angieroonie's advice column

i'm Ange, a 19 year old female aussie and i love helping people! I am willing to help with almost any issues you may have... so feel free to ask me. i wont judge you on what you ask so dont feel embarrased. :) but beware! if you ask a stupid question with a logical answer, i will be very blunt... and remember...
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It all started when I met Jeremy, Louis, Paul, & Simon. Paul & Simon are brothers, and all four of the guys are all friends. My best friend, Ewelina, knows the four guys. I met these guys about two weeks ago, I mean, I knew them before but until then we never really talked. Some background information: Paul & Jeremy are best friends. Paul liked Ewelina for about 5 years, I mean, that guy is like so obsessed with her. Jeremy, liked Ewelina. And vice-versa, but they never got together because of Paul. They both say they don't have feelings/like each other so... So yeah... now Jeremy was talking to Ewelina and he said he liked me alot. Jeremy, he's like perfect, well to me, anyway. He sings, plays guitar, doesn't smoke, but he drinks. Thats the bad part ... =(. He says drinking makes things better for him, makes things more fun and lets him open up. He's also very sensitive & emotional, =]. Ok last week, we were all by Ewelina's and they all came by and we just all sat around. Then they went to drink up at some party. Later on Jeremy calls Ewelina, and I picked up the phone. I asked who it was, and he said "your boyfriend". I was like, oh the one who ignored me today?, he explained to me that he's shy around girls he likes and that he's very nervous. I was soo happy! =] Then after I left, Jeremy stopped by Ewelina's after the party, and they were being very annoying to her. Acting like such asses... so Ewelina was like, watch what I tell Angie (me), she won't give you a chance. He got all pissed at her, and then came by my house. I was in the shower, so I didn't talk to him of course. Then him & Ewelina talked later on that night, for over an hour, and she said they talked all about me. That he liked me a lot and all, and stuff like that. Oh man, was I happy ... Then we hung out a few times after that and he told Ewelina and Paul, he was begining to lose interest in me and that I was boring. Meanwhile, Paul & I have been talking a lot. I was trying to help him out with Ewelina, but Ewelina doesn't want to go out with him, so that was hard. Finally, Ewelina told Paul how she felt, that she hated him and everything. So things became rocky. We didn't hang out anymore, till last week, Ewelina and I talked, and she decided she'd give Paul a chance, hoping that maybe that would make it better for me, meaning maybe Jeremy & I would maybe hook-up, ya know? Well Ok so Ewelina is going out with Paul so that me and Jeremy could maybe hook-up, nobody knows that. And Paul is sooooo frikkin happy that they're together, FINALLY, so it sucks that he doesn't know the truth. Ok so they come by on Friday, nothing! Nothing happened, we barely talked. Jeremy wanted to go drink so he was pissed cause no one cold get the drinks for them. Then on Saturday, I wasn't home and they came by like 3 times, and they told my sister someone was gonna ask me out. Oh boy, was I happy =] Then we all went to the park, and talk. It was Louis, Simon, Jeremy, and Paul. Ewelina had band practice at her house.

Yeah so anyway, we all just hung around and talked. They drink some earlier that day, around 1 so yeah... Jeremy was all over me, and flirting, =]. Then Louis and Paul left and so me and jeremey and simon all went to my backyard and just talked. They wouldn't leave me alone about the whole Ewelina and Paul situation, they were onto it. They were very suspisious. So then I was sitting inbetween them on the swing and I just broke out. I like started crying, and I told them the truth. THE WHOLE FREAKING TRUTH. I felt so stupid, I mean telling Jeremy that I like him, and the only reason Ewelina is going out with Paul is so that I could go out with him. So I told him how I felt, and him and simon started whispering something. All I heard was simon saying YOU NEED TO TELL HER and the jeremy was like, look, i know you like me. i know, and i like you too, but not that way. he doesn't see us togther, and he's like explaining how he's neer been in a serious relationship, so its hard for him. But he says we can do stuff, i'm like save it. I got s pissed, and oh my GOD i felt horrible about the whole paul and ewelina situation, and they're like dont be so hard on yourself, its not your fault, and stuff. I felt horrible, and then I told them the rest of the story about how ewelina is going out with this other guy, too and they were like skank and stuff and now they hate her. they wanted to do something where i walk on her and jeremy, jeremy would make a move on her, and i would walk in on it. it was supposed to show me what kind of a friend she is. i personally seriously dont think she would have done it, but jeremy and simon were like yeah she would and stuff. then they left around 10. Our plan was to not saying anything at all. Ok then on sunday, they came by, all of them except Louis, they brought another friend along, some Andy guy, and oh my, he was hitting on me. he was wasted/stoned and saying the stupidest stuff, lol, it was crazy! they came by because jeremy wanted 10 bucks cause some guy ripped them off, jeremy gave the guy 20 bucks and the guy was supposed to go to dominick's and get them some liquor. he left and never came back, lol so jeremy wanted 10 bucks, i only had 3. then they left, and nothing really happened. then today [monday] simon calls me at 9 in the morning, i was like what the hell ... he wanted me to come by and drink with them, it was simon, paul, and that andy guy. i got there like 4 hours after they called me, i had stuff to do. they were all ready wasted and paul was starting shit with simon, it was horrible... they almost fought. yikes ... then that andy guy was hitting on me, he was soo drunk, i was laughing my ass off. it was hilarious! then simon became kind sober? i guess? lol and we talked about what to do about THE TRUTH, lol. He said to keep it between the three of us {jeremy, me, simon} and not to tell ewelina and paul. so yeah then we talked about random stuff. then i went to my grandparents, they left to poland today. =( Yeah, then Jeremy, Louis, and Simon all come by and we talk. They said I have to tell Ewelina and Paul the truth. I was like what?!?!?!?!?!?!

They wanted to do it with me, so I was like fuck it and I went home. Then I called Ewelina over and we talked, I told her everything, she was kinda pissed and she called Paul and told him the whole story, I couldn't do it. I felt horrible cause they guys were telling me how he would go kill himself or something, then he wanted to talk to me. He was like, I trusted you, you were the person I actually thought I could trust, why did ou do this to me? Oh my GOD, it was horrible. Then Ewelina told me about how like last week jeremy asked her to make-ouy with him and stuff. Then later on Jeremy & Simon come by, and they're bitching at me cause Ewelina was pissed at them and acting like a bitch. They're like you told her, right? I was like yeah =/ ... They said they were just kidding about before, that they wouldn't have told paul or ewelina, and i shouldn't have. That they were just kidding and yeah. I was like oh well... then jeremy told me how the other day, the day after ewelina and paul started going out, she was like to jeremy: but we could still make-out and jeremy was like: what about paul? and she supposedly said who cares... now i wasn't supposed to say anything, but i can't keep my mouth shut and i asked jeremy about what she said, about making-out and he said that never happened, and i asked her about what he said and she didn't admit to it. so yeah... then jeremy and simon were saying how i'm the only nice girl they know who's not a bitch or a slut/skank/whore. i felt so special, =] hehehe. so yeah but now, i don't know what to do. jeremy was saying how he's gonna stop drinking, [yeah for like the 6th time] and i think maybe he's doing it for me, just maybe? ahh i don't know what to do anymore ... he's such a player. and i don't WANT to like him, after everything but I can't help it, ohh man what do i do? when we first met, he was like in love with me, like seriously he'd call up ewelina and talk to her about me for about an hour, now he doesn't like me anymore, but why??? =( they said i gotta be more fun, but how???

WOW that was long!!! well, honestly, you should get over jeremy. i know its easier sad than done but if a guy wants you to change then you shouldn't be with him. he should like you for who you are not who you could be. :)