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"i like someone else..."
on saturday, i got to hang out with my boyfriend for the day. i haven't seen him in 4 months. when we first started out our relationship, i promised myself i wouldn't get in over my head, and i wouldn't get too attached. i have had boyfriends like him, where they tell me that they are a player, and don't want me to get hurt. i usually ignore it. tell them to not get too attached.
but when i saw him yesterday, the way he held me, the way he pressed his nose to mine, and the way he carefully held my tiny hand in his giant one, made me fall for him. way too deep.
later on, when i got home and he got to his, i was emailing him. i noticed he was giving me one word answers, so i asked him what was wrong. he was honest, and straight to the point, and he said "i like someone else..."
when he said that, my heart dropped. i called him to ask what had happened between when i saw him just a couple of hours ago, and then, he said that he liked her FOR A WEEK.
this has happened to me multiple times before. i don't usually react. i don't usually care. but this time, i was screaming at him, saying sorry to him, crying, throwing up, begging him not to go, wanting him to die, wondering what i did wrong, and i literally lost it last night. my whole world felt like it was crashing down, over something stupid. and i knew it was stupid then. luckily all of my friends helped, and i stopped crying and talked to him again, and this time, he didn't even want to be my friend. because he was "trying to rid [himself] from all temptations"
thats when i got MAD at him.
if he doesn't like me like that anymore, why the fuck am i a temptation?
i just want to be his friend. he was and still is one of my best friends. i just feel so confused. so lost. so alone. so cold. so heartbroken.
help?
(other than "he's a dick!" "there's other fish in the sea". give me REAL advice.)
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aww honey i feel so bad for you. It looks to me like this is your first guy you have really felt something for. Well I'm trying not to say there are other fish in the sea but it's hard not to! I think you need to follow the 5 steps to handeling a break-up. I really hope this helps!
1. Mope. -Go ahead eat chocolate, watch sad movies, and cry all you want. You deserve to do whatever you want.
2. Stalk him- If your not already doing it look repeatedly at his myspace and stare at him in class.
3. Clean-up- Throw out everything that reminds you of him. Pictures, texts, emails, EVERYTHING
4. Flirt- Look at the cute guy sitting next to you. Your single and on the prowl! Go party without having to worry about other guys!
5. Be happy and love yourself-self-explanatory
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It's not about you.
You aren't 'a temptation'. You aren’t the problem. It was very wrong of him to say that in a way that suggested you are.
He is emotionally irresponsible and this relationship wasn’t working for him.
He was looking deeply into your eyes one minute, and telling you he was into someone else the next. Obviously, he can't resist a temptation. He can't behave himself or be respectful when a pretty girl sits besides him. That isn't about you. That is about him being a flake.
I can't give you much better advice then that.
Wash your face, do your hair and makeup however you best like it and then look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself "I was not the problem here. I did the best, most honest thing I could do. His problems are his problems, and do not reflect on me as a person."
Actually I lied, one more piece of advice to add:
When he comes back to you in a few days or weeks, wanting to be your friend again, seriously think long and hard about whether or not you want his friendship. Friendships with flakey people are always a bit of a rollercoaster ride. And he probably will come back. He is probably that inconsistent. Remember when he does, that it isn’t because you are particularly special to him, it’s because he is still the confused dumb-ass that he was when he dumped you.
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Now listen up, I'm letting you know now that whole "I'm trying to rid myself of all temptation" thing is BS. Don't believe it. He said that because he obviously just doesn't want to be with you. And if he feels that with him like someone else, that he has to leave you, than I'm letting you know right now (RealTalk) that you deserve way better than him, way better!!! Don't believe that without him you are nothing. Another guy will come really soon, and treat you with much more respect than him "Who loved you, and left you". You should confront him face to face, not via e-mail. By e-mail he knows he's safe from you personally. And he won't have to deal with all of the fuss by confronting you. That's why he made up with you and left like everything was okay. But knowing that when you guys got on the internet he was free to say his mind. If he wasn't afraid of you he would've told you when you guys confronted one another. So you need to confront him and talk about it, don't beg for him to leave, if he wants you he'll come to you. When you confront him, you simply discuss why he's leaving you for her, and ask him politely can you guys be friends. If he declines than let it be and move on with your life.
Please leave me feedback on my answer, thankyou :)
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love hurts and it is something that has happened or will happen to everyone. you seem like your alone and you don't understand and no one understands the way you feel or why your feel this way towards him. one of my favorite quotes is, " Go after what you want, if it doesn't want you back, than it didnt deserve you anyways" it explains my life and maybe it will help you. you went for him he acted as if he cared but only to tell you he was liking someone else. moving on does really help pushing him out of your life does really help.
Example. i dated a guy for 6 months we were always together i was in love with him. my older brother is in the military and came home for a week so i stayed at my moms so i could see him and my boyfriend at the time got back flipping out on me he didnt want me around him. well i had broke up with him so i could see my brother. (dec) we got back together in feb. and i helped cook everything and set up his 18 birthday brought my son around him again slept with him for the next day he had his girlfriend call me and tell me to leave him alone i was a mess. i finally quit talking tohim and about him and hung out with friends so i wouldnt think about him... good luck.
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