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What age do you consider to be old enough to have a baby. Not like.. "when you feel you are ready" or anything like that.. i mean like.. 16.. 20..
how old do you think someone should be before they have a baby?
Honestly, you really can't set an age for that. It's when your old enough to support your own baby. That's when your ready...So maybe in your 20's? After finishing school and have time to actually take care and take responsibilites of a child.
does anyone know of zit cleansers,creams,or pads whatever for oily face please help i donno what to try
Try Neutrogena "oil-free acne wash"...I don't have acne, just a few pimples from my work, which is a fast food restaurant :( . But that helps alot! Wash your face twice daily. Never touch your face with your hands because there's bacteria on your hands, and that could get on your face and cause zits and pimples. Drink lots of water that helps too!!! It's also what you eat that causes pimples (I know you didn't ask, but I can't help it..Sorry...) ~Good Luck~
I have a boyfriend who I adore, I'm only 13 so I don't wanna have sex or anything but what are some good intimate things that we can do? We already put our arms round each other, kiss, hug and he puts his hand on my ass but it's getting boring, any ideas?
I think that's enough for a 13 year old girl. What else can you do? Really there isn't much. Holding hands? I guess you already do that, but are you ready to get more intimate???
When I was 13 I found out that I have a sister that had been put up for adoption. I had grown up thinking that I had two sisters and it was devistating to think that I had another one that I may never know and be able to love. So, I swore that one day I would find her. Back in March I did find her. I had searched for so long that I really felt that I would never find her and when I did I was afraid that since I grea up in a dysfunctional family and we weren't wealthy or anything that we wouldn't be good enough for her. Well, she is wonderful. We went through the DNA testing and when we found out it was just amazing. She came out for a visit in April and since then I have gone to see her twice. We live in seperate states. The two sisters and I that grew up together have the same father but she (2nd to the oldest) has a different father. My father is dead now (long story) but our mother is still living. Mom has a long history of drug abuse and she does not want my Sister to know about it.
This is my question. I think that she is noticing that Mom isn't as close to her as she is our oldest and youngest sisters. They e-mail and Mom calls about once a month or so but she and I talk weekly and on the internet every night. The other two sisters rarely e-mail her and they don't call her. I know that she doesn't feel as connected to the family as she would like to and I feel responsible because I was the one that went looking for her. There are times that she tells me that it really hurts her feelings and I am not sure what to say.
I love her so much, she is just fantastic and had a terrible life growing up. Her adopted Dad wound up in prison and her adopted Mom comitted suicide when she was a teenager. I know that she has abandonment issues because of all of that and now I am scared that meeting her bio family is just adding to those issues because of their distance. I wouldn't take for knowing and having the chance to be in my sister's life and her in mine but sometimes I feel so guilty for causing her even more grief.
Did I do the right thing by finding her or was I just being selfish because I missed her so much being in my life? I am just afraid that my love for her just isn't enough to make up for all of the time that she has done without and now that she has found her bio family that maybe the dream of what they were was better than what we are.
Confusing and long I know but anyone with input would be appreciated.
First of all, I'd like to say your the sweetest person ever! You really cared about finding her, and you did! Congratulations!!! Your 2 other sisters are distant towards her because they haven't been with her, she's kind of a stranger to them. It'll take time for them to start connecting to your other sister. It's not that they don't like her, it's just that they probably don't know what to do. After how many years, they find out they have another sister, maybe their still shocked? Your mom may be distant towards her because, it makes her feel bad. Just think, everytime your mom talks or sees your sister, it hurts her. Knowing that grown up girl, was the one she abandoned when she was a baby. I guess it'll just take time for your family to accept her, it doesn't mean they don't like her. Not everyone is perfect, so don't think your sister thought your family would be "better", there's nothing wrong with your family. I just wanted to say your such a wonderful person for going out there and looking for her! She's had a hard past, so always be there for her!
ok, fellow advicenators, help plz. ok, i like this guy let's just call him uhmmm Joey. ok Joey. and Joey is so much fun to be around. and everyone flirts with Joey, but Joey likes me. but when i tried to hook up with Joey he starts sayin all this about crap he wanna do with me. and im not a teenage whore. so i wanna know an easy way to let him know i'm not interested anymore. any ideas? 1x3 puppy
You could tell him that it's what he wanted to do with you that made you uninterested. Maybe he'll change and you'll like him again. But if that's not going to happen. Just be honest with him in a nice way. "Joey, your such a great, fun person to be around with, but I just wanna be friends". Then explain to him that if you too both hooked up then broke up, things would be different and it could ruin your friendship with him (It almost always does!)....~good luck!~
Hello!! Hi i normally give out advice but i need some! bad! Well i have a really bad habit and its biting my nails. It sounds normal but the habit's so bad that when i quit smoking it was easier(!). Now when i bite my nails i bit it down so its just a couple millimerers!! (ouchhiee) Also, when half of my nail is gone a chew and pull my skin around my nail, to like the second layer of skin!and it burns when im peeling it like downward but it..iono its painful but its a habit. i dont realy cut as much as i chew my nails! its turning into something way worse! does anyone have ne ideas how i can stop! il rate u a five..:) help me plz!
Put on nailpolish, so everytime you try to bite your nails, it'll taste awful. There is this type of nailpolish just for people who have that habit. It tastes really really bad, and it'll make you stop. If you keep using it, eventually your habit will stop! I hope this works! ~Good luck~
Hey Every1,
This is MiSSc and I have another question for yall. Ok, I still like BoB, Derek (YM Magazine), and now there's this guy named Reese. He's into acting too. He's really hot, and kinda looks like a sufer. He's also a junior, and i'm a freshman. The only problem is, is that he's a huge flirt. Like yesterday at school, he was going to walk me to class holding hands. Then today he was like, "Hey Missc!" and gave me the longest embrace. When he hugged me I thought my heart melted down to my feet. But then, he'll be with the upper class girls (which there are two of them) and one will be stroking his hair and then the next day the other will be sitting and his head will be on her lap and stuff. And, I would like to go on a date with him, but would he date me, a freshmen? (I'm not too sure how to spell that.) Also would he date me, or is it kind of just a fling.
A lot of guys in high school like to flirt, and as you get older, you'll realize that. I think he is a flirt, but it wouldn't hurt to start getting to know him better. If you started getting to know eachother more, that's great and you could find out if he is just flirting. Next time he decides to hold your hand, start up a casual conversation like "So what are you doing this weekend?". Many guys go out with freshmens! So don't think that! I hope it works and you get him!
hey i was just wondering if there are any good waysz to loose wait fast . lol no starvinq lol or any other dangerous thinqs...plz reply thank you.
PS: i mean like a qood diet. or soemthinq qood to loose wait :)
My friend had done this and she lost a lot of weight...Don't eat 3 big meals, instead eat several small meals. Eat vegetables and fruits, don't eat red meat! Eat chicken, but only the brest part because that doesn't have any fat. Just eating right without junk food, you'll lose weight. Drink lot's of water or fruit juice, keep away from soda!! Don't eat after 7. It's also good to be active, like walking instead of driving, but it's actually what you eat that makes you lose weight. It's actually more important than working out. Hope this helps you!
This may be kinda long, but I need to ask someone. I just started taking birth control pills 3 weeks ago. I think I may be pregnant but, I havent missed my next scheduled period. Since I just started taking the pill, that messes up my cycle for this month. I have other signs of possibly being pregnant. Being on my pills the nurse told me I should be getting my period around the 13th of this month. My boyfriend and I are very sexually active..in fact every night. I know we shouldnt do it, but it is unprotected each time. Is there a way that I could find out now if I could be pregnant..like take a pregnancy test tomorrow and find out? Im really nervous and want to know if I am now. I need to know what to do soon. Thanks.
If you don't get your period on the 13th like the nurse said you would. Take a pregnancy test!!! Most of them are 99.9% accurate. I hope you get the results you've wanted! But if your going to stay sexually active, use a condom ( I know most people like guys don't like using one ) but I'm sure you don't want a bun in the oven just yet.
1st of all im 17/f...me and a bunch of friends are all going out to dinner and to the movies on halloween and were all gonna dress up and i dont kno what to be... i wanna be something good not like a witch or nething but i dont wannahave some big costume and i wanna still look cute but i dont kno what to be any ideas?
You could be a playboy bunny! That's cute!
I'm not sure but how can you tell the difference of love and like.Because i like or love this one boy but i dunno if i love him and most my friends tells me i do even one of my teachers! so my question is how do you know when u love someone and how do you know if they love you back?thanks in advance for even concidering to read this.
How to tell that if your in love can only be answered by you. Love is indescribable. Do you think about this guy before going to sleep? Is he the first ting you think about when you wake up? When your in love, you'll just know. It'll be an amazing feeling. It's the little things the guy will do, that'll show he has feelings for you. Like for instance, stop playing sports with the guys and comes up to you to talk...Little things, like smiling at you....But it's really hard to tell if someone loves you unless they come up and say it to you! Good luck with this guy, hope everything works out!
i like this boy that goes to my school but one of my went out with him but she is just now tellin me..... i think it is because he is always nice to me and stuff like that but ever time i say something about him she is always like that was my ex-boo and i be gettin mad because i think that she don't want me to go out with him what should i do...............someone please help me..
If your friend still have feelings for the guy, then back off...My friend got with my ex when I wasn't completely over it and it hurt soooooo much! So, only if your friend's over this guy. Go for him, why not?!
Okie, here's a little background...my guy and I have been dating for almost 11 months, and we're really serious.
Recentlyish, my mom's been focusing on EVERY little "mistake" my guy makes. For instance, today he was late picking me up for school and she kept saying "I hope he's really coming, because you missed the bus and I'm not driving you." and stuff like that., and I wanted to smack her...Lol. I HATE that she keeps doing this. She takes the tiniest things, like lateness, or the way he's so tight with money and turns them into huge flaws.
I pointed out to her that she makes me think she doesn't like him, and she tells me she's just "looking out for me" and "making sure I see things/the whole picture". Honestly, the only thing I see wrong with him is that he snores on his back...
My guy also thinks my mom has issues with him, and I suggested maybe HE should talk to her about the impression she's giving off, but I doubt he'd do it unless I bothered him about it enough.
The thing is, I've been really careful with this relationship and am able to take myself out of the picture and see what's going on because I want it to work more than anything.
The confusing thing is, mom says she actually likes him. I don't understand her. How do I get my mom to shut up?
Your mom can see that your relationship is getting serious unlike your others in the past. I think deep down inside, your mom is getting a little worried that your getting so grown up and responisble. I'm sure she like your boyfriend, but is getting jealous. Try talking to your mom yourself. Try doing things with her because right now she thinks that she's losing her babygirl!
I know that I might sound a little jealous or over protective but just put yourself in my shoes for a minute.... Ok my boyfriend cheated on me a couple weeks ago and I gave him another chance, but I can't trust him anymore, Well tonite he is goin over to his ex-girlfriends house to help her with her "homework", i am really worried and I am also scared.. I was messing around and asked him if I said it was ok if he would do something with his ex and he said hell ya and I said well im not giving you permission. But do you really think that is going to stop him? Any ways i am really confused.. if you help me I will definetly rate you!! thanks
If you love him and he loves you. He will totally understand how you feel. It's not fair for you to feel this way...Call him now and tell him your not comfortable with the idea of him going to study with a girl he's cheated on you with...It's going to take you time for you to trust him again...Please, talk to him about this as soon as possible! Ask him how he would feel if it was the other way around. I'm sure he'd be freakin out too.
i've been having my period for 2 years already. it has always been normal, and i would get it every 4 weeks. but lately it hasnt been like that!...like i had my period 4 a lil over a week...and then i was off for a week...i would be on it like every other day for that week. and then its been 3 weeks since, and i havnt gotten it!...im scared!..PLEASE HELP!!
Don't worry, it's totally normal. Especially in your teens, for your period to act strange. I got mine twice in one month before! You should go on birth control pills, they actually help regulate your period and makes it lighter and last only a few days! *Good Luck!*
I have this friend who likes to know just everything about my life, and always talks about me behind my back to my really good guy friend. Shes acuused me of liking every guy she has, but its honestly the opposite way around. She really is a backstabber and my guy friend says that i should confront her of what shes doing because shes ruining my chances of going out with anyone because she starts to like them and then i feel bad and want her to have him. I really dont mind if she talks about me because shes only hurting herself, but now im starting to wonder if it will get worse and i should do somthing about it?? please help!
You call that a friend? Sorry to say, but that's not a friend! A friend doesn't go talking behind your back, a friend doesn't try and take every guy you like...That's awful. You should confront her, give her a chance to change, if she doesn't. You don't need her!
Theres this girl. We were dating for a year( i know thats preety sad) Now i want to break up with her. How do i brake up with someone without hurting their feelings?
Ouch. Sorry to say, but breaking up will always hurt someone, even if you don't want them to get hurt. That's real sweet though. You just have to be honest with her. Break up with her face to face, not over msn, aol, yahoo, or the phone. After a year of dating, are you sure you want to break up? Do you guys have something you don't agree on? If it's anything that can be fixed try working it out first. If you just don't have feelings anymore. Tell her the truth. The truth hurts sometimes, but it has to come out. Tell her you want to be friends?
I might fail one of my classes because my teacher doesn't explain the work or go over it. The class i'm in is so behind on work what can i do.
While your teacher is "teaching", you should try to ask questions about the work? Maybe not enough students ask questions, which makes your teacher feel like everyone understands. Ask questions, your teacher will explain them.
***If that doesn't work, than talk to your teacher, if she doesn't listen. Talk to your principal!!! Get everyone to come along with you, so your principal will know your serious.
I know that I might sound a little jealous or over protective but just put yourself in my shoes for a minute.... Ok my boyfriend cheated on me a couple weeks ago and I gave him another chance, but I can't trust him anymore, Well tonite he is goin over to his ex-girlfriends house to help her with her "homework", i am really worried and I am also scared.. I was messing around and asked him if I said it was ok if he would do something with his ex and he said hell ya and I said well im not giving you permission. But do you really think that is going to stop him? Any ways i am really confused.. if you help me I will definetly rate you!! thanks
OMG. I used to have the same problem. You should act over protective and a little jealous, after all, he did cheat on you with her! You should've told him not to go because you don't feel comfortable. I wouldn't! Why go through all that pain from thinking of what their really going to be doing. If you don't trust him, your relationship won't work. If he doesn't even try to understand how you feel about that, he's not worth it. I know it hurts. I know what your going through, but after what he did, he shouldn't be hanging out with that girl. But people learn from their mistakes and maybe he's being honest with you. Always, always go with your gut feeling on this.
***Of course you can talk to me about this. Anytime!!!!
If you've never gotten your period and you have sex, then you can't get pregnant, am I correct?
Oh, and I'm not that young, so don't be like if you haven't gotten your period, then your not old enough, lets just say I'm in High school
Yeah, your right. Lucky you!!!