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My boyfriend wants me us to get more serious
I'm 15 and a girl my boyfriend says we been dating along time And it's true he says we should take our relationship to he next level and to him that means getting intamite I'm not sure what to do out of my friends I'm still the only virgin
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Like any other first time, it's about you and whether you're ready for it.
If you feel like you (not your boyfriend YOU) are ready to have sex, then that's great. (Now you just have to figure out how having sex fits in with your religion/morals/whatever)
If you don't feel like you're ready, then don't.
Just because your friends have lost their virginity doesn't mean it's the right time for you. It might not have been the right time for them but perhaps they didn't consider the decision the way you are doing. They might even be jealous of you for holding out. (But they are never going to tell you this until you're 25)
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please dont do it if your not ready!
all of my friends had sex around 15 and they say they regretted it so much and they wish they waited. dont do anything just because you friends do it. if your boyfriend treats you amazing and loves you for you and you both are bestfreinds then its your descision but if you have an unstable relationship and he doesnt treat you good and you think he will just use you. then please wait.
i hope i helped!
if you have questions just ask
-xoxo Juju
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I found the following website, found at bottom of this page) while answering a very similar question for another young lady. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than your partner is at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman must always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, comfortable, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent and I believe at 15 you are s little young to be engaging in sexual intercourse. I am sure your parents have already given you this advice and it is good advice. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urge without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is general apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. These forms of sex should be adequate for now to satisfy both you and your boyfriend without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
Before you make your decision review the website I have included below:
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No one can tell you which path is the right one. The only person that can answer that is you.
Losing your virginity is pretty anxiety provoking for most in terms of what to expect from your body physically, your emotions involved, expectations, affects on the relationship etc so these are all things that you must consider upon making this decision. Do you know how to have safe sex? Can you 100% trust your partner -is he even the person you want to lose your virginity to? Are you prepared for the consequences should there be any? Are you well informed and ready to accept the responsibilities that comefrom having sex?
These are all things you must consider but before all else you need to ask yourself if youre ready. Its not a logical decision but an emotional one. You'll feel deep down whether or not you're ready to start having sex therefore the answer to your question is entirely one you can only answer yourself.
Your partner has said that he's ready and you need to know for sure if you are as well. If you are then great. Discuss it with eachother in terms of protection, any concerns etc. If not then tell him and ask him to wait until you're ready. If he really cares for you then he will never pressure you into it when youre not ready. And if he's not okay with waiting then atleast you'll know that you didnt waste your first time on him.
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Before you have sex you should make sure that you're ready. To me, you don't seem like one of those ready candidates because you're asking if you should do it. Talk to your boyfriend about it and tell him that you're not ready to get intimate, if he really cares about you he'll wait until you are. If he still continues to pressure you to have sex with him then dump him because obviously he doesn't deserve you then.
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