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i dont know if im depressed or not...
im afraid to ask my love ones if im depressed... but i guess i am becuase well three years ago my mom died when i was 13...and i feel sad all the time and i miss her badly...my dad remarried four months after my mom died and omg! she is the worst step mother ever! she always trying to muniputlate me its terrible but i guess i learned to live with it...but shes not the problem i think...the last days of school my friends got mad at me becuase i couldnt go hang out with them one day so they treated me badly on the last days of school and now i feel alone and hurt...all summer i was dredding to go back to school becuase i think i would have to make new friends so my step mother was giving me a hard time about it and my dad is planning to divorce her after i graduate so that helps...but now i dont want to deal with anything anymore...at these times i wish my mom was here to comfort me and give me advice...so i have been missing her terribly and pretty sad about it all summer and now i dont wanna deal with highschool anymore and i feel like the only way out of all this is dieing...but i dont have the guts to do it thank god!but is all these things signs of depression? im 16 and a girl so maybe its emotional problems...but im pretty stressed out about all this..
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Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?
do you have trouble sleeping?
do you notice a change in your eating habbits?
have you lost interest in things you once were passionate about?
do you perfer dark rooms to light ones?
if you think you are depressed, chances are you are depressed and need to get help of some kind. Tell a pastor, tell your best friend and they can tell their parents and in turn they will appropach your parents...
you are not alone, and dying is not an option here; ever.
keep a diary, a journal of your feelings, thoughts and fears...
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First of all, I am so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry that you are sad, and it makes me sad to know that you are sad during such a beautiful time in your life-- however, I didn't like high school either, and it can be so difficult being a teenage girl.
I know how hard itt feels when you feel like the whole world is on your shoulders, but you should never look at death as an out.
Obviously you know that, or else you would have the guts to go through with it. Try to dig at where that hope is, because deep in you--your holding out for change, which is good. That proves to me right there that you know life has something better coming for you.
I do agree that you may need to talk with someone about the loss of your mother.
I think that it is possible that you might be somewhat mad at your father for marrying so quickly, & blaming your stepmother for your anger, and I can see why that would be--but it seems that they have been together a while, so try find something you like about her & focus some on that good.
Prayer is huge in my life, and even if I don't get a clear answer or feel unstantly healed, sometimes it feels good just to talk my feelings out, or cry.. or anything God just to vent & have the comfort of someone being there, knowing exactly what I am going through.
I had to deal with a lot of loss all through high school from multiple things, and by the end of my Senior year, I pretty much was friendless, & I couldn't really go to my family with anything...and it was super hard-- I started working & that made me feel better, when I kept myself busy.
I also started writing, because I had all of this pain in me, so writing was a good outlet for me.
I felt selfish at times when I thought about all that I had & still felt so sad--but sadness is something that just finds its way just deep into our bones, so it's okay to be sad, I just hope you know that you can find happiness within you.
I got put on a small anti-depressant when I was 16, & it knocked the edge off the pain... it made each day worth getting out of bed for-- my family doctor just perscribed it, so maybe you can go that route if you don't have the guts to go right to your family.
I didn't either. I went for a common cold, & burst into tears in front of my doctor, and he really helped me.
Now my parents understand a little more, even though they thought it was dumb I was put on it, but coming from my doctor..they listened.
I hope this helps some, even if I didn't offer you much. You're my first question to answer, and I'll keep you in my prayers.
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It is evident from what you have written that you have not gotten over your mothers passing. You are still morning her death and that is okay, everyone morns differently and for different periods of time. Not helping matters is the fact your father married so soon after your mothers passing and you have not been able to build a relationship with your step mother.
You would probably do well to seek some grief counseling from a qualified therapist; your family doctor should be able to recommend someone and screen you for other forms of depression during your visit. Grief over the loss of a loved one is one form of depression. There are other types of depression which you should be screened for.
Teenaged depression is not uncommon so do not let yourself get worked up over this. In today’s world a teenager has a lot to handle, especially a girl. You have the physical and hormonal changes your body is going through. More and more is expected of you at home and in school as you mature in to adulthood, you have College entrance exams, new social structures and a host of other things to navigate that me and you parents and grandparent, I fall in to this category, did not have to face. So if you need a little help navigating these waters it is no big deal. You would be surprised how many others are getting help. Statistically one in three Americans suffer from some form of depression.
My advice: See your doctor; tell the doctor what is bothering. Ask for a referral to a Grief Counselor and to be screened for depression then follow the doctor’s advice.
I am sorry for your loss. You will eventually get over the hurt of losing her, though you will always miss your mother
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i agree with Trauma(the other answer)
dont end your life and it would be the very best option to talk to someone you trust completely
you will always have some special friend somewhere you just have to find him/her
and dont forget that even though your mom is gone she will always be in your heart and your mind so dont give up on life maybe sign up for a sport to let your emotions out
i hope this really helps
p.s.
you always have people who love you and even though your dad remarried he can still be your very best friend :)
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I won't go as far as saying it's depression yet, but you are in an extremely stressful situation, so the way you're feeling is understandable. I can almost guarantee that you won't feel this way forever. You've got your whole life ahead of you, don't end it now. I know it's hard, but you just have to keep your head up and try not to let it get you down. It would probably be a really good idea to talk to someone about the way you're feeling, possibly a school counselor or therapist.
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