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is it posible for someone who once fat and lost all the weight can be a model??

yeah. you just have to be expressive in the face and know how to pose. there are models that aren't super skinny..

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Just wondering... because I'm a little bit worried.

I've been masturbating for years now and never had this happen. I'm a girl and about an hour after my orgasm, I'm experiencing some bleeding similar to my period. I just finished my period a couple days ago and I'm wondering if it's from that or if it's something entirely different.

Thoughts? :(

It could be from your period but I guess it depends on how you masturbate. If there's bleeding.. you might be hurting yourself or you "popped your cherry"

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I'm 15 yr. old girl and a musician. Plus I'm in a band of all guys. Thing is I have a boyfriend who doesn't trust me at all. Every time we have practice he always wants to come. I love him to death and I've talked to him many times about it. He always thinks I'm going to try something. I've been in this band way before I met him and I'm not giving it up. I just started dating this guy like 6 months ago. I've been with this band since I was 13. Anybody have any ideas on how I can get my guy to trust me more?

Just give him time. My boyfriend was like that too. He just doesn't want to lose you. Just keep telling him you won't do something. If he wants to go see you..let him and prove him wrong. In time he will trust you, don't let it bother you.

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hey, u just answered my question about how ppl say im good looking...well i can say that i dont think so. im just told that. i dont like/want to believe it. and thats another thing; i DO make good friends with them first, but then i get to know them too well, and then, well they just like me as friends...

don't get to know them "too well" then?
you sound like a really good friend and i think they don't want to ruin that if you break up. when you ask them out and you get rejected, it makes things awkward. just wait... i'm sure there's someone that likes you but you just don't notice them because you're going after a certain type of girl.

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ok - ive been told a lot that at 15, you dont need a girl friend...but i feel that it will make things soo much more easier! ive asked numerous girls, ive even written poems, but they just dont seem so like me in that way...ive been told just as numerous times that im actually pretty good looking, but that doesnt help when it comes to asking someone out...could you give me advice on how to ask a girl out? im not too nervous about it, i just seem to be attracted to the girls that dont like me! what difference can i make in their lives that will get them to like me in that way, therefore allowing me to get them to approve when i ask them out?
thanks

It doesn't make things easier. It's stressful. You have to be willing to handle it all. Just be yourself and take your time. I'm sure if you asked a lot of girls, they probably told one another that you were just asking them. And they probably think you don't really have any feelings for them [if you go after another girl so quickly.] You should flirt, make friends and wait it out. So you're pretty good looking, that probably turns off some people. They probably think since you're good looking that you can go after a girl that's so much better than them, you know? You should make new friends, if they get closer to you then maybe they will be interested in you.

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I have a grade 6 talent show coming up, and tryouts are tomorrow, i don't know what I should do! I stink at dancing and all my cd's have the voice on them, so i can't sing. What should I do?

you should try to get the karoeke versions of the songs you want to sing and practice for the next talent show?

or just come up with someone fast and make people laugh? :D

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mainly for guys

Last monday my friend wrote "i love you" in german on my assignment book. (when i got to my next class i had another friend translate it) so the next day i wrote a letter asking him if he really felt that way cause he likes to play jokes on me. and he said yes and asked me out. i told him i'd give him an anwser tomorrow (which is tomorrow) i am gonna say no cause no offense hes not my boyfriend type and kind of ugly. how do i tell him no with out recking our friendship? i want guys advice cause i want to know the least hurtfull way to do it. thanks, i'll give 5's

Maybe you should give him a chance. Do you have a good reason to say no? "Kind of ugly" personality matters more. In time, the person will seem a lot better in appearance.
Just tell him you'll like to be friends.
Or that you don't want to be in a relationship at the time.
If you didn't want to be with him in the first place..why didn't you just tell him no? He's probably worrying..and thinking that you're just making him wait because you're gonna say yes.

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ok...well i like this guy(im 13/f)and i barely see him, but when i do there is a major connection. Last wedsday, one of my friends pushed him and i grabbed his hand to help him and we just kinda stood there for a while holding hands...and then later when he saw me again we hugged, but he left his arm around me and it wasnt what he normally does...some of my friends say that hes going to ask me out but i dont think so, what can i do to make him do more stuff like that to me, and to show him that i like him. i dont want to look slutty though.

i rate high

just be yourself. you can flirt or if he's talking, be interested in what he's saying.
i think the little things count..
if you see him...wave or say hi.
smile at him.

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Well, I bought some proactive awhile back but didn't use it correctly so it didn't work so well. When I would use it it seemed to work, but then if I forgot about it they would come back..So I'm just wondering for people who are/have used this product if it's working for them. I recently orderd more, and when it get's in I'll use it correctly so it won't be such a pain but I wanted to know so if not I don't waste my time. Also, does anyone know of any better/ faster working products?

Thanks for your time.

It worked for me. I have mild acne..and In 2 weeks I had only one pimple. But then I stopped using it correctly and it dried up my face.
if you're willing to wash your face and buy moisturizer.. then it's worth it.

neutrogena products worked.
like cleansers.
and masks.

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Uhm, okey..don't get grossed out or anything. But I need help. I'm a female, and most females are expected to shave everything and have no hair. Well, I have hair. Lot's of it. I shave my legs and armpits, and mustach, and everything ofcourse..but lately I've noticed I have hair on my back and stomach and chest, and it grosses me out. And I can't wear the clothes I want to wear, and I can't stop crying about how insecure it makes me feel. So what do I do? I can't shave for obcious reasons, and if i tweeze or use an "epilator" I'll get ingrowns (or whatever they're called) right? Maybe you can get rid of ingrowns or something? Just help me please because I honestly FEAR summer-season now :'(

thank you.

It's okay... I have the same problem. A lot of people have hair on their back, stomach and chest. A lot of people don't notice it, it's not like they are examing you.
Just focux on the legs, armpits, etc. Those are more noticeable.
If you shave anywhere else.. The hair will go back more noticeable. And tweezing.. just hurts.

You can get that.. laser treatment, you can wax?

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i'm female 14 years old...well you will think this is normal and everything but i still feel weird:

yesterday it was about 11:30 at night and i was still awake listening to some radio then i became thirsty and i wanted to go downs stairs to get something to drink and then on my way downstairs i heard me parents having sex.... it was soo weird my mom was like making this really weird sounds and i heard how my dad kissed my mom and i dont know i was just standing there listening i couldnt move... but yeah then when i couldnt hear anything i went back to my room... and then my little sister (she's only 11 years old) also heard it cause her room is right next to my parents bedroom and she came into my room and she was really nervous and scared! and so am i and i dont know i just have a weird feeling about all this...what should i do?? its just freaking me out!!! and my sister also totally dosnt get it and she said she cant trust our parents or something :-/

any advice???

i'll rate

Tell your parents about your sister. You really don't want your sister to think that. Isn't she supposed to know about sex...some age around there? I thought parents told?

If you don't want to.. then just act like you've never heard it or anything. Because they probably don't know you heard so act like what they think.
Don't be awkward around them or they will notice..

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ok what does >3 mean

3 = a smiley.

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Okay, so there's this guy, he is SO cute, we've been friends all this year. And I fell in love with our friendship.

Silly as it sounds. But I like him, ALOT! He sometimes calls me at night, and one time, he wanted to meet me at the mall and watch a movie. (May I add, he doesn't know I like him.)

Okay, during school, my very close friend, talks about my crush ALL THE TIME. It kind of bothers me cause she says all this stuff like, "Oh, he keeps poking me in the arm, and told me it was a 'Love Tap'" I got pretty sad when she told me this. (Also, may I add, I told her I liked him before she even told me this.)

Last night, she told me that she 'kind of' likes my crush! To be honest, I wasn't surprised since she made is OBVIOUS!

But the problem is, she's ALOT prettier then me. She went out with more guys then I have. And most guys ask her out and everything. I'm just scared that maybe my crush might fall for her, and forget about me. I'm just scared if he DOES ask her out, that she's going to say yes.

I don't know what to do. My crush doesn't know I like him, and my friend likes him. I don't know what to tell my friend how I feel about this. I don't want to ruin our friendship. But it's really killing me. It gets me really mad, knowing that ALL the guys I thought is cute, or had a crush on, she happen to like them as well.

I don't know what to do anymore. Please help.
Sorry for this to be so long. But I need advice.

Thanks, I rate high! =]

Try to make more plans with your crush. You should tell him how you feel.

For your friend, you should tell her you don't want to talk about him. Maybe it will make her stop or just remind her that you liked him before she did.

The thing is.. to avoid your friend liking your crush... Don't tell them anything. Once you point it out they realize they are someone they could go out with.

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okay. i have had my period for about two years now and it has always been regular. this month im about five days late so far. i have never had sex, but is it possible for me to get pregnant still?... when i suck my stomach in, there is a little lump there and like wehn i push on it, it feels funny... could i be pregnant?!

you can't be pregnant if you haven't had sex..
it just came late.

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HI um...I'm a 13 year old gurl((GOING 14)) and I'm dating a 17 year GUY his the best boyfriend a girl can ever ask for his sweet romantic AND I LOVE HIM SOOOOOOO MUCH well the point is that our anyversary is comming real soon is going to be A YEAR sense we've been dating YAY MY B-day well I want to get somenthing really special and well one of the things that came to my mind was SEX he has never really pushed me into anything but well his a 17 year old dude thats one of their main "goals" and well I don't know wat to do....I NEED HELP plz should I DO THIS??????

No don't try to have sex because you gone out for a year. Some guys know that some girls think they have to. They think it's something easy to do and get away with.
You should really read into sex and know all of the STDS, etc and have more knowledge of what you're thinking of. Sex..it has some goods and bads.
Sometimes sex ruins the relationship. So wait it out and since he hasn't pushed you into doing anything. I think he's a great guy, you don't want to change him.
If you have sex once, he may want it again and again. There's always things to think about. Your parents. Pregnancy. Protection. STDS.
It's too much to think about right now.

You should go somewhere special with him.
Maybe start off at an amusement park?
Then a romantic dinner date?
Or maybe a movie?

Don't worry too much about it. I know a year seems like a big thing... but he should be happy, with you spending the day with him.

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i have this friend named sarah. except i dont think shes my friend anymore and heres why: me and sarah have been friends for quite a few years. but this year theres a problem. all of a sudden sarah becomes literally OBSESSED with this girl named marie. now dont get me wrong, im not one of those girls that gets jelous when my friends have new friendds but... sarah like gives me and my other friend alyssa the details on every moment of marie's life. this is the typical coversation sarah has with us at the lunch table: "OMG, marie is going out with nick! omg i am soo happy! she always liked him! marie is so good at getting boys!" or "MArie calls me up all the time and tells me about nick. oh yeah and we watched a video together yesterday it was so fun" Im sorry but I DONT CARE. and neither does alyssa. sarah never aks me about ME or never has real conversations. its usually just about marie or something else about HER. how can me and alyssa tell sarah in a nice way that we DONT CARE ABOUT FRICKIN MARIE.

So your friend is talking about a girl that's not in your group of friends? How does that work?
Do you even know marie or anything? you should tell your friend that..that you don't really know marie and you don't want to hear things about her.

You should start the conversations. Tell her about something that happened to you to distract her. If all the conversations are still about her, just don't talk to her anymore. You can also try to talk about sarah and ask how her day was to get the conversation somewhere else.

if you are really annoyed maybe
you and alyssa should make new friends.

when sarah starts up a conversation about marie..suggest that you dont want to talk about her. maybe that could work?

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idk i just need someone to tell me (sorry its long)

Me: i dont care if you cant help all i care about is that you care
HIM

make plans and don't talk to him. find some romance in your life to distract you. think of other things. make lists of why you shouldn't go out. i mean you could but the whole long distance relationship isn't appealing to me.
maybe try not talking to him.
you shouldn't get too attached to him
cuz he may have a girlfriend where he lives
and he's probably pretending he doesn't just so you'll say sweet things to him.

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ok im 15 and theres this guy that always flirts with me his friends say we should go out but when they say it hes like no hes really nice hes athletic hot but my ex said if i go out with him hes goin to beat his ass i know brody the guy that flirts with me could whoop him but i dont want him to get into a fight so what do i do do i go out with brody or not just so my ex dont get into a fight and get hurt pls help me
thanx õxõxõxõ

If you really like the guy, go out with him. You shouldn't let your ex get into the way. You have to tell your ex..since it's over.. you would like him not to interfer in your future relationships. If he's being an ass, get an adult into it and just walk away when he's around.

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http://www.focusas.com/Depression.html
That's the site that I found the depression symptoms on! I've had all except the last 3 and the running away one. I'm relly scared and I don't want to tell my mom because she has alot on her plate right now and I don't want her to knoe. My mom has depression too I think and they did say it could run in families. She had it when she was 28 or 30 and now I have it wen I'm 14! I don't want to have it forever and I would relly appreciate any possible help!! Please because I don't want to grow up morbid

A lot of people have those symptoms. You have to go to a doctor to get the right information. It's a chemical in your brain.. You may be just fine and just unhappy for whatever reasons. Sometimes people think they have it when they don't.

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ITS LONG BUT PLEASE READ!
i'm a 15 yr old girl

this JUST happen.. i came home and EVERYTHING.. and i mean EVERYTHING in my room was completely rearranged, reorganized, stuffed in random places, moved across the room, just everything was completely wrong in my room. We just had new housekeepers come for their first day and all i could do was cry at the sight of my room. I really did.. i just cried, it's already late enough and it was going to take me so long to fix my room and put it back to normal. My mom apparently LOVES the new maids ??? i told her to come upstairs and i showed her how everything was wrong. all she said was "they just wanted to make it look clean" LAKDJFKSJ... there are no words for me to describe how upset i am.. am i over reacting??

the only reason i feel so upset is because my room is MY place.. it's the only place i EVER feel comfortable, i don't even like when my family walks in my room, it's just MINE and it wasn't even messy in the first place its just like the housekeepers had the sudden urge to throw random stuff into empty shoe boxes and put them under my bed ...??? so i've spent the past HOUR re-doing my room... i'm not even kidding, i told my mom that i don't want them to clean my room and that i will do it from now on and apparently she won't let me do that because she doesn't think i'll actually clean up...how do i show her that i don't need a maid? and am i over reacting??

lock your room? and have your own key for it?
or leave a note saying not to move things.

keep your room EXTRA clean at all times then there will be no need for any maids to go in your room.

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