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Hi im 14 and my brother just turned 18.Usually he has been coming home a half hour late and all he gets is a lecture but if i come home 10 mintues late i get grounded for a week.how can i tell my parents how i feel.ive tried telling them but they say oo come on hes 4 years older.it makes me feel like they like him better.just recently he had his bday and i was a little jealous.i dont know what to do because i feel like my family doesnt love me.i always want to leave but they say no and if he says it they say sure.i dont feel loved and i want to die i need help.

you saying you want to die is a little dramatic. think about it a little. hes 18. legally an adult. he can buy porn, and cigaretts and order stuff off the tv. plus he can drive and get into bars. your only 14 you havent even finished puberty yet. your still a little kid, thats why your parents dont let you do as much stuff. you cant handle yourself like he can, even if you think you can. your still their little baby and they dont hate you they just worry more about you. do you see how your freaking out about this? it just goes to show that your still not mature enough to be treated the same way he does.

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Does anyone know the song that goes like were goin down down in an earlier round and sugar were going down swinging

ah! ive had that song stuck in my head for the past two days! its called "Sugar, We're Goin' Down" by Fall Out Boy. you can go here for the lyrics to it..
http://www.dapslyrics.com/display.php?sid=14701

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Ok I'm a 15 year old guy and I dont have a car yet, I'm looking for advice on where to take a date or a good place to meet someone. I figure the movies, but even some advice on how to arrange that would be nice. Ya I don't date too often, sorry for a probably recurring question.

well if you dont have a car then your parents will have to be taking you to wherever your going. unless you can manage to hook up with some friends or a friend who drives. personally..id say NO dinner. God those are akward unless youve been dating for a while. something fun, that way you two are guarenteed to laugh together. like a carnival, put put golf, a funny movie (if your not sure of speaking too much). funny things are good ice breakers and bonding moments. if your looking for more of a quiet, just the two of you thing, just simply take her on a moon lit walk or watch a funny movie at one of your houses, maybe a little get together with friends. like 4 of you watching a movie, playing some board games. something along those lines would, in my opinion, be perfect. good luck, hope yall have a great time.

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i like this girl who is a junior and im a sophmore but this other girl likes me and she keeps asking who i like. i dont want to tell the girl that likes me that i like someone else and hurt her feelings but that might be the only way out. what do u think i should do?

if you dont just tell her then your leading her on. the farther you lead her on, the harder its going to be to tell her, and the more hurt shes going to be.

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i know this is not the best question to ask, but i was wondering if there is a racist word for turkish people. its not to diss a turkish friend of mine, its just that im turkish, and i was just wondering..
a lot of races have a racist name for them, and i was wondering if turkish people do too. all 5's.

hmm ive never heard of anything..but i supposed id call someone a turkey. it sounds good to me

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okay this is what my friend sent me.

her: okay well like the bad thing is he doesnt like how your a preppy n wear abercrombie
her: LIke TO Much of it
me: okay
her: he liked how you wear pac sun.. and how u are nice.. and all that little stuff... and like yeah i asked him all this ... n than at the end i said would u ever go out with her and he was like if she was not that weird and wasnt a prep and yeah then we talked and were like yeah yup yeah

and i really like this guy, shoudl i clean my act up because my aprents thing abercrombie is rediculous and everything. so they refuse to buy it

and i love pac sun also... but some of the things i bought like are WAY too see thought... so yeah im going to act my self and yeah is that a good idea?

ps im not doing this to get him to ask me out

well you shouldnt change yourself for anyone. do what makes you happy, and wear what you want. if he cant see through your clothing type and quit stereotyping you, then he isnt worth your time anyways. who wants to impress someone who wont look beyond your outfit? like i said, dress in whatever you feel best in.

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Im 13-f and i'm in theatre. They auditioned me for a part and it was the part that I really wanted and I didnt get it I got stuck with this whole other stupid thing. Im not even in the play. I know im a good actress and its my dream but they wont give me a chance. I feel like my dream is cruched. what should I do?

you could just be one of those people like on american idol. where you think you can act and all your friends are too nice to tell you that you suck. thats just a thought. but you could learn all the parts for character you wanted to be, then poison the person who has your part the night of the play. then run and get into costume and show everyone it should have been your part anyway and how good you are. (i saw it in a movie once)
..or you could just try out for the next play.

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I broke up with this guy a week ago but we still talk when i see him at his work. and i texted him today n he didnt text me back so i called and i asked if he was mad. and he said he wasnt and it was cool but he asked to call me back in 7mins cause he was almost home from work... everytime i called him, he was always on his way home from work. he gets off work at 9. and it was at 9:45 when i called him and he lives about half n hour away. he hasnt called back yet and its been over 10 mins. is he lyin to me?

oh my god. its seriously been ten whole minutes? well god knows he isnt changing or taking a shower. and we all know he couldnt be making food or going to the bathroom. i think that you should just spare yourself the misery because hes ten minutes late calling you, hes obviously talking to some other chick.

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my parents finally let me have a pet, but they said it has to be quiet and not stink too bad. i wanted something i could really play with, you know take on walks or something. Will rate good.
Cheyenne

you could try a cat. theyre litter boxes stink to high heaven, but if you train it to be indoor/outdoor (like my cat is) then it will just go outside when it needs to and wont stink at all. theyre fun to play with and theyre cute and sweet, and they dont make any noise. ALSO, someone mentioned getting a chihuahua. thats the dumbest thing you could do. sure theyre barks are small. but theyre also non stop, and its not like you dont hear them at all. its a little high pitched bark and they are almost impossible to completely house train. good luck with finding something you like

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awhile ago me and one of my friends got arrested for vandilism. we spray painted some cars and broke some windows. when will my parents begin to trust me again? me and my friend have talked and we wont get in anymore trouble. we want to hang out. i want trust and think i deserve it.

Thanks a lot
Timothy

well timothy i think you should just be thankful at this point that your not in boot camp. which is where my parents would have sent me. or be thankful that someone didnt beat the shit out of you. cause i would have if youd fucked up my car. maybe you should try sitting your parents down and talking to them. tell them what was on your mind then, and why you think you deserve theyre trust now. it will take a while to earn theyre trust back, but you just need to be patient and show them your trying. hope it works out for ya.

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Anyone have some cute sad love qoutes??

you should try firehotquotes.com
they have LOADS and loads of quotes, in all kinds of categories.

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Is Lindsay Lohan wearing a lace dress in this picture?

http://www.celebweb.org/pictures/displayimage.php?album=1626&pos=1

I can't tell if it's lace or not.

the bottom part and the sleeves are definately lace. but jeeze thats one ugly dress.

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YUP this is really random.... but what are those thingys called.... The ones that are like in conuntry western movies and their LIke BIG huge balls of dust and they usually are like rolling around in sand storms or wind.... I KNOW ITS random BUT I NEED TO KNOW! lol....

its called a tumble weed.

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tuesday me adn my friend want to make homecoming shirts. On the side we want to cut it and tie little strips together. well last time we did that, it was cute until you got to your armpit section. Under your armpit it leaves this huge whole in the shirt. I dont know if i did it wrong, or if thats just how it is. can anyone tell me?

just cut another strip and tie it too. i have mine tied all the way up the inside of the armhole.

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OK i got a dog yesterday and all she does is eat and whine!!!!!i wanted a dog beacuse i wanted her to play and follow me around so we could have a good time!!shes 6weeks old!!!but how in the world can i get her to play!!!shes a pekineses and very beautiful but for somereason she will not play!!!!why is that!!!

wtf shes 6 weeks old. why dont you let her grow a little. shes a baby, dogs age faster than humans but not that fast. shell get more playful around 12 weeks. if she doesnt then your screwed cause little dogs like that are effed up anyway. (not in a rude way..its true. you should research them online)

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me and my best friend (amy) were wondering
if was to marry her cousin (jack) would me and amy be related? like sister in law or what ever?
its kinda weird lol
thanx

you would be her cousin-in-law. if you wanted to be her sister-in-law youd have to marry her brother.

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theres this kid i like and he came over my house and me n him kissed like 6 times and then the next day he kissed this other girl n i dont no if i like him anymore but i invited him to the movies with a bunch of my other friends and some how the other girl he kissed found out about the movies and shes goin n shes like im gonna make out with him right in front of her(meanin me) face and i dont no what to say to him

dont say anything, hes not worth it. ooh you know what you should do at the movies? pull one of those cool movie scenes where you dump a coke on him..but make sure its his coke. thatd be awsome

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My best friend who isn't a virgin, and I am 18 and am still a virgin, by choice I feel that I should wait until I am truly in love. Well any ways we got in to a fight to day and she said some ignorant thing, saying that I am a virgin because I can't get none. Which is so not true. I don't know if I should still be friends with her or not. And then we get in to fights because she is with her boy friend all the time, and we never spend any time together except for school. what should I do

i know exactly what your talking about. i have an ex best friend who just recently was trying to get some girl to break up with her boyfriend so that she could "hook up with that hot guy who wants to holler at you" when i told the girl not to break up with the guy she loves just because the hot guy wants to have sex with her, my ex friend said "you only say that because youve never had any" that made me mad because its completely not true. what makes her think that even if i had already had sex, that id say "yes liz..break up with your boyfriend and become a whore..sleep with everyone who only wants to use you." you know? just because half the population of girls are skanky or have simply just had sex, doesnt mean i need to go risk stds and heartbreak over someone i dont love because "everyone else does it." little things like that are why me and her arent friends anymore. maybe you should talk to your friend about it and try to save your friendship, if its important enough to you. im always here if you have any other problems. good luck, i hope you can save your friendship better than i could mine.

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Is it possible to get your tips done red and the rest of the nail black.
Ive ever gotten my nails done.
Also,i will be wearing a dress and standing up with a guy.In my cuzins 15th birthday.
The dress is red,should i just get white tips.
Or like red tips with jews on them.
If you could give me some ideas,i would be more than happy.

you should definately go with the jews.

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I'm 16/f and i recently found out that im pregnant by my bf whos 17. I know i cant tell my mom anything until im sure what i'm going to do. I really want to tell my bf, but he would probably freak. and yes i was taking birth control. but should i tell my bf who would most likely insist that i keep it, or just go get an abortion n not ever mention it to him. or u can add ur own options

i dont know how close you and your boyfriend actually are. but you need to talk to him about it right away (in person). i wouldnt doubt him freaking out, but thats normal for a seventeen year old boy, finding out he has a kid on the way. you need to sit down and be honest with eachother. find out whether or not hes willing to stick around and help you out. then if he says no, you need to talk to your parents, if he says yes, youll need to talk to both of ya'lls parents.. i dont honestly feel this is a decision you should make on your own, but you need to do what you feel best. i do know two people who had a kid when they were 17 and they said it was the best thing they ever did. it gave them a purpous and helped them to get theyre shit together. but then i know of people who had kids and didnt have any help either, and how horribly it turned out for them. this is why you need to discuss it with your parents. your mom will know whats best. you say you want to figure it out on your own first though, which is why i said talk to your boyfriend. this is just as much his responsibility as it is yours. find out whats going on in his head once you tel him and decide what you think best. then talk to your parents. i hope everything works out for you, good luck!

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