry its kinda long... My boyfriend and I get along really good but he thinks I have too many guy friends. I am pretty good looking *not to sound big headed, its just what people say* so he thinks that whenever I go spend time with him I will cheat on him. He doesn't trust me at all. Just the other weekend I went to see my guy friend I have known since I was born. He moved when we were 6 so I go visit him all the time. My b/f called me every 30 min. to make sure I wasn't cheating on him. He didn't even want me to wear a bathing suit infront of my frnd. Of course while I was there I didn't cheat on my boyfriend. Is there someway I can make him trust me with my guy friends?
Thanks for the help.
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Get your boyfriend to meet your guy friends and let them all get to know each other. Or have your guy friends talk to him. Let him know that you need time with your friends no matter what gender they are. Tell him how you trust him and how he shouldn't have to worry so much. If you guys dont trust each other then there's no point of being together unless you guys try to work things out. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: okay my ex boyfriend (my first love) broke up with me about a month ago! supposably he doesnt like me any more. But every time i dont see him for about a day or two he is always flirting with me like grabbing my butt, asking me to sit on his lap, hugging me, and/or cuddling with me. Every one says to give him time he likes you he just wants to see if your the one so let him date other people and he WILL come back to you. i dont know if he is trying to get me back by this or what he tells everyone that he dont like me but everyone tells me that by the way he acts around me and the way he gives me special treatment! i dont know please help me
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You dont need him there's better guys out there. If you really still like him then go along with him, but if you dont then just tell him straight you guys aren't together anymore and he doesn't need to be acting like this. Since he's the one that broke up with you then it just means he can't get another girl and he's trying to get you back my acting like nothing happened. Dont listen to your friends or his because they are just going to confuse you even more and make you think too much. Right now its all up to you. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: okay so the guy ihave had a crush on might come for my b-day but if he doesnt his sis is and i want to write him a letter telling him how i feel of him but im afraid that we will lose the freindship we have cause of that so any suggestions on what to write or any other stuff try not to make it nasty make it okay for a 14 year old guy
will rate HIGH!!!
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Truthfully I wouldn't write a little because if he's not going to take this seriously about your feelings towards him, he might show the letter to everyone. I would try talking to him. Tell him how you feel and dont feel embrassed or ashamed. Your telling the truth and that all that matters. If you rather write a letter then thats fine because its your decision. In your letter tell him how your starting to develop feelings for him and it makes you feel better letting him know. When writing your letter dont obess over him. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: my boyfriend wants to well make love and im not ready i dont want to tell him because maybe hell think that its him but its not i know about aids or getting pregnat and im not readyi dont want to get him mad so hell dump me but im not ready
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we have beenoing out for 3 years and im 15 thats not a good combo am i right
hel me
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Ask him why he wants to make love and what if your not ready. Tell your boyfriend that your not ready. Ever though you guys have gone out for 3 years it doesn't mean you guys are ready. Tell him the things that could happen after you guys make love. Don't throw 3 years away jus like that. You guys are still young, you guys have time no rush. Learn the meaning of making love. If he doesn't respect your decision then just break up with him because he can't pressure you or make your decision. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: Since its summer I never see my boyfriend. My mom doesnt want us going out on dates actually she doesnt even want me having a boyfriend. Im 13!!!!!! It is so unfair. Anyway how can we see each other more without my mom finding out?
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Explain to your mom that you really like him and tell him great things about him. Ask your mom if she wouldn't mind meet him to see what he's like. Make deals with her and try to work things out. Ask her when she had a boyfriend and if she was allowed to him or not. Have his mom talk with your mom. If none of those work then jus go out with a bunch of friends and make sure he goes too. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: My boyfriend is super nice. He is always telling me I'm hot, im sexy, im pretty, im cool, when I don't really think i am. He says he loves me way too much and its strating to get a little annoying. I basically just met him and don't know him as well as I would like to. I feel like hes rushing things, but still hes super nice and he loves me and hes really obsessed with me.....
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Tell him you guys need to slow things down and get to know each other a little better. Explain to him that loving someone isn't about saying your hot, sexy, pretty, or cool..its about just loving the fact that your with them and that they make you happy. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: my mom wont let me see my boyfriend at all. he doesnt have a computer so i cant e-mail him or IM him. and my mom has total control over the phone. i havent been on a date with him at all! ever!! and i've been going out with him for about a month and a half. i wont see him in school because we're in different parts. i miss him so much and i love him so much. what should i do? heeelllppp!!
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You need to talk your mom and ask her why you can't see him. It's your decision if you want to see your boyfriend. You got to respect your mom because your her daughter and she just doesn't want anything bad to happen to you. Explain to her how not seeing your boyfriend hurts you. Make her feel guilty about it. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: my hands are always really sweaty. i dont know what to do to make them stop being sweaty. what can i do to make them normal?
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See a doctor because someone I know went to see her doctor for the same reason and the doctor injected something into her hands. It was some medicine its kinda like a shot. Now her hands dont sweat as much. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: I just had surgery and i can't really walk very well and i have to go to registration at middleschool in 2 days. I am not sure if i will be better by then and i am nervous that people will think i am a weirdo if i walk around limping. What should i do?
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Dont worry about what people think about you as long as your being yourself...then everythings going to be great. If anyone bothers you becuase your limping then tell them what happened and why your limping or jus dont answer. Good Luck!!
-Manda
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Q: ok, my bf thinks that i dont like him very much...but i dont know y. i mean i told him that that isnt the deal but he wont listen. he even asked advice on here that said "i think my gf is going to break up with me...but i dont know. i dont think she likes me that much. what should i do?"
can you belive that. i dont know how to get it through to him that i really really like him. how? any advice?
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Try telling him again and ask him why he thinks this. If he doesn't believe you then break up with him because a relationship should be positive not negative thoughts. He needs to learn to believe and trust you.
-Manda
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Hey everyone! So I've been away from this website for a few years and I've recently stumbled upon it again. I feel that I'm more experienced to give mo and better advice. I've grown and developed so much these past few years that I have a completely different mentality from when I first found this site.
Enough about that, well it's nice to meet you all and my name is Amanda! I hope to really help by giving the best advice I can. I'll always be free and open to help anyone out so don't hesitate :)
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E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Quincy, Massachusetts Occupation: Student Age: 21 Member Since: July 10, 2005 Answers: 174 Last Update: April 19, 2007 Visitors: 10198
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