im always here to help im really good at giving advice mostly about teenage problems not like my computer software crap! look im not supa smart, ask me questions that i'll know. but other than that im great! that doesnt mean i wont have questions of my own im still learning too so if i dont answer a question of yours than dont get mad b.c i havnt been through it. im very honost to people so if u ask i will certainly tell thats my motto! Just one more thing people if you dont like the way i type then get over it. thats how i am and its not like im typing to some important person. well you are but not that important!
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Hello ,
So okay , show story is me and this guy hung out we met up after 1-2 years and so , we did things got phsyical. And I went down on him and his thing was hanging out while I went up to kiss him and it was on me , but the thing is I haven't gotten' my period yet , am I pregnant?
Please help:(
Thank you ,
Betty (link)
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if his penis touched your vagina hole and like went in their and had cum on it id be worried if it just touched your vagina id not be to concerned
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Ok so I just got into a relationship with this guy. He is really sweet and cute. Last night we were chatting over facebook and he told me he wants to go to the movies and finger me when we are there. I am 13 and i wanna know if i should? and if i do what should i know.. when he does is my cherry gonna pop? And is it gonna hurt? I think he only likes me to have sex with me but I am only 13 im not ready to have sex.. Ok well Please Help Me! (link)
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sometimes when your being fingered your cherry doesnt pop. it shouldnt hurt unless he is rough i wouldnt recomend doing it in the movie theatre like if you get caught you dont want to metnion why your not allowed at the movies any more to people and just think that would you like to sit in those seats after someone just got fingered
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My daughter is 9 years old and just came to me about having her first period. We have never had "the talk" about periods or sex and I'm not really sure how to explain this to her, especially since she's my only child. I didn't expect to have to deal with this with her being so young still. I helped her clean up and quickly ran over how to put on a menstrual pad but I am clueless as to what I should tell her about what periods are. Obviously she's curious why this is happening all of a sudden. What should I say to her? How do I explain periods to my daughter? I told her that we would talk about this tomorrow but I have absolutely no idea what I should say. Thank you. (link)
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i was 11 and my mom sat all her girls down she got this book that just basically put that as you get older you grow you get hairy all that. and she read it to us and explained things to us too. it helped. but you know this would bring you guys together i think. you know how things work and she doesnt dont look embarrased or just like oh i want to get out of here dont make it seem nothings okay like sex isnt normal and all that. just tell her how things work tell her getting your period is what girls get once a month for 3 to five days tell her she needs to write down when she gets it and when its over so she knows her next period let her know that it might be irregural for a while. explain how you felt when you got your period. good luck!
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My life is full of demands with two jobs there's. Too much on my plate. Too deal with and its every day and I don't. See no way out of the situation I'm in and it leaves me tierd angery and mentaly draind evrybody expects way too much for me my body aches also and I can't give up a job just to have a piece of mind I can't aford it don't know what to do (link)
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i have two jobs i work almost every day sometimes twice in a day i feel like the only time people need me is cuz they want me to work for them and i only have to jobs to be able to afford a car and be able to do what i want. now im young and most kids i know dont even have a job so i know what your feeling. but i know someone who has to have a job and pay for everything up to food if she wants something her phone clothes car insurence gas phone bill gym membership and with all that to pay for every month week and day she has no time or money to spend on her self she never gets help from family and cant literally afford to miss one day of school. she has school jobs and a boyfriend to juggle around every day of her life not to mention how people treat her in her own family. basically im saying your not the only one and you probally have it way better then most people. if you stop and think why is it stressful because you feel you have no life? all you do is work and go home many people are going through this including me its annoying yes but whats life gonna be like when im not in school and have to pay for a house and food and everything! theres nothing i think you can do but just once in a while sit down and relax watch a movie turn off your phone. take it easy. for even a minute.
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i smoked weed last night, about a bowl's worth. and my parents just informed me that i need to get a job, asap. so how do i clean my system quickly? thanks. (link)
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not every store do u need to get urine test done if your going to work at a hospital or in a pharmacy then yes. in that case. if you have a puff 'n stuff store around you then they have a detox thing for like 70 bucks. im sure they have an online store so maybe thats cheaper. or not that drink lots of water cranberry juice. now im going from what ive heard so hopefully it works. idk thou for sure.
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I'm not sure how, i've done some before, and it feel likes I am taking way to long, i feel like the guy is just laying there rolling his eyes, and i just feel akward, like I'm failing or somethings.
What do i do? How can i be better? (link)
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seriously look it up not kidding lol how to give good head google it watch a girl or guy demonstrate on a dildo theyll explain it helps and such.
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I'm 19 yrs old and my boyfriend is 23. We've been going out for over a year now and he has some "rules" that are just ridiculous but he seems to always justify them somehow and make it seem like whatever he does is okay. Like, he says certain lougnges he doesn't want me going to. He's made if im out late (AND my curfew se tby my parents is already 3 am so its not like im out past then anyway). He's allowed to go to the Jersey Shore with his friends if he's invited but if I say ok would i be able to go? He says no b/c im a girl and guys are everywhere. He went to Vegas with a few guy friends when we were going out for a few months at the time. Now my friend invited me to vegas in October and my bf flipped when I told him. I said "if you went, why cant i?" He said b.c its crazy and he didnt know it til he got there.. which is a lie and I told him that - its VEGAS! so then he tells me "you're 19, if you go, you're going single...worry about me and you going on vacation..not you and your friends." What should I do? (link)
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he sounds more like a parent then a boyfriend dont you wanna do what you want there are limits on telling your boyfrriend or girlfriend what to do like i dont think its right you go out to hang with guys or girls could you not thats ok but telling you you can go to vegas stay out late go here or there without letting him know is outragious you need to talk to him that him telling you what to do like that is pushing you away hes more of a control freak or a parent then a boyfriend and you can do what you want when you want within reason just like he does honey your no different if he does what he wants so can you and if he doesnt like then tell him to piss off! have fun your young and worrying on what you need to do to get your way is NOT hard its simple break up with him if talking to him about it doesnt work! good luck be strong i hope everything works out the way you want it to.
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Ok, so this has been driving me crazy for years now.
People always point out that I speak weird, but no one ever knows what kind of "accent" I have so I'll point out a few words people bring to my attention.
Anything with an "A" right after the first letter, just about, I pronounce differently.
Mad becomes Miad Like (mee-yad)
Sad- Siad
Happy- Hiappy
Anything with O's get stratched out apparently, like when I say no I make it longer or pronounce it like "knew"?
I add the "I" after the beggining letter in a lot of random words like "how" and stuff.
I know it sounds confusing, it'd be so much easier to explain through actually speaking to you haha.
Always becomes Ahhhways
Accent is Axint and the "nt" is very subtle and soft like the endings in French words haha
Add is a-id
Hahaha, there's so much more but I'd have to ask my friends.
No one is going to answer this, it's confusing.. lol (link)
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like a boston accent seems like. do your parents speak that way grandparents someone does that you grew up talks with a boston accent im pretty sure!
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I've been with this guy for three years. If his heart stopped beating right now I would give him mine. When he asked me to marry him all I could think of was yes. We're both young, but I love him so much and I just couldn't picture myself with anyone else. I started college a couple months ago and I met this other guy. I've noticed signs that he likes me. He's said that he wishes I was single. He helps me with my homework. He walks me to my car when it's dark. I appreciate this especially because my fiance isn't there to do these things. He goes to a different college. There are so many days that I wonder what it would be like to be with this other guy. I know that I can't because (1) I'm engaged! (2)This other guy is a temporary research student and next week he will go back to his college... which is across the country! Still so many nights I have bad dreams and fantasies. I can't get good sleep. My fiance used to be the first man I thought of when I woke up and I feel horrible because he isn't now. I've talked with him about this and he is trying to do everything he can to make me happy and it does help. But, these wandering thoughts are still inside my head. And, I don't wanna marry someone if I'm not 100 percent sure anymore. What should I do??? (link)
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you're right your young you know what you should do you need to tell your boyfriend that maybe you guys should hold off on having a relationship to clear your head of the feeling of having this what would happen if i dated this guy phase. doesnt have to mean that your going to go wild you just maybe need to get something out of your system maybe dating somone else that you like will make you realise that you love your boyfriend all you do is compare details with other guys to the guy you love. you need to be sure of this that you want to marry this dude.
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I have been seeing my boyfriend for almost 6 months now and we started having sex more than a month ago. Things have been going great but now I'm in this situation where I don't know what to do.
He asked me if I was on birth control pills and I had told him yes because I REALLY wanted to have sex with him right away when we started discussing it. I'm not on birth control pills though. I know it isn't good to lie but at the time I didn't think it was going to matter a lot.
We were still using condoms every single time but last night he said he wanted to do it without a condom. I convinced him to wear one anyways but afterwards he was talking about not going to use one next time since I'm already on the pill.
What do I do? I am not on the pill and I can't just tell him I lied to him about it. I don't know how to convince him to keep wearing the condoms when he obviously doesn't want to. I can't afford to get on birth control pills right now. What do I do now? (link)
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tell him the truth or tell him that you stoped using the birth control pills becuase they cost to much or they are causing me more problems then ever something like that
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i got a peircing yesterdat in the top of my ear (cartliage)with a gun.
only to find out hours later that its really dangerous.
so how do i find out if i shattered my cartlige?
how long till the effects occur?
and anything else you now please
14/f
btw my ear doesnt hurt at all. (link)
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um i got my cartiladge pierced before at a mall with a gun your fine it doesnt hurt its not gross looking your fine.
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I have a friend who likes me and tries to hook up with me but he has a gf (which he never even told me about, I had to find out from my friend) He's always flirting and tryin to do stuff with me and I really like him but I don't wanna mess around with him cuz he has a gf. I confronted him about it and he got mad but got over it. He still does it flirts with me and it's starting to get annoying. I don't want him to get mad at me again but I feel bad cause he has a gf. what do u think I should do? (all my friends say to tell him to leave me alone but I still want to be friends with him cause he's fun to be around) (link)
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i think your doing the right thing by not hooking up with him. im glad that your thinking about the whole situation then just what you want you know that takes a real person. hes a dick tell him to F*uck off or get rid of the girl friend because he isnt getting any of this. :)
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i have a new guy ive been dating for about two months but he plays games like the im not interested game but when questioned explains hes all about me...so the other night when my guy stood me up(which he later explained his fone died) i ue met with a new guy and had a one night stand i really enjoyed the experience but i feel bad do i explain to my man what happened or let it go and part of me wants to continue having sex with new guy idk wht to do please help me? (link)
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i would tell him and explain that what he does pretending hes not interested or standing you up made you cheat and what not. its true if your not getting what you want from a relationship your going to look for it else where. its been two months and he still feels that he has to act this way and his lame excuse is his phone died.. okay so there is no phone on this earth to call you and he could of still showed up to the date or what ever. then again cheating on him doesnt make you right either. you guys need to talk things out or break up but i would tell him be honost.
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13/f
Some friends from school told me that having sex will make your boobs grow. I have really small boobs and I hate it so I thought I would give it a try. I'm not sure I'm doing it right though. I just dunno but I want my boobs to be pretty big.
I had sex with 7 boys from my grade at school but nothing really changed for me and my boobs were still small. I was talking to my dad's friend on Facebook and he said he thought sex made breasts grow only if the girl had sex with a guy older than her. So, we ended up having sex, obv.
It just seems like this is taking foreverrr and I just want my barely A cups to go to like a DD. I know that's a big leap but it's what I WANT. After having sex w/my dad's friend I think they seem to be a little more full but not much.
I went on and posted some match ads online and there is 4 guys who say they want to do it with me so my boobs will grow. My first thinking is that if I do it with them all at once then my boobs will grow faster all at once. They're all up for it but I want to know if it will still work that way. I don't want to like have sex with them all together and then my boobs don't grow at all. Does anyone know if you have sex with more than 1 guy at a time if your boobs will still grow? They're all a lot older than me so that shouldn't be a prob.
((And before you start answering don't worry about me getting pregnant. I know the guy has to cum in you for this to work but I haven't started my period yet so I can't get pregnant anyways.)) (link)
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wow ok to start your boobs grow when they want to you have not gone through puberty yet so your boobs wont grow till you go through that process ie.. YOUR PERIOD! you can still get pregnant from all those guys and not to mention STDS and did you think of the reputation your going to have now. that is disgusting! basically youve been raped by your dads friend and any other guy who told you that your boobs would grow if you had sex with them you need to stop now how about you tell your parents what your doing and talk to them about sex. puberity and how everything works. i hope this is a joke i really do. if not hunny i pray that you dont grow up regretting all of this its not right. its also illegal to have sex with guys older than you i mean who are over the age of 18 or 16. you need to go to a gyno a doctor or the emergency room pronto to get help. i hope you know your facts before you go doing things next time google something if you have a question and or ask your parents. please get the help that you need.
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i am 14 female and this is embarrassing but i want to use a cucumber as a dildo because i finger myself sometimes but only for like 5 mins. and it feels good but not really good, so i want to use a cucumber. first of all, can i get a disease from it? and how do you disinfect the cucumber to use it? and i can't fit more than one finger in my vagina (im a virgin) and the cucumber is much larger. will it hurt really bad? will it stretch me out? please answer thank you :) (link)
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i would not use a cucumber just because it is not supposed to go in the vagina but rather to be eaten. you dont want to put things in their you dont have a clue about. if something were to get infected it would be a little embarrasing to tell your elders. i would say that being a virgin also that you would have a hard time putting that in thier it would hurt a lot. and basically you loosing your virginity to a cucumber now try telling that to the guys your really loosing your virginity to.
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If you are not sure at all if you are pregnant, but you had sex on the 13th and cant know for sure until u can take a test on the 27th, would it be healthy or ok to take the abortion pill? or should i know until i definately know for sure? (link)
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it is called plan b but yah i think you can still take it if you go now if you go to a clinic they will tell you if how to tak it and when. they 72 hours but it can be up to five days.
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I had sex with my ex when we was still together of course and iam considering to tell my mom that her little girl is no longer a virgin but i don't know how to break the news to her even though iam 21 years old i still live with my mom and my mom treats me like iam still 12. what should I do? (link)
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you dont have to tell your mom she doesnt need to know its not like shes going around asking you if your still a virgin. dont worry about it i wouldnt say anything and you saying that she treats you like a 12 year old im guessing your not close in the way you can tell your mom that your not a virgin. so dont worry about it. i guess that fact that you feel like you cant tell her bothers you. let her know that you wish she could be more of someone who gives you advice and chill out because your a women now and older and not 12.
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My boyfriend is going camping this weekend with a group of friends.. part of that group of friends is his ex girlfriend..I can't go because i have to work. should i be worried? (link)
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well if shes going because his friends are going out with her then no worries but if shes just going on her own i would NOT like the idea i would speak to your boyfriend and let him know that if your ex were to go on a trip he couldnt go to then what he would do
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I made the horrible mistake of having sex, the even worse mistake was we didn't use a condom. He told me he'd pull out, but didn't. He said it was just too hard to stop. Asshole, I know.
My last period started July 6th, and ended around the 12th-13th. I think the 12th. I have about a 24-26 day cycle. Would I be ovulating right now? I think I'm supposed to be today or within the next couple of days.
Also, I heard sperm lives inside of you ffor 3-5 days, and I think I'll be ovulating within that time but I'm not sure. Is it true that it lives inside of you for 3-5 days, and even if I wasn't ovulating today when it happened, if I am within those 3-5 days, could I get pregnant?
Basically, I'd really appreciate it if you could answer these questions for me:
1. Am I ovulating today or within the next few days?
2. Is it true it lives inside of me for 3-5 days?
3. If I start ovulating within that time, can I become pregnant?
4. Are the chances that I'm pregnant low or high?
I made such a stupid mistake, but there's nothing I can do now so please no rude comments.
And thank you so much to anyone who answers my question. (link)
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you ovulate in the middle of the month lets say in the birth control pack it would be the second week of it. althou you have a better chance of getting pregnant on your ovulating days you can have other chances of getting pregnant on any day. what i would do if i were you go to a clinic or drug store and get plan b right away your good for five days some say three but you are good for five go soon. and next time you bring the condom dont trust guys.
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Is there anyway that I can speed up my period? So that the end of it comes sooner? (link)
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haha if you find out let me know. but really if you take a certain birth control you can have a period that lasts up to 3 days or one period every three months. but regular birth controls should have your period last up to 5 days.
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