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overprotective ex
14f
A little while ago, my first boyfriend who I was completely crazy about dumpped me for another. We decided to stay friends so we see a lot of each other. He hurt me terribly but even so, I still have feelings for him and he knows it. He's also made it perfectly clear that he liked the other girl better and dropped me like it was nothing. He openly hits on her while I'm around him. Well, so the other day my ex needed my phone and found a love confession from this really sweet guy. Automatically, he gets pissed and says "If i had known he was talking to you when we were going out...he would be dead". Then he says "That bastard. Tell him to fuck off." Then later a couple of days later he asks what I'm doing and who I'm texting. When I tell him I'm texting a guy from school he says "Don't talk to him, he's trying to do stuff." I said he was being really nice and that we were just doing small talk and asked him why he even cared. "I'll fucking kill him" is all he responded with. I don't understand it. Why, when after he dumpped me and obviously has no interest in me, does he continue to be so overprotective. He's a really sweet guy and all but whenever it comes to me being myself with other guys (friends) he snaps. He left me like it was nothing. I have a right to act single. He certainly does, hitting on other girls days after breaking up. Why is he acting like this? He doesn't care for me anymore and probably never did. Even so, he gets upset. Please, I need some advice on what's going on and how to address this problem...because... even though we're broken up,I still feel like I'm his even though he refuses to be mine.
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I'm sorry to say this hun, but this guy seems like a complete waste of time. He just seems like he wants to control you, and probably every other girl he comes in contact with. You need to distance yourself from him, because he is definatly not your friend.
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Ok. The word you are looking for is NOT overprotective. It is CONTROLLING.
He is obviously wanting to control you, what you do, who you talk to, and who you date.
That is not a way to show caring, compassion, love or any of that warm and fuzzy stuff. So he isn't acting that way out of the sort of jealousy one would find flattering, but rather the sort that one finds insulting.
Of course you have the right to act single.
You ARE single.
Who you talk to, who you hang out with, etc., is none of his damned business. It stopped being so when he ditched you for some other chick.
Best bet? Get away from him, stay away from him. This behavior is NOT healthy for you to be subject to.
I know you say you still have feelings for him, but the hard fact is if you want to move on with your life, you're going to have to suck it up, stay clear the hell away from him and get over him.
You've made it very obvious that being friends with this asshole is not an option.
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