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hi everyone im katelyn. I love giving advice and taking some too! im a very open person and a very nice person. Well i think im a very nice person but thats up to u to decide wat i am. I think i am a very loving, caring, and honest person. I have my bad days but who doesnt?!?!? I am very trusting and u can tell me anything. I will try to help anyone i can and anyway i can.
xoxo
~katelyn~

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So i've had sex and i didn't bleed when i had sex..but when my boyfriend fingered me i would bleed. Not always, but sometimes. Then i had sex with my boyfriend [a different guy] a while later and i bled..and he freaked out because i don't know why. is that normal?

Hi,
I dont think thats normal.You dont always bleed your first time but after you do i dont think you do again. Im pretty sure i only bled once not like all the time as wat you sed. Maybe he was being a little too rough with you and you torn something else that could be why. But for you too be bleeding every so often like that isnt really normal. Were you on you period that could be why when he was fingering you? And maybe your bf freaked out because you said that you werent a virgin im guessing then to see you bleed i think anyone would freak out about that because you shouldnt of bled. So i would go and get that checked out and see watsup with that because girlie you shouldnt be bleeding like ever time someone fingers you or has sex with you. I know you dont bleed all the time but no blood should be coming out. Ok well i hope i helped out?!? if you need anything else feel free to ask me!
~katelyn~

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hi well i have this friend Hanna and i have this other friend Marc and they use to go out but i think that Marc likes me...

i mean i'm started to like him to and he shows alot of signs like on my space i'm like on his top friends before a lot of people he's known longer. i catch him randomly staring at me in the classroom(i sit behind him). He's really causious of me like when i was crying at school the other day he was there and kept asking me if i was ok and if there was any thing he could do.

But hanna saw him and i sitting by eachother and she got jealous so she stopped talking to me and i was all like that's stupid because we were just talking about homework. then the next day she asked me if i liked him and i lied and said no i see him only as a friend....

she probably knew i lied because she still stopped talking to me...

and i know the saying "chicks before dicks" but i'm so close to him it's like i tell him everything and shes not even that close idk

wat should i do if he asks me out?
HELP please!!

&& thanks a bunch!!!!!

hi,
I think that you should just go and do whatever you want to do. If your friend Hanna isnt really there for you or if she really isnt as close to you as him, than she really isnt your friend. Friends are supposed to be close and if shes not than you guys really arent friends. Think about that first and talk to her about that. Talk to her and see how she feels about you and this guy going out. if shes ok with it than go for it and if she makes a huge deal about it tell her how you feel about him. Maybe she will come around. So if you really like him go out with him if he asks you or you can ask him. It might be hard at first not being able to talk to her if shes not willing to talk to you but believe me she will come around eventually. I had the same problem when i started going out with my boyfriend my friends really didnt talk to me because they thought that i was betraying them by going out with him after my other friend did. But she got over it and over him and now we r like best friends. So maybe your friend really istn over him yet. maybe thats why shes jealous or upset. Ask her about that and see watsup with her and her feelings towards him. Ok well good luck with everything and if you have anymore quesionts feel free to ask me at any time!
~katelyn~

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What exactly does cherry poppin mean? Where is the CHERRY?????

Hi
its not really a cherry. Its wen a girl bleeds from being stretched out wen a guy sticks his dick in her.
I dont know why they call it that but people do lol.
If you have anymore questions please ask me!
~katelyn~

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ok i know that this is gonna sound really sick but im a virgin and well im forever reading sex books but im reading this book that isnt a sex book its called the "Painted Bird" and in this book there was a scence or a page rather of this gurl having sexual intercouse with a goat a goat how fucking gross but for some reason it kinda turned me on i mean i would never do it but it freaked me out i mean i got wet to it it really excited me something as tabo as that and then theres a whole lot of scenes when these guys are raping women witch i find totally disgusting and degrating it also turned me on am i some kind of sicko but when i read it in the paper i feel disgusted and horrified i dont know one of my fantasy's is to be taken advangate of you know dominated so what does this mean how can i get turned on from fucking a goat !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well because your a virgin alot of things prolly will turn you on. i know i get turned on by alot of things but not by a goat! that is weird but everyone has their own thing going for them soooo if that turns you on then fine. Ok well if you have anymore questions or anythin at all feel free to ask me!
~katelyn~

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If a guy finger bangs a girl or puts the tip of his penis in her can her hymin break?

Well if he sticks his fingers up there that far then yea. but if his tip goes up there then he has a big ass penis lol and it could break yes.
~katelyn~

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Ok..soo i went out with my good guy friend the other day. We went to get some subway and we were just talking about relationships n stuff. He asked me if i had been kissed and my response was no. I have been kissed..but not a full on makeout session. Im 17/F. I dont really trust him that he wont tell neone. Im pretty sure he will go to his guys friends and tell them. Im so embarassed. I feel like im the only girl in world that hasnt been. Is something wrong with me?

Hi,
Your not the only one that hastn been kissed yet. I havent been kissed yet but im happy about that because its nice to have your first kiss with someone special and that u like alot. Im going out with someone really nice and you should do that same thing. Dont be embarassed and dont care wat they think because theres nothing wrong with not having ur first kiss yet. But if hes a good friend then you should trust that he wont tell anyone and if he does be proud about it and just act like everyone that says something to you doesnt even matter to you. Ok well if you need anymore advice im here for ya girlie feel free to ask anything!
~katelyn~

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this is probably the stupidest question ever. lol but if your on birth control would it be ok for the guy to cum inside of you? and have sex without a condom?

Hi that wasnt a stupid question. i think that you couldnt get pregnant but theres really no exact answer. You could get pregnant but i would still use a condom if you are on birth control because he could have STDs. You never know. Id rather be safe than sorry.A condom isnt exactly 100% going to prevent you from getting pregnant and neither is the pill. Ok well if you hav any more questuions feel free to ask!
~katelyn~

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Ok I'm going to tell ya right now If u dont like clique questions stop reading. I'm the leader of a clque, I'm the most popular girl in my school and I have 4 great friends we have weekly sleep overs and things like that and theres this new girl at my school who came in and took my friends I dont want to be mean to her (which is taking all my will power) so wat should I do????

I think that you should just include her in your clique. Also i think you should stop worrying bout havin power she didnt steal it i think everyone has some power in their lives. I say just include her in then myabe if you want you power bak you might get it bak. well if you need anymore help with anyhtin else just feel free to ask!
~katelyn~

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Yesterday I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I didn't bleed and it didn't really hurt (but then, I WAS drunk.) I ride horses a lot, I use tampons, and I DO masturbate. He asked me seriously if I was a virgin before that and I told him yes, but I don't think he believed me...Is there any way I can convince him?

Hi
no i dont think there is anyway to convince him if he wants to believe you then he will. Sometimes that happens if your a virgin and you hav sex some girls dont bleed because sometimes they can pop thier own cherry by masturbating and etc. Well if you have anymore questions feel free to ask me anything!
~katelyn~

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So, me and this guy from work started dating.
And hes super amazing. But, some times i dont think hes serious about any thing. hes very funny, and always makes me laugh. but when i try to be serious with him, he trys to make things a joke, and uses a lot of sarcasm, so i cant ever beleive or take him serious. Some I live about 30 minuets away from where i am socially (like i go to school, work, and ocasionally stay at my moms, but i actually LIVE 30 minuets away). And he never seems to put in much of an effort to see me. Which means some weeks we only see each other at work, in which we cant really talk, so he gets mad at me. But when we are to gether ITS AMAZING. But my god, i dont know what to do to get him to be a little more serious, ect. Why does he act like he does, what can i do? (by the way hes a year and a half older then me, and he drives, i dont)

Hi
i think that you should talk to him about him not being serious and if he doesnt try to make an effort hes not worth your time. If you want someone that takes you seriously and will go the extra mile to see you then i think you should give him a chance to be like that but if he doenst change then forget bout it. I was always told you cant change a person unless they want to change thmeselves so if hes willing to change then he wil but if hes not then give him the boot. Ok wel i hope everythin works out for you and if you need anymore help feel free to ask me!
~katelyn~

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i lost my virginity to my boyfriend last night.
i have been on birth control for 3 months now but i took yesterday's pill a lot later than i ususally do, and it was a little before we had sex so i am not sure if it had time to kick in.
we were having a little difficulty with the condom so we didn't use it and he accidently cummed in me.

do you think i could be pregnant?

hi
i think you could be pregnant but i would go to the doctors to make sure. If you were taking the pill for 3 months you might be fine but im not sure. I wish the best for you and i hope that in the future you say no to the guy if the condom wasnt working right for you guys. You should never hav sex unless you are being safe and having him wear a condom. Even though you are on the pill you should still use a condom. Well if you hav anymore questions feel free to ask.
~katelyn~

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My boyfriend and I had sex last night for the first time. He didn't pop my cherry, but part of him was still in me. Does this mean i lost my virginity? Or am i still a virgin?

hi,
yes i think you still are a virgin because wen you loose your virginity the guy usually pops your cherry soo yes you still are. If you hav anymore questions feel free to ask me i will try to answer anything you need help with.
~katelyn~

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Me and my boyfriend are gonna have sex soon (both virgins both ready) any tips for the viran over here :P

hi
Just be safe and make sure you want to do it because if your not ready than its not going to be wat you want it to be. If you dont wanna do it wen the time comes just make sure that you tell your bf and let him kno anything thats on your mind about it. If you dont then you will regret doing it believe me. Well good luck and i hope your first time is special for you. If you hav anymore questions feel free to ask me at any time i will try to answer your questions.
~katelyn~

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i'm not sure what to do, can it occur without sexual contact because i'm a virgin and i need to know. I am worried sometimes i will not be able to have children, it's probably me being silly but....these are the syptoms i'm having
-Very tight for skin-
-clear discharge
-Red on the tip of my penis
-very small thick bits of semen appearing under my forskin after masturbation
-and small spotson my forskin that are only visible on the tip when you pull it back
-there is also discomfort when ever i touch the red part on the tip of my penis

Is this thrush and should i see a doctor?
i would like to avoid telling my parents if at all possible

thankyou

Hi
i think that you should go see a doctor right away!
I think you should also tell your parents because this could be serious and you need to make sure everything is ok. There might not be anything wrong but you have to be sure and see a doctor. Its always to be safe then sorry. Ok well i hope everythin is ok with you and i hope everything works out for you. If you have anymore questions feel free to ask me at anytime.
~katelyn~

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is there a timing to giving a hand job? i mean sure guys will take whatever you give them, whenever.. but preferably.. when? are you supposed to wait until he has a boner or what's the deal?

Hi i usually give a guy a handjob when they are hard because then they are already in the mood and everything. Alot of guys like it when they are already hard because it doesnt hurt them! So good luck with that and if you have anymore questions about this subject feel free to ask me anything u want!
~katelyn~

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im in the 8th grade and there is this really sexy beyond sexy guy i like but hes in the 6th grade. im pretty short and hes taller then me so thats good. what i want to know is it okay to date someone that young?i know people say age doesnt matter but give your honest opinion!

well i think if you really like this guy then you should go for it! It really doesnt matter to me what age my boyfriends are as long as their not too young or too older than me. So if you think he is really worth going out with then i think you should go for it and be happy! I hope that helped you a little bit! If you have any more questions im here and ill help you out!
~katelyn~

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Really this is awkward for me. alot.
Like i dont even know hwo to word this, its just some thing ive wondered.
But Do you girls ever release discharge while being fingered. and doesnt the guy find that gross to the extreme. Why doesnt a guy find it gross to finger a girl just is a little... i dont know.. "gooey?". ANd how many of you girls release dischage? Is it alot? Does it effect your sexual relationships? ANd do guys ever finger a girl and think, EW MY FINGERS SMELL AWKWARD. Yes this is really embarrasing, and awkward, but i would really like anserws seriously.

well i release a little bit. But the guys that have done it to me really dont think its that gross i dont know why. Im sure its gooey lol but it doesnt effect my sexual relationship at all. Its really just like a girl sucking a guys dick and getting his juices in her mouth. I get grossed out a little by that. But if you guys kiss and make out i dont think its a big deal getting that shit in your mouth or on your fingers. Im sure guys think their fingers smell weird but i think at that point they really dont care. ok i hope that helped you a little bit if you need to ask anymore questions im here!
~katelyn~

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I'm a teenager who is single and completely miserable and hating it. I can't get a boyfriend because i'm so overweight. Everyone is automatically unattracted to me because I'm so fat. No one wants to date a fatass like me.


I want to commit sucide, but I don't want to have the pain. And I'd be afraid to anyway. So what should I do?

I've seen several therapists and counselors about my depression but they don't help.

Well i think you should stop caring about wat other people think and just have fun with ur life. There isnt a reason to die when theres someone out there for you. I used to care about wat people thought about me but ihav a boyfriend now so dont worry. A guy should like you for you. So dont kill yourself over that your letting them win that way.

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i am so skinny i am 5'3 and weight 111 i get teased about being so little and the truth is i would not mind to gain at least 10 pounds all my friends or thick and boys like girls with a big butt i got the chest part down just need a ass hlp me pleas!!!!!!!!!!!

Well if you want a bigger butt try eating alot of junk food and not exercise as much. Since your really small you burn off all this weight after you eat junk. So dont walk around, just one day eat and eat. Myabe that will work for you and slow you body down a little so you gain some weight.

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OK, well I have a really bad wind problem. I am a vegetarian and my main staple foods are things such as pasta, bread, cheese, most vegetables but not really beans or peas. I don't just break wind at certain times, its all the time. I try to hold it in but eventually I just have to let it go. It's really embarassing in public and I don't know how to stop it.

Does anyone know any foodstuffs that may help or anything that I should cut out of my diet. Please only answer if you're sure of your information, and if possible give web references so I can check as I don't want it to get worse.

i think its the cheese thats making you break wind. Also some vegetables may do that too. Also you should try to eat more beans or something for protein its not good eating all those veggies all the time. Mix something else with it thats gives off protein.
~katelyn~

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