my b/f and i broke up nearly a month ago, it was because he was working away a lot so we didnt get to see eachother so much. he said he wanted to think about getting back together i was very patient with him, i didnt contact him first, he always contacted me. but it got to the point where i just couldnt wait for him to play his games anymore, so i told him i hope he can make up his mind soon because i wouldnt wait forever for him. i do really love him but i just cant go on like this i needed an answer. do you think this was a good move or not?
I think that was a perfectly acceptable thing to say. You shouldn't have to wait around for him to make up his mind. However, I would have to agree that if he has to "think about" getting back together with you, then he's obviously having some doubts about it, which could cause problems if you two did end up giving the relationship another try.
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my bf touches bites on and kisses my ears..and i reallllllly like it. normal or weird? anyone else have like it too?
100% normal. I know more people who like that than people that don't. In fact, I don't think I know anyone personally that doesn't like it.
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
First off, I know how frustrating situations like this can be, and I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm not really sure if you've came right out and told him that you've seen the group and what was said or not, but if you haven't, that should be your first step. Let him know that you value your privacy and you don't think certain things are okay to be put online, especially without your permission. If you have told him, and he still denies it, then that could be a big problem. Relationships aren't good if there's no trust, and if he's not being honest with you, it'll be pretty much impossible to trust him (and you have every right not to). Sit him down and tell him you've already seen the group and the things he's written, so he needs to just be honest with you. If he still won't tell you the truth, it may be time to really think about whether or not you want to be with someone who's going to lie to you all the time.
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Okay so i just started a new job this is my second week and well long story but this lady told me this guy at work thought i was cute which i thought he was cute also so he found out i said he was cute and well weve been talking at work and he asked for my number and he said he called my phone well i work with him tomorrow and that was 3 days ago when we last worked that he asked for my number and we havent text/call each other since,so i was wondering did he want me to text or call him first since he called my phone to send me his number or was he supposed to call or text me first? im so confused what does this mean? lol so confused thanks!
If he called your phone with the purpose of sending you his number, I would think that he's probably expecting you to call or text him. Give it time and he may end up calling/texting you, but I personally don't see it as desperate if you were to call or text him first. If you want to get the ball rolling, a simple text of "hey, what's up?" or something along those lines won't seem desperate at all, and he may just be waiting for you to make the first move.
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My boyfriend & I have been together for a couple years (& now we live together) but we broke up for a couple months last year and I was with someone else for the whole time we were broken up. We were together every single day and I liked him alot but I ended up getting back together w/ my boyfriend. Since me & him got back together I havent talked to my ex, or whatever you would call him, at allll..but I think about him alot & I feel bad aboutt it but I cant help it? I dream about him alot too..like in my dreams were always so happy to see eachother & its nice but then when I wake up I just miss him and I always wonder if he thinks of me too? I know this whole thing probably sounds retarded but idk what to do & Im not asking if I should get back w/ him bc I wouldnt..I mean I love my boyfriend & I wouldnt do that but do I need closure or something? Should I see him or talk to him? I just dont want to keep thinking of him everyday or dreaming about him I feel kinda guilty..
First, you may want to sit down & really think about what you want. Are you completely happy with your boyfriend, or do you find yourself wanting to be with your ex more?
If you do decide to stay with your boyfriend, it may not be the best idea to try to contact your ex. I met up with an ex once, because I thought I needed closure, but it did more harm than good. It just made me think about him more, & caused some major problems with the guy I was dating at the time. I completely understand what you mean, though. It is really hard to miss someone so much, but you need to decide if it's really worth the risk. Over time, the feelings won't be as strong.
If you do feel the need to talk to him again, you should really talk to your boyfriend about it first to make sure he'd be okay with it.
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im afraid to ask my love ones if im depressed... but i guess i am becuase well three years ago my mom died when i was 13...and i feel sad all the time and i miss her badly...my dad remarried four months after my mom died and omg! she is the worst step mother ever! she always trying to muniputlate me its terrible but i guess i learned to live with it...but shes not the problem i think...the last days of school my friends got mad at me becuase i couldnt go hang out with them one day so they treated me badly on the last days of school and now i feel alone and hurt...all summer i was dredding to go back to school becuase i think i would have to make new friends so my step mother was giving me a hard time about it and my dad is planning to divorce her after i graduate so that helps...but now i dont want to deal with anything anymore...at these times i wish my mom was here to comfort me and give me advice...so i have been missing her terribly and pretty sad about it all summer and now i dont wanna deal with highschool anymore and i feel like the only way out of all this is dieing...but i dont have the guts to do it thank god!but is all these things signs of depression? im 16 and a girl so maybe its emotional problems...but im pretty stressed out about all this..
I won't go as far as saying it's depression yet, but you are in an extremely stressful situation, so the way you're feeling is understandable. I can almost guarantee that you won't feel this way forever. You've got your whole life ahead of you, don't end it now. I know it's hard, but you just have to keep your head up and try not to let it get you down. It would probably be a really good idea to talk to someone about the way you're feeling, possibly a school counselor or therapist.
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My boyfriend and I are really horny and want to have sex. We haven't yet because we're young and I don't want to be a teenage mom. We've talked about it a lot and he's so afraid of getting me pregnant so I totally understand.
I was thinking about still having sex with him but during my period so it's like impossible to get pregnant. He is all for it and is really excited about it. :)
The problem is that the blood will probably make a mess, I'm guessing. I figured we could do it in the shower though and then everything would work out fine and the blood can just wash down the drain. I think this might sound pretty sexy and we can make it fun with the water.
Is that safe to do though? And will there be like LOTS and LOTS of blood or just a little bit? I need to know what to expect here...
You can still get pregnant when you're on your period, so if you want to have sex, you need to use protection. The amount of blood will really depend on your period. I would recommend doing it on a "light" day if you're worried about a mess.
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well this girl ive liked for a long time finnaly dumped her bf for me and weve been going outfor a couple hours and this girl ive liked a longer time said shes dumping her bf and that she likes me and think me and the girl im going out with will only say together about 1 or 2 weeks so i want her to dump me so i wnt be like a jerk and that she wont talk to me and never go out again . please hep. i need advice . i really dont know what to do.
If you really don't want to be with this girl, and would rather be with the other girl instead, you need to be the one to break up with her. Trying to get her to break up with you seems like a childish thing to do, and it's only going to confuse her and mess with her head. Be honest with her, that should be enough for her to not want to be with you.
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How can I get attention in class and outside of class in school. I'm not an attention hog or anything. I'm actually really shy and I'm just sick of being a wallflower. Last year people didn't even notice that I was in their grade. They thought I was new and I've been living in my town for years! So how can I be noticed?
In my experience, the best way to get attention without being seen as an attention hog is to just walk up and talk to people. Make small talk and be friendly to everyone.
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I have got this great guy pal who's like my bestest; I constantly tell him he could be like my perfect gay guy pal if he weren't straight. Any ways he and I just graduated high school and he has finally gotten up the courage to ditch the girl he had dated all the way through high school despite the fact she was 4 yrs older than us. (creepy, I know...when she threatened me if I didn't stop talking to him i told her to chill first off because he was just my friend and that if she didn't I was going to report her for statutory rape) She was a nightmare-very controlling, a rageaholic, and abusive in more ways than one...and yet somehow, he followed her like a mosquito to a bug zapper time after time after time. So now he's FINALLY broken things off with her permanently, and he's asked me to dispose of the last prom picture of them. I'll gladly do it, but since his house burned down a few years ago, he doesn't me to burn it and since his dog got accidentally killed in a garbage truck (long, sad story there) he doesn't want me to throw it the trash or even shred it and throw it in the trash. That eliminates both my fave way I would've handled this and the next best idea...which basically exhausted my list of ideas. So do you have any other possible solutions?
Those would have been my choices, too. This is a really tough question. The only other ways I can think of would be to bury it, or throw it in water. You could tie the picture to a rock, then throw it into a lake or pond. The water would eventually destroy the picture. Sorry, that's about all I can think of.
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So, my boyfriend is trying to get a job. He applied to places and I asked him to follow up with some phone calls to the places he applied to. It's worked in the past for me. I actually went in to one place I worked a few times before they considered me. I called and e-mailed the place I'm working now MANY times before I got a call. I just think that it's better than sitting patiently and waiting for an answer. And you can always get a better answer if you make an extra effort. However, he just thinks it's the worst idea ever. We fight about this and I'm second guessing myself. Am I crazy and way too persistent or have other people done this as well? Or are you an employer that has gotten follow up calls? What's your opinions on this?
Thanks
I think it's a very good idea to call places you apply for. I've done it before, & I tell all of my friends to do the same thing. A lot of them worry that they'll just get on the employer's nerves, but in my opinion it shows that you really want the job & that you're willing to put some effort into getting it.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months now, and whenever we go out he always introduces me to people as his friend, not his girlfriend.
Should i be concerned? What does this mean?
I've never met any of his close friends, or any of his family.
- 21, F
It does seem a little strange that he refers to you as his friend. Not meeting any of his close friends or family may not be a big deal because he may just not think the time is right for that yet, but you should definitely ask him why he won't refer to you as his girlfriend.
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i wanna have sex with my bf but im scared it will hurt like when the dick goes in meh
Sex can be painful, but it's usually nothing too bad. It's important to be relaxed and sure that you're 100% ready for sex. If you are, use lots of lube, and take things slow at first. If it starts getting painful, tell your boyfriend to stop until you're ready to try again.
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I have been very moody lately.. well more like the last 3/4 months, but it's been occuring frequently now, almost every day. Sometimes I just want to cry because something soo very little happened. Other times it's like when someone says something like a small spark, a huge flame erupts from me & I get all p/oed.. & yet other times, someone'll say one little thing and it sets me off/hits a nerve and I start to ignore them & get in a bad mood for a while! I can't stand this. I'm wondering what pills I could take to settle my mood & to basically make me happy and bubbly 24/7, because I used to be like that! Yeah, I've heard of that Pamprin pill or whatever, but I need one for all the time, not just my period. Please help! thanks
This probably isn't the advice you're looking for, but you should not self-medicate in situations like this. In my opinion, pills should be a last resort for emotional problems. If you take medication for it, eventually it'll take more and more for you to get the same effect, and there's always the possibility of getting dependent on the pills, which is not good. Have you considered possibly seeing a therapist? They're trained to help, and they can definitely help you with your mood and anger. If that doesn't work, and you really feel the need for medication, you should see a doctor. They can advise you on whether or not medication is the best step, and what type of medication you should be on.
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So tomorrow is my last day of senior classes (high school) and all of the sudden, I'm having problems with my best friend, Holly. Holly is by no means a perfect person by I have some of the best times in the world with her. She's like a sister to me we share all of our secrets and as a friend, I just love having her. There is a sense of friendship we have. She has some faults though and sometimes she doesn't treat her friends with the respect they deserve. That's why her bf broke up with her. So here's the short version of the saga. In march, I got mad at Holly and somehow we stopped talking for about a month and a half. It was one of the most miserable times in my life. Whether or not it was for a good reason , I still felt awkward around our circle of friends and awkward around her and it killed me. We started being friends again a little while later and I was happier than I'd been in months. Everything has been fine until up until a few days ago. She's been acting like she's above me and saying rude, snide things, and just taking advantage of me. We got into a few big arguments. Is Holly wrong? probably. Is it not a healthy relationship? maybe. I just feel so horrible that everything was perfect until the last day of senior year. I'm angry at her in so many different ways that I'm not even going to get into because the point is, I feel like our friendship might be ending THE LAST TWO WEEKS OF SR. YEAR. The LAST thing I want is to be miserable at prom, grad, yr. book, etc. because I KNOW I will be if we're in a fight. Should be mad at her for her crankiness and snide remarks? Should I apologize for "causing a fight?" I am honestly so upset because this is the worst time for something like this to be happening. I want to stick it out until the very end of the year, or else I'll be truly miserable. Help please
I understand that the last two weeks of school are never a good time to have a falling out with your best friend, but you really don't deserve to be treated the way she's treating you. If you're really worried, you could try to put up with it for the two weeks left of school, or you could talk to her now, but either way you need to let her know in a calm and polite way that she's your best friend and the way she's treating you really upsets you. Be as calm as possible when you talk to her about this. If you yell and argue, it's not going to go well. Tell her how much you care about her and how much fun you have with her, but that it upsets you when she makes rude comments. She may not even realize she's acting this way, and if she's really a true friend, she should step back and think about how she's been acting and try to make things right.
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oh, here comes an original question :)
just as a note, i've never had a boyfriend (im 15...dont make fun...)
so...i have this friend...his name is "chris".
I have known chris since...maybe 3rd grade? and since the middle of 8th grade to now (very close to the end of freshman year) we have become really good friends. the thing is, and not to sound conceited or anything, but he is IN LOVE with me. no joke. he has asked me out by himself, he asked me to homecoming, he has had his and my friends ask me out, and so on. and whenever he sees me he always talks to me and hes just so cute.
me and chris get SO much crap about how we should go out...its happened all freshman year. we get it from EVERYONE. ive never really considered it...until now. and it seems like i cant stop thinking about him, and i always want to be around him...which sounds SO pathetic, i know, haha.
the thing is, i dont know if id want to go out with him. i mean, i want to SO BAD, but i feel like i shouldnt...
ive been thinking of his pros/cons...
pros:
-he is seriously a sweetheart. he always has been
-hes a REALLY good kid. doesnt drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. hes good at school, too.
-he really cares about me, hes told me many times
-hes incredibly protective, especially of me
-as i said before, he REALLY likes me
-my mom absolutely loves him. he came over my house once with a mutual friend of ours, and she loved him. my dad likes him too, as much as a 15 year old girls father could like a teenage boy.
-we know each other really really well
-he. is. gorgeous. especially his eyes :)
cons:
-some of my friends (who arent my friends. excuse my language, but the ones who dont like them are total bitches, not just to chris, but to everyone) dont like him, and call him annoying
-he has braces. nuff said...would that hurt to kiss him? just wondering
-he doesnt seem like the boyfriend type...like he just gets so nervous around me and he gets really joke-y and stuff... i cant describe it, he just doesnt seem like the boyfriend type. but then again, i wouldnt know. (fyi, hes never had a girlfriend)
-i WOULD NOT want to give ALL of those people who give us crap about going out the satisfaction that i finally went out with him. i wouldnt want them to be all smug and be like "i TOLLDDDD you".
-i'd be afraid of what people would think...and i KNOW i shouldnt care, but come on, EVERYONE is at least a little self-conscious. its unavoidable. its annoying as hell and i wish i could do something about it
could someone PLEASE help me? this has been bothering me for a long time now...i just want to make my mind up about him.
thank you SO MUCH
PS. sorry for the length!!
In my opinion, your pros outweigh your cons, but you have to make this decision. First, and I can't stress this enough, don't worry about what everyone else thinks or says. I know you get self-conscious and worry, but if you don't do something just because you're afraid of what other people will think, then you could miss out on a great thing and seriously regret it later. Second, neither of you have dated anyone, so it's going to be a little awkward. He doesn't seem like the boyfriend type because he has no experience in that. It'll take time, but eventually you'll both be really comfortable together and it won't seem as weird.
In the end, only you can make this decision. Think about the pros and cons and really think about what you really want to do. If you don't want to be with him, that's fine, but please don't base your decision on what other people think.
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how do you make an image with text on the border like this? I see it quite a bit so i figure its made custom but same style, like userbars
http://www.facebook.com/pages/PROCRASTINATORS-UNITE-tomorrow-though/202985618799?ref=sgm&v=wall#!/photo.php?pid=3951971&id=202985618799
Those are usually called motivational posters. There are quite a few sites where you can add your own picture and text. Here's one: http://bighugelabs.com/motivator.php
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Perhaps one of you has asthma too? Well when I start to feel an attack coming on or after an attack then my sinus is filled with mucus and so is my airway. It takes forever to clear out and so I wondered if there was a way to help it along without breating treatment?
Thank you!
I have asthma, too, so I feel your pain. You can try some over the counter sinus relief medication, but your best bet is to go to your doctor.
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Well, I am in college now and will be playing beer pong for the first time soon. I have no real idea what to expect or how this really works. I am old enough to drink, and I will have friends with me so I am not worried about going to the frat party where we will be playing so don't worry about that.
Can anyone explain how it works? (I am a girl and sports aren't my thing)
I will rate you!
You can play it with two people, but a lot of people do it two against two. Someone will set some plastic cups with some beer in them (usually not a lot). There's a certain way to set them up, but I'm sure someone else will do that for you. You'll get a plastic ping-pong ball, and when it's your turn, you'll try to throw it into one of the other person's/team's cups. If you make it in, they have to drink the beer in that cup, and if they get the ball into one of your cups, you'll drink the beer in that cup. Usually, whoever loses has to drink the remaining cups of the other team. One of the big issues with beer pong is you may not realize how much you've had to drink until it really hits you, so it's easy to get too drunk, which is dangerous, so be careful and know your limits.
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I really want a black bustier! One that i can wear as a top without looking slutty but i could also wear like under a shirt or with some cute underwear. Cheaper would be better but i obviously know that they're usually pretty pricey and i'd rather have a good quality one. Does anyone know where i could get one? Either online or in a store. And i'm in new jersey (for the next few months anyways) I was thinking something like this http://yfrog.com/jxlc61ee41e95ef49239ee873j
Try Ami Club Wear (http://amiclubwear.com). They have all kinds of shirts like that. I bought a shirt that was not lingerie, and my mom swears it is, so they have the style that you want. The prices are decent, too, and I've ordered from them and didn't have any problems.
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