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I'm 15 and a girl my boyfriend says we been dating along time And it's true he says we should take our relationship to he next level and to him that means getting intamite I'm not sure what to do out of my friends I'm still the only virgin (link)
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Like any other first time, it's about you and whether you're ready for it.
If you feel like you (not your boyfriend YOU) are ready to have sex, then that's great. (Now you just have to figure out how having sex fits in with your religion/morals/whatever)
If you don't feel like you're ready, then don't.
Just because your friends have lost their virginity doesn't mean it's the right time for you. It might not have been the right time for them but perhaps they didn't consider the decision the way you are doing. They might even be jealous of you for holding out. (But they are never going to tell you this until you're 25)
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all of the people i care about and love in this world use me and i don't have the gall to tell them off. my boyfriend uses me for sex and ignores me thoughout the week, forgets our plans, doesn't give two shits about me. he was supposed to come over monday but forgot and never called. his way of apologizing for that was poking me on facebook. my friend uses me to get weed. and when not that, cigarettes. besides that, she thinks i'm the dumbest person on this planet and basically backhands me all the time (metaphorically) by insulting me. another friend only hangs out with me when she has something serious going on and needs someone who is willing to listen to hours of bullshit while smoking all of that poor person's cigarettes!!!
I'M SO TIRED OF ALL OF IT. i'm not talking to any of these people right now, but i know i probably will in a few days. i really care about all of these people, deeply. but i won't be taken advantage of anymore. i'm graduating in a few months and i have half the mind to move across the country without telling any of them. i can't believe i've put up with all this for so long. my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years, known eachother 4. the first friend i've known for 4 years, and my other friend i've known for 13 years. what should i do? (link)
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You know, I think you're bang on the money with the moving across the country thing.
In the mean time, yes, dump your boyfriend. Sounds like the only difference will be no sex, which can be tolerated. It still might hurt, even though you know he's not got your best interests in mind, but breaking up sucks. Even when it's got it coming.
My second thought is to read all the Ms.Manners you can and start using her advice on your mooching friend. I would tell you to stop smoking weed, but that's a bit presumptuous. If that's doable for you, do it, if it's not, then don't.
In the mean time, start saying you're out, or that you don't have the cash to top up your weed stash.
As for your stormy weather friend... I want to tell you to block her, ignore the tar out of her, but I have no idea about her. Maybe she's got some serious shit going on and just can't see beyond her own circumstances to see how much she's hurting you.
Honesty is a great policy, but you have to have the balls to do it. If you think you can tell all these people in your life that you are seriously upset with their treatment of you, then do it. But make sure that after you tell them how you feel and what they need to stop doing, you hold them to it.
If your friend comes over and starts talking trash, tell her, "Hey lady, I told you that I wasn't going to put up with this. Now shut up or get out."
Harsh? A bit... but you need to put yourself first. That's the first rule of living. Keep yourself happy and healthy, and when you're in that place you can help others.
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