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Hey guys. I'm just a girl going through the transition of a teenager to an adult and all that it entails.
I've had a colourful life with many a lesson learned and much to offer. Whether you want advice, support or just a chat then all you gotta do is reach out.
I'm honest, whether it hurts or not, but i'm fair; open minded and philosophical, a little crazy yet very logical, at times rather controversial.
If you have a question go ahead and ask!
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would you believe a man if he cheeted on you and tried to come back apologizing? will you give him another chance?
I think it would entirely depend on the circumstances and the man. So in order to give a properly detailed answer i'd need to know the situation.
Generally speaking if a man has cheated on you - has easily given into temptation - then i wouldnt trust him. Even if you took him back there would still be that wondering in the back of your mind as to whether or not he's being faithful, whether you can trust him or not.
Ultimately you'd be focusing so much on his past indisgressions that the relationship suffers and you end up back where you were: doubting the future of your relationship.
There are instances where one could forgive, such as being married to someone in the military, a traumatic event in the marriage such as the loss of a child etc. I think these are instances where if it happens once under extreme circumstances and you whole heartedly know the man, his personality and that it was genuinely a single mistake then theres a chance of working things out.
Otherwise, you're best starting fresh with someone you can trust and you know wont hurt you. People dont just cheat on people they love for no reason. They either dont care enough about the person or the are not ready to make a monogamous commitment.
Even if they were drunk it's hardly an excuse. There is a difference between a moral and an ethical man and the ethical man wouldnt cheat no matter how intoxicated he were. Unless he's suffered some sort of serious trauma or there has been something serious happen in the relationship, it seems you may be best without him.
So, my boyfriend & I broke up in August. We'd been dating for 11 months. Hes a junior, Im a freshman. We were in love, but i guess i got too clingy or something and he just didnt feel the same love as before. Its now February, and for about a month I've been talking to this senior. He's super nice, but I think he still likes this chick he had a thing with a few months ago. I dunno how she feels about him but whatever. So yeah I kinda like this senior. DONT tell me Im too young, because at my school this happens all the time. My ex and I still talk, but he's such a flirt sometimes I dont know if its genuine. Recently he seems to like talking to me again. Obviously I still have feelings for him, I always will. But I kinda do wanna give this senior thing a try, & he's also nice and we have things in common already. Even after typing this all out, I'm thinking to give the senior thing a go, but I'd like a little bit more experienced advice please. Thanks very much! :)
Your relationship with your ex ended for a reason. Moving onto another guy doesnt make what you had with your ex any less meaningful nor does it erase your past with him. And feelings dont just go away overnight. But you owe it to yourself to be happy.
Dont think about the future or a commitment with him. Keep things light hearted, no pressure, and invite him out for a drink. You can both see where this goes.
You can still be friends with your ex whether things work out with this senior or not and you'll soon know if the relationship progresses whether or not hes still into his ex.
Love of my life and all I have is a cd ... help.
Well theres all of the generic stuff like watches, motorbikes (if youre rich haha) etc but if this man is the love of your life then you should know him really well. Get a gift that he would appreciate, something to show you really know him.
Otherwise, perhaps an experience day? If hes an adrenaline junkie get him a skydiving voucher or something more romantic since its valentines day.
Or you could treat him to a sexy surprise such as a sensual massage, lapdance - something just for him!
Well anyways my boyfriend and I broke up about a week ago and we had been together about a month. And I really liked him yet I didnt cry when we broke up. But now I just feel like I need rebound or something to makeout with or something. Ive found a good guy clean and has no strings. Is this normal for someone to do?
You don't seem hurt or otherwise emotional about the break up so i wouldnt say youre compensating. It just seems that you were ready to leave your previous relationship and youre ready to move onto someone else.
Rebounding in general is a normal thing to do but i dont think thats what this is. From what you've described you're simply moving on.
So Ive never had sex with a guy before but I have had boyfriends and we have "fooled around". So its not like Im a prude or something. Ive been a little crazy since I got to college mostly having fun. I have gotten more confident with my body after realizing that it gets me a lot of positive attention. Like Ill wear more revealing clothes and let guys touch me where as before I would not because I lacked confidence. So because of this Ive noticed that guys always ask for sex. But Ive never done it before and I dont want to get pregnant or a disease so I usually just say no. They never really ask me if Im a virgin I guess they assume I just dont want to. But last weekend a guy who I was making out with and doing more stuff with, asked me if I was and I lied and said no because I was embarrassed. He started to pressure me and asked me what I liked in bed and stuff. I couldnt really tell him because I dont know so he told me something he really liked to do that girls like. And Im not sure but I think the tip of his part went inside me. I wasnt drunk. It felt really good and didnt hurt at all. Do you think I should ask him? I sort of stopped him after I realized what was going on and I think he thought it was weird.
I agree with others. You should respect yourself more. You're going to get the reputation of being easy and the kind of men that sleep with eay girls dont respect them. This guy was pressuring you and thats not okay.
Take the time to find someone who actually cares about you and be honest with them. If you have to stop due to pain, if you bleed, he cant go all the way in etc then he's going to figure out that you havent had sex.
Also, if you havent had penetrative sex then youre technically a virgin.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months and he wants to start having sex. Hes not a virgin and really likes sex. We do a lot of other stuff together like oral sex and fingering and he says it feels good but he has been asking for sex for a while now. Im a virgin not for religious or moral reasons but just because I never felt it was right, but Im beginning to think whats the big deal and maybe I should just do it with him already. I mean we play with my toys and he plays with those inside me and he fingers inside me so whats the difference? The only thing my friends tell me is that with sex its harder to cum - is that true? How can I make sure I cum because that seems to be the main things my friends dont like about sex?
Many women find penetration less pleasurable but all it takes is practice and time. Take things slowly and make sure youre aroused. Also take the time to explore your body and what works for you. Everyone is different and it may take a few times to get it right. Try lots of foreplay beforehand. Its all about experience. If you're really ready and you're well informed then go for it. Just remember to relax. If youre not interested, not aroused, tense etc then it wont be pleasurable.
This kid calls my friend wierd and I said how.. Then he replyed by saying have u looked in the mirror lately what's a good comeback to that?
A good comeback is: ignoring him and getting on with your life. So he called your friend ugly. Its not the end of the world. if you give him the attention he'll keep insulting. He's a kid. Just look forward to growing up where most adults dont entertain such childish behaviour. Anyway you calling him names doesnt make you much better than he is, does it?
Okay im 19/f , 5'6 1/2 & i weight 186. I wanna lost 25 to 30 pounds before July, is it possible to so this even if i don't exercise everyday & i eat fast food a few times a week ? I'm not really big its jus really my stomach i wanna loss! Any advice & or technique that could help me reach my goal? Thanks in advance
Nope. Your best bet is to completely cut out the garbage, eat the foods you KNOW that are good for you, reduce your daily calorie intake to around 1800 and exercise atleast 5 days per week.
The heavier you are the faster you'll lose weight before your body slows it down. Exercises that increase the heart rate (cardio) is THEE ultimate fat burner. So aerobic exercises such as running or sports such as football, tennis, or even extreme sports are ideal. Swimming is great as its notonly an aerobic workout but works your muscles too giving your whole body a workout in one.
If you do your homework on nutrition and are consistent in your eating habits and exercise then theres no reason why you cant lose 30lbs before July. But if you expect to keep the weight off then you gotta do the work.
You can start to introduce small (and occasional) treats back into your diet when you've mastered the basics. Look at this not as a diet but a lifestyle change. If you resort to the same patterns youre at now you're gonna end up back where you are now.
Im 10 and im allready trying to kill myself. It feels like my life has ended cause i lost everything that matters to me. It feels like my soul is all darknessn now. I changed and i feel that im like evil now and i want to be alone. I want to kno the quickest and least painful way to die (other than old age).Any kind of magic or anything i cant stand my life any more. I wanted to try if witchcraft would work but i dont have wat i need.
You're ten years old. Being suicidal and having depressive tendencies is not normal, even more so for a person of your age.
We all have made mistakes in life and we all have to go through the emotional and mental process of the consequences of those mistakes. Part of growing up is learning to handle our emotions, deal with situations and learning lessons. Making mistake is how we learn. At your age theres very little you could have done that cant be forgiven.
No matter what age we are, until we die we are constantly maturing and learning - life has so many lessons to teach us. We live in a society if luxury but when it comes down to it life is simply about survival; we have to learn how to stay alive and make a life for ourselves which includes going through the bad things as well as the good.
You are going to grow and as you do you will change dramatically in every way. Deciding who you are right now is now who you will be in ten years time and believe it or not, we have much more control over who we are and what we do in life than we might think.
Things may seem bleak for you just now but things can get better. There are so many people in this world from all different backgrounds and ages who have gone through difficulties and mental illness and come out the other side stronger and happier. There are ofcourse mental illnesses that are terminally inflicted on a person but you are far from being one of them. What you're going through can get better.
You need to talk to your parents or another adult about this that you trust 100%. You cant bear this burden on your own. There are adults that specialise in understanding how your mind, body and emotions work. They can help you understand yourself where you cant. There are many people around you who can help and you have such a bright future ahead of you; you havent even begun to experience what life really is yet. You just gotta let someone in and ask for help.
And, by the way, magic isn't real and there isnt a person on here that would help you commit suicide. Not only is it irresponsible, its against the law.
How do you know if a charity/mission trip agency is reputable and reliable? I have no idea but to check their official website. But isn't all the stuff going to say great things since it's THEIR website?
Most charities will have a registered number to prove they're legitimate
-i am 13 (just turned 13)
- want to get 2 cartdialge, and possibly a tragus
- Q1: i do not want to go to claires b/c most said it was good at all. Their is another place called piering pagoda (i think its called) a keyosk in the mall. im wondering if i should get it there, b/c you can be 13 w/ a guardian to get your cartilage peirced there?
-Q2: 2 or 3 of my friends have gotten their cartiladge at like age 12. so i really want to get one. just wondering where is a place that is professional, sterile, and safe. (obviously not calires) AND someplace that lets 13 yr olds w/ a parent get tragus and cartdilage
-Q3: the place i wanted to go to IS professional place with great reviews, been in buisness since 1990, and is close by. but they say they only do basic lobe piercings from ages 0-14. So thats my only concern. I really want to get tragus and cartildage done, but they will only do both by 14. shold i wait it out? or is it worth getting it some place else?
-Q4: i know for trgus piercing piercers use a needle with a clamp, for cartdilage for being safe and sterile are they suposed to use a needle? b/c i read reveiws where girls got their cartdilage pierced with a gun there, and it was not sterile and caused infenction. (and needed surgery bc i guess some of them, theie top ear was folding over due to shattering...?)
-Q5: LAST Q, MOST IMPORTANT- is it owrth to go to piering pagoda in the mall even if they dont don tragus? should i just wait to go to the rofessional to get all 3 of the pirecings done at once? or is their other places that do cartildilage and tragus at 13 with parent consent? THANK YOU.
Okay, overall answer.
Claire's, and even KIOSK's, aren't really appropriate places to get pierced.
The best thing you can do is go to a professional and well reputable place that specialises in body modification with the consent of your parents.
There's a reason why there's an age limit. Theres also a reason why Claire's and the like do not implement these age limits.
Needles are indeed best for CARTILAGE as they are more hygienic and guns have been known to injure cartilage. Also the gun forces the earring through your ear which increases chances of tightness around the piercing which can result in swelling and infection.
With a needle the piercer chooses the appropriate gauge and once pierced the needle is immediately removed followed by a plastic insertion which keeps the piercing open for the piercer to insert the jewellery.
Just because your friends have it done early doesnt mean you should as well. We are not sheep, you have a mind of your own. If parents want to risk having their kids pierced in less then professional establishments instead of waiting the necessary year or two by law, thats their prerogative.
If you really want the piercings and have considered the long term then waiting until the appropriate age shouldn't be a problem. It's only a year. You're also best waiting between piercings to let them properly heal. The professionals will also advise this.
17/f
So my boyfriend's parents disapprove of me. Why? They thought I didn't want to interact or become a part of their family. They kept telling my boyfriend that, and he kept trying to make me visit them. Yes, I do believe it's my fault. Before we started dating, I worked at a restaurant as a hostess. His family would always go there to eat, his mom was always happy, but whenever I saw his dad he always frowned. The owner of the restaurant knew the family personally, and they found out that I liked the oldest brother (boyfriend), and the owner told me the dad was scary. So that got me quite nervous. When we started dating, I wanted to make a good impression, I really liked him. I wanted to get my hair cut (my bangs was covering half my face), I wanted to dress nicely. But what was also difficult, was that I went to school full time and I worked 24 hours/week. My boyfriend kept telling me, that to them... Looks do not matter, as long as I'm myself and I go as how I am.
But I kept getting nervous about it, he has a family of 8. His dad was a doctor, my parents put pressure on me. And the thing is, I never learned how to use chopsticks. I was raised to use a fork, my mom never placed chopsticks in my hands before... I thought it would make me look terrible, because his 5 year old sister knows how to use it. He was family oriented, I wasn't. Our family was completely different, my family is poor or middle class, and his dad is a doctor. They have high expectations of their children. My parents, just want my sister and I to look for happiness.
So, it took me a month to see them. I automatically liked the mom, but I was still uncomfortable around his family. I was really shy. His siblings never smiled at me, other than the younger sister. His brother always disliked me. And when I met his dad, he didn't smile, and I had this vibe that he didn't like me. So I felt more uncomfortable. I worked at the mall, so I didn't get off work until 9 so I wouldn't be home until 9:30 PM, I went to work right after school. And the other times I would use to go study for school. Him and I thought that it would be disrespectful to go over and visit late, because that would be the time that he would have my boyfriend send me home, and all of the children would go to sleep.
So now, basically... His parents don't like me anymore. His mom told his dad not to judge because they didn't know what was going on, but then later on, his mom started disliking me. So we broke up once because he was getting so much pressure, but we got back together later on. And he hid it from his parents, but now he's tired of it.
I told him that I would try to win their approval again. I said nothing is impossible, it would be hard, but I'm willing to go through hell with him to get their approval. And if it doesn't work out in the end, at least he would know that I tried. I said that, it's always going to be like that, someone will always disapprove of their significant other but at the end, they're bound to be happy for that person because they're happy. He told me that he was too family oriented to do that, and that he honestly can't see me become part of his family. I'm hurt, I really am.
I know I screwed up from before, there's not a day where it doesn't pass my mind about it. I made this mess, and I want to clean it up. I don't want his family to be the reason why we break up, because there are times where I still wanted to see them, but he kept me away because he thinks there's nothing that can be done. I told him it's better them knowing about us, then him lying to them.
What should I do? What should I tell him to have him realize it will work out?
Its really great thaat your partners family is so important to him. However he seems to be putting all of the pressure on you. It's important to him that you and his family get on but chances are thats not going to happen if they dont put in the effort.
Most of the family simply hasnt made the effort and disliked you from day one. If anything's going to happen then hes got to talk to his family about this too.
You could try another dinner or perhaps something less formal such as a trip out where everyone has the potential to just have a good time.
There's been many things you have done to try to make his family like you and they just dont seem interested. They need to learn to like you for who you are so dont try to pretend to be anything else. If they want to go by their lives on social status thats upto them.
Your boyfriend could also be much more supportive. He doesnt seem to be fighting for you and even though his family is important to him, he shouldnt end things with you when you really havent done anything wrong. If you're that important to him then he should be making more of an effort.
I've been friends with this boy for 2 1/2 years && i've liked him for 2.! He says im like his sister && sometimes he acts like he likes me.! He told me the only reason he is moving is because his girlfriend just broke up with him && he loves her.! At his birthday party, he picked me up && spun me around.! I don't if he likes me or not.! I want to tell him now incase he feels the same && don't move.! But im scared if I do now && he don't like me like that, then i'll feel stupid.! But I am gonna tell him, I just don't know when.! Will someone help.?
From what you've described there isn't really anything to suggest that he likes you romantically which is further exacerbated by the fact that your friend is MOVING because hes in love with his ex girlfriend.
Having a crush on a friend is normal but do you really want to jeopardise his chances with someone he loves over a crush?
As a good friend who cares about someone should, you need to put your feelings aside and support him in this decision. He may get the woman he loves back.
If he comes back without her then see where youre at then Give him time to grieve and if you still feel the same way about him then then talk to him about it and see where he stands.
The choice is ultimately yours but dont go into this with rose tinted eyes.
I have adjusted my diet to be hopefully more nutritious as I exercise. I also started consuming small portions of African Mengos since I had heard they help you burn body fat. My problem is, I am still sore two to three days after a workout. I consume about 80 grams of protein everyday. Is the consumption of Mengo and protein counter-productive?
Its not your diet. When you do muscle enhancing exercises, microscopic tears form and when your body repairs them your muscles compensate for the extra weight with growth. Especially if you havent exercised your muscles much in a while, they can still ache for even a week if youre that unfit.
When your body is used to that exercise you'll find that you wont get these aches anymore unless you increase the level of the exercise eg going from pressing 20kg weight to 40kg weights.
Dont worry about it. Just dont overdo it and give your muscles atleast 24 hours to rest.
my boyfriend is going to US. We've been together for 1 year and 6 months. And I really don't know what to do If he left me. What will I do?
I think its time to re evaluate our relationship.
Is he moving through choice or without? Is your relationship strong enough to sustain a long distance relationship? Will you still be able to see eachother more than once a year?
If you answer 'no' to any of these questions then perhaps you need to think whether its time to move on from the relationship - possibly settling as friends - and find someone closer to home.
so my bf and i have been gng out for awhile and everytime he comes to kiss me like french kiss i get all nervous and pull away and its starting to worry him. i know its stupid but its also starting to worry me..... any ideas????????
It's normal to be nervous in doing things we have no experience in. But there's only one way you're going to be confident about it and that's simply by practice. Instead of diving into the deep end start by giving him soft and sensual closed mouth kisses and as you feel more comfortable in doing so you can go a little further. It comes naturally. All you have to do is feel it. You'll feel the time is right so just let it happen naturally. D'ont force it.
Ok so hey everyone 13/f so I like this guy and he is one year older than me 14 and he don't know me or anything and I tried texting him and I said my name and that we were friends on facebook. Well then he never answered back. The other day I tried texting him and he wouldn't answer me either, I'm not even sure he knows what I look like but the wierd thing is that at school he looks at my table, and our eyes have met a couple of times, and one day like every two seconds he would look over were I was. So he does stuff like that but he don't know me, so I just need help I don'r get it. Thanks(:
He could be playing games with you or something simple like you got the wrong number! Either way texting a guy doesnt really shout 'confidence', does it? Go upto him at lunch time and introduce yourself. You'll soon know if helikes you or not. Whatever happened to getting to know eachother outwith technology?
my friend (16/f) cheated on her boyfriend at some point when they were going out and he recently found out and dumped her. i want to comfort her and be a good friend, but i don't know what to say to make her feel better. i've tried all the basics; "give him time, try to talk to him, apologize, don't worry about it, first days the hardest," etc. but she's still a mess. she was there for me when i was going through a breakup, but the difference between now and then was that my breakup wasn't my fault, the dude i was with just lost interest and it shocked me. this was her fault. she cheated on him with his best friend and thought he'd never find out. (i just found out about it, as well. she pretty much lied to everyone) i told her she messed up big time, but i don't feel like nagging her until she heals more. what should i do/say?
A person can only help themselves. She made her bed and now she must lie in it. As a friend the best thing you can do is let her know you're there for her be it to talk, distract her or just to sit and do nothing with.
If she doesnt want to talk just give her some space and check in with her from time to time just to tell her that youre still there for her.
She has to go through this emotional process before she can move on. We all make mistakes and we all suffer for them but it's how we learn.
There's a guy that I really like, but there's a problem. I had sex with him way too soon, as in the first date. We knew each other from high school and it was the night before he left for 5 months (He's in the military). I stayed in contact with him for the entire time he's been gone so far (1 month). Things aren't where I want them to be. He tells me he thinks about me and he likes me, but other than that he's not really affectionate. He doesn't call me "baby" or anything and I always text/call him first. He's coming back home for the weekend. We've planned on spending the night he gets back together...but I want to take that back. I want to be more than his friend, and right now I feel like I'm just a sex buddy. Should I try to talk to him about slowing down and changing things or should I just stop talking to him?
We've all been through similar situations but he clearly is interested in you which is a good sign.
The first thing you have to ask yourself before going any further is whether or not youre prepared to potentially become serious with a man in the military? He will be constantly training when he's not deployed, when he is deployed he'll be away for long periods of time, he could develop psychological or physical issues and he wont be around so much. Before anything you need to consider this first.
Not to mention when you commit yourself to the military its not something you do lightly. If youre risking your life for a job then it has to be very important to you. For many of these men, their job comes first.
Your initial instincts were right. Take this chance while he's here and talk to him about the both of you. What you expect from eachother be it friendship or otherwise as well as the reality of your situation. You'll never solve anything without communication.
I'm 15 and a girl my boyfriend says we been dating along time And it's true he says we should take our relationship to he next level and to him that means getting intamite I'm not sure what to do out of my friends I'm still the only virgin
No one can tell you which path is the right one. The only person that can answer that is you.
Losing your virginity is pretty anxiety provoking for most in terms of what to expect from your body physically, your emotions involved, expectations, affects on the relationship etc so these are all things that you must consider upon making this decision. Do you know how to have safe sex? Can you 100% trust your partner -is he even the person you want to lose your virginity to? Are you prepared for the consequences should there be any? Are you well informed and ready to accept the responsibilities that comefrom having sex?
These are all things you must consider but before all else you need to ask yourself if youre ready. Its not a logical decision but an emotional one. You'll feel deep down whether or not you're ready to start having sex therefore the answer to your question is entirely one you can only answer yourself.
Your partner has said that he's ready and you need to know for sure if you are as well. If you are then great. Discuss it with eachother in terms of protection, any concerns etc. If not then tell him and ask him to wait until you're ready. If he really cares for you then he will never pressure you into it when youre not ready. And if he's not okay with waiting then atleast you'll know that you didnt waste your first time on him.