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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!

If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).

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there is this boy i rly love ...and he asked this other girl out. i was so upset about this that i became anerexic for awhile.
can u please help me figure out how 2 get over him!
thx,
anonomous

You became anorexic? Wow, when I feel rejected, I stuff myself full of chocolate and ice cream and all sorts of other disgusting foods. Though this isn't good for me... well, sugar and caffeine are like a mood booster.

Tonight I'm going to the movies with a bunch of my friends and the guy I like happens to be coming. I want to flirt a little, get a seat near him & maybe even ask him out after. How should I do this? I'm 15 and a female.

-mae

Try stealing some of his food. Lol, it works for me. If he's anything like any of the guys I know, he'll try and get it back from you. It's a cute, hunger-satisfying way of flirting...

If it's a horror movie, you could pretend to get scared, (or actually get scared) and burrow your head into his arm. You could pretend to be tired, and lean on his shoulder. Or you could pretend to be cold, and he'll either put his arm around you, or give you his jacket... or be daring! Kiss him on the cheek in a random scene during the movie. If you want to wind up next to him, just make sure you're in that order when filing in for movie seats.

As for asking him out, well, just say whatever pops into your mind. "I like you.. and I was wondering if you liked me too?" somethin like that. He'll tell you how he feels, and if he says he likes you, there's a good chance he'll ask you out.

ok...i think im really shy around gus and stuff...everyone tells me im really pretty and no guys like me. so whats a way to get a guys attention?

Guys like courage. At least, that's what I've learned. I just call myself a coward until finally I get up enough guts to talk to them... but that might not be the best method. If you're too shy to even talk to a guy.. there are some ways to get his attention. Like, try and catch his eye, then when you do, give him a smile, or blush.. make a comment to a friend loud enough so he can hear it (about something that he's interested in).. if he's not too shy, he might say that he likes it too.

Out of all of those choices, I find the easiest way to get a guys attention is to talk to them... so just try it!

I went out with this guy named Chris.We were talking and relized that we were not going to see each other this summer. Since i was going to be gone for most of the summer. So i said to him that we could be friends. But i also think about him all the time. Waiting for him to get online. I think i still like him and i think that he still likes me. But i don't know if i should give it another try or let it go. And just be friends with him? Please help me. My e-mail is mandabear1321@aol.com or mandabear1321@ yahoo.com.

Well, you really have to think about this. I've had break ups that happened because of summer too (one of them I actually really regret)... and the only way you can decide this is to think of how much the relationship meant to both of you. And if it can last through the summer.

There are ways to keep in contact with him. You can write letters (possibly call? or IM?.. that is if you're not going to camp)... keep in mind, that this means the both of you will have to put extra effort in to make this work, but it could be worth it...

How do you get guys to notice you without making a complete fool of yourself?

According to my guy friends and my own past experience trying to get guys to notice me:

-Smile. a lot.
-Wear nice, but kind of tight clothing.
-Playing with your hair
-Looking over.
-Be Loud.
-Talk to/flirt with them.

6 of the many things girls do to get guys to notice them, without making a fool out of themselves. Though making a fool out of yourself seems to work... most guys find it amusing.

ok well my ex (name not needed#1) asked me out again and ive been with this other guy (name not needed#2)#1 is so nice and hes cared for me so much but ther both my ex'es and i dont know what to do so please help from your advice #2 is kind of mean to me but he kisses me with passion #1 is kind of slow on that and ive waited for him for 9 months we've been together then we broke up. now im confused if they were one person they would be SUPER GUY! and they dont know each other but they heard about each other from my firneds and they hate each other! I need help please.im thirteen and im female

Unless thier love for each other turns to hate, and one of them can get pregnant, I don't think superguy will exist. Lol, sorry had to get that one out of my system. If you can't choose between them, I think it signals that you truly don't like either one of them. You like parts about them, but want them both, well, to be more like the other. But, to be honest, I can't really answer this for you...

One option is you could choose which one you like best, then talk about improvements with him (nicer attitude, moving faster)...

My own experience with exes and re-dating is that it's stupid. But that's not always the outcome for everyone, so do as you please. But keep in mind, you can't find the future in the past.

I really like this guy. But he's too shy to ask me out and I have to ask him if I was this to work. How do I ask him out? What should I say?

It sounds like you're both shy.. so maybe go for a casual approach? Like, in a huge group of friends type thing... that's what I would do anyway. Just say "Hey.. me and my friends were thinking of going to watch a movie this weekend.. do you want to come?"

Or if you're asking him to be your boyfriend, just do it in person, say it fast, and if you're really uncomfortable don't look at him. Alls you'd really have to say is "I like you." ..he should get the hint after that.

14/f
At like the middle of the school year, I noticed this guy who would always stare at me. I've totally fallen for him. He stares at me every day, and sometimes when I look back he has like a weird smile on his face. When ever I stand by him I can see him blushing. It's almost the end of school and I want to let him know that I like him. I'm really shy so if I could get my friends to help that would work out better. Any suggestions?

Okay, sorry, I have to say it: AWW!

Now, to seriously answer your question, if you're really shy, then maybe you should write him a note telling him you like him. Or get your friends to just straight out tell him. Or you could call him, or IM him. There are so many ways you can tell him. But if you want him to really remember it...

Run up to him after class and give him a hug (or a kiss...), then whisper "I like you." in his ear. Then run away!! I always thought that would be so cute... or you could write that you like him in his yearbook, or on his hand. Or even on his binder, or something...

I like this boy but i think he likes this other girl...but i also think he likes me...he knows i like him but still flirts wit the other girl...i mean i even told him that i liked him on the phon cause he asked me if i liked him and i said yea...but the only thing is that the other girl is one of thoes nasty lil girls that all the boys want because she will do anything...and im not like that...what should i do..i mean i think i love him...i know i love him but i think he likes the other girl
thankx
~in love~
~but confused~

I don't think you truly love him. Love is usually requited. If he knows you like him, but isn't doing anything about it... well, you should strongly hint that you're going to take your interests elsewhere (even if you don't seriously plan to).... If he thinks he can have both you and this girl, he's wrong. And if he does like this other girl, it's probably for only one thing... or to get only one thing.

Try asking him how he feels about you. Or, even just ask him who he likes. If it's not you.. well, I'd move on. But that's up to you.

well i met this guy about a month ago and i didn't see him to now and we really had fun hangin out together...but he's not a good kisser :\ i guess cuz it was his first time but how do i tell him without makin us both feel stupid ??

I wouldn't tell him.. no matter what you say, it will make you both feel stupid... you had fun hanging out with him, and you like him. That's what's important in a relationship. Maybe you could try to like.. teach him... without saying you're teaching him... for this one, go with the cliche (as suggested by the other advice person): practice makes perfect.

I*ve been going out with this guy for a little over 2 months now, and i really like him...but we dont ever see each other. We go to different schools, and we live one & a half hours away from each other. I see him when i go to my moms, every other weekend..but i dont think thats enough! Summers almost here and i*m gonna be at my moms house all summer, so i*ll be able to see him but people tell me that hes cheating on me and lying to me. I dont know what to do!!......

Hm... well, you could talk to him on AIM and on the phone a lot. Don't be like a stalker or anything, just keep in better contact with him. Don't jump to conclusions about what people are saying. Question yourself what thier motives would be, and how trustworthy they are. And, if you come to the conclusion that one could be jealous, are the people who are telling you this all friends? If so, they could all be in it together...

It sounds like you'll find out soon enough anyway. If you're going to be at your mom's house all summer, then you'll notice if he slips up or flirts with other girls, and you're bound to catch him at something if he is cheating. So, for now, just play detective.......

Okay so I like this guy who just happend to be one of my best frineds and Ive only been hanging out with him for a month so its sort of sudden. Anyway about two days ago we got kind of close on the couch. It was in more then a friend way. We didnt kiss or anything but we have as a dare. The thing is we havent really talked since. Like he IMed me saying hey and whats up? but thats it then he was just like Cant talk. so I dont know what to do any ideas? And dont say talk to him becasue thats what Im trying to aviod.

Sorry, but that is something you can't avoid if you want to save the friendship. If he couldn't talk, then he probably really couldn't talk (unless he's been doing this multiple times)... At least he made an effort to get into contact with you. Try returning it.

If you don't want to literally talk to him... try giving him a note. Leave it in his locker, or some place he'd be sure to find it (Most lockers are REALLY messy..) I think maybe you should tell him how you feel about him. Cause it sounds like he feels the same way. But that's just my opinion..

Okay everyone i realized that he is nervous..John told me thats what he told him. But your comments did help except for the one about seeing a WOMANS ACTIVIST! Well,anyways i guess im gonna ask another question..

Where should we go for our next date??

we have already been to the movies twice and the mall and the park ... lol you can only do so much in this small town of mine!

I live in a small town too, so here are some places I've been taken to:

-Bowling Lane
-Ice skating Rink
-Roller skating Rink
-My old Elementary School
-Fairs
-His house. Lol, kind of scary..
-Local pool

Yea, my town sucks..

Okay, two friends Brooke and Anne. Anne likes Eddie, and Eddie likes Brooke, and Brooke and Anne and me are great freinds. Thing is, all Anne ever does is talk about Eddie, and when Brooke and Anne and Eddie are online in a little "buddy chat" Eddie will say that Anne is pretty, and funny, and then outside of the "buddychat" he will i/m (instant message) Brooke and say, "she's not pretty, She's not funny" its so horrible. Now, all Anne says is that she really likes Eddie, but Eddie likes Brooke. All the time she talks about him, and she always asks questions like, do I look okay, and do you really think he likes me? and I always say yes, but its like I have two people telling me things, one through each ear. Anyways, heres the huge part, Anne and Eddie are going to be working together this summer, as life guards. And, so Anne thinks she has a shot with him. Now, two nights ago, Eddie and Brooke went to the movies, and they made out. Anne would NEVER make out with anyone. But Brooke wont go past that. I know this is really confusing, but they both come to me about it. And Anne and her boyfriend recently broke up, so Brooke and me think thats why she likes Eddie, because its the first guy that she thought of after they broke up. At first, the first time i had heard of Eddie was through Brooke, she was going to bring him to six flags with me and My boyfriend. But now Anne likes him. and she says that he asked her out in 6th grade but she said she had to think about it. last weekend, Brooke, Anne and I went to a movie, and Eddie was there, and Brooke was very social, and was striking up and conversation, and Anne wasnt, she just said hi, and was asking me if she looked okay. So I dont know what to do any more.

Any sugestions? Brooke and I know we have to tell Anne, but we have dropped every hint, and I even told her that we think its because her and her boyfriend broke up, and that she should stop liking him. she asked me the other day what I did when i liked a guy that didnt like me back, and i said just move on, and i told her that was the story of my life, until now, i have a great boyfriend, and Brooke and Anne both wish they had a guy like him- we've been together over 15 months!- anyways, and i toled her it was pretty much the story if every other girls life too!

Help Please!
I Know you guys hate these types of questions!
Sorry, I tried to make it as least confusing as possible, but it is confusing enough to live.
Thank you guys so much in advance!!

-KeLsA-

:)

if it matters, I will rate and leave feedback! :)

thanks!!!!

I think your friends have ranked more annoying than mine... Congradulations? Um, okay. This is a delicate situation, but personally, I'd be frank with Anne about it. Tell her that Eddie doesn't like her, and that he does like Brooke. (Leave out the part about them making out, unless she still, for some reason, thinks she has a chance. And keep in mind, that this might make her mad at Brooke)... it doesn't sound like Brooke actually wants to officially date Eddie or anything, so, as long as she doesn't do that, there should be no real problem between Anne and Brooke. Anne might get jealous, but it's better for her to be jealous than truly heart broken again. And the longer you don't tell Anne, the more upset she'll be when she finds out.

Anne is probably picking up on the hints already, just refusing to believe them. And if Eddie keeps saying these things about her, then it could be percieved as him flirting. Maybe get Brooke to tell Eddie to stop doing that. Not for him to be mean or anything, just like not say that she's pretty or whatever else... if she asked you what to do when a guy didn't like you back, it pretty much means she's picked up on the fact that Eddie doesn't like her. Even if she gets really hurt or upset when you tell her, it's better now than in the long run...

okay im 16and me and my boyfriend have been goin out 4 2 years now we had a massive argument da ova day and he put a knife to my throat and ses he would kill me if i shouted at him like that again i really like him thought and he dont always act like that but now im scared just to have an argument with him ive talked 2 him about it and he ses im being stupid bt i dont wana break up with him what do i do?

Break up with him, and if he threatens to do anything threaten to call the police. Carry your cellphone with you at all times!! This creep shouldn't be tolerated. If you want to get him into trouble for what he's done, or are afraid he will do something to you, call the police.

And I'm sorry you still have feelings for him, and don't want to break up with him... but do you really want to set yourself up for that? What if you get hurt? And I'm not just talking about him breaking your heart...

so I've never been kissed but pretty soon its gonna happen and well, will he know? I dont wanan tell him just because its kinda embarassing. But can he tell? !! thanks.

Usually guys can tell when you're about to kiss them. When I had my first kiss, I was really short (still am) and I couldn't reach him! Even on my toes! So he had to bend down and kiss me... most guys know when you're about to kiss them. It's just an instinct.

Well I met this guy. He is a year younger than me but he really likes me. He is my cousins best friend. I like him just not a whole lot I hate it when he calls me b/c he gets on my nerves alot. He only gets on my nerves because he acts shy around me and he doesn't what to talk about. Do you think that I should give him a chance or what?

The guy is shy.. he could get over it, with a little help from you. The more open you are, the more open he'll be. He's nervous because he wants to make a good impression, and is worried about what you think of him.

In my opinion, I'd say at least give him a chance! If you like him, then go out with him. Even if you're not completely obsessed with him, it's not that big of a deal. Usually, dating brings people closer together, and helps your feelings for him grow stronger and clearer.

hey (im a 14 yr. old girl)
i think i like my best guy friend who i've know since i was 3. the complicated thing is that im a twin and he used to like her. how do i know if he likes me or my identicle twin?

That would suck... that's why I'm glad my blood-sisters are 7 and 24. Ok, well if he likes you, he'll probably show it somehow. Treat you especially nice, or something... maybe you should tell your twin if she doesn't already know, because she might be able to help you find out/ tell you something.

Just because you and your twin look exactly alike, doesn't mean that your personalities are exactly alike. As long as his crush wasn't recent, there's a good chance he doesn't like her anymore.

hi, i'm chloe

This boy asked me to go out with him as in be in a girlfriend, boyfriend thing. I wanted to say yes but said no instead because, I wasn't sure I knew how to be someones girlfriend and would like more to go out on a couple of dates with him than start a relationship. But my friend had set the whole "asking me out thing" up, so I'd have a boyfriend and is now saying "he's probably the only boy who'll ever like you" which is making me regret doing it.But I'll look stupid if I ask him out now plus he's being a bit out of order to me at the moment. What should I do?

Wow.. what a nice thing for your friend to say. But I won't get into that matter. As for this guy, go out on a couple dates with him. It's okay if you want to get to know him better than automatically jump into a relationship. But if you think you are, then maybe you should inform him of that? Tell him you like him, he asked you out, so chances are he likes you too. And wouldn't mind going out with you TOO much, since you apparently will never find anyone else. (I'M KIDDING!!)

ok so im in 10 grade and this guy is in 12th.
He has a myspace and so i.
On my space he like always talks to me and like flirts with me. But during Classes he acts like im not there and ignores me. Our school i VERY small so we like see each other like more then 6 times a day. And like i think he likes me but im not sure cause he ignores me and doesnt talk to me at all unless we are on hte internet. so do you think he likes me ? i hope he does cause he is hella fine...

I don't know whether or not he likes you. But maybe you should try to say hi to him in school or something. He may be different online than in person, but you might as well try to get to know him. Tell him you want to hang out some time or something.

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