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Q: I am a 32-34 B cup bra.
As you can tell, boys sorry this question probably isn't for you, but thanks anyway (:

Is there any way to make your boobs bigger by just massaging them, or doing things during sex, or even eating something?
if anything of this sort has worked on you, please tell (:
thanks so much!

Hate to break it to ya, sweetie.

But the guy is right.

there's no miracle pill that'll make your boobies bigger. If it does, the manufacturer's lying and has no regard to your health.

More likely than not, they're gonna grow later on. They could even come in when you're in your 20s.

Besides, being a B cup is not a bad cup. I've heard plenty of talk from big chested women about back pain associated with their breast size.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: whats a pep rally?

ok forget that umm what things can i do to avoid DRAMA in high school?

i had some drama in my middle schoold years and i want to avoid it so uhh i need advicce

i want answers from people with experience and people with no experience because they did the advice theyre about to tell me.

thankss

I agree with the other adviser.

There is basically no way to avoid drama in HS. It's virtually impossible.

Best thing you can do to tone down any type of drama is to have a solid head on your shoulders and your feet firmly on the ground.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: ok well im a jr this year and me and my ex broke up right befor summer started i thought i was gonna have the worst summer ever but it turned out great. ill tell you from the begging freshmen year i liked this guy "billy" we flirted and had our thing but went our separte ways that summer and i ended up getting with my recent ex well all sophmore year me and billy didnt talk about it we both thought the other had gotten over it so we were just friends. well afer me and my ex broke up me and billy started talking alot more and i found out that he still liked me and i knew i still liked him to my feelings for him never went away and well this summer i fell in love with him and we both have feelings for eachother and he makes me so happy i know that i wanna be with him and idk im just crazy about this boy but there is a problem his best friend is in love with me and he cant do that to his friend so its so complicated we know we both want eachother but we cant be and it sucks i dont know wat to do oh and his ex is one of my friends i dont know if thats a big problem either all i know his he makes me really really happy and i didnt think i would fall in love again after my ex but billy has my heart and im just so lost i hate this situation so bad please any advice that would help ???

It looks like your heart's already decided for you. If you and Billy share the same feelings for each other, his friend will understand.
Sure, he may be mad at first but when he realizes that YOU are in love with BILLY, the best friend will be happy with what makes YOU happy (especially if he likes you as much as you say he does)

cheers,
stargirl

Q: I was on Loestrin 24 for 3 months, and decided to switch to YAZ this month. I am just starting my second week of the new birth control, and I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend last night. Is it possible to get pregnant because it is the first month of a new birth control?

It's possible to get pregnant at any given time with unprotected sex.

Normally, your doctor tells you to wait about a month or two so that your body gets used to the new dosage of hormones.

You might want to check with your doctor to be sure if it's safe or not.
cheers,
stargirl

Q: Im 17 and im going to florida for 10 days to see my best friend. Im going by myelf and dont have an atm card and they dont have my bank down there so there is no way for me to get money so im gonna bring traverlers checks. Idk how much to bring though, i know were gonna to to 1 or 2 parks in orlando and we will probably go out every night idk how much shopping and stufff, so what do you think?

Why not just do a withdrawal from your bank before you go?

Like get a ballpark on what you and your friend plan on doing and withdraw some. Stash it somewhere safe in your luggage or purse. Be sure to stash like an emergency 50 or so somewhere else.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: k well me and my mom are not close or anything but i feel awkward asking her somethings and watchign some shows with her i dont know why and i hate being around her !!! whatshould ido

How about just talking with your mom?

There's really not enough information to give real advice.

Have you thought about why you hate being around her or why you feel so awkward?

cheers,
stargirl

Q: i really like these bracelets, they're like made out of rope and people can make them our of string or something i really really like them and i want one, does anyone know where i can find them? or a website that teaches me how to make them? thankss

You can get them at your local craft store. Like Michael's. Or any sewing store. Or hobby store.

They come in plenty of colors and patterns.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: so i know this sounds like i\'m being totally used but i really don\'t think i am. so just read this.

i met a guy online he\'s 22 and i\'m 17. we talked online for a few weeks and then i gave him my number and we talked like all the time for a few months. the whole time he was talking about how he wanted to meet me but i was like i don't know. eventually i agreed to meet him and he picked me up and brought me to his house.. not very smart on my part i know but nothing bad happened.

since then we've had sex and its very good but i feel really guilty since he's older and i don't think thats legal and if my dad found out he would kill me. ive tried to tell him that i don't think we should talk anymore but every time i do i'll go a few days without talking to him and it's like unbareable.

so yeah but thats not the biggest problem. he says he loves me and i know that most guys his age have bad intentions with girls my age but he\'s put up with so much from me that i really think he means it. and isn\'t just like using me for sex because i\'m the one who made the first move even tho he was probably thinking about it. he says he loves me and i\'m the most perfect girl he\'s ever met and that he wants to stay with me forever and have kids and blah blah blah....

i don\'t know.. i mean i like him and he's always really sweet to me and i think he's attractive but i don\'t think i love him... and i know i don\'t want to marry him and he's talked about it some and i\'m like woah. so basically what i\'m looking for is any opinions on my situation. like what i should do or what you think or whatever.

I think you should talk to him about it.

He sounds like a real genuine guy that's willing to talk if you want to talk about things with him.

Tell him to slow down because you don't want to marry him or whatever.

Try not to beat around the bush or hint around. Because more likely than not, it's going to confuse him. Just get straight to your point. Then actually talk about it.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: i like this guy but from what i tell you, can you guys give me your opinion if you think he likes me or not?

okay so we arranged a time to hang out (through texting) and then we hung out. while we were hanging out he would always try to be near me and when i would leave the group he would tell me to come back. i was basically with him the whole night. he told alot of his secrets and like..important things and lots about his family and stuff. and when he left our hug was really long and he kinda like held me. ok by reading this your probably gunna think he likes me but then he did stuff like burp in front of me and fall alot and i remeber reading something that if a guy burps in front of you its a sign that he doesn't like you like that...can you guys tell me what you think? also if you do think he likes me, (we've only hung out twice) when do you think he'll make a move? like how long does it take for guys to be ready or whatever? thankss

im 17/f by the way.

It could be that he burped simply...because he burped.

Guys are pretty straight-forward creatures. So most of the time there is no hidden meaning behind their actions or words.

It sounds like he's definitely interested in you and is gathering the courage to make his move. Now...when/where that'll happen is a mystery. But it definitely sounds like he really likes you.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: hey
at my school my friends made up these nicknames that are guys names for all the girls in my class it was fun for a while until they dropped it but my nickname(timmy) stuck with me and i don't like it but they have gotten so used to calling me timmy one of them even forgot my real name!and because im a girl with a guys name apparently that makes me a he she. so now most people at my school who know me know me by the name of timmy. and no one would dance with me at the school dance we had on our overnight trip. well only one girl danced wwith another guy but still.what should i do.
plz help me
timmy494

Next time someone calls you Timmy, say "No, my name is actually *insert your name here*. Not Timmy."

It'll start off slow but keep at it and soon Timmy will be erased forever.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: 17 female.

So Ive been dating the guy of my dreams for about 7 months now. The problem is... hes not as perfect as I thought he would be.

He's had alot of girlfriends before, and hes slept with 4 of them, including a co-worker he never actually dated.

Hes the only guy Ive ever had sex with, so its hard for me. Its intimidating, and I feel like Im not good enough as they were and all the other stupid stuff us girls think about.

I feel like if I don't get over it, it's going to ruin the relationship eventually.

Hes told me repeatedly that they mean nothing to him and tried to reassure me but nothing really seems to help. Anyone got a good idea?

The last thing you want to hear is probably get over it. So I'm not going to say that.

Now is he not perfect as you thought he would be because he's had sex before and you feel like you can't measure up to them?

If that's so, then you need to try to keep in mind that he's not with those girls. He's with you. So it's obvious that he's with you for a reason. If he was comparing you to those other girls, he would've been gone already, right?

That's the bottom line of my advice: Try not to worry so much about the past. Because it already happened. Right now, it's all you.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: Im fifteen and Ive had a few boyfriends, just one or two in middle school, but Ive never kissed a guy.
But my two bestfriends, exfriend, and former crush have already lost their virginity. Theyve always said they thought that Id be the first to get a guy. Wrong!
Im usually a bit too optimistic and loove a really good hug. Haaha my "scene-esque" friends give THEE best! But I dont even curse, and Ive decided to get myself a purity ring :D
but I think Im pretty great.

Soo why dont guys wanna go for me?
My family has a big history of social disorders including agoraphobia, so I would never be willing to make the first move.
Thats a problem. How can I get over it?

Whoa! There is no rush to getting it on.

Plus you're 15. Don't worry about it. Guys your age are usually really nervous in asking girls out. Give it a few years and you're bound to get offers.

A way you can address the issue of social disorders (or the possibility of one) is to talk to a therapist or psychologist about it. Find out what the percentage is for you to inherit anything.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: How do you make guys notice you? as in wow i like her kind of way or a look way?

You could also try being yourself with an ounce more confidence.

Confidence in yourself makes you stand out and ups your appeal level.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: I am 26 years old and just recently started dating a guy about a month ago. We are having major major problems in the bedroom! He is always starting it off by kissing me all over fingering me and licking me, and then when i touch him he is soft.I am used to guy getting hard right away when we kiss passionately or he touches me. This one is a real challenge to get hard. I give him head and he is still soft. It gets pretty discouraging for me, I dont know what to do. I asked him if he has a problem, cause after all he is 36 so it might be getting to be an issue, He said no he has never had the problem before. I asked if he was attracted to me and he said YES. So where is the problem? am i the one doing this all wrong? Please help me. THere is a total blockage in the bedroom and this shouldnt be happening at all.

Stop and actually listen to him: He's nervous.

Telling him you're unsatisfied or comparing him to previous lovers is only going to cause more of a performance anxiety.

It also sounds like you want to go straight for the nookie. Relax! Enjoy the foreplay!

Try this:
Fantasies are often a great way of unlocking things in the bedroom. Explore his, talk about yours. Or if you both can't come up with anything, introduce some...toys. Your local adult shop should have all sorts of fun goodies to try out on each other. You could also try novelty shops. They usually have fun things for sale too.

cheers,
stargirl

PS: There's more to life than just handjobs and bjs. =P Explore his passions. Maybe he has a hidden kink you don't know about. Plus a month is a short amount of time for someone to get over being nervous. Add onto that the comments about previous lovers and being unsatisfied, his nervousness might be even longer.

Q: HEy do guys get upset if a girl is really athletic and is really better than they are does that turn a guy away? And do guys hate when a girl is really competitive?

Any man who is intimidated by a strong/competitive women is not worthy of you.

Go for the guys that are just as athletic or just as competitive. Or even guys who are supportive of your sport and competitions. That way, they can cheer for their girl and be like "YEAH! THAT'S MY BABY RIGHT THERE!"

cheers,
stargirl

Q: I have been living with my boyfriend for two years. We live in a very small town without the possibility of EVER having a good future here. I have been planning on moving out of town within the next month. My boyfriend has no intention of leaving his home town, as he was born and raised here. Our relationship has been VERY rocky, but I have created a bond with him. I do love him, but I want to secure a comfortable living in my future. I'm not ready to leave him, and things between us have been going okay lately. What do I do? Or how do I talk to him about any of this?

21/female

Have you actually sit him down and spoken with him about it?

Address the issues that you're making here: you want to secure your future. Because your point is valid. If he really is the one, he'll understand. And if you guys are planning a future together and plan to introduce kids into your future, he should understand that he should most likely secure his own future as well.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: Hey umm how do you make yourown lip plumper ? sophia2810@gmail.com

Yikes, before you run to your nearest collagen clinic, have you tried cheats? Like experimenting with lip products (i.e. gloss, lipstick, etc)?

Apparently, lip gloss can give you the illusion of fuller lips. As well as a well-matching shade of lipstick. There are lots of women who have thin lips but instantly have made them look fuller with a bright red lipstick or something of that nature.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, and at first our relationship was amazing.

my dad hasnt spoke to me fot nearly 3 years now after a bad split with my mom, but he still sees my 11 year old younger brother. so my boyfriend really helped me through tough times when i had councelling for other family problems.

he has been my rock. i couldnt even imagine my life without him.

now he acts as if he doesnt care if we are together or not. like he hates me in a way. he is constanly in a mood with me. he just says hes got alot on his mind. we had a healthy relationship - we didnt see too much of each other.when he first got with me he was crazy about me, which was flattering. im a young model and i know i am good looking. modelin really helps my self esteem. but now i cant bring myself to get out of bed, let alone turn up to shoots. he makes me feel like shit. he told me he didnt fancy me today. he is tryin to make me leave him i think.

should i leave him? i know i can do alot better. but there is just so much on my mind. my councelling doesnt seem to be helping either.

Have you spoken to him about what he's got on his mind?

Instead of guessing what's going on and making your decision of whether to leave or not, try opening a line of communication. Talk with him. Don't dance around the issue. This is important, speak bluntly so you can get through to him.

Usually when guys are faced with problems, they sit and stew until they have a solution. Which could make them irritable to the rest of the world.

So sit him down and talk. Really talk.

Cheers,
stargirl

Q: the thing is, i need to write a story but i don't know how to really start it. anybody got any ideas? please and thank you!

Have you tried doing a brain dump?

Just you and a blank piece of paper and writing down whatever comes out of your head. Any thought at all. Like literally a blank piece, no lines. That way you can scribble any way you want.

cheers,
stargirl

Q: My boyfriend and I haven't been together long... but when we are alone together he gets excited and a lot of times carried away, and he tries to get me to move too far with him. I told him I wanted a serious relationship with him because I really cared about him, not to just fool around. And he said he wanted a serious relationship too, but his actions don't match his words. What am I supposed to tell him?!? He's always telling me that I make him hard, and texts me dirty messages. It makes me feel uncomfortable a lot of times, that maybe he doesnt see the real me and all he sees is a girl with boobs and a butt. Can this be fixed or will it never work out for us?

Tell him that the dirty texts and dirty talk makes you uncomfortable. Tell him you're just not ready. Don't dance around the issue. Guys...usually tend to not get the message when women are trying to tell them something. So be as blunt as possible. If he still doesn't get it, spell it out.

And if he continues to press on, you should drop him. Because after you would have told him (probably flat out) "no" and he continues, chances are he's only after you for...well you know.

cheers,
stargirl