Hey everyone! The names Melissa and I'm just dying to help everyone out.
Sometimes i might be brutally honest but that's what people need!
If you need some help or have a question feel free to send me a message I would be more than happy to help!
Gender: Female
Location: Pennsylvania
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Age: 21
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Member Since: February 18, 2010
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so i got on facebook last week after i deleted it a week before. i deleted it again then i re-opened it. then i deleted it because im not suppose to get on during school. well anyways this guy i was talking to blocked me. and i don't understand how he could've blocked me since i was on only twice? i stopped contacting him. but i found out he blocked me when i got on my other facebook profile. so yeah i have no feelings for him anymore. (link)
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Quit Stalking him?
Hes not talking to you so he doesnt like you anymore. Move on.
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I've always wanted to have sex in the shower ..but isn't it kind of unsafe? I've been on the pill for 3 years now I take it on time every single night ..and usually we wear a condom every time but I don't think it's possible to wear a condom in the shower because it will just come off? What would be the chances of me getting pregnant if we tried it in the shower ..at least just once so I can fulfill this desire :) (link)
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You'll probably be okay. I know that pulling out isnt considered safe, but if your on the pill, and he pulls out, i dont see any reason why you cant have a go in the shower. Just remember, its slippery, and loud, and kinda funny. You may not know what i mean now, but i promise, if you "fulfill your desire", you will. Have fun!
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Everything I have ever learned in life as I was growing up I threw out the window the moment I moved out. This included going out, drinking, and having sex. I had promised myself to keep my virginity until I was married but I couldn't accomplish that, I ended up losing my virginity to a guy who is in a committed relationship with another girl... and I can't (don't want to) stay away from him. You can tell me what I'm doing is wrong, and karma is going to bite me I KNOW THIS. but there is something else about him that keeps pulling me back for more. My question is how reliable are condoms really? and which birth control method do you use/recommend?
thank you.. (link)
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Condoms are 99.9 pct affective.
In my experience with my friends birth control is around 97 pct affective. Also it can take up to 3 months for birth control to become active.
Always use a condom even if your on birth control.
Also, if thats the question you had, why did you include the Going Out, Drinking, and Having sex part?
You could have just asked about Birth Control and Condoms, and your question would have been fine. Its like your looking for someone to tell you its okay, or even what your doing is wrong.
I think that if you need advice on that, you should have asked a separate question.
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how old do you have to be to have a cotillion? (link)
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Normally that is considered your "coming of age" or "coming out" Party. In the past its always been when a girl turns 16. Its basically your sweet sixteen.
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I am trying to redecorate my room and I want to find a dresser where I can store my clothes and put a TV in it (not on top of it - don't have room on wall).
I am looking for a dresser like this: http://picklemedia1.scrippsnetworks.com/pickle_media1/media/HGTV/100626/Photo_Video_51643126233638724095486_medium.jpg?0 - notice that the TV is hidden behind the two cabinet doors on the top of the dresser. Where might I find one of these and what would it be called (only thing I can think of is TV dresser, I guess).
I know that a lot of hotels have them in hotel rooms - the kind where they have tons of drawers in the dresser and then you can pull the TV out on a board from inside the dresser itself. Like this: http://woodworksofcs.com/images/log%20dresser%20with%20tv%20in%20out%20position.JPG (link)
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Well, i looked online for something like you've described and i couldnt find anything exactly like what you were saying. I would suggest that you go to your local department stores that have furniture departments and look there. Or check out an Ikea, or furniture stores. If you buy things that have been "scratched" or dented, then they are normally like 50 percent or MORE off. So you can get them on a great discount.
You might not find something exactly what your looking for, but i hope that you do! good luck!
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Hi, Ive broken up with my boyfriend recently (about 2 months ago) and im having a really hard time dealing with it. He has a drinking problem and is not very "trustworthy" when it comes to faithfulness. Of course he's begged for second (and third) chances, all which ive given to him, and now he wants another one. Im being firm by saying no, and now he is turning it around on me saying he's "tried" and thats it. All he ever wants to do is "SAY" he's sorry. He never wants to "DO" anything to show me. He said nothing he ever says is good enough for me. Please help :( (link)
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Seems to me like you've answered your own question. You've given him MORE than enough chances, and he keeps messing up. Hes a user. The more someone says they are sorry, the less they mean it.
I would just move on from this boy. Find someone else to spend time with. You'll find that there are much better guys out there, who will want to treat you well.
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I'm 17 years old and am currently a senior in high school. So, there's this guy that I've been talking to a lot lately but have known him for a long time now. We go to church together and have developed a pretty good friendship, but I want us to be more than friends so badly. The only thing keeping us apart is the age difference. He's 22 years old. But, I can't seem to get him off my mind no matter what I do. I'm pretty sure that the wanting a relationship feeling is mutual but I'm not legally able to be with him. He's told me that we'll have to wait until I'm 18 to get into anything serious, but I'm impatient and feel strongly enough about him to look past the age difference. I would like some advice on what I should do...wait or get the guy I've been wanting for a year now?? (link)
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Well this is easy, it is illegal. You should wait, He obviously is trying to be the mature one here and hold out until your old enough that hes not going to go to jail for being with you.
So just wait the last couple months and then you two can be togeather! It really isnt that long of a time. And if you two are meant to be togeather the wait will be worth it.
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I met this guy at a party and we completely clicked.(Not it like a 5 second moment but we actually had a lot in common) We talked the whole night while all our friends did their own thing. He asked me to come the the beach the next day and got my number. He texted me the next morning about the beach but something had come up so I told him i couldnt go. I told him we should hang later that night and he said sounds good. I texted him around 7pm and he told me he couldnt hang b/c he ended up staying pretty late so we didnt end up hanging out which is fine. I hadnt heard from him for about 3 days then he added me on facebook which i guess means something these days. Anyways he adds me then doesnt say anything so me being the straightforward impatient person that i am wait like 2 days and then text him to come out with me and my friends to a bar. He tells me he is prob stayin in becuase he has to leave early for a wedding. I respond well if you would like to hang for a little we will prob have a couple drinks before hand. Then he DOESNT RESPOND. Nothing doesnt even say no thank you or something...its been like 2 days now and nothing! Is it a lost cause? (link)
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Hes not interested. Move on. Forget about him. Find someone worth your time. You put yourself out there and he hasnt bit, so just end it. No point in trying to get with someoen who just isnt trying to get with you. You dont want to look desperate.
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So theres this guy Gio, We had a thing in like march, it was only one night though. We kicked it with some of his friends in front of his house, We were in his car most of the time though. Hes 19 And I'm 14 Though. Well anyways we kicked it and we were suppose to kick it again but my mom knows him from my brother a long time ago and she found out we were talking so she called his friend tyler and told him she was gonna call the cops on Gio if he keeps talking to me. So we just stopped talkking, and he started dating some other girl and he wasnt even on my mind, i was dating other people, But i guess they were suppose to get married. He got locked up for like 3 months and when he got out like a month ago they broke up.
i was dating this guy manuel, and I got really drunk and i walked to my friend Audis house and i told her i wanted to get really drunk and kick it with the homies and she said alright, so we went to go kick it with her boyfriend d and paya. Then jose and Alan just came up to us and i had a 40 in my hand, so jose took it and i looked at him and said wheres Gio at? and he started laughing then called him and told him to come through cause i wanted him so he came!
We were together the whole night, And i kinda made a mistake and had sex with him! |:
We slept at some guys house, And in the morning he had to go to work and i had to go to school so we left and he told me he wants to see me again so i gave him my number, he called and he said he wants to kick it thursday. Soooo Thursday night me audi and d were at the park and D called Gio, Then he came. We needed a place to sleep cause i didnt wanna go to his house cause his sisters HATE me. Oh thats another reason we stopped talking. I fought his sister because she didnt want me talking to him. But anyways we just slept in D's brothers truck, While audi and D slept in the other truck. We ended up having sex again!
He invited me to this concert thing he was having saturday because he raps, But his sisters were gonna be there so i wasn't sure.
So anyways Saturday came, yesterday and i don't know what to do!
Okay like, Yesterday We all had to meet at his house cause we had to figure out how we were all getting there cause there was hellllla people. So we went, Him and his sisters all left in the first van cause he had to be there early. Before he left he gave me a little smile and hugged me when his sisters werent looking! And i turned around and i saw his EX girlfriend there, the one he was gonna marry! i got kinda mad but i was like ohh well she is one of the homegirls so whatevr. so then we all met at the place. and we were outside, When gio saw me he went up to me and asked me if i was okay me and Audi were just like yesss go. ha. So he left and we all sat inside while like 6 othher people performed before him. But gio wasnt even talking to me really. Besides when he came up to me a couple times asking if i was okay.
when the person went on before him everybody went up there to like support him cause he was one of the homies to. And Gio sat downn with me in the back and kept asking me what was wrong and i just said nothing, And he told me he wants me to go up in front to support him when hes rapping so i promised him i would. so when he went on i went up there with audi, He kept smiling at me when he was on stage. And when he was done, he told them to take a picture with the hynas and in front of everyone he told me to go on stage and take a picture and i was just like noooo, and everybody just stopped and looked at me, including his sisters!
But anyways after he performed we all went outside and he went up to me and asked me to go to the after party, so me audi and D were just like alright, so we left, and he was talking to me at first but then i went outside for like 10 minutes to smoke weed with some dude, and then when i went back inside i didnt see Gio, And i heard his sister say wheres Gio and his other sister was like hes in the room with Nancy, [His ex] i was just like wowww! then i got MORE drunk. then i went to the bathroom and when i came out i sat at the table with audi and i look in the kitchenn and Gio and his ex were sitting down talking and she was crying and he was holding her and shit, then i just got up and went outside.
When i came back inside he was on the couch and she was in the kitchen, and then audi told me that she told him she was done with him!
So then at like 4 in the morning audi and D kept bitching about how they're tired and wanna go back to audis, so i was like alright, So we get up and Gio grabbed me and was askking me if i had to leave and i just said yes i have to cause they wanna leave and he told me he wanted me to stay the night! So d was like alright we'll stay! So we were all just sitting down in the living room and things just kept getting wierd cause his sisters were just talking shit and he kept telling them to shut up and shit in spanish.
Well anyways his ex Nancy came and sat down on the chair kinda by him and then he started looking at her and he grabbed her and started talking to her, then stomps was like all the girls in one room and all the guys in the other just joking around and Gio was like what if i wanna sleep with somebody and stomps was like who and he pointed to Nancy!! And he kept tryna talk to her and shit and i was like what the fuck am i here for? Support? So i said whtever and got up and walked out the door and audi followed me and we walked home in the pouring rain!!
i was soooo mad! and now i dont know what to do!
i don't know what hes doingggg! He's too confusing. i reallllly like him though, but i think i got my hopes up. I'm just confused, and on top of it i don't know what happened that night, i don't know if they got back together because i didn't stay to find out!! Ughhh ! (link)
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Okay, i read your WHOLE life story just now. and all i have to say to this is..PEDOPHILE PEDOPHILE PEDOPHILE. IF HE IS 18 AND YOU ARE 14 IT IS ILLEGAL.
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Ok so I was in a relationship with my ex for 2 and a half years..and he broke up with me in april, I'm really glad he did break up with me and all...and i currently have a new boyfriend who's very sweet :) and is the best thing that happen to me, but sometimes i still think bout my ex, I don't love my ex anymore, yet he pops up in my mind. so are there tips that could help me forget bout him? (link)
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Because you were in a relationship with this person for so long, its normal for thoughts of him to pop up in your daily life. your not in love with him, but you two spent so much time togeather, of course your going to think about him. the only way for this to stop happening is time. So just enjoy your new ralationship, and thoughts of him will fade
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Hi, my boyfriend & I have been together for about 6 months now. I'm 21 & he is 28. He is currently living in an apartment by himself, I am living in a townhouse with two of my girlfriends. He told me the other day that he wants to move forward in our relationship by us moving in together. I feel that we are ready, but I've seen a lot of my friends relationships fail when they moved in together too soon. Do you think that us moving in together this far into our relationship is too soon? My mom feels that we should be married before we move in together. I kind of agree with her, but I also feel like living in the same house/apartment with my boyfriend would be amazing! I just need some opinions... THANK YOU :) (link)
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Personally i think 6 months is to early. I think you should be dating AT LEAST a year, because you need to get past the honeymoon phase before you start moving in with each other. If you can last past that point, then you 2 might have a chance.
Moving in with someone is a huge step though. Your going to see every little thing that person DOESNT want you to see. There nasty habits, and there going to see your nasty habits. Your going to know whenever there not home and when they are. Its really hard believe me.
I would wait a bit. You said it yourself you dont really think its appropriate before you get married anyway.
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My boyfriends ex girl friend will sometimes text my boyfriend and tell him that she wishes things would have worked out differently in their relationship & that she misses him. She'll also tell him that he isn't truly happy with me & that he's just using me as a rebound. He won't change his number due to work reasons, and he keeps telling her that she needs to stop texting. This is really upsetting me because I dont want him to listen to her & start thinking that he really isnt happy with me & he'll take her back. He says that he would never do that to me & I believe him. Its just the fact... Should I confront her myself or leave it to him to handle? (link)
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Well, it seems like your boyfriend definitly is trying to handle it. I would just try to forget about it and let him take care of it. You dont want to seem like the crazy possesive girlfriend type.
She likes him still, but he hasnt broken up with you yet, which leads me to believe he wont be breaking up with you for this girl any time soon.
If it gets any worse then you can approach her, but as long as all shes doing is texting him i would just leave it alone.
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I'm n love with my girlfriend...but latly its like she doesn't love me...every time I ask for a hug or a kiss u ask y...I try to hold her hand she moves away I try to hold her n my arms she say stop I say I love u she looks at me n says yup....I'm giving her everything I'm showing her love what should I do (link)
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Seems to me like she is trying to push you away. She doesn't want to be with you but she doesn't want to be the onecto break it off either. I think you should move on
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So my dad bought me a really nice electric guitar and an amp for my 16th birthday last year, and I never use it. I prefer my acoustic a lot more, which my dad also bought me a few years ago. My question is, would it be wrong for me to sell my electric and the amp? I really have no need for it...it's just taking up space and I kind of need the money right now. My dad and mom are divorced so he doesn't live with us and he never comes over, so I guess he wouldn't really know if I did pawn it off or something...but my mom always raised me to believe that selling a gift without the giver's consent was wrong. I don't know, what do you guys think? Should I try to sell it for a little bit of extra money? Or would that not be morally right? (link)
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I wouldnt personally sell it, but your situation sounds hard. If hes never around, and you REALLY need the money, i would say go ahead. Its not like he would ever know, and you said it yourself you use the other guitar he bought you on a pretty regular basis. Its a waste for this guitar to be sitting around in your room when someone else could be using it all the time. Its not like you'd be doing it to spite your dad.
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I'm a freshman this year. I am very social. But I will admit more so outside of school. I don't like to talk a lot at school I guess. Well I was wondering how people make friends with upperclassmen..? I am very comfortable within my grade I will talk to anyone in my own grade just not in others. I guess you could say I get kind of intimidated. How do girls make friends with guys that are like seniors? How is it done... Lol. How can I talk to them without them thinking 'stupid freshman'. (link)
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One word. Flirt.
Its not hard, a guy will respond to any flirting. You dont have to have sex with the guy, but flirting opens up a lot of doors that you wouldnt have previously had access to. Just be nice to people and talk to them. i know it may seem hard but i promise after you start doing it for a bit it gets much easier. It also helps when you turn 21 and you can go to bars and meet people there.
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I left a realationship that was hard on me for a new one. i do nonthing but fight with my new bf & find myself wanting to run back to old one. i feel so confused . i wonder if maybe just being single is better? (link)
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You already made your first mistake. Jumping straight from a relationship to a new guy is a horrible choice. You didnt give yourself any time to get to know someone new, or get a feel for this new guy.
I think you should take some time alone. Explore what you really want and find someone who will make you happy. Dont just settle for the first guy who comes your way.
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How do you know which hole the penis should be inserted in? (link)
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...It is inserted into your vagina. There is really only 2 holes it could possibly fit into, and thats your ass and your vagina. I promise, its not that hard. When you come to the point where you start having sex, you'll know,
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So theres this guy I really like. He has a girlfriend though, but i cant just give up on him. We're friends but not really good ones. I like him a lot and he doesnt like me back. What should I do? What should I do to get him to like me? And by the way, he already knows I like him. (link)
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He doesnt like you.
You need to give up on him. By obsessing over him your pushing him farther away. You said it yourself he doesnt like you and he has a girlfriend. You barely even know him. Its pointless to waste your time on someone who just really isnt that into you. Find someone else to put your efforts into.
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My aunts on my dad's side are all big women. Thats OK I don't got anything against them and i love them. But they are BIG ladies. And they all had like premmie babies every time they had a baby. My mom said that if they lost weight they'd not have premies. Why is that? Does the fat get in the way or something or maybe my mom is wrong or what? (link)
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This may sound bad, larger people generally have more health problems. Diabetes, Heart Disease, etc etc. So wouldnt it make sense for them to have more risks at having children? Yes they can carry a child better because they are larger, but they are at more risk themselves. If they have heart problems there blood pressure could be at risk which means that they need to have the child take away from any risks much faster.
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Well I'm in a Co-op placement at the hospital you're supposed to report weekly to your teacher of any concerns you have. Even though it is asked of all emplyers and even principles in school, students/employees still don't.
So, everything is going great. EXCEPT that the manger of my department is a bitch and either treats me like shit or pretend that I do not exist! Which is ridiculous to me since she's the one who interviewed me and let my teacher know that I got the placement.
So everyone's nice and all, it's just HER. And I guess she's not exactly part of my placement since she's the manager of the department. But she still pops in for an hour every day and when she comes in, she'll say hi to everyone except for me and I'll even try to say hi first and she doesn't even say anything back! And she has a sweet voice so when she's talking to me, to others she may seem nice, but if you were actually listening to hat she was really saying, it's not nice.
I was informed of a mock fire dril the other day and (this may sound funny but) somehow, none of the nurses /clerks knew of how it runs so she called everyone to come in a circle. But she liek purposely left me out so it was akward, her talking to everyone while I was standing in the corner. After they were done and she said bye to everyone but me, I took the initiative to find the emergency proceedure book and read the whole process of it myself.
So should I report to my teacher of this or no? I mean, for future students doing their placements there, it could be bad. It's kind of like a handicap, really. But, maybe it'll make things worse? My friend is doing a placement here too, but in a different department. Same manager. She told me that it is a concern so if I'm really bothered by it, I should go for it. But I know that if she was in my situation, she wouldn't (well, she is in the same situation, but she's way more tougher than I am so she's alright). (link)
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Dont be a tattle tail, instead of going up to your teacher and complaining about how your manager is being mean to you, explain that shes "unprofessional", and makes you "uncomfortable" at work. Believe me...they are the two MAGIC words. If someone is being unprofessional its affecting the work place not just you, and that makes them look bad not you.
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