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they would call me sarah, but it seems that people are afraid to address me by my name. i am a senior. i dislike a lot of things. i enjoy a nice hot medium mocha latte and smoke too many cigarettes for my own good. i have been in love. i love lights and colors. i am above the influence.


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i am 5'4 im tall skinny and have long legs and i can never find any clothes that fit me they are either to long or too fat and i want hot clother where do i look? please help me out.



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Try Wet Seal or Abercombie. You can also get your mom to hem them if they're too long.

Good Luck!

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I'm not sure if this is in the right catagory but I'll ask my question anyway. I want to know what every single color jelly bracelet means. I want to know in the simplest way you can explain it. I would be happy with a website that I can take reference to if you don't want to fit the majority of colors into your answer. Thanks in advance!

13/f



if you are talking about the bracelets that equal sexual favors they don\'t mean anything and it's just a myth.

Here's a page worth looking at from a trustworthy site.

if you mean like the livestrong bracelets here's what the cancer ones stand for. Other charaties I don't know...


orange-leukemia
lime-lymphoma
teal-ovarian
pink-breast
black-melanoma
pearl-lung
burgundy-multiple melanoma
dark blue-colon
yellow-testicular/prostrate
lavendar-cancer survivor and awareness
dark purple-pancreatic
kelly green-kidney
teal and white- cervical
gold-childhood cancers
purple-hope

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ok so i sweat and i dont sweat only on my head. I sweat on my chest and now i have these red dots sorta like acne! i only get a couple but how do i make them go away?? *they arent very attractive*! lol Please help i rate easy 5s!!

It's normal to sweat in summer...it's hot!

It could be a form of heat rash which I sometimes get om my legs. =( Try Gold Bond powder on the area or if you really think it's acne try facial clensing wash on you chest it works for me. Clean and Clear is a good bet.

AG

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okay well im a teenager and i live in Tampa florida.

my friends and i use to go to the mall every friday. pretty lame huh? yeah thats why we stopped going.

well since we stopped going there isnt really much to do around here.

does anyone have any ideas of what to do on a friday or saturday night? thanks alot.

I've been to Tampa and it's not all that boring!

you could:
Go swimming
Rent a movie and pop popcorn
Make Ice cream or go to an ice cream shop
go on a picnic
give eachother make-overs at of your houses
get your nails done...

Or just go to the mall and do somthing weird like only talk in british accents or somthing!

Be creative!

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I was just putting a tampon in for the first time. I was supposed to go swimming today but I just got it. It's light for now. I followed the directions on the box but it hurt sooooo bad!! I did it a second time and it was the same. It even hurt to pull it out. The directions said if it feels uncomfortable it's not in far enough. It was in far as it could go though. I relaxed when I did it but it still hurt really really bad. It hurts awhile after I take it out. I want to go swimming but I don't think I can. I used the Lites/Junior if you're wondering. Is there something wrong with me?? =(

Oh, the same thing happened to me and I couldn't get over it so I just have abstain from swimming on those days. =( Whatver you do don't wear a pad in the water, the little moisture absorbing beads inside will all fill up wither yu'll look like your wearing a soggy diaper or the pad will burst and float to top. (not a good thing!!)

*Artiste*

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I hate the way my family treat me. They constantly rag on me for no reason. All i do is walk in the room and they will say something about me to hurt my feelings. For instance, my dad yelled at me for eating one time, telling me id get fat. (At the time i was 115 lbs.) I wouldnt even eat for days, and one meal..i would get yelled at. For a while, I used to starve myself because I was sick of getting yelled at and sneaking food at midnight. Now, i eat less and my dad will laugh and joke about how Im anorexic, which isnt true. My younger sister also calls me fat, when im only 125. (Im 16). She even calls me a dyke (not true) because ive never had a boyfriend. She, on the other hand, goes out and sleeps with every guy that says hello to her. My dad knows it, but he still laughs and calls me that too and tells me im never going to get a boyfriend. My dad thinks i should drop out of high school because my grades werent as good as last years. (Im still on honor roll.) I dont make straight A's like my sis, and Im not outgoing as my sis. And because of that, they call me a failure and doubt my intelligence. Im sick of them treating me like im nothing. They say they are "joking" but they know how much it hurts and continue to do it all the time. They enjoy seeing me down and thats why they keep bringing me down. I used to ask them to stop, but they dont listen. Now i just ignore them because i know words cannot kill me. But honestly, they are. I never thought words could be so powerful and have such an influence on me, but the consistancy of it has ruined my self esteem and has caused me to stop talking. Im starting to believe i am nothing, because thats how im always treated. Any advice? Dont tell me to talk to them or anyone. I have tried it so many times in the past, they ARENT going to listen.

I have to ask you talk to them. Communication is a powerfiul and very useful thing. First don't be confrontational, thet'll take it as an attack and immidiately start defending instead of explaining, and ask them why they feel like you aren't worth anything and cut you down all the time. If they still won't listen talk to your pastor at your church or your best friend or her mom.
If you are happy with your weight don't listen to them, just say that if you don't eat you'll get sick and that's worse than having a little fat.

Last, don't ever give up hope! Nothing can last forever!

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does anyone know any websites that you take a quiz and then you get a result. like the quizes are about urself like what you like to do and stuff like that.

www.thespark.com
www.ivillageuk.com
www.ym.com

hope it works out!

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I am a homeschooled girl, I'm turning 15 in about two months. I am doing this program for middle schoolers, where I go and pick up tons of work each month. Apparently, theres so much, that its hard cramming it all in a month, but I manage to get it done the very beggining of the next month, meaning I turn it in late. This happens, because either I didn't have parents take me because they were gone, or I wasn't done. Most of the time it was just not going on time. I expected a lot from myself when I was in public school, my grades were always in a high range. But now, I am failing three classes. Ever since I saw my grades, I have been feeling guilty for eating, sleeping, or doing anything I want because I shouldn't deserve to do what I want. I am so full of stress, I think that maybe another reason. I see a therapist that takes both of my parents sides, and my parents are divorced, but they still fight. But, I'm not going to drown myself in excuses because I've managed to do well in the past. There are lots of other stressful things going on, but I am just really scared that I'm going to get held back. I havn't finished the month of May, I tried to last night, but those thoughts of being a failure took over and kept me from concentrating. I have no idea what to do with the present work, but I do have goals for high school, I might be staying home again. Could anyone share some advice that could help me get my stress out and my future thoughts in?



I'll definetly rate because of the length of this question. It will be more than just thank you.

Being homeschooled myself I know where you're coming from! Last year I was in a charter school and 2 months late in finishing. I also had a horrible case of stress during that time.

First I suggest that you set aside an hour or so today to just relax, collect you thoughts and pray. DO NOT think about anything that has to do with school during this time! After your time is up. Just start hacking away at the workload you have with the consolation that this too shall pass!

One thing that can hurt your grades is that usually with homeschooling you tend to be a little more disorganized, or in my case, a lot. Now, just do your best to do your best!

If there's anything I missed just ask my column and I'll try to help!

Keep your head up!

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hey guys i was just wondering were i havent got nothing to do this summer i was wondering what good books i could read this summer like books you could get at a public library. Thanks for your help i really need something to do other than sit at the computer desk all summer!

Saylor

here are a few of my favorite books:

Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy - Douglas Adams
The Princess Bride -William Goldburm
You Could read the Harry Potter books...
The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants

That should hold you for a while!

AG

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I love making up my own songs and singing them..the problem is, when i write them down, they look so retarded and then I forget the tune and everything screws up..my question is, how do you write lyrics that match with the tunes? I would love to be a singer one day but that won't happen because I'm asian, but whatever..um what are some tips for writing song lyrics and thinking of tunes? Thanks..I rate

Um, I know you got lot of answers but here's one more...

The same things happen to me when I try to write songs. I'm glad I'm not alone! :) Try using a voice recorder and writing the lyrics down and keeping the tape and lyrics together so if you forget the tune just play the tape back. Also see if you can pick out the tune on a keyboard or guitar or whatever then you can get an idea what notes you've got.

Also jus because you're Asian does not mean you can't make it! Don't give up because of ppls stereotypes!
Love, Artiste

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does anyone know how metalolism works? like how much do calories do you burn a day? and how much running does it takes for you to lose some weight. how will 2 or 3 miles everyother day effect my weight after a month. what about every other day. i plan to run all summer and lift weights too.

First I have to tell you that everyone's metabolism is different, for example if two people eat the same amount of food at the same time and with out excercizing afterwards one's body may simply raises it's temp. a degree or two to burn the extra calories (which happens)so they won't gain weight, while the other's body doesn't work that way and the calories are stored into fat.

If you want to lose weight just make sure you burn more calories than you consume and try to work out/excercize three to four times a week.

Lifting weights and running, while they burn fat, won't make the numbers on the scale go down much because as you lose fat you gain muscle and muscle weigh more than fat...which is fine as long as you don't get hung up on #s!
good luck!
Artiste

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Hey yall!I like this guy and we are kinda friends and i am not sure if he likse me I think he might .And I can't get him off my mind how do I find out if he likes me?
~cruching bad~

Hehehe...hate it when that happens! Try flirting with him - subtly. Just talk to him more and if he likes you you'll probabally be able to figure it out, guys are pretty transparant when it comes to this.

good luck!
AG

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my dog (male) mated with my cat (which is also a male) they had puppies... and kittens!
Is this normal?
Please help!
This is serious!
Luv,
Jonathan
P.S. They are inside animals only!

You are apparnt lying since
#1 the genes are too different join...and
#2 there was no egg/y chromozone (sp?) involed.

Why ask such dumb questions?

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My boyfriend can be so immature sometimes & it really bothers me. He's always fooling around & playing pranks of people. I know he's a guy so he's entitled to have fun with his friends but sometimes, it gets out of hand. What do I do?

x`laur

Welcome to the world of teenage boys...Um you could TRY to get him to stop but I doubt that would work. Buys aren't really worth that much effort anyway. :P

xoArtisteox

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ok i have unprotected sex last thursday......is it to early to start getting morning sickness or sore boobs?? PLEASE help me

two things..why are you asking so early when you should just really get a test and why are you having unprotected sex?

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how early can you tell if you are pregnant? I am 16 and i am on the patch, i got off my regular schedule of the patch a month ago or so. The past three days i have had nausia and stomach aches, and they feel different than i have ever had. I also just have a gut feeling i might be pregnant, i jsut bought a pregnancy test tonight, and i plan on takeing it toamrrow morning. IT is one of those 5 days before your missed period, and today is fri and i should be getting my period on sun,mon, or tues. I can't wait though, im really nervous. and i am wondering if it does come out negative tomarrow, if it could be wrong just because of how early it is?

now also, do i tell the guy i'm sleeping with? because i am afraid he will not like me ne more, and i am pretty sprung off of him right now. i mean i know that if i am pregnant its early and i could probably take a pill, but either way i am not haveing a baby so is there even a need to let him know? he is jsut gunna get all worked up about it and upset, and he ahs a lot going on right now as it is.

Definately don't panic...you knew the risks and took them anyway so don't act so suprised! If you are pegnant I realy think you should find any way possible to not kill the baby. You created this life, do you really think it would be fair that you destroy it?

And yes, you should definately tell your boyfriend, don't we all have a lot going on? He should give you just as much support as anyone considering it was half his fault.

Whatever happens please make responsible choices that you won't regret later in life.
Artiste

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I think i'm in love with my friends sister, shes nine months older than me, and I just have been crazy about her for months! I want to be around her all the time, but the thing is there is no way that she could feel anything other than an okay friendship towards me, Its really frustrating... Any suggestions on trying to get her to like me back?

Hmm...you could be more flirtatious but if you already said there ws no way she'll like you as anthing else just accept that you two are just friends. It's a crush..it'll pass.

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Ok I went to a school dance at my school like a month ago and I met one of my best friend's friends and the minute I saw him I totally liked him, later on we danced and he stared at me the whole time while we were dancing... does this mean something?! he smiled and after we danced he came over to talk to me more! Also any tips for getting a guy?!

Yeah, he probabally likes you...BEE YOURSELF! Try to bee friends with him and then you'll get to know eachother better. Um...tips....guys love a girl with a good sense of humor, make him laugh, laugh with him that stuff. Also don't try too hard just relax.
hope your dream comes true. :)
Artiste

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I'm 13 and I love music. I play the violin adn the piano and I also kind of sing. I really want to be a music producer (btw i get straight a's), so how can I get on that track to be a producer? What highschool courses should i take? What should I do to prepare? How can I get a job?

Wow - talent...don't waste it! :)

I really wish I could help you but sadly I have no desire to be a producer therefore don't exactly know what to tell you but you could certainly ask your music instructors or look online or in the paper.

Best of Luck!!

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are there any websites with a quiz that would match you up with the perfect job for you or type of job? that would be great!

try these..
Web.tickle.com
http://bbj.hu.cvogroup.com/new_test/ceq.php?

hope it helps!

Lovey,
Artiste

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