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Q: ok well my mom and the rest of my family been suffering becuase i have sister who is like 15 and wants to get her way and one day she didnt come home frm skool we got worried and we reported her missing so about late evening the police called and told us that they had her there with them so we were at church after church we went there they questioned us and my grandpa and we found out alot what she told them such as that my grandpa molested her wen we know its not true!!! my grandpa is a pastor and he very hard working who is hardly ever home and brianna is hardly ever home also she doesnt come striaght home frm skool well she says she goes to skool wen we get a call that she wasnt in skool wen she rides the skool bus so butt i guees she doesnt go...and she also said that my mom beats her wen its not true my mom never lays a hand on her and she also brought up alot of my mom history and the cps, people frm the court are taking her side and the sad part about all this is they took my brother away frm my mom he like 12 yrs old who we barely got to live with us wen he was living in bakerfeild with his dad cuz my mom and hid dad are divorced so yah and my other brothe who is like 5yrs old lives with his dad so yah my 12 yrs old brother lives in a foster home now wich is very sad they wont give him to his either cuz of some of his past also so yah we all miss my brother and are very upset at my sister for doing all this to us my family is very heart borken... i think its wrong that theyre not giving my mom to much help that theyre going agianst her and siding with my sister wen i know how my sister is so anyone out there could tell me some advice i will appreciate it thasnk you very much!!!!!!

I am not siding against you but someone doesn't say something like that and it not be true. it some way or another it is true. maybe you should talk with your sister in a nice way comfort her a little and find out whats going on.
I am going to college to be a social worker and they aren't going to take a child out of the home unless there is evidence and there must me. just because your grandfather is a pastor doesn't mean he didn't do anything to harm your sister. Quit worrying about what has happened and figure out why. sort have like an investagator. Honestly talk to your sister (nicely)

i am sorry you are going through something like this and i am preying for you good luck.

Q: Ok so i have a.d.d. and i can't concentrate on my work or school at all!! i mean i wanna get my grades up so bad! but i just can't concentrate on anything my mind just races and races and i just can't focus on what im doing, i can't take it. this is horribe, what do you think i should do??

if you could please help me i would appriciate it alot!!! i have so many projects i have to do soon

you should talk to your doctor i used to baby sit two little kids who had a.d.d and they were on medication to help them concentrate better.

Q: hi, i am a virgen , and my boyfriend wants to have anal sex, if he cums in my ass can i get pregnant?

no you can't get pregnant.

Q: Ok so there is this guy that I dated last year but had to break up with him because of parents. They told me not to talk to him just hi bye stuff only. But i talk to him anyway but got caught txtn him so he cant text me but we talk at school. Anyway he told me that he loved me and other stuff, but my friend(i guess you could call her that) asked me if she should date him and that he told her that he liked her A LOT. So last month i told her to ask him if her still liked her because he told me that he didn't like her. She asked and he said yes that he still liked her. So I yelled at him and asked him why he lied to me. He said i'm sorry what can i do to make you still like me. Then he said I won't even talk to her. So i said ok. Well he asked me to kiss him like 2 days ago I said maybe. I never did but my friend asked me again if she should date him because he asked her again. So I told her he said he liked me. Then she asked him who he liked more and he said her. And I BET money that if i asked him that he'd say me. So I am really confused now because this guy lied to me and told me that he loved me and that i was the only girl he liked, but told her that he liked her more. I don't want to ask him but I AM SO MAD. Help me!!

Go after what you want and if it doesnt want you back than it didnt deserve you anyways. you should get together with your friend you both should show no interest in this guy maybe itll teach him a lesson for messing with girls heads. good luck

Q: hey.so ive been with my boyfriend for 3 days lol
but anyways we like each other a lot, and tell each other everything, so everything is fine...
but he was in a 3 year relationship before me, and asked her to marry him, and she said yes....but she cheated on him. They've been broken up for a while, but what are somethings i should, or should'nt do to like make him think about it?
And he also works with her mom, and i guess they have a pretty good relationship...
or what should i do to keep us going good, and keep him interested in me i guess???
me 18, him 20.
Thanxxx!!

Be your self if he doesn't love you for you than it isnt worth the time. 3 days is a very short time. people change once you get to know him take it slow and always be there for each other. good l uck/

Q: so this good friend of mine...i started liking him...and well.......................................................................
why is it easier to like make out with soemone you don't know rather than just....doing stuff like that with him??/
i mean dammit. i hate it.

i think its because you have feelings for this person and you are afrid of getting hurt by them rather than enjoying your self. just breath and stay calm. you dont have to rush into anything.

Q: i went to this party last night and made out with 3 guys and gave one a handy and some stuff..and i was drinking a little. i cant remember exactly what i did with the one guy, but i kept worrying i had sex with him. im a virgin, and last night was my first time doing anything besides kissing.

well pretty much it was a hump and dump, and he got pissed at me for some reason and all this sh!t. it made me feel horrible. but anyways, im worried something happened..like i would remember if i had sex or he fingered me right? it hurt a little down there, but not too bad. and i remember both guys with there hands there, they were like both laying next to me. and then when i stood up my pants were undone.

then, this morning i find out this guys basically a man whore, and i feel like such a slut. all his friends are like your gonna get some gross disease! ahahah. and no not funny..is it possible i could catch something from making out or hand job i dont even knoww! haha help! =]

If you only drank a little bit you would remember if someone had sex with you and that would be called rape if they did. the would have taken advantage of you while you were under the influence. it may be sore from them rubbing or touching you down there since you are still a virgin. you can't catch anything from a HJ but you can get a cold sore from kissing. which is very treatable.

Q: okay so at a party a guy tried to hook up with me....(just makeout not like actual sex or itd be rape) he basically forced me up against a wall and i couldnt get out of it...my boyfriend of 3 months walked in and he had to saddest look on his face that ive ever seen and he just walked out the door when i tried begging him to come back. my boyfriends friends with a few of my friends and they said that he was so heartbroken and i feel like shit because i feel like i wasnt cheating on him, even though it looked that way. i like him sooo much and i would never wanna lose him but i think i did =( my friends say he said he doesnt wanna talk cause hes too upset...what should i do? =(((

16/f

Try talking to him face to face tell him that the boy forced you against the wall and you were trying to get him off of you. if you cant get him to talk to you face to face you can try a note or the phone but face to face would mean much more.

Q: well ive been talking to this girl for a while now but not "talking" talking just regular talk and well i like but she seems to think my friend his cute and she wants me to talk to him for her but i really dont wanna do it and i told her that and she got mad at me for it so i told her im doin it to make her happy and so i told my other friend about everything and then outta nowhere she told me that the girl i is confused about guys and that shes mad that when a guy likes her and she can tell and he wont tell her so should i help her with my friend or should i tell her i like her?

i think you should tell her you like her. Go after what you want. and if it doesnt want you back than it didnt deserve you anyways. take the chance.

Q: 17/f. I dated a guy for roughly three weeks. He acted like he really liked me a lot (paid for everything, opened every door, always let me pick the music, let me drive his nice car, told my friends how much he liked me, etc). Then exactly a week ago he broke up with me, saying that since we go to different schools that it's unfair to me that we can only hang out on the weekends. So I totally understood and told him that I still wanted to be friends. However, two days after that happened, he was a total asshole to one of my friends. He also told my friend that he never even liked me at all. Besides that, he is now about to date this other girl, who he started talking to while he was dating me. We have been broken up for exactly a week. I'm over him because he's a douchebag. But it makes me feel really stupid that I dated such a jerk. So I don't know how to react at all... this was my first relationship ever. Is it normal for guys to start dating other people that quickly? I just keep thinking about how much of a moron I am for letting someone do that to me. I don't want him in my life whatsoever (not even as a friend), but should I still be mad at him for doing that to me or should I let it go?

Don't feel stupid it isn't your fault. He sounds like he doesn't know what he wants out of a relationship. A gentleman when he is with a lady but when he gets confused about whome he likes or something like that he turns out to be a Jerk. Let it go it might take a little bit of time. but he isnt worth the drama.

Q: how do i make a boy go crzy through a kiss or makeout?

your hand against his cheek or in his hair pulling it a little bit your bodys touching that drives my man wild.

Q: on saturday, i got to hang out with my boyfriend for the day. i haven't seen him in 4 months. when we first started out our relationship, i promised myself i wouldn't get in over my head, and i wouldn't get too attached. i have had boyfriends like him, where they tell me that they are a player, and don't want me to get hurt. i usually ignore it. tell them to not get too attached.
but when i saw him yesterday, the way he held me, the way he pressed his nose to mine, and the way he carefully held my tiny hand in his giant one, made me fall for him. way too deep.
later on, when i got home and he got to his, i was emailing him. i noticed he was giving me one word answers, so i asked him what was wrong. he was honest, and straight to the point, and he said "i like someone else..."
when he said that, my heart dropped. i called him to ask what had happened between when i saw him just a couple of hours ago, and then, he said that he liked her FOR A WEEK.
this has happened to me multiple times before. i don't usually react. i don't usually care. but this time, i was screaming at him, saying sorry to him, crying, throwing up, begging him not to go, wanting him to die, wondering what i did wrong, and i literally lost it last night. my whole world felt like it was crashing down, over something stupid. and i knew it was stupid then. luckily all of my friends helped, and i stopped crying and talked to him again, and this time, he didn't even want to be my friend. because he was "trying to rid [himself] from all temptations"
thats when i got MAD at him.
if he doesn't like me like that anymore, why the fuck am i a temptation?
i just want to be his friend. he was and still is one of my best friends. i just feel so confused. so lost. so alone. so cold. so heartbroken.
help?
(other than "he's a dick!" "there's other fish in the sea". give me REAL advice.)

love hurts and it is something that has happened or will happen to everyone. you seem like your alone and you don't understand and no one understands the way you feel or why your feel this way towards him. one of my favorite quotes is, " Go after what you want, if it doesn't want you back, than it didnt deserve you anyways" it explains my life and maybe it will help you. you went for him he acted as if he cared but only to tell you he was liking someone else. moving on does really help pushing him out of your life does really help.

Example. i dated a guy for 6 months we were always together i was in love with him. my older brother is in the military and came home for a week so i stayed at my moms so i could see him and my boyfriend at the time got back flipping out on me he didnt want me around him. well i had broke up with him so i could see my brother. (dec) we got back together in feb. and i helped cook everything and set up his 18 birthday brought my son around him again slept with him for the next day he had his girlfriend call me and tell me to leave him alone i was a mess. i finally quit talking tohim and about him and hung out with friends so i wouldnt think about him... good luck.

Q: ok I am a 17 year old male. I have been dating this girl for almost 7 months but recently I started talking to this girl. Who is really nice, and cute and awesome, and I have started to develop feelings for her. Unfortunately she has a bf too. But I told her that I had feelings for her and she told me I was her kind of guy. What's should I do?

Break up with the girl your with now because obviously you dont like her to much to be telling another girl you have feeling with her. or focus on your relationship now. you might just have to break up with your girlfriend and wait until the other girl breaks up with her boyfriend

Q: well im not fat. im just have a little pouch. well i how do i tighten that up? also how to get a tighter butt too. and stronger arms? and how do i loose weight also. any good tips? without going to the gym.

i use a ab lounger and i love it! running . palaties (spelling) they work wonders

Q: how old do you have to be to buy earrings to gauge your ears at hot topic?

i dont believe there is a set age limit. but im not for sure.. try calling the store and asking.

Q: so im getting a new kitten on friday! she is 5 weeks old and is adorable! Problem is...I don't know what to name her! Ive searched cat names on the internet but haven't really liked anything.

http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j212/Moodymare55/kitty.jpg

above is a picture link. She is the kitten all the way at the bottom =] she's so cute and i want a good name for her.

And also, I have another 7year old cat in my house. Do you think she would run away or not get along with a kitten? She is also a girl.

And is there anything I should teach my kitten to do while its still little? Like for example, when you get a dog, you teach him when hes little, the rights and wrongs, like only going to the bathroom outside...is there anything you would teach a cat? just wondering.
thanks!
15/f/usa

kittens / cats i believe are more of a comfort pet. They cuddle up with you and like like to play. If there are things she is getting into tell her no. I had 7 cats and my cat would always get jealous of a new kitten. just give them both attention

Q: Alright guys I really want to know what to do when in a relationship. I'm talking about a teen relationship. I'm exactly 13 years old and I want to know what should a 13 year old be doing when in a relationship? Ex: WEEK 1: MAKE OUT
MONTH 1: FEEL UP
like that
I really want someone my own age to anaswer this this and not someone older saying I'm too young for this stuff. Like I think after 9 months is good to start having sex but wat do u think? And I mean actual sex not like bg's or hj's and please include those in their! thanks!

ahh you are very much so to young for sex. i lost my virginity at 13 and i regret every moment of it. and i was pregnant at 15. so trust me for experience you want to wait

Q: last year i loved this guy and my best friend
went out with him because i told her it was
okay to. i told her it was okay because i was texting
him one night and he's like, do you know if
she likes me? and so i found out he didn't
like me. so i was in denial about liking
him and i told her it was okay.

then this year i started liking this guy
and i don't love him or anything but i really
do like him and then my best friend's friend
started dating him tonight because i was
again, in denial. why do i keep losing them?

because your always in denial

go after what you want
and if it doesnt want you back
than it didnt deserve you anyways

Q: 14/f

I get acne on my face alot. Its not like over dramatic bad but sometimes I just can't take it. I use face wash and stuff. It helps a little. I see girls who have like no acne on their face whatsoever. Do you think you can help me with this? Like any better stuff I can use for my face or if there is anything else? Thanks so much!

I use Oxy Cleansing Pads Every Night..

Some times it turns your Acne Into Pimples and you just pop them and it clears up

Q: how can i look like this haha?

okay that might sound weird but i mean..

right now i have alot of black heads, not really pimples. i wash my face twice a day. my mom won't bring me to the dermatologist. i've tried all the acne and blackhead facewashes! i use cover up and bronzer. my face always seems to get oily, which just feels disgusting!

for my teeth: they're straight. but they're little. they're kind of white but i wish they were whiter. i've spent so much on like white strips, whitening trays and everything but they're not sparkling white like i wish they were!! my brother got them done at the dentist which cost ALOT but they're like the same color as mine and i want them whiter.

for my hair: i hate it. its a lighter brown. barely touches my boob. i feel like when i straighten it, it always gets kind of greasy and it never stays straight because i do have some layers!! i currently bought extensions but have to wait to wear them until my hair appointment because i'm dying my hair. i get bored with my hair way too easily. i usually just wear it down and straight or i'll just put my side bangs back.

what should i do with my makeup? i have like hazel eyes. sometimes they're like brown sometimes they're green/brown. it depends. i wear eyeliner on the top and bottom. i use mascara and have an eyelash curler (my eyelashes are already long) i want that bold look! i try to do the smokey eye, doesn't work! i dont know what to do? everytime i try to do my make up cool looking , it just looks straight up retarded!

clothes: oh man, i want a more "sophisticated" look. right now i have clothes from abercrombie, hollister but im 18 years old, i want to look more grown up and less "teenager-kid"ish. i do have some clothes from express but i don't know what to wear. hate the straight legged pants and really skinny ones at the bottom. don't wear high heels, i usually wear the slipper shoes you can get at target and recently bought some uggs!

well thank you so much i know this is alot but if you can help me, i will return the favor [:

okay this shoud be fun..

Hair:: Switch up your shampoo and conditioner because when i used the same kind it makes my hair greesy and stuff gross i know!

Buy Treseme Straighting Spray Works Wonders.

I did mine at a split.. blonde on top black on the bottum. short layers on top and long on bottum so you can see the black and the blonde lays on top.

Make Up: Keep doing your eyeliner on the bottum and put white on top sorta like eye shadow. but your white eyeliner. and use mascura. For Cover Up try Maybelline Age Rewind I use Light 4. (doesnt really age rewind but i love it!!)

ACNE:: use Oxy Cleansing Pads Eventually it gives you pimples and you pop them and your face starts to clear up use them every night!

Clothes:: Jeans That Flare you can get them at Wal Mart. It all depends on your style. I work in apperal at wal mart and like long sleved faded glory shirts or hanes. vests with fur (depends on the state you live on how cold it gets) cute shirts nice shirts whats comfortable i mean you can do a lot to spice up your style.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.