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how to fix this relationship..
17/f . I have been with my 21 year old boyfriend for a year and 4 months. About 8 months ago, I got pregnant and had to get a medical abortion.. probably the worst mistake ever :/ since then, we have had this tension between us. I understand he might be hurt (especially since younger guys are never as mature when it comes to this kind of stuff)but at the same time, i didnt decide to go to that extent for myself, it was for US. That day was the last day i saw him cry. He used to treat me like a princess. Lately in these past 4 months, I have seen him completely change. He is extremely jealous, paranoid, treats me like CRAP, never stands up for me, and blames all our problems on me. Just yesterday, he told me that the reason why i got pregnant is because i couldnt keep my legs shut. that was the most horrible thing anyone has ever said to me. i dont know what to do, i'm seriously emotionally scarred from him and all the things that have happened between us but i dont feel strong enough to leave him. I told him today it was over because i cant take the mental abuse, and all he said was "ok" and hung up. should i actually let him go or get back with him?
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Hi there. That really sucks about having to get an abortion :( I'm 18 and have many pregnancy scares with my boyfriend, I think you're brave for doing what you did. By the sounds of things, his change is a sort of reaction to the what you both had to go through. Maybe he's grieving, I'm not 100% sure but treating you badly is not okay at all. I think maybe you both should have an adult conversation and lay everything out on the table. Tell him how you feel about what happened and how you feel about how he's acting toward you. Hopefully he can do the same. Maybe you will be able to fully understand why he's acting the way he is and if it is because he is grieving or something like that then if you're willing to stay with him, you could both get help together. Maybe couples therapy? Otherwise if he acts defensive and doesn't have any valid reasons as to why he's treating you like this then maybe it is time for you to let him go. Nobody deserves to be treated like this :( Just see if you both can sit down and talk like adults and maybe go from there? Good luck with whatever decision you make.
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You just said he's mentally abusing you and tat your emotionally scared of him so leave him because you deserce better and it wasn't just your fault for getting pregnant. Do the right thing!
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