12, F
So about a month ago, I got this white gooey stuff in my underwear. I looked up more about it, and they said it was discharge.
I never got this stuff again, but what's your prediction of when i'll get my period?
Honestly, there's no way to tell when exactly it would happen. It could honestly be a few more years. There aren't really many external symptoms that occur, but that is definitely a symptom that it will happen soon enough. Some girls don't get their periods until they're 17. (Honestly, I consider that lucky, that's 5 years less of pain once a month for you!)
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18/F
There is a boy I went to school with that I have had a crush on for awhile now so we finally started texting about 4 months ago, and we Finally hungout one day. We went to this beach and smoked and had a really good time, it seemed like we had lots of chemistry. We kissed at the end of the night. The problem is that he is always busy. He goes to college and has a job and puts his friends before everything so he never has time to hangout or even talk. I text him first probably 90% of the time. So we hungout again about a month ago and we ended up having sex. That was a month ago and we haven't talked since. I haven't texted him and he hasn't texted me.
So basically i'm thinking he used me? He just wanted to have sex? When we hungout it really seemed like we had a connection and he liked me but am I wrong, should I just give up?
I really liked him though.
I think this is a matter where you need to talk to him about. Chances are, if he didn't talk back to you afte you had sex, he has his own agenda when it comes to you two. You should be honest with him and let him give you his final say on if he plans to make an effort to be more active in your life or not.
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OK so my boyfriend & I were messing around 2 days ago and he was fingering me and happened to fit almost his whole fist in there and after I had an orgasm there was some blood on his hands.. But IDK if that would be my cherry because we've had sex already and I've bled a little bit after each time.. and now, for the first time, after fingering me, my discharge is like..light brownish? it doesnt have an odor it just smells like strong pee kinda.. So idt it's an infection? I'm due for my period tomorrow.. and I had a little bit of this same discharge yesterday too.. Any idea on what is going on??
I think you're fine. Brownish discharge can be a sign you're getting your period. Also it could be due to the fingering. Remember "popping your cherry" doesn't literally mean something pops. It's a tearing of a membrane of skin so one little rupture might not cause all the bleeding. It could be continuous for a while if you're new to fingering. Also if he stuck his finger up too high he could have possibly entered your cervix and could have messed with the muscle causing some blood to escape to the vagina. It's nothing to be worried about. Just make sure it's not continuous
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Hi, I'm using a fake name -Marissa- so you can be specific. Also, im using fake names for the people in my story. I am 13 years old, female, and I'm from America.
I have a problem... I'm worried my friends hate me. I mean, I'm invited to go to dinner with them, but there is a certain look on their faces that just proves that they don't like me.
So here is what happened.
My friend -Amanda- had recently told me who she has a crush on. Her crush is on a Brazilian. So I kinda teased her a bit, but so did everybody else. Basically everyone knows about it. Then she blew out everything on me because she was a blabber mouth and decided to tell everyone. I said something like this," Ooooo! Here comes -ray-! " and then she got really mad at me, and said," you know what, I'm sick and tired of you teasing me. Everyone knows, and I'm not happy with that. So please, PLEASE stop doing that. " I felt bad afterwards, so I said sorry and didn't bring up the subject again. But there is a look in her eyes, I can tell, that doesn't physically glare at me, but internally scratches at my insides. I feel unwanted. Then we went paddle boarding at the lake for PE. It was I think 27 of us going together. So I was playing with her, and got her a little wet (like from her ankles down) and she YELLED. AND LOUD. She said," -MARISSA-, STOP IT!!! DON'T DO IT AGAIN!!!" I was shocked and embarrassed cause everyone was watching. I didn't talk to her for the rest of the day, out of worries she was gonna yell at me again.
This is another story, about a different "friend".
So I was in French class with -Amelia- and she had gum. I asked her for some, and she said," ok, hold on. " then she asked the three guys behind her if they wanted some, too. They all said yes, so she gave them one. Then I said where is mine? And she just said," oh, sorry. There's no more. " kinda rudely. I know it's just gum, but that is a sign of hatred.
Then there is another girl who is bipolar.
-Zoe- claims that I copy her all the time. For example, -Amelia- s older brothers name is Eujenio. -Zoe- calls him Jalepeño because its easier to say. So I called him that, and she got SO angry! Just because I called him that! Then I started the mustache trend at my school (I really did, u can ask anyone there). I had mustache shoes, a bracelet, and a necklace that is a mustache. Then she went to a store and bought a mustache double ring after I had all my mustache stuff. Then the next day, a 5th grade friend gave me a mini mustache ring that only fits around my pinkie. I wore it to school, and she is all like ," why does everyone copy me!" I told her about the girl on the bus, but then she's all like "she is such a copier!" When I'm pretty sure she doesn't even know her! Then my sister started wearing her hair parted really far on one side. -Zoe- freaked out and said that everyone is copying her hair style, and that she had her hair parted really far since she was a baby. I told her that not everyone copies her and she needs to lighten up a bit because when someone copies something you do it means they like it, and want to try it. She hates it when I say I miss California. (she's from San Diego, I'm from Virginia) I used to live there and that's where my dad grew up. She hates it when I say that I miss it there just because she doesn't think I should be missing it there. Its really annoying how she also is nice about everything else, but mad about the small things. She is SOOOOOO competitive, too.
I don't know what to do. There is so much more to this story, but I feel like that would be too much. I would really like some advice about what y'all think. I'm moving in 2 months, but I don't want to be alone for the rest of the time here. By the way, I'm Mormon, just so you know.
I notice that you're very modest and you're nice and you're friendly. You tend to get close to people and you like to make sure you have clean air around you. Consider that you're moving and you will make better friends because apparently the ones you seem to have only care about themselves and how they appear in the public eye. They show signs of immaturity, especially the first one you mentioned.
To me they are intimidated by you because why else would they make it such a big deal to let you know they started a trend and not you or why you called Eujenio Jalapeno. Seriously? Why does it matter if you should ALL be friends?
I really hope you find a better crowd to hang with when you move. I think you deserve it. You seem like an awesome person to be around and I hope everyone you meet finds you that way and even more! Good luck to your move!
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hi, my age is 21. for the past 1 year i got irregular periods. that is iam getting periods after 2 months. periods continously coming in 10-12 days normally, not heavy and all. its really hurting me.is it a problem
You should probably see your doctor for this issue because it can possibly be something serious and people on this site have no accreditation for help with serious issues. My guess is maybe it has something to do with how you eat, because my friend has a similar problem. But everyone's bodies are different so I don't know what could be the cause of yours. Please see your doctor about this issue. It doesn't seem normal to me, but then again, I'm not an expert.
Hope you get some relief! :)
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I'm 18 and I've always hated not having boobs. I'm a 34A if that, I wouldn't be caught dead in a sports bra beause I'd look like a 12 year old or a little boy..are they really done growing? Or is rhere a way to make them bigger (for my own personal preference, not anyone elses or society) also my left is bigger than my right which is noticable with small boobs, my left fills out a 34A cup and my right doesn't so my bra like has a space before my boob..embarrassing. Also usually when you grab a boob it's squishy because it's fat, but mine feel almost like I have some kind of tissue implanted boobs..because they aren't squishy there's like some kind of tissue feeling ness as my boob Practically. They haven't grown that I've noticed at all over the last 2 years idk if it's my diet or what, I'm 5'8 and weigh about 113 I've always been slim but all my family has big boobs, my sister is a 34C shes had boobs since she was 14 and here I am 18 and can't even wear a bathing suit in public -_-
Hey there. We are almost in the same boat. I'm 20. I can fit a 34 A or 32 B.. Depending on the cup shape, maybe 34B. There is not much you can do to grow your breasts consciously. If you want them to look bigger for your personal preference, I would say use a push-up bra for added support and it will give you some cleavage as well. My sister is 16 and she's a 34C as well. My family has big boobs too, my mom can fit a D cup and lets not talk about my grandmothers! I dunno.. I wouldn't hide the rest of your body, the bathing suit in public and whatnot. I've seen lots of smaller chested girls flaunting their bodies with their bikins / bathing suits and they're still confident in themselves. My advice is this, since you cant control your boobs, control everywhere else... since you actually can. Be slim, look fit and you will feel a lot better about yourself. Boobs are one thing, but fitness attracts. :)
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14/f
Right now, I'm a sophomore in high school, and I'm starting to think about what I want to do after the rest of high school and college. My mom has always pressured me into becoming a doctor. As a result, I took a intro into medical science class last year that I really had fun in it. I realized that I love learning about how the human body works. Now, I actually want to go to medical school (this isn't some rash decision I've made; I've thought about it for awhile and I'm serious about it). I just have some questions about it that my parents can't really answer, so I'll list them below:
1) Is there anything in high school that I could do that will help prepare me for medical school? If so, what is it and how can I do it?
2) My mom had told me that it isn't a good idea to only do pre-med (I think she meant so I would have a back-up plan). Instead, I should major in something like engineering and just take the required classes for med school along with the other classes. Is this a good idea and how exactly would this work?
3) Keeping question 2 in mind as well, what are some universities that would be good to go to if I want these classes?
4) What exactly are the steps to getting into med school? I understand undergrad and graduate school stuff, but how does medical school fit into that?
5) Is there anything else really important that I should know that I haven't mentioned?
I realize that there probably isn't many doctors on the website. However, I would just like any resources (mainly websites or organizations) that could help me answer my questions. Thanks in advance!
Hi there!
I'll be happy to help.
I'm a Junior in University right now hoping to become a doctor as well.
Taking intro to medical science was a very good decision on your part because you realized how much you like science. So thumbs-up to you for that! I am a Biology major, but I am on the pre-medical/pre-professional track. (I'll explain more on this in your first question)
To answer your questions in order...
1. Continue to take science classes, try to take as many AP sciences as you can handle because they will better prepare you for college. I will recommend AP Biology / AP Chemistry / ALSO... AP Calculus and AP Statisics are highly HIGHLY recommended. Why Calculus and Statistics? When you go to college, part of declaring a medical major means that you have to be well-versed in higher level mathematics.. Depending on the college you choose to apply to, calculus and/or statistics will be required. Also, you will notice in college that the amount of course work you will have a whole high-school year to learn .. will have to be taught in half that time. (A highschool schoolyear is from August to June.. in most areas and you pretty much have all the same classes throughout. Well in college, you have from August to December to learn that same amount of work!) My advice is take as many AP's as you can so that you can familiarize yourself with the material, try to pass the AP tests as well. Some colleges will accept the AP credit so you won't have to take them again in college. Although most science majors will require you to repeat the science-bases courses like biology and chemistry. But still, that should not stop you because seeing the material a second time around will put you at so much of an advantage over the rest of the student body! The better advantage you have over your college peers, the better off you are at getting accepted over other medical school applicants.
2. Most college's do not have Pre-Med as an actual major. Pre-Med is usually just an indicator that you want to go to medical school, but majority of universities do not even have that as a major. Rather, there are other names of majors that follow in the same category to help you prepare for medical school. Depending on the univeristy you want to attend, you will most likely end up being a biology, chemistry, molecular biology, etc major. I would not recommend majoring in engineering because it is a lot more work on your part to get into medical school. You really want to graduate in 4 years from college to get into medical school. Depending on the science major you choose, there are a certain number of classes you have to take (categorized by credit hours.. each class is worth different amount of credits, the harder ones have more weight to them usually) Normally, as a freshman and sophomore, the classes you have to take are extremely specific in a science major. As you get to your junior and senior year, you can pick certain science courses that you are interested in or have to take. (Sometimes, when you know what medical school you want to go to, they require on their website, what higher-level science courses you had to have taken in college to get into their program but it's not something to worry about because most likely your college will offer the necessary courses). Now, I'm not saying you CANT major in something else and get into medical school. Trust me, there are lots of people who apply to medical school who aren't science majors, such as Psychology AND Engineering. But keep in mind, that if you major in something else, in addition to the required medical school classes, you would need to take everything that satisfies an engineering major as well or else you can't graduate from a college with a bachelors degree. (Most medical schools require that you have a bachelors degree to enter their program) My advice is to major in a science, preferably Biology or Biomedical sciences or whatever your school offers, even Chemistry and take those courses! Just because you are a science major does not mean you HAVE to go to medical school. There are more careers available to you. (More on this soon)
3. There are a number of medical schools in the country. Here is a wikipedia link on all the schools. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_medical_schools_in_the_United_States
Depending if you have to go out of state for medical school, you should look into the school you're interested in. You don't have to choose a school now, but if you live in a state with a good amount and you don't want to leave, look at your options there. As you learn throughout your years in college, there are two types medical doctor degrees. MD or DO. These are the degrees that you can either have if you go to medical school. When you see a doctor's name listed on his or her door, you see the MD or DO at the end of his or her name. MD is a Doctor of Medicine and DO is a Doctor of Osteopathic Medicine. The difference between them is their teaching styles. DO doctors analyze the patient as a whole, rather than an MD who look at the injured or diseased parts of a person. I'm sure you're more familiar with MD than DO. You get these degrees after 4 years of medical school. As you get closer to choosing which path you want to take, MD or DO, you will need to select the appropriate school to attend. DO and MD are two separate program and require different schools.
4. Getting into medical school requires a lot of hard work. But it is not to discourage anyone. Medical schools want the best of the best students. Each medical school has their own set of requirements. To decide which school is best for you, you have to specfically look at their requirements. What you need to know now is that you have to take the right amount of courses and the right times to keep on schedule! Time is key and you have to take challenging courses and keep a busy work load in college. Med schools will look at all of these! The classes you take, when you take them, your grades, etc. Also, you have to be active in the community with experience, whether it is volunteer work, internships, shadowing, etc. (These have to be done continuously.. not just in the summer! But even through the school year, with all the work you have to do!) Med schools want well-rounded students who are able to keep up good grades with other responsibilities! You should also get involved in college as much as you can with medical/science organizations. They will help to improve your medical school application!
5. One thing you REALLY should know.
Going to medical school is one thing, but there are PRE-PROFESSIONAL tracks as well. Meaning, medical school isn't the ONLY way to become any kind of doctor. There are schools for dentistry, optometry, chiropactic medicine, podiatry, physican assistant, pharmacy, even veterinarian... These professions do NOT require you to attend MEDICAL OR OSTEOPATHIC school! These are specific schools that you can attend after undergraduate (college/university) and you can become a dentist, pharmacist, optometrist, chiropractor, podiatrist, veterinarian! If you decide you want to do one of these, you do not need to look into medical school. Any other kind of doctor/surgeon requires medical school.
Keep in mind that going to medical school isn't only 4 years and then you're a doctor. After 4 years of medical school...if you choose the MD path, you will have to do 3 years of residency! Meaning, in medical school, towards the end .. you will finally get to decide what kind of doctor you want to be. When you first enter medical school, you learn everything! Not what you're interesed in... only until your last two years of medical school you get to specialize in what you want, after having had experience in the different types of doctor practices. You will have more and more exams to take during medical school as well to make sure you're keeping up with what you've been taught. These are national exams so you have to take them seriously! But not to worry because if you are determined, you will do well! If you want to go into something more specialized such as neurosurgery (the really hard stuff), You might need an additional 2 years of residency. Therefore, if you want to be a doctor and go to med school, estimate at least 7 years of study after college.
**. One thing I havent mentioned is that to get into medical school you have to take the MCAT. Just like to get into college you have to take either SAT or ACT. Well, in medical school, their entrance exam is the MCAT. You can research more information about the exam once you get nearer to the time. For the pre-professional schools, they have their own exams OAT, DAT, PCAT, GRE.. but some of the pre-professionals i mentioned require the MCAT. (Not optometry, dentistry, physician assistant and pharmacy)..
I hope my information didn't scare you but I just want to let you know as much as you can. If there's anything else I can help you with, let me know!! Write to me!
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My boyfriend and I have been on and off for two years, I lives with him as long as we were dating. he thinks I'm annoying and controlling, which I can be at times but it's only because he lies and cheated on me before. So naturally I worry. today he comes home after he ignored my calls and texts all night, oh and I didn't know where he was or what he was doing but he promised he'd come sleep at home which never happened, but he comes home today and says in order for us to fix how we are I need to move out. I think he's cheating or plans on keeping me tied down till he finds someone else help?
Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend before you really do have to move out. I can sense there is some miscommunication going on, especially since you do recognize that you are controlling. But here's the thing, if he has cheated on you before, and he really has stopped cheating on you, and you told him you forgave him, then you cannot and should not be as controlling as you say you are, whatever the past has been. Once you've said you've forgiven him, you should not bring it back up again, verbally or silently. The last thing that should happen in order to fix the problem is for you to move out because that would just make things worse. If you suspect something is going on, turning to other people won't help you. You need to turn to the one who is causing you the problem and fix it with him. He is your boyfriend, and you shouldn't be afraid of him. You need to have a serious, calm conversation with him in order to fix your issues.
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Im 18,high school graduate and still a virgin. Im in the transition of moving out into a house with my cousin(age 20) his baby mama(19) and their kid(3). My cousins friends starting coming over when I was 17 and 1 of them told everyone i was cute and flirted the other one flirted and we were vibing you could tell he was into me but once i told him i was 17 and he was 19 he stopped and took some steps back. Now Im 18 and ones 21 and the others 20. They come over almost everyother weekend to drink and chill. One weekend i ended up sleeping in the middle of the 20 yr old well call him(dave) and one of the friends hes pretty cute to. Daves head was by my feet(not cute) and so was my head next to his. He began touching my butt trying to move in on me and then he started grabbing my hand under the blankets putting it on his stuff but we werent talking cause his friend was in the bed,(i know not cool).He was trying me to either give him a "Hand" lol or a BJ all night. Well I obviously have feelings for him if i flirt and was willing to touch him. Well the next time I saw him he was trying to get at some girl at a kickback and my cousin well call her (a.t.) told me thats fucked up and hes 20 and Im not his gf so who am I to blame him but I felt bad. So last weekend they came over and (a.t) was gonna drink shes 17 and never had the whole night they were trying to get her to drink more and more and she was buzzed hard and me,some guy(a friend),dave, and (a.t) were laying on the bed in that order and he was hugging her and rubbing her butt. and she told me the next morning I just wanted to be comforted. I know hes probably playing the feild and me being a virgin might be a turn off but I know hes kindof interested but hes a huge flirt and I want to know how i can get closer to him and how i should flirt with him? Also do you think hes into (a.t.) more than me? and why is she doing that when she knows what happened with me and him? Also not to be mean Im honestly prettier and I cant see him with her at all but I think me and him would look really good together,Just saying.
Hi there. First off, don't let the fact that you're a virgin make you less confident in yourself. Guys actually admire that in a girl because they know she's not one to have sex with just anyone or they know she considers the guy she's dating carefully. For most good guys, that is a turn on. And considering you guys are all around 18-21, I don't think being a virgin should be a bad or unusual thing. Anyway, from what you described about Dave touching you from under the sheet and trying to let you give him a hand job, and then you find out he was messing around with A.T who's only 17. You said he didnt want to talk to you much when you were 17, so why is he feeling on her too and she's 17? Also, why do you like someone who's such a huge flirt like that? Do you really think that Dave likes A.T? If you think there's something there, do you think it's worth a fight over? If there is, my suggestion would be to ask Dave what's the deal between him and A.T? Just talk to him and see what he says? I wouldn't go to A.T much for advice just because, if she likes him too, then she'll give you bad advice and try to get at Dave mroe than you. Also, if a guy is interested in someone, he shouldn't be playing the field infront of two potential girls. For me, if me, my crush, a girl, and some other friends were hanging out, it would be a huge turn off to me to know he's flirting with the girl at one point and with me, even if he's just playing the field. But anyway, I wish you luck.
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Is getting up early to do my hair worthit? Does he care if im all fixed up. Am i trying to hard???
You should first and foremost get up and do your hair for yourself. You need to feel confident about yourself first before you try to impress anyone. Do you feel better when you do your hair nice? If yes, then continue to do your hair for you. Also, 9 times out of 10, guys dont even notice a girl's hair... it's her face and her smile and of course her personality. But, i'd say continue to do your hair and feel good about yourself. You shouldn't have to dress to impress anyone because as long as you know you look good, then that's all you need to put out there.
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So there is this really cute guy in my grade and I have a huge crush on him. I've never really talked to him cuz I'm too scared. He gives me the stares sometimes and once he even turned around on his bike and stared at me. When ever I'm around , he is really quiet. Normally he is really talkative. There is this other girl who likes him and they used to date and they talk to each other a lot. I think he knows I like him but I don't know if he likes me. I wish he'd ask me out.
Hey there... and here's the thing. If you consider that you're not really friends yet, then, chances are, even if he does have a little crush on you too, he won't outright ask you out... My suggestion is that you have to find a way to be his friend first so that way he gets to be more comfortable around you. Him and his ex has had history and they are friends, so he's probably comfortable around her. Not many people who have crushes on each other are very talkative with one another, so maybe he's quiet around you because he doesn't know what to say around you because he's so self-conscious. Maybe you should smile at him the next time you catch him staring, and instead of wanting him to ask you out right away, get to know him as a friend first so you don't seem over-friendly.
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He had me pinned down on the couch. Holding my wrist with his firm grip, holding it with just enough pressure to hold me prisoner. The feeling was oddly comforting.
I felt my rushing pulse next to his steady slow one. I saw the look in his eyes and I knew. I knew what was about to happen and I knew after that one moment nothing would ever be the same for me.
I never fully processed what was happening until later that night and even then it didn’t feel real. The way I waited a lifetime of a few seconds as his head dropped, eyes never leaving mine, plunging into an unfamiliar world together. His warm breath spreading over my lips was the only thing I felt. The way the smell of his crisp after shave drafted to my nose. It made me shiver.
I felt frozen as he pressed his lips against mine. Feeding an unknown hunger and taking away my breath in an entirely different way. I felt his smile against my lips as I finally began to react. He knew all too well the reaction only he could emanate. He knew no other man could make me feel like this. He felt possession the way a man would knowing that I couldn’t control myself with him the way I do with the others. I'm sure it was probably another dick move of his but, in this moment that was the last thing on my mind, 'cause I didn’t even care. It felt good and I didn’t want him to stop. All too soon he released me. He started to move away but I didn't want it to end. I wrapped my arms around his neck and pulled him back to my impatient lips. He gripped my hips teasing the sensitive skin there. His feather like skims across my skin tingled wherever his gifted fingers made contact, searing. His touch, his smell, his confidence, or smugness I didn’t honestly care to find which it was he felt. I just felt him, all of him. Then he rested his head in the crook of my neck and whispered, "Later."
I thought I was reading an excerpt from 50 Shades of Gray! Good job! Lots of emotions and details. Keep it up!
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21/f. So there's this boy in my class. he's 24. And he is such a flirt. He always stares at me. We joke around a lot, and we've become pretty close. He always stares at me and i'll ask him why he always stares at me, and he'll just smile at me. I stare at him too. so yeah. He ooked right at me when i walked into class once, and was smiling at me, but i didn't look at him and i just rolled my eyes. haha. But my only thing is that in the past i'd get too excited and start assuming things and end up getting my heart broken :/ Yesterday we worked on our project together, and then when we were finished he said he had to take care of some business, and that he'll come back and check on me. So he came back and i was taking a quiz and he helped, and we talked. I thought it was sweet, but i wasn't sure if he was just being nice maybe? Like i said before i don't want to jump to conclusions. What do you think? Does he like me? Should i see where this goes? I am not sure if he likes me, or if he even has time for a girlfriend if he's even remotely interested in me since he works a lot. so yeah.
Hi there. I can see someone's smitten! I have the same issues too when it comes to seeing a nice guy who is seems seemingly interested but you're not sure and you don't want to put in the effort if it's going to go nowhere. Anyway, just based on what you've told me, I'd say that he does have something for you. Now, I'm not saying that he likes you, but he's obviously comfortable around you. That's a really good thing. So far, he seems like a nice guy. I'd just play it out for now. Hang out outside of school and just see what your intuition tells you. I think one way to get over the insecurity of him probably not liking you or getting your heart broken is to give yourself and him time. If you give him time to come to terms with his feelings (because he probably doesn't know what he's feeling either) and you give yourself some more time to experiment with his behavior towards you, you'll get more signs and become more comfortable around him and get an idea for what he feels for you. Maybe you should spark up the boyfriend / girlfriend conversation casually, about pasts and whatnot, on a friendly level. Maybe you can see what you're dealing with or up against. :) Good luck.
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19/f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months. We are both virgins. We have been talking about sex for a while now and agreed to wait until we are both ready. We talked the other day and agreed that we are ready and plan to have sex for the first time this Friday.
I am not on birth control but we are going to use condoms. Are condoms effective on their own for preventing pregnancy? I am worried that the condom will break or something will go wrong.
Condoms can be effective, but I can see that you're already paranoid about it. My opinion is this, use the condom but discuss all preventative measures just incase you do become pregnant. It sucks being that rare case. If you do happen to get pregnant, you and him need to decide what the plan is from there. I don't think that should be a hard topic to discuss considering you've already talked about having sex when you're both ready. Good luck! Stay non-pregnant (until you're ready!)
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Hello, I'm a 15 year old female, currently a Sophmore in Highschool. I have a HUGE dilemma. Let me just say how this all started(sorry for this being a long question):
In 8th grade, a new girl came to school and we became good friends. I llater found out she had a boyfriend 5 years older than her. She introduced me to him and all 3 of us became really good friends. Last year in Freshman year, I realized she treated him like shit and I didn't really like that.. I started noticing how much it bothered me, and I knew she had cheated on him about 3 times. She finally told him, and she broke up with him. Her and I's relationship faded because I realized how much of a bitch she is. But me and her ex-boyfriend stayed really good friends. 3 months after this, he told me he loved me and I realized I loved him too(I know how cheesy this sounds). So we dated for about 6 months, when I accidentally left my Skype open at home and my father read everything we ever said to each other on it. Of course, him being 19 and me 14 at the time, he flipped out. So he gave me a decision to either call the police for sagitory rape and he goes to jail, or call him on speaker phone while he listens to me break up with him. Of course, I chose the breaking up option. A week after, I learned that my old friend(his ex)contacted him and told him lies about me like I never loved him and stuff like that. He didn't talk to me for 3 months and I finally ran into him walking to school. I stopped him and told him everything and he forgave me. So we just recently started dating again, and I think all these events have just made us love each other more. We talk on the phone all night, every night. We always talk about our future together like getting married and having kids. But something is really bothering me. You see, a couple days ago I told him I considered dropping out of school and just getting my GED and going to community college instead of University, so that we could live with each other sooner. And he took this seriously even though I was only thinking about it. I know he's much older than me, which is why he's thinking this, but he told me he's ready to start our life together. I'm not ready yet, but he said that if I did decide to wait to move in with him after senior year, there would be a chance he would leave me because he's not getting any younger and he wants to start his life. I love him more than anything in the world, and I would do anything for him and I don't want to lose him. My life dream has been to get a Master's degree in graphics design at the University of Oregon. But he's pretty much made it clear that there's two decisions: Him, GED, and Community college. Or University, my life's dream, and MAYBE him. This is a huge decision for me though. I really want to drop out and move in with him because I love him so much. But I'm also worried about what my parents will think about it all. But he also promised me that he would never leave me if I decided to drop out, so it wouldn't be for nothing. But my mind is still clouded.
Please, please help me I need assistance.
Wow. I applaud you for trying to think this through but I feel like you're missing the bigger picture. I don't want to condemn your relationship or your boyfriend but the fact that you asked for assistance shows you know that there is something that's not going right in the relationship and your mind is at a cross-roads between you or your boyfriend. You have to first keep in mind that you are 15. You're still in high school and while it is considered rape, I do understand that you had feelings for this guy. I think your ex-friend and his ex-girlfriend are irrelavent in your decision, or she should be at least. Anyway, I honestly feel that if any man loves a woman, he would not stop her from pursuing her dreams to become whatever she wants. I really do not like that he told you that he won't wait around forever because he's not getting any younger and that he wants to start a life together. I don't think it's wise to drop out of high school and live a potential dangerous life away from your parents without a high school diploma or a college degree either. You should follow your life's dream and become who you want to be first before you try to work a man into your life. That's what I'm doing. I want to secure myself first, financially and of course, emotionally. I feel like, if he really loved you, he wouldn't ask you to start a life together just yet. That means, he's only considering himself and not your situation and your responsibilites as a person/student/daughter. Honestly, when you're in college, you will be open to so many different possibilites and people. Don't make such a drastic life decision at such a young age. I mean, you're already nervous just thinking about it. You have a dream to get a MASTERS, that's WAY beyond commnunity college. That's far much more money than community college. That's far more respect in society than community college or a high school dropout for that matter. Please, don't make such a decision. There is a reason why your parents are concerned. 19-20-21 year old guys, trust me, you would think they would know better at this age, but they only know how to care for themselves. I don't think your boyfriend is thinking about you and your needs. And that's something you need to focus on more. I'm not saying don't have a boyfriend, but don't make such a drastic life decision based on that one guy. Yeah, he's been through a rough time with his ex. But hey, we all only have one life to live, make the most of it. Be the best you can be. :)
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how to makeout with a guy but not frenchkissing
You know, I honestly wish there was a manual for this. Trust me, when I had my first boyfriend, I looked endlessly on the internet for tips and whatnot. And while they did kind of ease my concern, when it leads up to the actual moment, the anxiety runs through your head again. I firmly believe that everyone has that innate quality of knowing how to kiss and make out. It just takes a little practice, with the right person, who won't make fun of you if you are a bit awkward at first. Makeout is just kissing and using your hands really. You will just get a feel for it by responding to your partner. You might be afraid to use your hands at first, but eventually, as you become more comfortable, things shall hopefully start to fall into place. Good luck!
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i need help in a plan and design.it said to determine the experiment to test whether the three different brands of black marker contain the same ink
Use chromotography paper. It separates pigments. The actual method is called paper chromotography. Look it up for more information. I did this experiment in middle school, I believe. We used different black markers and surely enough, they were not all made out of the same ink colors! :D Good luck. It's a pretty cool experiment.
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im 13 and i really like this guy. He is super sweet and i love talking to him. He is super cute too. I want to move out of the friend zone. How do i make him feel the same way? You know. Make him flirt back!
Well if you want to show a guy you're more than interested in just being a friend, you've got to show him that he means more to you than just a friend, without being too open about it at the same time. For example, try asking him questions about things he likes to do. You can't get someone to flirt back right away, that's the thing. He needs to establish a good relation with you first before he proceeds to flirting. Make sure he knows you're interested in what he does, what goes on in his life, etc. And when you find out this information, be a little playful with him, tease him, most of all make him laugh! That's the main way to flirt, at least in my opinion. Laughing calms anyone down, and if he sees that you make him feel good when he's around you, he might be more open to you, and might even pick up on the cue, and flirt back with you if he's interested too! I hope this helps you! Let me know if there's anything else I can help you with.
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Bff's that what i thought me and my friends were, me and my ex-best friend had been friends for 3-4 years we were really close told each other everything and never lied to each other. recently i fund out that she has been spreading rumors about me and lying to my face about everything in a journal i found in her room she wrote i want a new best friend. After all this i told her i don't want to be friends now should i still keep her secrets or get revenge by spilling her secrets like she did with mines
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As much as you would want to spill her secrets, I suggest you be the bigger person. You should confront her and ask her why she was lying about it. If you don't want to show that you read her journal, try to find proof that she's lying without it and confront her and tell her you're not interested in her friendship anymore.
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Ok, so I am 13 years old and I liked this guy, so my friend asked what he thought of me and he said he might go out with me. It turns out he was lying. He did it for the fun of it. He then said that I would never have a chance with him. He also said I would never find love or a boyfriend ever. Then what shocked me. He said that I come of very slutty and am a slut. I have NEVER had sex or even had a boyfriend. I was raised by good parents and always wear clothes that don't show too much cleavage or shorts that are too short. I don't wear that much makeup either. Recently I was called a slut again by my friends sister. I am always really nice to people and I don't understand why they all seem to hate me.. Am I a slut?? I am starting to believe it since a lot of people are saying it.
If what you say is true about how you dress and how you act then what those kids are doing to you is called bullying. And the fact that you're only 13, don't let immature words like "you'll never find love or a boyfriend" get to you. You have your whole life ahead of you and assumingly you're in middle school, you will not have to see a lot of these people in a while and then when you go to college, you'll see even less of them. And you will meet lots of nice guys who will love your nice personality more than anything else. If you've never had a boyfriend and you're called a slut then chances are, your friends are intimidated by you and possibly quite jealous of you. My advice is to continue being nice to everyone and people will realize that they are wasting their effort by focusing negative attention on you when they should be concerned about their own attitudes.
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