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Desperate,Sorry,First Boyfriend
My boyfriend and I broke up last week due to another girl who claimed to like him and gave him the impression that if he were to dump me, she would get with him. Turns out, she was never even remotely interested to begin with and I ended up dumped. We went to the movies two days after the break up and he hit on her while she was sitting right next to me. I didn't mind because we decided to remain friends. That same day, she told him she wasn't interested and just wanted to break us up for some strange reason. (idc about her reasons) The next day, he tells me he wants to get back together. Although I'm still crazy about him I couldn't help but think, "What the hell? He can't be serious." It would be pathetic for me to get back with him after what he did to me. I thought his apology was complete bullshit. (mainly because deep down I felt hurt that he did that to me) But turns out, he actually really is sorry. I learned that that same night, he had called his best friend crying saying that he couldn't believe he got tricked by the girl and that he couldn't believe that he had done that to me and treated me so badly. "I can't believe I did that to her." he cried. So yes, he is very sorry and has been feeling like sh*t for days. He wants me to give him another chance. I'm still crazy about him but because I have some self respect and am hurt as hell I can't bring myself to get back together with him. I know he's sorry and am unsure as to whether I'm making the right choice to "drop him like he dropped me." (his bf's advice) I still really like him so my judgement's slightly impared at the moment. Please help me, I'm confused and have no idea what to do....well I have an idea but I need some advice. thanks.
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Like they all said below me the first love is hard and yes, it usually never does work out.
1. If he left you because another girl said that she "liked" him...Well then clearly he isn't the one for you.
2. If you "DID" get back together with him..how do you know he won't do it again not only that but there would be some trust issues.
Honestly, This guy sounds like a jerk, To play with your feelings and then step all over them for another girl and now because she doesn't like him he wants you back? Girl, Don't fall that. I know it's the first boyfriend but you are so much better than that. Follow your instance
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first boyfriends, are always hard.
They teach you a lot of things, and give some idea about relationships.
First relationships, USUALLY, never work out/ they dont stay together.
& I don't think you should DROP your morales for this guy. Keep in MIND your morales, and MAYBE give him another chance? Tell him its his last. You still have feelings you can put to good use . Being in the relationship a little while longer can really teach you about relationships and how to act adult in situations.
If you can't take the pressure of a relationship, and don't want to get hurt again. Don't date him, there will be someone else who would be willing to treat you right
It's all up to you. But let him know, if you give him chance, you are not playing around.
Get prespective from some friends, they'll defintly be able to help you
Whatever you do, keep in mind, he dumped you for a really pathetic reason. If he has hurt you once, he might do it again.
Sage :)
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I understand exactly where you are coming from and I am the exact same way. Its good that you have respect for yourself because if you dont, no one else will. It is a very tough situation because of the fact that you still have feelings for the guy. I understand that he is crying and sorry now but the point of the matter is that you were basically 2nd choice. If you were the number one girl on his mind he wouldnt care who liked him and who wanted to be with him, he would only be concerned about your feelings for him. But that was not the case. You were second best. But on the other hand its not good to hold grudges forever. Should you take him back? Thats depends on your feelings. If you really want to be with him, then it is ok to take him back but I would just give it more time. Show him that you dont just give in like that and you dont take people treating you that way. That way he will learn his lesson and you possibly may even get over him. Good luck!
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This is your first lesson in "love". It can be painful, we all have to go through them. Consider this - he may be sorry now, but the point isn't that this girl "tricked" him into dumping you for him. The point is, all it took for him to dump you was one girl expressing interest in him. The girl is really beside the point. Your boyfriend (ex) is the problem in this situation. Another girl says she likes him and will go out with him if he dumps his current girlfriend. He dumps girlfriend, girl changes her mind. He wants girlfriend back. Do these sound like the actions of a young man who really cares for his girlfriend? What would you tell your best friend to do if it happened to he? It may be tough, but doing the right thing is rarely easy. Leave this guy behind and try to take the lessons you learned in this relationship (the good ones and the bad) and hold them close to your heart. They'll help you as you grow and mature and look toward healthy, exciting and fulfilling relationships in your future.
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