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Q: I have a bit of a issue. I have three BEST guy friends and i've come to care about ALL of them A LOT. I've liked them all @ one point or another and we've all kinda had our little "flings". Within these past christmas weeks i hve found out ALL 3 still like me. and like i've said i care about them t0o. I've actually gone out with one of them but it was bad timing so it didn't last long @ all... 1 is also a senior & i dont knw what im gonna do when hes gone cuz hes always there. The 3rd i've known my whole school days life and he FIANLLY likes me. But he broke up with one of my cheerleader pals (im her capt) so i DUNNO... PLZ any advice? thanks for your help!

Well, are you saying since the 3 of them like you..you want to go out with one of them. I dont think its a good idea. All three like you, you go out with one, but still hang out with the other 2 because you guys are friends. That would cause jealousy problems..but if you wanna go out with one of em..just choose the one you like the most.

Q: ok, i'm 19/female. my best friend(steve) died in march. the night before he did we admitted to each other that we were in love with each other and had been for years. it was the happiest day of my life. all i had to do was break up with my man. the next morning, steve was found dead at a nearby park. the police still dont know if it was suicide or if he was killed, but anyways. that death destoryed my whole life, took my heart right down in the grave with him. then i met neil, and i still love steve, i always will... but i connect with neil, and i see things in neil that i saw with steve. i think that steve sent neil to me to make sure im ok. well.. neil was on probation, and broke it by leaving the county, and now is facing a 1-3 yr sentence. i dont know what to do. i cant lose both of them. please help.

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Well if Steve sent neil to you then neil wouldent be facing jail. Hopefully his lawyer or whoever can try to get Neil a less harsher sentence. If neil does go to jail, you'll just have to find someone else..I dont know if I helped much but yeah sorry

Q: how do u know if a guy likes you? i need advice cause i'm not sure if this one guy i like...likes me too? please help me!

If he flirts a lot, makes fun of you, touches you, compliments you but it sounds like hes joking..Hope I helped:)

Q: Okay theres this guy I like that I met at a dance in September. We talk on the phone and I go by his locker at school a lot. He told me he liked me still a couple weeks ago but we havnt talked too much cuz we have both been busy the past week or so. I want to ask him out now. I think I'm ready. But how and when should I?

Well maybe on the phone since I think your on winter break. But if your not on winter break go up to his locker and be like "Hey do you wanna go to the movies sometime". Simple as that. Good luck and I dont think you would be rejected since he likes you!

Q: last year me and my bf broke up and he spread all these rumors about me making the whole school think im a slut, etc, etc... since then ive never wanted to date a guy from my school because im scared that those rumors are going to come up again and people look at me like im an even bigger slut for going out with someone else.. i KNOW i shouldnt care what people think of me, so please dont say anything like that.. theres this guy that I like and he likes me too and he wants a relationship with me, but i told him how i felt about not wanting to date a guy from school.. I told him this, "i really want to be with you too, but from everything [i told him about what happened last yr] i just dont want the title of being 'boyfriend n girlfriend' but i would want to be like together and know we like eachother but not really be bf and gf".. I think he got kind of mad at that.. I dont know what to do because Im really scared that rumors are going to start up again, etc.. any advice? thanks

Maybe you should just keep your relationship on the down-low. Like go out and stuff but not be seen at school? And also hang out with a bunch of friends or for alone time you could go to his house or vise versa. Sorry if I didnt help much..

Q: okay so im a 16/f and ive never had a bf. I dont consider myself ugly or anything, and its not like i cant get a bf..i could if i wanted too..only thing is, when i start liking someone im all flirty and then i find out they like me and i TOTALLY stop liking them, I think im scared of a relationship or something because everytime someone askes me out i think its the biggest thing in the world and i just cant find myself to go out with someone...theres ONE guy that i would say yes to on the dime..which is my best friend in the world, me and him are like getting married one day haha, but yeah, anyone know WHY im like this?! WHY am i scared of having a BF?!?! and How do I stop it, or help myself ? :( helppp please, * i rate everyone a 5*

Maybe your scred of getting hurt? Like scared of going out and then him leaving you...I think you should keep being flirty and all and if he asks you out just tell him to wait a while so you can get to know him better and trust him more. Hope I helped

Q: I have bumps on my pubic area. Not alot but alittle.
when i pop them puss comes out is this normal is something wrong with me.

Do you shave around there? They could be razor bumps..make sure you put some lotion on after you shave but dont let it get in "there"

Q: i uploaded my picture into my column but it shows a lil X.. any one know y?

Because its too big or it just didnt work. Find another picture or re-size the picture to make it smaller at www.photobucket.com !

Q: okay im really confused im a freshman in high school and like it seemslike i should knoe wut i wanna do for a living by now..like everyone else and well im really not shua wut i wanna do i really wanna be and architect but theres alot of math in that and i hate math! i wanna do sumthin with good.. money a STABLE salary and that i can have fun with! i dont wanna be stuck in a cubical all day! so please gimme some ideas!

lol heyy you know what most people I know have no idea what they want to be. You usally find out your senior year for sure or even go into a community college not knowing what you want to major in. Soo dont worry ok, you'll figure it out sooner or later just be open to anything and open to take any classes in college or high school because you might like something:)

Q: I am 6 years out of high school and I am still with my high school boyfriend. We are not married but have a child together. He has never cheated on me or anything, but now he is saying we should get our own places so that we can save some money (because this way I would get help from the state). He wants to do this for about a year, and he also says we need a little time apart because we've been together so long and been through so much. I don't agree with it, and I don't really understand it, but we've talked about it and talked about it and I really don't have a choice in the matter. He says he'll be over all the time and that I can keep EVERYTHING at my place, that he just wants to keep his clothes in his place. He's not as affectionate as he used to be, but he still wants sex. Guys, help me out here, what is he trying to tell me, is there any hidden agendas I should be concerned about or should I just believe him that he wants to try and save money and work on getting new things like furniture and/or car(s)? He says he feels we're going nowhere fast right now with his two dead end jobs. So I'm guessing he thinks this will be the easy way out? I'm not sure how to read him right now. What would you guys think if your guy wanted to do this...also, if any guys know what this means, please I need some insight. Should I trust this??

I think you should trust him. But, first tell him how you feel. Ask him if this is just something thats gonna last for a while and then he'll leave you..Maybe you should get a job to speed up the saving money plan...Do this and if he doesnt call or doesnt visit you much there must be something up. But you should try it out and see what happens.

Q: im designing a sweatshirt and i love horses and it is gonna have a horse saying on it.. any ideas... it needs to be kinda short

May the Horse be with you? lol

Q: Okay, this may sound dumb, but im confused.

If you call a suicide hotline, do they call the cops? Especially since you are in danger? I have always wondered this and my councelor at school gave me a list of hotlines because I am always thinking about suicide.

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No they do not call the police. They just talk to you about what your about to do/want to do and try to help out!

Q: i need help with my column..im not good with HTML things at all..and i just started out here so if anybody could help me thatd be great!

Hey, ok go to "Column settings" under "Welcome (your username!) and you can change the colors. Just go here http://webmonkey.wired.com/webmonkey/reference/color_codes/ and copy/paste the codes into the appropriate section. Like if you want the background to be black you enter the black html code. Thats what you can do about the colors, and also on column settings you can change the layout of your site. If you need more help with actual HTML and making it nice like moving words and stuff..just leave it in my inbox! I'll teach you:)

Q: Okay, So i wanna get a flat tummy for summer, I know that lot of people ask this question as in "whats the best way to get a flat tummy" I know crunches are good and the sweet 16 thing, but, could you guys give me an estimate as to how long it will take, how many i have to do a night and how long it will take till i get a flat tummy, my stomach isnt fat, its just got a lil extra chub, OH and how do you get rid of love handles?!?!

Pilates. I suggest doing pilates get a video at walmart or something. To be honest, everyone is different and we wont know exacltey how long it will take. Some people it might take a few weeks, other people a few months...you have a long time till summer so if you start now by summer your stomach will be flat

Q: This is really embarrassing but when i was in 7th grade this girl made up a rumor that i gave head to a dog and then it started to escalade and ppl added onto it like the dog ate me out and i tried to have sex with it and when i wood go to parties and maybe drink alittle bit ppl wood say wow she did stuff with a dog again and she did it infront of people! and its just horrible when guys i like ask me about it and stuff and people keep saying shit! and i just dont know what to do...Please help!

Wth? OMG Little kids are sooo gay. Sweetie dont worry about it..you know its not true and if the guys ask you about it or anyone akss you about it just tell them that their gay for actually believing that..a dog? hhaha

Q: My sister said I over do it on the eyeliner factor. She says I wear to much, and it should look natural and you shouldn't put that much on cuz it makes you look alot older. I like the way I wear it and her nickname for me is eyeliner. I hate it. What should I say to her?>

Screw her. Be liuke "its my eyeliner and my eyes" I love eyeliner to death and it does NOT make you look older. I put a lot on too, well not that much to where I cant blink..but eyeliner rocks and do whatever you want with it. Be creative! haha

I loveee eyeliner!

Q: There's alot of things my boyfriend doesn't know about me, like I have a Psychiatrist and I was abused and stuff. I keep it close between me and my friends because I know I can trust them. I very much trust my boyfriend, but I don't just want to tell him straight up like when we're hanging out or something. I think it's only right if he asks me personal questions and then me respond. Does that seem right? Or should I tell him straight up?

Well, it all depends on how you want it. Do you feel he should know about it? You could write him a letter if that makes it eaiser. I dont think he'd ever ask you like "Have you been abused" so you should just tell him. And sorry about what happened!

Q: How do I unlink my managed screen names on AIM?

Go to "My aim" , "manage linked screennames" click "link/unlink screen names" then uncheck the box by the screen name and click "unlink" at the bottom

Q: My friend invited me over to her house so we could call people n stuff. Because I have a cellphone and she doesn't, and I think she's only using me to talk to her boyfriend. Anyways, i'm moving this summer and I need to spend as much time with my closest friends possible so I vinted 4 of my best friends over for a small group gathering. I told her that I didn't want to go to her house and she could come to my house so we could all hang out. And she said NO to me!! I'm so mad about this but I kind of understand since I blew her off in the first place. But still, she shouldn't be mad over something so stupid................right?

Right. Why does she only want to be at her house? So she can talk to her boyfriend..yeah no. I think shes using you too..that or she must really love you and want you to herself.

Q: Okay, there is this teacher at school that I feel very close to, she is amazing and helps me all of the time with my problems, i think of her as a mom. I spend all of my study hall time with her because its her free period. I call her at home all of the time and we talk and joke around. I am 16 (17 in feb) and she is 26, i call her by her first name and we are really good "friends". I am going through a rough time with my mom and may be going into foster care, well, she said if that happens i can live with her. AM I weird for being this close to a teacher?

Nope. Its a girl, if it was a guy it would be different. Dont worry! You guys have a friendship and she really cares for you. Its all good..so dont worry!