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I am throwing my life away and I don't know why!
Everything I have ever learned in life as I was growing up I threw out the window the moment I moved out. This included going out, drinking, and having sex. I had promised myself to keep my virginity until I was married but I couldn't accomplish that, I ended up losing my virginity to a guy who is in a committed relationship with another girl... and I can't (don't want to) stay away from him. You can tell me what I'm doing is wrong, and karma is going to bite me I KNOW THIS. but there is something else about him that keeps pulling me back for more. My question is how reliable are condoms really? and which birth control method do you use/recommend?
thank you..
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If you continue to have sex the best method of birth control is the oral contraceptive (pills) AND a condom.
Let me explain. No method of protection is 100% effective when you are sexual active. Using both methods helps not only protect against pregnancy but also some STDs.
You already know that he is having sex with at least one other woman. You have no idea if he is having sex with more than one other. She may be having sex with someone else too. It is very important to protect yourself from STDs as well as pregnancies.
If you are going to continue to have sex with him, then it is best if you separate what your family believes from what you believe. Guilt is not helping you here. Neither is feeling bad about your choices.
There is a good possibility of you getting emotional hurt in this situation. So while you may make the choice to continue to see him examine why. See what you are getting out of it emotionally, intellectually and sexually. Learn from this so when/if this relationship ends you can walk away with more than just regret and pain.
"him that keeps pulling me back for more"
You keep going back for more. It is your choice also.
Good luck and I hope you get what you need.
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Condoms are 99.9 pct affective.
In my experience with my friends birth control is around 97 pct affective. Also it can take up to 3 months for birth control to become active.
Always use a condom even if your on birth control.
Also, if thats the question you had, why did you include the Going Out, Drinking, and Having sex part?
You could have just asked about Birth Control and Condoms, and your question would have been fine. Its like your looking for someone to tell you its okay, or even what your doing is wrong.
I think that if you need advice on that, you should have asked a separate question.
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