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My friends birthday is on monday and she's turning 18. They all want to go to a hooka bar. She said you don't have to do it, its just fun going down and watching people do it.

I've never been to a hooka bar so I don't know much about it. I know what it is, but is it bad for you? Also, I don't know if my parents will be up for it so how do I tell them. If I go I probably won't do it anyways but my parents won't believe me probably. And anyways, I'm unsure about going. How old do you have to be to go? How old do you have to be to do it? Is it bad for you? What should I tell my parents? (link)
hey there. you know i've been in plenty of situations where my friends did stuff that i wasnt too sure of doing, and i was scared to tell my parents.

i've never done drugs.. except hooka. and its honestly not bad. i was concerned on its side effects so i researched it. its very hard to find online, so let me tell you, its NOT as bad as smoking like "pot" or a cigerette. You can jusst tell your parents something else, like your going out to eat or something. i too have had my share in not telling my parents the whole truth about what im doing, but i've managed to get away with it.

Anyway. if you end up going..which theres nothing wrong with..you can ask the people who work there, what the effects are. im pretty sure they'd know lol.

good luck, i hope helped (:


ok well..... i am not sure to believe in evolution or religious ways cause i mean if you look at the videos from the eighties like Aha 's "take on me" video ...the women and men look different and i actually believe in evolution because i look in pictures from long time ago and only SOME people look different from present day people and some look like they are from our time..so.. i also want believe that we came from god because we all look different..and we are NOT attracted to EVERYONE...because we all look different right? i believe in both...so..this is so confusing please help lol.. i cant take it!!!! (link)
i discussed this topic in biology at school. and i too didnt know what to believe in. i said creation cause i believe in god. yet everyone managed to say that.. so i just used it. But i read around in books, and i looked up stuff online and i am sorta leaning to evolution. Its a very touchy, yet confusing topic. Everyone has a diffrent answer, but you can look it up online and just get a feel for the diffrent sides.

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/evolution/

http://www.creationism.org/

any site with a .org or .edu are sites to look at. any sites with the .com are commercial websites and there information isnt always accurate.

good luck (:


people around wher i live wear a lot of hollister and abercrombie and stuff and i like it but im wondering why everyone wears it i rate 5s and i rate high (link)
certain "clicks" find it cool to wear it.. eventually it dies off. it did here, and now people just wear whatevers cute.


so ive been on my period for about..3 days now *first time* and it is getting heavier each day, or it seems to be. and i was wondering if that was normal and if there is anything else i need to know. thnks in advance :] (link)
yep perfectly fine. it will start out light.. then get heavier and then go back to being slow. before you know it, your done!
good luckk (:


I am starting to buy shorts and tank tops (soffe shorts) and putting all sorts of designs on them. Like gluing on rhinsetones and sewing on patches, and selling them to people. I already got a few customers. The only thing is I want to find a website or store where I can buy soffe shorts and plain tank tops (preferably american apparel, but any will do except ones from specific stores like gap or american eagle) for as little as possible. Please someone help me find any place or website to buy these for less! (link)
i dunno about shorts but defintely tank tops at oldnavy.com
and target.com

they have way more in the stores. but yeah. theres people who do that here and they go to those stores.


I got the Sims 2 when it first came out. It worked fine on my computer, but then we deleted XP, and I couldn't install it again. It said:
A problem has occured when trying to transfer the file 'TSData\Res\Sims3D\Textures.package' from the media. Do you want to retry to copy the file, or cancel the installation?
If I click retry, it goes up 1%, then it comes up again. It'll go to 100% and it'll keep popping up. When my aunt came over, I asked her if she knew what it was or how to fix it, and she said that when we deleted XP, we deleted something and we need that to install it. She didn't have time to fix it. So, I was wondering if anyone knew what this was and how to fix it. Thanks. (link)
omgosh! the same thing happend to me! lol i ended up just getting a new computer so i dunno how to fix it. but i just had to tell you that happend to me! i never could figure it out, so i gave up. and noww its ruined my "image display driver" so i have a guy coming to fix it next thursday. sorry good luck (:


Ok so I have these weird marks on the back of my legs...like upper leg...they're purple and thing but they look really weird and i want them to go away...what are they and what can i do about them? (link)
it might be a birth mark. my grandma has one on her head and it goes into her hair line.. but its just a birthmark. but like the last girl said. ask your mom.. and if she doesnt know just go get a check up. im sure its nothing, but i dunno what you could do about them. sorry dear.
good luck (:


My dad is watching porn right now. He does every night because we have lots of channels and at night theres porn. I know for SURE because Ive walked in on him before. And I can see from here. He thinks hes hiding it but hes not. Should I tell my mom my dad watches porn?! what do i do. Ive never told anyone, because its awkward and i dont want my friends to not want to come over my house because they feel weird around my dad. hes a really nice dad/man! I WONT confront him about it, so if you say do that Ill give you a 1..sorry. (link)
first off porn is made for everyone to watch. some people just enjoy it. but your dad watching it is harmless. im sure your mom knows.. and the person he would want to hide it from would be you or if you have any brothers and sisters, then them also. just because how do they tell there own kids they watch, and be able to explain themsleves? lol. and yeah dont tell your friends.. even though there dad probably does too. lol. dont stress its all good (:


Im 18 male and i crosdress in the most girly things my sister has . Of coarse i do it when she is out with her freinds. I wear her panties bras and dresses . I usally end up masturbating and eating my own spearm does this make me gay .. i dont like guys i like girls but i also enjoy wearing thier clothes (link)
well what exactly is your question.. cause i think you answered it yourself bud. if thats what your into then so be it i guess. but like you said you dont like guys so then it doesnt make you gay.. sorry if i cant help, i dont understand your question.


hey. I really need help because my life.. is going down the drains at the moment. I have no friends, except 2 that I barely see anymore, not really a good school, no plans for the summer, my dad is so lazy and I told him I needed an agent and he's totally taking his time with it when he needs to hurry. It seems like all he does is sit on his butt all day. I am really lonely and things just arent going good for me, so what I'm trying to do is get my dad to get me my agent but he wont hurry; how in heck do i get him to hurry?!

Please help me... =(

*that girl* (link)
dont rely on your dad so much. look for an agent yourself and give him the number.. or something so it helps him move alittle faster. call up your friends plan a sleep over.. make plans for summer. you gotta be happy!
cheer up love, things will get better (:


hey! well im 15/f
and allright so ive been having boy troubles lately..i was kinda crushin a little bit on this guy and we were flirtin alot until i find out he just got a girlfriend so that went down then drain and now i feel like i cant flirt with him anymore. so i just sit there but he kinda still flirts with me! i mean i spilt somethin on my shorts lol and so i was changin into my boxer shorts in my friends room and i guess he told my friends sister to open the door and pull down the towel i had because supposively he wanted to see my ass and i dont know i didnt start flirting with him because i backed off since i found out he had a girlfriend but he still kinda flirts with me! he is so adorable and sweet and we can have such good talks and i was talkin to him on AIM and hes like jokin around sayin ohh didnt this boy look sexy today and i was like haha real funny! and hes like just kidding but we'll find you a boy dont worry. hes just sooo sweet!! but he really likes this girl and i guess has liked her for awhile but then why does he do this with me?! and like for stuff on AIM or whatever hes always like i love you lindsey?!
soo im just so confused... (link)
well you know i have a friend.. and he does the same thing but he admits to just "messing with the girls head cause its funny" so joke around with him.. cause he does have a girlfriend so technically he cant LOVE you in that way you know? sometimes people dont realize how flirty they are.. maybe hes one of those.
you never know what could happen (:
good luck!


so there is this one guy!! and he is really really cute and seems really funny. ive always had my eye on him since like winter but ive never talked to him because i didnt know how to approach him. well a couple nights ago he I/M my friend and said somethin but she was gone so i was like this is kristen ..shelly is upstairs so then hes like asking me all these questions like what school do you go to..do you know these people? and hes like are you hot? lol and im like uhh..and so my friends brother goes up on his computer and shows him my myspace link and i guess this guy was like shes "aight" soo that kinda lowered my confidence but then i was like wait you play on this baseball team right? and hes like yeah and i was like yeah i was at your game tonight! and hes like yeah we suck but im the catcher..and im like ohh you did good! and then hes like yeah but i got to go take a shower so then he left and i was like allright cya. and how can i somehow talk to him again? i wish he would get my screename from someone and I/M me first because that way i would know he was interested or whatever! i mean ive had my eye on him forever and now i finally got to talk to him! i dont want to request him on myspace or I/M him first because i dont want to feel like a stalker or like him being i dont really even know you?...ive talked to you only once?..

i just dont know! do you guys have any suggestions? and i guess that he doesnt really talk to my friend much they dont hangout at all so i dont think she could help me!

also im so shy and always worried of what people think of me...i know i shouldnt i wish i wouldnt but i cant help it! thats why i dont want to approach him first. but lately this kid is all i can think of!? hes kinda popular so i dont know if he would go for me..since he said im "aight" looking..but i think i could maybe get him by my personality or something??

thanks so much. (link)
yeah defintely add him as your friend. and put effort out to talk to him. but dont express how you feel about him until you guys talk a few times.. but leave him a comment and be like "hey it was cool talking to you the other night, we should hang out sometime" theres honestly no harm in that.. and he cant be like "oh dude she likes me" cause he doesnt know much about you.
good luck dear (:


what are some foods that are high in fiber? (link)
High Fiber Foods:
Grain Products:

whole grain breads, buns, bagels, muffins
Bran Flakes, All Bran, Red River cereal, Corn bran cereal, whole wheat Shreddies, Raisin Bran and Fiber 1
whole-wheat pastas
whole grains such as barley, popcorn, corn and brown rice
Fruits:

dried fruits such as apricots, dates, prunes and raisins
berries such as blackberries, blueberries, raspberries and strawberries
oranges, apple with skin, avocado and pear


Vegetables:



broccoli, spinach, swiss chard, green peas and other dark green leafy vegetables
dried peas and beans such as kidney beans, lima beans, black-eyed beans, chick peas and lentils
Nuts and Seeds:

nuts and seeds such as almonds, whole flaxseed and soynuts





im 16/f. and i met this guy a few weeks ago. lets call him E, well we chilled a few times and eventually i found out he had a daughter. i asked him exactly how old was he and he sed 23! ..he asked back and the next thing i knew i was "18". well.. later, we had sex. and the next day i found out he was still living with his babymama. he sed he's not with her thoughh.. but i dont know. we have a date on friday.. and i dunno what to do. shud i just leve him or pretend like it all doesnt bother me. i mean .. i like him and all.. and im just reallie confused.. (link)
to be honest.. if you guys cant be honest with eachother this soon in your relationship your gunan have nothing with problems. You already are gunna have problems with him having a kid, and living with his daughters mother. Hes gunna have to deal with that lady forever since he had a kid with her. but as i said, your already lying to eachother..this isnt gunna go anywhere good. you can find another guy who you can be comfortable enough with to tell him how old you really are, someone who has alot more to offer and less responsibilty.
good luck dear (:


OK so I'm not trying to sound concieded but i no i'm really popular and my boyfriend gets really mad because everyone stops and talks to me and asks me questions. And he doesnt like that i have a lot of guy friends. But thats just how i am i have a million friends i'm really socail what do i tell him (link)
well you cant help people ASKING you but just be careful how much you share.. certain things should stay between you and your boy.. and that be that. as for having alot of friends.. well thats part of life. my boyfriend was the same way.. and i told him theres a fine line between the feelings i have for him.. and how much it is that i "like" my friends.. its all about trust.. if he trusts you he shouldn't worry. (:
good luck!


hey does anyone know who sings this,and the song title. i only know one line...

You love me but you dont know wwho i am.


thxx (link)
ahh one of my favorites!
3 Doors Down- Let Me Go
(:


Hey well me and my best friend spend all kinds of time togehter...but ever since she got a bf that can drive shes been spending all her time with him! Dont get me wrong we still hang out alot but shes kinda been blowin me off for him and i feel like im losing her to her boyfriend:( what to do:(
*catherine* 15/f (link)
it happens to all of us at one point.. or we do it to our friends.. buttt yeah you kinda just gotta go with it. dont let her completely forget about you and if it gets COMPLETELY crazy tell her shes forgeting you.. thats it. thats all you can do. soon enough she will come around. friends always come before guys (:
good luck.
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Hi everyone. Welll Whenever i talk to my mom about my friends and their boyfriends and like i wana talk about mine...i chicken out. I don't know what to do to tel my mom about my boufriend. Its kind of enbarresing in your personal life...my friends feel the same way as me but some girls can tell their mom anything.

What can i do to have me talk to my mom aobut my boyfriends?

thxxx ♥ ♥ ♥ (link)
i have one of those moms whos hard to talk to.. just start off by mentioning you have a crush on someone.. if you ever talk to him and shes somewhere near just act like you like him... maybe she will ask you about it. your moms gunna know that as you get older guys are gunna come around.. its life. good luck (:
l0VE AlWAys-


okay, so i'm 14/m, and she's 14/f, and i've known her for a really long time as a friend, and i've had a secret crush on her forever now.
so i said to her the other day, "hey, do you wanna go see a movie or something on friday" and she looks at me like i'm crazy. i've never really had a girlfriend before, and i think i totally f*cked up our relationship. she won't even talk to me anymore. anyone got some advice that could help? (link)
sorry to hear that man. but hey talk to her n just ask her.. (if you THINK SHE LIKES YOU) say.."hey about the movies.. you wanna go maybe sometime"... if you feel SHEE DOESNT LIKE YOU then just act like you meant to go as friends..that way she will at least talk to you, and you can work on slowly tellling her. good luck dude. but remember not everyones meant to be.. theres SO many girls out there your just gettin started. hopefully it all works out (:
l0VE AlWAys-


eh wat do guys think are attractive? not just how they look, but what about how they act? please help. i really want some guys to like me!! my friends r gettin all the guys!! its hard to explain but just pls help me. (link)
defintely be funny and happy and outgoing. be you as you are. feel confident enough to put yourself out there that your single and wanna see someone. good luck (:
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