HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
XOXO
KAT!
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Last Tuesday, I went in for testing. I went in for testing because at cheerleading practice, I fell on my knee and it wouldn't stop bleeding for over an hour. And it didn't need stitches either. So the doctor in the ER had someone to come and test me and my results came back in today...I have lukeimia.
I didn't think of saying anything last week or this week until now because I was pretty sure that nothing was wrong with me. I guessed wrong.
I'm scared. Seriously, what is the survival rate. I don't want to die, and I don't want this cancer, I don't want any cancer. I don't want any illness. I swear to myself that God hates me and he just wants me to die. I hate this.
For the next month, I will have to go for more testing, and in Mayish, I will more than likely start chemo therapy.
I don't know what to do. Shit like this always happend your senior year. Next year, I will be a senior, and I know that this lukeimia will stop me from playing volleyball and cheerleading and dance.
I need help...I don't know. I'm just scared. (link)
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I'm so, so sorry, hun... =(
I know chemo and everything will be hard, but with all the crap you go through for it, the survival rate is pretty high, though i'm not too sure of the exact numbers.
Once you get chemo over, you may also be able to do sports and everything. I've read many, many books and sucess stories where people have been able to continue with their lives fairly normally, and though it seems like it, God dosen't hate you..
I'm not the one to hear this from, but have faith in everything. It dosen't even seem like the time to hear this, but you'll pull through, with the advances in science being made.
Again, I'm sorry, and I hope you everything goes well..
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i can't do this anymore.
living and all the crap that goes along with it.
I don't want to live, but I can't bring myself to commit suicide. So i'm stuck in-between life and death. and i hate it. i hate having to be alive. i bet things are so much better when you're dead.
don't ask me what my reasons are, and don't say anything like "oh things will get better" or "don't kill yourself" or anything liek that.
I can't do anything at all.
I can't even get a boyfriend- which is my main reason for wanting to commit suicide. everyone is automatically unattracted to me. I'm not even kidding.
I'm "obese" and i hate it. I can't even help it because I work out every day and I eat the right amount of calories. But i'm still fat and that won't change. it never can. I have a problem.
I'm not a christian- I don't believe in any god and i never will again. i'm not a satanist either. i'm an atheist. (link)
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Okay, so you say people are automatically unattracted to you. I'm not sure if you're seeing it from the right perspective, though.
People honestly shouldn't care that much about weight, or even appearence. I think it may be more of your attitude.
Before you get mad about what I've written, listen to this...
There's obviously something stopping you from doing this to yourself.
If you think things are better when you're dead, then what's keeping you alive? There's SOMETHING keeping you here.
I know life is painful, and things might even get worse, but nothing is going to improve if you've got this outlook on life. I'm not saying 'go be super happy go lucky', but I am saying you should at least try to be happy, be with your friends, TRY TO LIVE, instead of automatically giving up.
Also, try to just let yourself fall for someone, and give them time to fall for you. I'm not sure what age you are, but boyfriends and all that aren't everything. I personally think friends mean more, but if having a boyfriend is THAT important to you, find someone who will accept you for you. =(
I'm sorry if i've come off mean, but I want to show you that this is not the thing to do, to kill yourself..
I'm also sorry for you to feel this way, if you need anyone to talk to, IM me at demo lovee
or message me on myspace at www.myspace.com/multiamorekat
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so there's this guy i really like... but i don't really want to have sex with him... but i already told him i would... so now i don't know how to tell him that i kinda don't want to... should i just tough it out and do him or what? please help
P.S. i've already come off really slutty and stuff....even though i'm a virgin...
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Hun, I'm sorry to be blunt, but this isn't a "Should I go to the movies with him" kinda thing. This is a huge, huge thing.
If you dont' want to do anything, even if he already has the idea that you want to, you need to talk to him.
If you two like each other enough to be considering this, you should be able to talk this over. Just tell him you don't think you're ready yet. If he really likes/loves you, he'll be there for you, and not pressure you.
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sumtimes i just feel like crying b-cuz i had this bff and she was the coolest but then after waterfront we got n trouble n werent allowed to hang but still saw eachh a lot and hung out at sj=kool but that it and i asked my mo if i could sleepover her house this weekend and she flat out sed no and it makes me really sad to no that i cannt hang out with my best friend and i just cry about it sumthimes and i told me mom but she wont change her mind and i jusy want to run away and please dont answer this DONT RUN AWAY cuz i dont want to her that (link)
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Honestly, I've kinda had this problem, before. See if you can have someone else sleepover, so your mom can see your'e responsible. Then, have a sleepover with a few girls and your friend. Make sure your friend is VERY VERY polite, and helpful and everything. Maybe even have your friend write an apology note for whatever it was that you and her did, and have you parents talk. Adults usually can work things out pretty well.
Hopefully this works. After having her over with a bunch of other girls, maybe your mom will let her stay at your house, one on one.
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any1 know any low cal sugar substitutes-- for those sugar cravings (link)
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Well, you could start with making things (baked goods, ect) with low calarie substitutes, like Splenda.
Some snacks I really like are:
Fruit snacks, low sugar Hershey's products, Kudos, Popsicles, and home made cookies. =)
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In stores I'm ebarresed to go to the register and to return things. At school I am constantly picked on and everyone in my school wants to fight other people if they stick up to them. So I usually sit there and take it and I hate it. I want to just tell them that they are immature and to go get a life. It makes me depressed and everyone thinks I'm a happy little preppy boy. I slowly am changing (I made my myspace background skaterish) Because I want them to know about how I feel about what there doing to my emotions.
PLEASE HELP :( (link)
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Heyy,
Aw, honestly, you don't sound socially challenged. I actually went through this kind of thing towards the beginning of the year, too. It sounds like you're a bit shy.. which is no problem.
In stores, think about WHY you're embarassed to register/return things? My friend gets like that, too, but think of this situation this way: these people working in stores most likely don't know you. Also, they honestly don't care what you do. I doubt they're going to go home and talk about some kid who came into their store who seemed to be nervous or something. Really, just think of the sales people as someone who dosen't know you, and wont see you again. Believe me, shyness can be annoying, but in that case, easily overcome. =)
I'm not sure why people make fun of others. It sounds so cliche, but people honestly make fun of others to make themselves look better in front of everyone else, and while there's not really anything to do to make them stop, you just have to know, they're being total RETARDS by doing that. You know you've got friends out there who care about you, and even if they don't go to the people giving you problems and flat out tell them off, they're still there if you need them. I wouldnt' say to sit there and take it all. Maybe go to another area, with different people, or just to say "Honestly, why do you have such a problem with me?" If it's because you're shy.. just go to one of your friends, or a nicer person in your class, and just talk to them. That will show the other people you really don't care. I just wouldn't reccomend starting anything back with them.. that just may cause bigger problems.
I'm really sorry they're making you feel that way.. I keep saying to go talk to your friends, because they're honestly my lifeline I go to, to talk to and everything. You dont' have to change your style, but if you do, and you like the style, don't worry if no one else likes it. When I went more 'punk' from prep, people didn't react well, but I also got to see who my real friends were in that situation.
A little advice a friend once gave me, Always be yourself. You may not make as many friends, but you'll make better, longer lasting, and more truthful friends.
If you need me at all, message me at my myspace,
www.myspace.com/multiamorekat
I'll definitely answer, and I might be able to help in more depth if you'd be able to tell me more specifics, besides, I'm ALWAYS on, pretty much. lol.
Hope I've helped.. really, feel free to message. ;D
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Is it okay to go out for halloween even though you're christian? I want free candy..I'm Christian and I think it's ok but.. (link)
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I really dont see a problem with it. As long as you're not like.. into witchcraft and all that stuff, it should be good, lol. Most people at my church go, and unless you're like.. really super religious, I think it's fine.
It's all honestly about free candy and dressing up anymore, anyways. =P
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ok so i'm 15m
theres this girl in one of my classes that i like. i wana ask her out but i just dont now if she likes me or not. she does things that i dont now if they mean she likes me. like she puts her foot like a mila meter over my foot and nudges it sometimes, or she flirts w/ me, or she's always tryin to grab my hand to draw stuf on it or like if i try to take somethin from her bag as a joke she grabs my arm and holds it for like 30 seconds before lettin go. but she also tells her firends that she doesnt like any1. so does she like me and whats a good way to find out if she likes me or not (link)
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Okay, from what you've said; OF COURSE SHE LIKES YOU! Either that, or she's a huge tease. Most girls usually will say they don't like anyone, because they dont want to make you think they like someone else, along with not letting you know they like you.
I'd say to go for it and ask her. ;D
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Okay, so my boyfriend has a little cousin and she is veryyy large. She turned 5 in the beginning of February (Feb 2nd, ironically enough Groundhogs day haha.) and weighs around 110. We are both very close to her, and care for her alot.. but her weight is downright unhealthy and I just wish there was something more we can do. Her parents seem to be unphased by her weight and just don't really acknowledge it. This obesity runs in their family and so does Diabetes. (Lucky for me, my boyfriend doesn't have either) But we just don't know what to do with her.. take her running? Haha I really am at a loss. Any feedback would be FANTASTIC!! Thanks!! ♥ (link)
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Awh..
Well, I'd reccomend introducing her to a child's sport..something like soccer, maybe trying karate or something? Also, swimming would be great for her.
Maybe also try introducing her parents to some yummy treats that they could serve to their daughter; give her a bag of fruit snacks, chopped fruit, gogurt, something like that, to take home if you see her without her parents, and they'll see that she likes the food and buy that for her, as a substitute for fatty junk food.
I hope this works out.. if not, have her parents sit down with you two; have a serious talk; and take a visit to a doctor to see that medical things could be done to help her. =)
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its so fucking annoying. this entire year so far i've probably missed the bus about 15 times. and now my mom is fed up with driving me to school (my dad used to do it but he leaves for work very early now) so she makes me stay home. this is the 2nd time i have to stay home.. idk im so fucking disorganized with everything. after tidying my room (which will take me like 1-3 days to do.. cuz i get distracted) it just gets messy during the week and then i go through the same brutal weekend ritual of cleaning it and then it just gets messy later. i dunno why my mom obsesses over that. i wanna clean it when i want to. but honestly i dont give a damn what it looks like unless visitors or something are there. i can find things in the mess too. nothings wrong with it being neat but its hard to maintain it. same with the bus.. well not really but all the time it happens.. this is the 2nd time this week iv'e missed it and im so mad because today was hat day and i had this cute had i wanted to wear. ive done everything else.. i took a shortcut to a diff bus stop in a diff neighborhood twice when i missed my regular one till my bus driver told me not to do that anymore or she'll like call the police or something. once i went with my aunt and lied my mom wasnt home because i knew she'd make me stay home all day. i got in alot of trouble for that.. and another time i went with my friend's nanny who i hardly knew.. i knew i could have gotten murdered but she doesnt seem the type and she's seen me go to school with her well the girl she babysits since like elementary school (im a 7th grade now. a girl by the way). but if i told my parents they'd kill me. not that i'd do that again. but seriously.. i've done everything.. i even considered walking like.. 5 miles to get to my school... or ride my bike.. even though it goes through like a highway and like a woody area and like 2 train tracks. i even considered going on the 5th and 6th graders bus but then i thought that i may not be able to do that either. this reaaaaally sucks. and now my mom wants me to clean my room.. maybe she'll drop me at school then? probably not. IM SO FUCKING ANNOYED. I dont even usually curse but now i feel like cursing every second. its already 11am and school started at 9. and the school called and asked where i was or something and i said i was absent cause i missed the bus and nobody would drop me. i didnt add the fact that my mom was home and she also had a car. well she isnt home now. shes out. im not even supposed to be online or watch tv or listen to the radio. just clean my room. im about to wash my clothes.. but seriously how can i fix all of this? im extremely extremely pissed off. (link)
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Well, definitely don't try to get a ride with anyone you don't know; if you talk it over wiht your parents, your aunt may be able to take you..
My advice is, since school starts at nine, which is pretty late compared to high school and stuff, try to pick your clothes out the night before, and take your showers at night. That way, you wont have to waste time with the apperance things; plus hair is so much easier to straighten and stuff from the night before shower, in my opinion, haha. Also, try to just pick things up you've left sprawled out throughout the day, that way, you wont have a gigantic mess throughout the week, taking something a small bit at a time is so much easier than taking something in one huge mass at once.
Those two things should make things easier; you might even get a little more sleep time. I'm not sure what time you have to get to your busstop, but get yourself ready so that you're ready to leave at least 10 minutes before the bus gets there; it provides transportation time and extra time, just in case.
Hope this has helped; GOOD LUCK!!!!
Kat!
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I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess. (link)
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Hun, I'm going to sound soo cliche here, but that's really not the right thing to do. Obviously it's going to hurt everyone else (you honestly don't realize how many people care for you, do you?) but you're also going to be letting go of something amazing; life. You were put in this situation for a reason, you're meant to endure it, to get stronger and show that you can maintain yourself!!! Suicide isn't a way out, it's just a final resolution to a temporary problem, and you KNOW you'd hurt your brother and everyone around you!!!
The things you'd described earlier seem like they could be treated.. for example, headaches and everything, you can go to a doctor for that.
Please, i know my answer isn't anything great, but there have been some AMAZING people who have gone through so much worse than this, and got over all of it and went on to be amazing.
Really, email me if you need someone to talk to. suidice is NOT the answer, no matter how bad you think things are!!!!!
xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
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I'm 5'2 and 100 pounds but i really wanna gain some weight. I try eating junk but it doesn't help cause i have a fast metabolism.what should i do as long as it's not danderous to my health? (link)
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There are many weight gain shakes and drinks out there, actually. Just look in the refridgerated foods section of your grocery store, I know there's a chocolate drink that my aunt drank to gain weight, which gave her great results!!
Sorry this isnt' so specific, though, but I hope this has helped a bit!!
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i get alot of discharge. its really gross. is that normal? (link)
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It's completly normal, no worries. =)
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does anyone have an idea of what kind of "monster" i could put into a story like i thought of a flying, human-eating monkey. but i want something that will get people laughing.
please help xxxx (link)
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hm.. i say use some messed up version of a really werid celebraty. parody's and celebraty jokes always get people laughing. ;D
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I have acne on my face, chest, and back. My dermatoligist told me about Actutane, and I was just wondering if anybody have any information or personal stories about it. Thanks :) (link)
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Well, I've been on it for a few months, but I've mostly got scarring left. They're very keen on increasing doses, and usually give you half your weight in doses. (ie you weight 100 lbs, they'll give you 50mg) usually, at least. You need blood tests and pregnancy tests every month, and the program I'm on can get a little confusing. If you're in the same case as me, you have to sign up for something on the net to have an account for your pharmacy, but your nurse can do that too if you ask her to.
I didn't have any adverse side effects, and it really works wonderfully!! I had the WORST acne on my face for the longest time, the same set of acne for over a year actually, and nothing else would really help with it, but once I took that pill, I saw results within about a month. It really made me sooo much more confident.
The one thing I did have a problem with, though, was sunburn. I already burned easily, but I really couldn't go into the sun for a very long time, and I highly reccomend having chapstick handy often. =)
Best of luck, and I really hope this was helpful!
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i think i have a HUGE stomach (even though people think i dont & i hide it realy well)and i tried to excerise and eat the right way and yada yada yada...
and everytime i try to excerise i just get too lazy...and when i try to eat right i eat junk food..and of course i dont wanna starve myself or throw up..its jus gross! so what do i do? (link)
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Well, obviously you KNOW you have to do the healthy thing, since you're smart enough to know starving yourself and throwing up are the complete and total wrong solutions.
Take small steps at a time. Try cutting sodas and juices out of your diet, first. Then work on the really fatty snacks. Let yourself eat what you want, but know your limits!! There are some really good healthy snacks out there, too. Things like fresh fruit, granola bars, chex mix, REALLY good all natural pop sicles (with little peices of fruit in them, mm) and many other things will prevent weight gain. Also, watch what you eat at dinner. Use portions, and make sure you know what's going into your food. If you think you eat too much junk food, I'd give you the advice I actually follow.
Try having a small snack after school, and then waiting until dinner to eat again. (Ice is actually filling and keeps you from eating, though, fyi). Then, eat half of your dinner, and save the other half until you feel pretty hungry again. This keeps you from eating other snacks, and from wasting food. =)
On the subject of working out, ect. Rah. It can really be a hassle. I wouldn't reccomend curlups (though the ab lounge will REALLY tone your stomach well) but try six inches. It will strengthen your stomach muscles. If you don't know what this is, lay on your back and raise your legs about six inches off the ground. The catch is, your arms can't touch your legs, no help at all. It really strains your stomach, but it's actually helpful!
And of course, try working out with a friend!! If you've got a sibling or neighbor you're friends with, try to go running around your block. Heck, even taking walks would be really good for ya!!
If you need absolutely anything else, or if I've missed something/misunderstood the question, just email me at xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com!
Kat
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hey well my bday is soon and ive decided to have an all-girls party. (btw im 13/f) about 12 girls will come. umm im trying to decide what to do!! lol..i mean the usuall movie and makeup is getting boring now and i wanted to know are there any games we should play or anything? any advice will be great thanks! (link)
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Just a few suggestions:
Truth or Dare-classic, but come on, it's awesome. =P
Prank Phone Calls, especially on guys!!
ManHunt (kinda like extreme hide and seek, hide ANYWHERE you can find outside. Don't just stick to girly stuff, lol)
Sports of any kind, get some guys from the neighorhood to join in or something
Turn the lights out and tell really scary stories (can scare the heck out of people, but you know it's always fun ;D)
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I've been knitting for awhile (although not consistently) with modest output--I've made two scarves and that's about it. I'm attempting to make a baby afghan by knitting squares and later sewing them together. Unfortunately, I'm having a few problems.
Any suggestions on how to keep my tension even? My squares are all coming out different sizes which, as knitters know, is not a good thing. I know that it'll take practice, but if anyone has any hints or tips (even about knitting in general, since I'm reasonably new to it) I would definitely love to hear them. I've ripped apart squares more times than I can count in just a few days. (link)
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Count your stiches as you go. That way, you'll know it's even. Write down the number of stiches in each row, so you'll remember. =)
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why are the scented kind of tampons bad for you? (link)
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They can be bad for you because there are certain chemicals you shouldn't be exposed to.. um.. there, lol, on them.
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Does anyone know any sites ware I could order some cool bad tees.
Thanks
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HotTopic.com is always good. Their tees are usually from 10 to 20 dollars, but they've got AMAZING graphics.
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