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i need love advice
ok - ive been told a lot that at 15, you dont need a girl friend...but i feel that it will make things soo much more easier! ive asked numerous girls, ive even written poems, but they just dont seem so like me in that way...ive been told just as numerous times that im actually pretty good looking, but that doesnt help when it comes to asking someone out...could you give me advice on how to ask a girl out? im not too nervous about it, i just seem to be attracted to the girls that dont like me! what difference can i make in their lives that will get them to like me in that way, therefore allowing me to get them to approve when i ask them out?
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ok i am a male a age 13 i have read your problem and i understand what you need help on trust me i have plenty of knowladge when it comes to this i will get straght to the point now. Basicaly you want to be as close to your innerself or your normal self as possible, hint 1: don't be a poser, Hint2: don't ever tell a girl you like them just because they are hot or pretty tell them some unique qualities they have and tell them a little about yourself ask them more about them. Be very sure you keep it as a simple starting conversation and then move on to something more interesting or intreging
like this: So how was your "any sport or instument" practice or how was school. then move on to something like this: you know i really like your outfit today and talk a few more minutes then finally after your done flirting go to something like this: i hope you like me because i really like you heres my number then you put it on a sheet of paper and tell her she can call you whenever just to talk about stuff such as: being bored and what you could do , or ask her what her favourite animal is or who her favorite band is make sure you don't sound desparate because that might be why they won't go out with you.
sorry this was so long.
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You need to make friends with these girls. Often a girl will start to like a boy after being friends with him. Things like this take time and pacience. The girls will come. Also, you need to re-evaluate your reason for wanting a girlfriend. If you want a girlfriend just to have one, then you aren't ready. If you want one because you really like a girl, there you go! I wish you the best of luck.
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Being in a relationship has never in my life made a single damn thing easier. I'm not saying it's not worth it, it is, but relationships, especially teenage relationships are the furthest thing from easy.
First off, stop thinking that asking a girl out once makes her your girlfriend. Often people go out once or twice and decide to stop, because they aren't relationship material. That isn't failing, that's being smart.
Secondly, asking out a ton of girls is a turn off. If you come off as simply wanting a girlfriend, an intelligent girl will think you aren't really interested in her specifically.
To ask out a girl you really like is rather simple once you screw up the courage to do it. Make sure to ask them in a relatively private place, keep it short and too the point and ALWAYS have a plan. Never just say "Hey wanna go out sometime." have a date and activity in mind "Do you want to have a picnic next Saturday?" or "Do you want to go to a movie this Friday?"
If you want to increase your chances of getting the date give it some time. You can't make a huge impact on a girl right away, just be honest and attentive and fun to be around. Let the friendship grow a bit before asking a girl out and she'll be more likely to say yes.
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It doesn't make things easier. It's stressful. You have to be willing to handle it all. Just be yourself and take your time. I'm sure if you asked a lot of girls, they probably told one another that you were just asking them. And they probably think you don't really have any feelings for them [if you go after another girl so quickly.] You should flirt, make friends and wait it out. So you're pretty good looking, that probably turns off some people. They probably think since you're good looking that you can go after a girl that's so much better than them, you know? You should make new friends, if they get closer to you then maybe they will be interested in you.
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I'll tell you the honest truth: You can't force someone to like you, no matter how good looking you may be. One of these days, you'll like someone who'll like you just as much back, and there will be the start of something.
-Odd
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