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WEll, i think i am gay. I dont know what to do. I love my girlfirned, but i sometimes, i feel an atraction to other men. What do i do?

im sure coming out is one of the hardest things someone could ever do.
it takes a lot of courage to do it, and im sure in time you can.
but for now, i would say to just be honest to the ones closest to you and who you feel comfortable with.
they will support you no matter what if they are true friends.
good luck!

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How do you get a girl you like to get over another guy so you can be with her?

you cant make a girl like you just because you want to be with her.
as much as you probably dont want to hear this, you need to let her make up her own decision on who she wants to be with.
i know this is cliche and all, but if its ment to happen, it will. and thats the truth.

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okay so i'm kinda stuck. see my family's not racest but they dont like me dating another race.and i am really starting to like somebody that's black and he likes me.and i have a feeling we may date.what do i do?

your parents should be happy for you no matter what.
id say go for it, do what makes you happy.

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Are there any signs that a girl likes you?
-15m

flriting. playing hard to get. if she smiles whenever she is around you. giggly. her way of flirting may be acting like she cant stand you.

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so here is d sitution , i love this girl n she also loves me a lot. earlier she had a boyfriend for a short period of time, n then thery broke up(long story). now i met this guy and he claims to have had sex with her but she is denying it. by the look of it the boy dosnt seem so friendly but still i dont know how to confirm if he is not telling lies. my girlfriend claims that she is virgin. but m stuck........is there any way how exactly i can come to some conclusion???????
p.s. i am 19 and my girlfriend is 18.

you need to trust your girlfriend.
that is such a huge factor in a relationship.
im sure that guy is the kind of guy who wants to show off and tell people he sleeps with every girl, but im thinking your girlfriend is being truthful to you.

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your really pritty and im sure you have lots of friends so i need your help!!!
how do i get moer friends? im new at my school
thankx

aw thank you. your sweet.
confidence is everything.
just go up to people and introduce yourself.
you can find things you both are interested in and talk about that. dont forget to be yourself.

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ok so i get extremely turned on when i watch gay guys (or just 2 guys) makeout and stuff but im a straight female so i was wondering is this normal?? i know its hott for 2 girls to makeout to guys and when i see guys holding hands i think eww but when they makeout i think its so hott esp when they get into it. is this ok and/or normal? thanks so much! :]

its very normal.
i think its hott when i see two hott guys making out.
theres nothing wrong with that.

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i got drunk at a party
did really stupid stuff
people are really pissed at me and im scared to go to skool
i go to a public school which makes it even worse because thers like 100 kids per grade

im a mere freshman and it was a senior party and im so embarres and i did terriable stuff and im scared to go to skool

everyone makes stupid decisions while they are drunk.
i for sure have.
people might talk, but it happens.
just ignore it and people will forget about it sooner or later.
dont let this get to you.

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im 15 years old. my name is william.

I am a freshman in highschool and for the past year ive been getting into drugs and alcohol very bad. my family doesnt trust me anymore, my friends (who got me into this shit) hate me and fuck with me. one of my best friends just jacked my ipod so that kinda hurt me. i can't get through the day without some pot or beer now, im turning into a complete alcoholic (kinda drunk right now). im ugly, i have very bad back acne, im getting 5 F's in school, no one (my family or friends) trust or like me. I have no one to talk to, i'm always grounded so I have nothing to do. I just want to make my life better, im fucking miserable right now. If I could i'd do better in school, I really try, but I don't get any of the math or science shit. I never did good in school, but 5 F's is outrageous and I need to change it. I try to get new friends, but im always shy and can't start or keep a conversation with anyone at school. I want to change who I am. I want to meet new people. But I can't. I want to get good grades, I want to do good in school and make my family proud, and stay out of drugs/alcohol, but I can't. I'm just that stupid kid that no one likes. maybe i'll just die.

thanks for listening to me, im just kind of venting here but any and all help would be great =]

im really sorry to hear that.

my older brother had kind of the same problem. like all he did was drink his problems away and lose all his money on online poker.
its normal for people to shut others out, but this is the time when you need people around you more than anything.
i think you need to talk to your parents and let them know that you are willing to make a big turn around in your life and start doing good things.
if they see that you are actually serious about this, they will help you.
you could even try talking them into getting you to see a shrink or something.
you need to completely set yourself away from all your old friends who drink and do drugs, and start looking for new ones.
you cant be timid, because that will get you nowhere right now.
get self confidence and everything will go your way, i promise.
if your serious about this huge commitment, postive things will happen to you.
good luck!

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my best friend of 11 years past away 4 months ago. he left a child and a wife. I just recently hung out with her for the fist time. we are both very intrested in each other and wonder if he would accept us being together. is this wrong of me to be with my best friends wife? im 28 and she is 32.

im sure your friend wants the best for you and her both since you guys were such a big part of his life.
if i were him, i would want my wife to be happy with someone who i knew could take care of her and treat her right, and im sure he cant think of anyone better than his best friend.

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okay on the show Paranormal State,
is all that true?
are ghosts really real??

people have thier different opinions.
but i believe in them, like i swear i think my house is haunted, bc weird stuff happen, and my mom and i could have sworn we saw a ghost.
also,
we had to put our two german shepards to sleep a couple of years ago, while i was at school.
so i never got to say bye to them, around 4 in the morning the next day i felt something jump on my bed and i woke up and saw my dogs. it was crazy, but so cool at the same time, bc i felt like i was thier unfinished business.

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Alright, so I'm 15/F, my boyfriend is almost 17/M. We've talked about losing our virginities to each other alot over the past month, and he wants me to wait until I'm perfectly ready. He said he wanted my first time [he doesnt really care about losing his] to be as special as ever and that if I wanted to plan it or whatever, for me to take as long as I need.
The thing is.. I don't care about my virginity now, but I don't want to regret it later. I love this boy, and I want to invest alot of my life on him, even if we aren't "together forever".

How can I make my first time special? It'll be at his house, most likely, when no one's home.

Also, I'd really appreciate it if you could tell me the story of your first time, and how that went.

Thanks.

well my first time was definatly not how i would have imagined it at all.
try to make your first time as special as it could be, bc you will remember it the most.

i was at a new years party with some guy i knew for a couple of weeks, and it just kind of happend.
i wasnt dating him or anything, so i regret that time more than anything.

it would be really cute if you guys had a romantic dinner first, and when your finally ready for the foreplay and all that, make sure the mood is perfet. dim the lights and have lots of candles all around the room.
cute music in the backround can set the mood too.
just do whatever you feel comfertable doing.
have funn!

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How can I prevent my hair from becoming staticy? It's sooo annoying and it drives me nuts! Cause sometimes it sticks to my neck, and that's really annoying. Sometimes it sticks to the back of my shirt, or it just floats around... and when I grab all my hair it makes a static electricity sound or something O.o.... It like gets staticy on the day my hair looks the worst. (when my hair is greasy.) I dunno why it gets staticy. From my hairbrush, or the fabric my clothing is made of/my coat or jacket?... So are they any tips to prevent your hair from ever being staticy ever again? Or for at least a long period of time. Thanks!!!!

my my hair ALWAYS gets staticy during the winter, i hate it.
but i use those fabric softener sheets that you put in the dryer.
it totally works, and smells good too.

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I am 17/f and in my last year of high school.
I just noticed a boy in my class who is absolutely gorgeous and I am seriously in love with this guy. I hae class with him four times a week. I have never spoken to him before and i wouldn't know what to say. He keeps catching me staring at him from the other side of the room, it's so bad. I just really want to get to know him but I don't want to go and talk to him. I don't know any of his friends or know anyone who knows any of them. He is more popular than I am. :S
My biggest problem is that I have absolutely no selfconfidence around him, I feel like such an idiot. and i cant even sit properly in my chair coz I feel uncomfortable and like he is watching me and probasbly thinks I am an idiot.

What do I do?

aw.
every girl has had this problem before, no big deal.
guys find confidence an attractie quality in a girl. even if you arent totally secure with every little part of yourself, there are ways to seem like you are.
you need to start a conversation with him, it can be about anything.. from like the homework assignment due tomorrow, to his favorite kidn of music.
once you get over the fear of talking to him for the first time, i promise it will get easier and easier.
good luck girl

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I live in the dorms with a roommate at my college. My roommate is wonderful and she's really sweet, BUT she has really bad body odor. I don't know what causes it because she showers everyday and stuff, but she smells just awful and so does her side of the room.

At first, I thought it was just the room we were in, so I bought a bunch of air fresheners and I kept the window open to kind of air out the room. It worked for a little while, but it came back and I think it's because of her. I've noticed she never does laundry other than her work clothes and she never wears socks (like ever) so the smell is possibly coming from her feet.

I cannot move because I've already moved once this year and it would be too much to move again.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to be rude to her, but I don't want my stuff to start smelling like her either. Is there any way I can talk to her about it? Should I buy her socks as a gift or something?

I really can't stand to hurt her feelings. :(

one of my friends had the exact problem.
but she came off as kind of rude about it without knowing it, and the other girl moved out. haha.

so i would definatly not recommend straight up telling your roommate that she stinks.

i would take her to the store with her, and be like "oh i heard this deoderant works really good." and like hint that you both should try it out together.
getting her socks as a gifts is actually a good idea. there are a ton of cute socks out there!
good luck

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i have pretty yellow teeth. i DO brush them.. im scared like hell to go to the dentist though so i cant go and ask tem. anyways i DO brush my teeth but their still pretty yellow. it might be from coffee... so any adivce on the best outcomes or if they get gooey and slip off... or whatever happens to the whiteness strips.. anything that might be useful. thank you

there are these like tray whiteners that you can get at target or walmart for like 30 dollars.
i think they are called aquafresh whiteners or something along those lines.
those will stay in place.
or you can get crest whitening strips, they stay in place good, but it is kind of gooey afterwards, just rinse your mouth and youll be fine.

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