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I am 16 years old and im a girl.im a really depressed person and i dont know where to turn.i have no one to talk to.i dont really have any friends.and i dont have any one to talk to in my family either.i have decided to turn to talk to strangers.Can anyone tell me a specific site to go on to be able to really talk to someone and vent all my feelings?and maybe if one of you guys would like to talk to me?
Thanks.i would really appreciate any useful advice.
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I'm always someone you can talk to if you would like my email is izze1122@gmail.com but I also would like to sugget you see a therpist so you can tell them all your depressions. Email me for any problems or if you need a friend.
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somebody help! i hate being white and i wanna be black more than anything could you tell me how? (link)
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There is no way to change our skin color but to do different drugs that change your skin color but I don't suggest doing those at all. You are lucky no mater what size, shape, religion, shape, age or job you do. Be happy to be the race you are!
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so theres this guy i saw awhile back ive only seen him twice i was attracted to him and we made some eye contact back and forth but nothing happened i forgot about him then the other night he appeared in my dream and ive been thinking about him ever since why is that? (link)
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Dreams are usually things we forget about then remind us. It may mean your brain is telling you not to forgdt him as you said you were atracted him like you like him but we can never be sure.
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this girl is ALWAYS staring me down. shes a wannabe bad ***. she stares me down, gives me cold looks,and shes always talking about me , I hear her all of the time, shes not a good whisperer. She talks about me to her friends and they don't even talk about me or have a problem with me. I am not a mean person at all, I don't fight and argue with people and I have no idea why this girl doesn't like me. She gets mad when her friends come over and talk to me. It really gets on my nerves cuz I take 3 classes with her and shes always staring me down and giving me mean looks. I have never done anything to her and I overhear her all of the time talking about me to somebody, I hear her every time. She gets pissed when her friends talk to me and I overheard her telling them she doesn't like when they talk to me. I cant stand it when I walk into class and shes staring me down and giving me mean looks, its annoying and shes been doing it all school year. im not good at confronting people, I don't like arguing and fighting. I Have never been a b**ch to anyone lol. please help. what should i say/do?
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Keep ignoring this behavior. As she mostly likly has a big crush on you.
1. staring
2. tellig her friends to stay away
3. being mean
These are all main signs she likes you so if you catch her looking your way smile and be kind. If she's mean then ignore her.
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People at my school call me emo.
I cut myself,(Which i'm trying to stop) and I do kinda wear a lot of black...
My friend is emo, and she is like me.
The other day, my friend dared me to cut myself with a rock, and I did...
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If someone told you to jump off a cliff, would you? Same thing this person isn't a real friend if she's making you do all this. Cutting is not the answer as I would consider this "emo" but i don't believen that word. As we are each different. So, if you stopped cutting yourself at all you will no longer be "emo". Think of the dangers and don't worry wht other's think.
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My dad doesn't let me see his part of the family. I met my aunt yesterday behind his back, but we only talked for 5 minutes. My mom wants me to meet his family, but.... What do I do?? (link)
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Sit down with your Dad and talk about it because theremight be reason he doesn't want you to see them and they are is family but yours as well. Talk about why you think it's important to see realatives and that they are part of you to. Keep trying this and contact me if it doesn't work
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how to make a girlfriend ?
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Get to know the person really well first and become good friends then ask them out but it does take time.
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How do I know when my body changes when I go threw puberty? (link)
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Your body will change like grow taller and you may get hair. But puberty is different for males and females. As females may get breasts and curves as boys will not.
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So, each day i get yelled at. If its not by my mom my dad. If not my sister. Im the youngest of 3 girls. I am 13. I have a sister who is 14 and the other about to turn 17. The 17 year old is the one who makes me feel the crappiest. She said she wants me dead.. The way she said it still hurts. My 14 year old sister is the one im closest to. But we annoy each other too much to where each day i am called a b**ch. My dad is like Idk, he has a problem with everything i do. He yells at me basically all the time. I rarely conversate with him. Then comes my mom, she says im ignorant, i talk too much, just so much. I hate living at home. I hate my life, myself everything. I don't know what to do anymore.. My heart is fully sunken. Im basically done.. (link)
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What ever you do you must stay strong. Your family obviously needs help because this is not necessary. Go to someone you trust like a school conselor or a teacher and get help because nobody should have to go through this
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17/f . I have been with my 21 year old boyfriend for a year and 4 months. About 8 months ago, I got pregnant and had to get a medical abortion.. probably the worst mistake ever :/ since then, we have had this tension between us. I understand he might be hurt (especially since younger guys are never as mature when it comes to this kind of stuff)but at the same time, i didnt decide to go to that extent for myself, it was for US. That day was the last day i saw him cry. He used to treat me like a princess. Lately in these past 4 months, I have seen him completely change. He is extremely jealous, paranoid, treats me like CRAP, never stands up for me, and blames all our problems on me. Just yesterday, he told me that the reason why i got pregnant is because i couldnt keep my legs shut. that was the most horrible thing anyone has ever said to me. i dont know what to do, i'm seriously emotionally scarred from him and all the things that have happened between us but i dont feel strong enough to leave him. I told him today it was over because i cant take the mental abuse, and all he said was "ok" and hung up. should i actually let him go or get back with him? (link)
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You just said he's mentally abusing you and tat your emotionally scared of him so leave him because you deserce better and it wasn't just your fault for getting pregnant. Do the right thing!
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I'm 19 and my boyfriend 18;; me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half.
Well, The big V-day is coming up and I have no ideas that I didn't already do last Valentines Day.
He doesn't like Chocolate, so that makes it really hard.
Last year, we had sex- it was really romantic; we went out to eat; and I got him a chain taht he wanted;
but this year i want something different.
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Get him something special that means a lot to him like new furniture or take him out to eat again because that's a nce idea. Make a list of stuff he likes and go from there! Happy Valentines day!!
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OK, I have a LOT going wrong with me. First, I got a lump in my throat, then a small bump on the roof of my mouth, frequent stomach aches that last just a few minutes and vary in severity. Then my period came along....The first day it was very light. I used one tampon from 6 am to 1 pm and I didnt need another one, the next day I didnt need one at all. Usually my period lasts 4 to 5 days and I need a new tampon all day except at night and early mornings. Why are there suddenly so many things wrong with me? I want to go to the doctors but my mom is avoiding that for some reason. Help? Thanks :) (link)
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We are not doctors as we can not tell of this reason. But this does seem serious so tell you Mom she has to get you right over to the hospital!
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I am not allowed on my laptop at night and when I even think about getting on, I feel as if God is next to me saying NO!!!! And when I do get on such as right now, I feel soooo badly. Also, a teacher got mad at me because of something she thought I did but it was really somebody else. When I got home I stressed so much that I had to lie down and couldn't do anything else for the next couple of minutes. When I was 6 I got shingles from stress and I haven't stressed like this for a while. Why is it coming back now? (link)
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Anyone will feel this way. The reason you feel guilt is because you are doing something you are not supposed to. If you feel really guilty just don't do it! As you may feel stress depending on you age which you did not mention because at ages 10-20 you may feel stress as your hormones are changing and your body send weird signals to you brain that make you stressed or sometimes depressed. I would also like to say at 6 it's hard to know what stress is. Well sorry and hope you feel better!
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I am a 41 yr old female. He is a 48 yr old male. The marriage between us is making me ill. I jumped too quickly (i admit). I also am very much attracted to 2 long term friends I have had online but as much as I feel for them, it is doubtful for they live thousands of miles from me. I want out of this marriage but no way to do this. Nowhere to go at this time. I can't take a lot of how my current "husband" is acting. It is completely different since we married & moved in together. He made me think (in my vulnerable state (needing a step stool to start over) , that all was taken care of. When he arrived that all changed. Feeling guilt, shame & hopelessness.
Thanks for considering this to answer...
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Have you thought of reasons your realation ship is going wrong with him. Each person takes 50% in this realationship together. I dont think is right to be falling for other guys (or almost chating) when you're married. You DO NOT know this guy on this network so you can't be in love with him because you really dont know him at all even though you think you do, You don't. If you really want out of this marrige nobody's in your way but just realize what could happen. Just be as safe as possible and take in to consiteration that maybe this other guy is fake or not who you think it is because like you said he lives far away. What are you even doing on that site anyway? Well good luck
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I love my voice, and I plan to be famous. I've always wanted to write a song, but I just don't know how. It seems easy, but it isn't for me. How do I write a song? (link)
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There's NOO certain way, let me tell you that. You have to figure out what you want to sing about (love, friendship, school, realationship, sports or ect.) then find a tune and make up lyrics like if your songs about love make up lyrics tht match it like "i-i-i lovedd you for a while now" but make it to a catchy tune cause it's all about tune. Listen to songs to get ideas but don't necessarily copy their songs. What works easiest for me is writing lyrics then finding a tune and putting them together but there's not a certain way. Just let your mind me free.
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Ok, I like this guy.. And, I think he likes me. But I am not COMPLETELY sure... Anyways, I want to give him something for Valentines. I don't want to give him something too over-the-top because he moght think i'm a creep or something. I need advice, fast!!! (link)
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Just be aware he may find it creepy if you two have never really been friends so be aware he may tell his friends and they will make fun of you because that happened to my friend. But I thinknit's very sweet. You could just make him a card saying happy valentines day or something to do with his favorite sport like if he likes basketball get him a poaster something small like even a pencil that says 'yay' is special. You could get chocolate ot anything really just don't go over $10 because tht's weird
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they said they was mesmerized by me and if things were different we would wake up with each other they just arent right now( in a bad relationship) do they like me? (link)
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It's hard to say as we would need more detail to determine whether they like you or not. But I think this is mostly an excuse.
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When I read your words re suicidal thoughts I thought it could have been something I wrote... including the reason why you didn't do it. Because it would hurt ppl too much. Lately I think they would understand. I am not depressed. I don't feel like I don't belong. I just feel like I have had all that this life has to offer. I am tired & ready to move on. (link)
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Suicide is afull for 3 of many reasons...
1.) it leaves people wondering why you did that and what they did wrong (especially your parents and relatives)
2.) You only get one life and it's like throwing your life away.
3.) You only get one chance to do few things, 1 life, and one day it will be time but live till the end and dont make the end.
Suicide is probably the worst ways to die! DO NOT COMIT SUICIDE
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Ok,
so i am a 13 year old girl and this guy I THINK likes me he texts me and says stuff like hey cutie patootie (link)
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I totally get the feeling being I am 12. Same thing happened to me. You could ask "what's up" or about a school assignment. Anything really is fine. You could ask him is Favorite sport, food, soda, color ect. Ask him and interesting topic (well at least you find interesting enough to talk about). Well have fun texting him :)
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I'm an eighteen year old female. I was just at the Neurologist (ADHD) and they need me to be working out 30 minutes everyday. I have not been doing that. I used to swim competitively year round but I developed a hip injury and haven't been back for 4 years.
I have very low self-esteem when it comes to working out. I used to be bullied for my weight. I am 160 lbs and 5'8. Another reason to be working out. Anyways, all of my friends from high school (I'm a senior) work at our local YMCA. So I can't go there, even though it has a pool and fully equipped workout room. I would take some sort of dance Zumba class, but I have no one to take it with me (my dad is annoying and my mom is sooo over weight & all my friends are crazy busy). I get bored with workout videos, Wii games, Zumba on YouTube. I also used to do this program called "Couch to 5k" running around my neighborhood with my dad.. but we both got lazy and I got whistled at and hollered at so much that I don't want to put myself out there like that again...
What do I do? (link)
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Join another fitness club or YMCA if you really need this. You can also shop at a neer by store that sell tread mills and work out equiment which would be good for your case. But if you cant aford the work out equiment join another club.
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