about

I joined this site when I was very young (hence the ridiculous username) but now I feel I'mn old enough to give out advice.

Ask me anytime. I have had my fair shares of family issues, as well as good at solving relationship problems.

advice

I totally love playing the Sims (I have the original just Sims, Sims 2 + expansions, AND Sims 3) but I was wondering if there are any other games like the Sims that I could look into playing. Does anybody know of any?

Doesn't have to be on the computer either! :D

I defintly recommend roller coaster tycoon - I used to play it all the time (unfortuanlty I broke it by accident)

You basicaly make your own theme park. You can make the rollercoasters anyway you want. You design the entire park - you can play for fun, or do challenges - which involve getting a set number of customers to come into your park by the end of the year, or making so much money by the end of the year etc etc.

It's real fun! I also played zoo tycoon - which is similar except you design your own zoo!
I prefer roller coaster tycoon. It's really addictive

[view]

We have to write a short story and I'm really good at English but not making my own stories. But I had thsi really vivid dream and when i think back, I can imagine it like a movie. If I use it, would it be considered cheating? Or should I just think of something else up? I'm not good with due dates when writing a story.

It's NOT cheating.

It was YOUR dream. Noone elses. YOU made that up- therefore the idea/story is YOURS and you can use it.

It's good that you asked though, shows true honesty.

:) Sage

[view]

My boyfriend and I broke up last week due to another girl who claimed to like him and gave him the impression that if he were to dump me, she would get with him. Turns out, she was never even remotely interested to begin with and I ended up dumped. We went to the movies two days after the break up and he hit on her while she was sitting right next to me. I didn't mind because we decided to remain friends. That same day, she told him she wasn't interested and just wanted to break us up for some strange reason. (idc about her reasons) The next day, he tells me he wants to get back together. Although I'm still crazy about him I couldn't help but think, "What the hell? He can't be serious." It would be pathetic for me to get back with him after what he did to me. I thought his apology was complete bullshit. (mainly because deep down I felt hurt that he did that to me) But turns out, he actually really is sorry. I learned that that same night, he had called his best friend crying saying that he couldn't believe he got tricked by the girl and that he couldn't believe that he had done that to me and treated me so badly. "I can't believe I did that to her." he cried. So yes, he is very sorry and has been feeling like sh*t for days. He wants me to give him another chance. I'm still crazy about him but because I have some self respect and am hurt as hell I can't bring myself to get back together with him. I know he's sorry and am unsure as to whether I'm making the right choice to "drop him like he dropped me." (his bf's advice) I still really like him so my judgement's slightly impared at the moment. Please help me, I'm confused and have no idea what to do....well I have an idea but I need some advice. thanks.

first boyfriends, are always hard.

They teach you a lot of things, and give some idea about relationships.

First relationships, USUALLY, never work out/ they dont stay together.

& I don't think you should DROP your morales for this guy. Keep in MIND your morales, and MAYBE give him another chance? Tell him its his last. You still have feelings you can put to good use . Being in the relationship a little while longer can really teach you about relationships and how to act adult in situations.

If you can't take the pressure of a relationship, and don't want to get hurt again. Don't date him, there will be someone else who would be willing to treat you right

It's all up to you. But let him know, if you give him chance, you are not playing around.

Get prespective from some friends, they'll defintly be able to help you

Whatever you do, keep in mind, he dumped you for a really pathetic reason. If he has hurt you once, he might do it again.

Sage :)

[view]

Lots of people are talking about Michael Jackson and the moonwalk dance and I'm curious what this means. I suppose he made up some sort of dance (called the moonwalk, I assume) before he died but I don't think I heard about it before or saw it?

So, what is the moonwalk, how do you do it, and does anybody have like a video of the moonwalk dance I can watch so I understand it better?

KTHNX

I am sure you have seen it, you just didn't know that it was called the moonwalk

Here's a video - At 0:12 - his pushes his feet to slide against the floor backwards
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s7MmEMrCRfc

Its very difficult to do

- Here's a turitioral on how to do it on youtube

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Py82bWcPa0Q

[view]

basically im shit at german. don't try and tell me to keep trying it, cos i have been for four years and i still don't know the basics. its kinda holding me back and i go to a private school where everyone is annoyingly smart and its worrying me about dropping a subject, so i thought i would do a drama gcse out of school because i always wanted to do drama but i couldn't. could anyone, teachers or students tell me if they or someone they know had an experience either doing drama gcse out of school and/ or starting late because its summer term yeart ten, and my stupid school only told me now that i could drop out of it and do somthing out of school, and i don't mind working my arse off during the holidays to scrape a decent grade in drama and i don't mind working during my AS levels, because i will do drama then so i can manage it. i just need to know how hard it is and where in london i can find a place or how they found someone to teach, or even if it was homeschooling, cos i can do it i am sure, but i also need to apple and stuff. sorry this was long, but i need the advice!!! i am very desperate to get good marks!

Actually I have just finished GCSE, I was in year 11 and I took drama.


It's harder than GERMAN!
There's a lot more to it than just acting. There is a LOT of coursework that you have to do. And a lot of that coursework BEGINS at the start of year 10 - and that is based on a play you went to see as class and special workshops you've done in class - you write about your thoughts, opinions - what someoen's actions might mean to society - Since you werent apart of the class - experiencing the workshop and learning how people#s actions are reflected by social class,media etc - you can't do drama! You can't do the coursework because you never experienced the ride.

You cannot be away for Drama. You need to be there - everything you learn goes towards your coursework. You pick up skills all the time which you need for your final year 11 performance.

You can't do drama by homeschooling! Drama you have to have a class - and each of you depend on eachother for a grade - it is true. If one of you is away - you can't do the work - and by work I mean your play that you want to do at the end of year 11. Also you are marked as a group for your drama Gcse in year 11 - so if one of you is ill on the day, or one of you is complety shit at drama - your grade goes DOWN.And that isnt easy as pie. You neeeded to be there in year 10 to learn the creative skills ie - in the play you need to communicate a dramatic intention to your audience and need a directors vision. You need to know how do this and this would by replacing text with other dramatic forms ie - sound collages,mime,music,movement, conscience alley.

Honesty, its too much to do in one year,really.

If I was you, if you want to drama because you've always wanted to do it - take in year 12 - because you dont have to have the year 10 and 11 expeirence - they welcome everybody.

At school, if you can, drop german. If they say you need to take another option I would suggest something like digital photography - which doesnt involve coursework or cooking.

Drama is very difficult. You really needed to be there in year 10. And every year at my school the current year 11's would tell the years below not to take it because it's so difficult - and takes up so much of your time (ie practising after school, staying up to do courseowrk, i remember I had to stay up till 2 to do it, no exaggerartions)
and the years below wouldnt listen. I was one of those who didnt listen. And now I am telling you the same thing - drama is one of the most diffiulct subjects and it annoys me when people think its just acting - because infact you do more writing and sitting around and discussing than acting to be fair. If you are allowed to do it - just remember what you are getting yourself into. I don't mean to make drama sound like death, but noone ever listens when you tell them - its only at the end of the year they realised you were right.

I did French GCSE'S to I can relate - because I was straight D's whist doing drama. And even thought my grades were so bad in french, drama was harder.

If want anymore insight, inbox me. Everything i have said is just true honesty. Good luck

Sage :)

[view]

What does the song careless whisperer by seether mean?

It's basically about betrayal.

He cheated, and now things are never going to be the same. He's "wasted the chance that he's/I've been given" by this woman he deeply cared for, by cheating.

He feels very guilty and knows things won't go back, to the way they were - "And I'm never gonna dance again, the way I danced with you" - their relationship will never be the way it was when there was trust, loyalty and noone was cheating on eachother.

He has realised what he has lost

PS - It wasn't by seether man, it was by George Micheal

[view]

i dont recall having such problems in 1950!s i dont no how i got by.

All these problems, yes most of us young people today do have these problems (on this website) & more.

I think we have these problems because whatever the situation is - our opinions,thoughts,actions and our knowledge, is from influences of media,magazines, tv with celebrities, beauty products, friends, sisters and brothers...

In the the 1950's there was discipline, and there wasn't media, magazines with celebirites in , so much electronic devices - so all our problems come from behaviour and thoughts - which is influenced by our upbringing and everything we have in life.

Since we have more, there's more problems, more things to think about, more pressure etc.

But the brilliant thing is people from 50s/60s can look at our situations and find the simpliest answers to our problems, because we are too caught up and complicated, and too young!

Hope I helped,

Sage:)

[view]

well i have broken up with this guy 3 times and now i am over him but he keeps on starinf at me and watching me with other guys does this means he still likes me.

he cheeted on me twice but he still wants me.
but i don't want him.

i am from australia

if you dont want him, dont go out with him ( an obvious one)

dont give him attentiion, dont talk about him and dont look at him

wait for him to talk to you, set him straight you have had enough and you dont have those feelings about him, but him staring at you doesnt mean anything. Just wait until he speaks to you.

he only wants what he cant have. Just tell him the truth, if he comes up to you - dont tell him if he doesnt go up to you, because you could of mistaken is reason for staring at you

good luck


Sage :)

[view]

(fifteen; female)
this is a really long story but please take the time to read it because i've never been more desperate for help in my entire life..

i had a boyfriend who i am totally and completely not only in love with, addicted to. let's call him A. i also had a really close friend who i've known since around fourth grade, let's call her B. a few months ago, i found out from a newly made friend (who i had known probably about a week) who was friends with my exboyfriend. one day, he told me that he couldn't lie to me, and he told me that A and B had been sleeping together. when i confronted them, they both denied it. A's only defence was "if i slept with B, don't you think i'd brag a little more, she's hot as shit. i wish i did, but i didn't. if i did, everyone would know about it."
a little about me and A: i've been in love with him for about a year. at one point last summer, things really heated up and we fell in love (or so he says he loves me.. but he probably really doesn't). he's put me through hell and back, but i've never loved anyone like i love him and i never will.if you were to ask him how many times he's cheated on me, he'd reply with "too many times to count," and yes that is the exact answer he gave me. i know i sound like such an idiot actually having feelings for someone that treats me like he does, but my love for him can't even be put into words.
when i found this out, i was a trainwreck. and i still to this day can't breathe. A and B are dating now. in fact, after all of this happened, he came to my house and appolagized to me (tears and everything), but he was dating her when he gave me the whole "still in love with you" act.
A and B's relationship consists of sex, with a few drunken breakups thrown in, but they of course throw it in my face whenever possible of how happy and in love they are.
i recently got in a fight with my best and closest friend, let's call her C. today, i was at a mall in my town where i saw a bunch of my friends.. and who do i see but C and A hanging out together. for C to even aknowledge A makes me want to throw up, especially since C knows what i've been through and she knows that i would NEVER do that to her.
not only did i lose the love of my life and a really good friend, but i lost my best friend too.
the A and B thing happened months ago, and i'm still hanging by a thread. what the hell can i do to make this hurt less bad? i want to breathe again..
and how do i just get over all the shit these people are putting me through? i really don't see how i could deserve this. how am i going to get over it all? PLEASE HELP ME. i'm honestly dying inside because i have literally nothing to live for. i need help i don't know what to do, i don't want to be miserable anymore

you're in the stage, where you are just completly down about the everything -
Get a backbone, because they all became unloyal to YOU, badly treated YOU, and don't care they upset YOU.


Dont you realise they are all bastards and you are wasting your time and your thoughts on them?


They hurt you, and you need to have a smile on your face when you seem them, dont let them see your weakness - thats what they live off.

You shouldnt be feeling sad, you should be feeling glad that you've got a rid of a pair of bastards that deserve eachother because they are as bad as eachother.

You never did anything wrong, but they are treating you, like how you should be treating them!
HELL..they hurt you, so dont sit there and take it.

And as for you friend C, I can understand how angry you are with her, however what goes on between you and B, has nothing to do with a C - and it isnt fair for you to put this amount of pressure on her to choose out of the two of you to hang out with, HOWEVER, if I was her - I would not be hanging out with B, because your the one who needs a friend right now.

Now, to get over this situation.

1) Stick to the people are truly you friends, like the one who told you about A AND B..that is a loyal person right there
2) Ignore A & B..dont give them attention but keep your head high, dont turn the other way
3)dont talk about them either, it will get you worked up and annoy your friends.
4) Cut off any communication with A,B, and cut it back with C. That way you wont be reminded of them
5) Throw anything away A ever gave you. Save B's stuff - you guys were friends, after she has had a bad patch with A, she may realise how bad she treated you
6) Situate yoursef around friends
7) Start writing, poetry and storys, thoughts, a journal. Get your feelings out - I do it online so noone can read it a book, or anything - www.allpoetry.com, it will help you get persepective.
8) Keep yourself busy - like I said write, or cook , bake etc
9) Get a new look, revamp yourself or your bedroom etc, it will be a fresh start for the summer
10) Music. Listen to it.

They hurt you and you dont deserve it. You are worth so much more. SO MUCH, so show them that. They are pathetic really, and your ex is an asshole about saying how hot your friend was, very unconsiderate.

He doesnt deserve you. Go out, be an independant woman.
And listen to some good tunes that are going to reflect your mood
here are a few that helped me, or I think will

1- Breakdown - Mariah Carey
2- Heat - Mariah Carey
3- Independant Woman - Destiny's Child
4- Single Ladies -- Beyonce
5- Midnight Bottle - Colbie Caillat
6- Forever and Always - Taylor Swift
7 - Fix You - Cold Play
8 - Yellow - Cold Play
9 - Teasing to Please (Left Side, Strong Side) - Cute Is What We Aim For
10 - If I was a boy - Beyonce
11- Love Is Pain - Girls Aloud
12 - So Yesterday - Hilary Duff
13 - Somewhere only we know - Keane
14 - You don't love me - the kooks
15 - Naive - the kooks

I could go on forever, sorry haah

Good Luck

Sage :)

[view]

I went to my OB today because I found out that I was pregnant last week at my 6 week check up (I have a 2 month old at home and another child under 1 year). My doctor asked me today why I refused birth control, although I already told them that birth control is against my religion. I repeated myself today and felt odd since I KNOW I had already explained this.
The doctor then nodded her head and said, "Well, that is just silly," in a very demeaning tone of voice. I was so offended I told her, "My faith is no laughing matter." I was just very upset and I still am. I need a doctor that will take me seriously.

I am not a government case, I am not an unmarried mother, and I am not on food rations or food stamps. If I want to have all of the children that God allows me to be blessed with then I don't understand the issue.

I am a mother and wife. I am also the daughter of very wealthy philanthropists who have provided myself, my husband, and our future children with the means to take care of our needs.

Why am I being judged when I can take care of any children I have, and why am I being judged when I want to have 15+ children? Should I switch to a doctor that will not pressure me to go against my beliefs?

I am a christian and I think you are following our faith in a strong way and that is very encouraging to know that there are people keep to their beliefs.

I must say a doctors/OB'S shouldnt even be able to give an opinion, and judge you, they get paid to help your through your situation , not to discriminate against your religion.

I mean, how can you feel comfortable around a doctor knowing that underneath their reassurance and sincere smiles, they are thinking something else.

You were right to stick up for yourself. For that, I smile, and I am sure God will be pleased by your strength.

I don't know where,but go complain somewhere -send an email or a telephone someone - because they are not allowed to say that to you.thy have discriminated you, and God's rules.

Then switch to another doctor,
one that wont judge you, or if you ask, one that is religious

Hope I helped

Sage:)

[view]

Michael Jackson died today and he was only 50 years old. It really took me by surprise, but it wasn't as if I didn't expect it sometime fairly soon. There have been rumors flying around for some time now about his health problems. As a matter of fact, when Michael was on trial, one day he was late because of health problems. Obviously, the judge didn't feel that Michael's health was all that important because he threatened to have Michael Jackson jailed unless he made an appearance in the courtroom. Michael showed up in his pajamas. Does anyone else remember that?

People made it out to seem as if he was faking. Some people even made it seem like he was crazy and would do ANYTHING as he was suddenly "extremely unpredictable" and all. I guess he wasn't kidding or faking about having health problems, huh?

I'm going to miss Michael Jackson. He was a man who set out to hurt no one, but the world seemed hell-bent upon hurting him. Michael Jackson was seriously the King of Pop in so many ways. Maybe he's better off wherever he is since we trashed his good name without even giving him a chance to speak. I choose to believe that he is now seated up in Heaven, seeing God for the first time.

Does anyone feel like me about Michael Jackson or am I alone in this? When I was growing up Michael Jackson was such a big role model. Sure, he was a little weird but he seemed to care and love. I'm really hurt that Michael Jackson is dead :( almost like a large portion of my childhood has been abandoned.

I Feel like this.

I grew up with his music being played in my house - heck I was cooking a roast dinner with my best mate and we put a cd on of his last month!!

Yes, many people have trashed him so badly, and it annoys me so much, I am so gutted. I amazingly agree with - I feel like a part of my childhood as gone too..

He made amazing music which connected everybody in more ways than one, and if people couldnt tell that by his touching lyrics how loving he was, then they shouldnt even have the privelage of listening to his amazing song.

I feel so sad because I bought TICKETS TO SEE HIM IN CONCERT..in london, I live there. I thought, here as fantastic legened, I am going to see him the last time, before he dies - but he didnt make it and it is so terrible.

He'll be in a better place, but that wont change the fact he is gone. He is gone but his music still lives on. It was such a shock to find out at 11:30pm at night in the uk.

I am so sad, and I dont think I'll get over this for a long time.

I agree with you so much, it really hurts to know such a wonderful dancer,voice,entertainers has left us -all that hardwork put in, only to die at 50 years old.

Sage :(

[view]

I am a teenage girl. If I see a cute shirt at a band's merch table, I tend to buy it in a large. I like the way this looks, except for the waist. The waist on a men's shirt isn't quite as fitted as I would like it. Any suggestions on how I could fix that? I am somewhat skilled with hand sewing as well as a sewing machine, but I would prefer it to be non-permanent.

Make a knot on the side,

or what I usually do is wear a plain high waisted belt (sometimes with a long baggy cardigan, thats just an extra suggestion) , that way it really nips it in, and gives you some slim curves.



Sage(:

[view]

This is super embarrassing but I figure I can't be alone, right?

So, when I'm on my period I use pads. I can't use tampons for health reasons so please no tampon suggestions, girls. Now, I've used the Always pads (Always Ultra Thin with Wings and the Regular absorbency) and I've used the store brand pads (Equate at WalMart and whatever else at various stores--including Family Dollar). I NEVER buy the scented versions because I'm sensitive to things like that and even as an infant I had problems with scented diapers and soaps. I even smell the packaging to make sure they don't smell like ANY sort of perfume before I purchase.

Typically, I have a fairly heavy period. I change my pad frequently. I would say that I change the pad every 1 and 1/2 to 2 hours, and every single time I go to the restroom, regardless of how much blood has made it to the pad.

Anyway, when I wear my pads it feels like I get sort-of raw or rashy down there at my vagina. It's a very uncomfortable feeling. I've rubbed around down there (I HAD to check it out) and I didn't feel any odd cuts, bumps, or anything that would make me concerned I had an actual rash or inflamed skin or something. I can't really SEE down there properly--and I don't really want to when I'm on my period anyway--so I don't know if visually it looks like a rash. It's just...uncomfortable, like I said.

I don't know why the pads do this to me. This has happened ever since I started my period. Seriously, I haven't had a cycle where this has not happened! I've tried the few different brands of feminine pads and they seem to ALL give the same reaction. Near the end of my period (usually lasts about 6 to 7 days, I'd guess) it's really irritating and I'm glad to be at the end of my period so I don't have to wear the pads any longer.

Out of curiosity, I suppose, is there any other girls who have this issue? Is there something I can do to make this not happen when I'm on my period? Does anyone have any ideas why I have this problem?

Any help? :\

Try thin, cottom underwear - you need to let yourself breath down there

Also, there are cooling creams and particulary specified for your problem - VAGISIL is popular one, order it online or find a similar one around somewhere -http://www.vagisil.com/productinformation.shtml

If you still not happy, see a doctor - I am sure they could prescribe you with a cream OR give you other options that us advice givers cannot.

Hope I Helped

Sage :)

[view]

i know you can't make an ex fall back in love with you, but if the two of you are still friends and hanging out, what are some ways to "spark" things up a bit...besides just being yourself and the old girl he fell in love with.

thank youuu(:

Make he remember why he fell for you in the first place. Remember the qualities he liked about you, and exaggerate them a little, and remind himm of all the good times you had - you'll be laughing your head and bonding quite a lot.

Hang out more too, its summer now , so there are more places to go!

If you can make it seem slighty obvious, a litte firting never hurt anybody (unless thats how you broke up, haha)

Sage:)

[view]

You answered my nail polish question
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=565905

Where is that nail polish sold?
Thanks. (:

Well I live in the UK...
So I am not sure they do it in the US if thats where you live.



You can buy it online on amazon

It sound really strange, really strange, but Im on ebay and I always send parcels out to the US and stuff, if you give me an address I'd be happy to send you some - (by the way, I am not creepy person hahaah!) I have loads, tonnes, I havnt even used, and I do really need to get rid of it.

If you are not comfortable with my gesture then simply buy it online or try other nailpolishes -stargazer and mac is pretty good

hope I helped :)

Also, if you arent comfortable with

[view]

Can anyone tell me the brand names of good nail polish?
Stuff that wont chip within a day
Stuff that's bright
My nails are ALWAYS painted, I hate the plain look

I currently use
'Hard As Nails Xtreme Wear; Sally Hansen'
and
'NK Nail Enamel with hardners'
Please don't list 'Claire's cosmetics' - it sucks.
Thankyou (:


Oh, and please only list cheap things.

BARRY M.


Absoloutly amazing,and WAY better than Claires!!

They don't chip and have amazing range of colours.
They do basic colours, glitters,clears and very strong neons and bold colours.

Gosh is also pretty good

:) Sage

[view]

i can't stop thinking about my x but he hrut me and other girl and now he got a wifey and i don't know how to get over it cause the girl he go out with is a girl that hate me and i hate her

to put it simply is..you only want him, because you can't have him, and he's taken by someone you don't like.

Forget about him, he obviously has bad taste if he picks a girl you dislike so much.

Cut off kinds of communication with him - aim,msn,facebook,phone etc. That way you wouldn't think about him, because you wouldn't have any connextion to.Situate yourself around friends, they'll help you

Think about why you broke up in the first place and realise there plenty other fish in the sea.

Ps - I am sure wifey means girlfriend, some people misunderstood

good luck

sagw (:

[view]

i am 15 and i have a friend and we have been talking for about a month now and i think he likes me but i know he has a girlfriend he loves to talk on the phone with me sometimes after 2 in the morning he comes to see me and dont see her he says things that a male would tell their girlfriend he takes up for me and before we always hangs up he tell me he love me and gets mad if i dint he won't hang up the phone unless i tell him what should i do because i have a crush on him to?

although you guys havnt done anything, it sort of seems, he's emotionally cheating on his girlfriend with you.

I don't think he feels you guys are just friends, I am sure he probably has some kind of feelings for you.

If I was you, I'd stay away. He's playing you both, and if his girlfriend found out she'd be pissed, don't fall for such a disrespectful idiot.

Imagine you were dating to him, and he did the same to you. NOT FAIR. He doesn't deserve any girl if he can't be loyal and respect them.

Do yourself a favour, and don't bother with him.
If you really don't agree with my advice, at least wait unti his girlfriend and him are over.
That's just plain wrong, you should know better, especially if you have feelings for him.

good luck :)

[view]

Heyyyyyyy, Hey baby...OH AH. I wanna Knowwwwwww would you be my girl.

DT OTZI - Hey Baby

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aNsmiqmaEWo

[view]


Okay. In YOUR opinion, who are the greatest punk bands EVER created?

THE CLASH.

Absolute Legends


I pretty much love the who, but they are more rock.

I would have to say the clash..a popular song of there's would be "Should I stay or should I go"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ag8J2NMYmc

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker