does being a virgin mean you've never had sex? what about fingering/blowjobs etc does that count, and if youve done one, are u not a virgin anymore? someone please explain..
Ok.... sexual intercourse is defined as the male penis entering the female vagina. That is ALL that constitutes as being a "virgin"... when a penis enters your vagina. However, in the case of lesbians and gay guys... sex can be defined a lil differently..... usually by oral sex for girls (or using sex toys in place of a penis) and male guys have sex through the rectum. Lol. Anyway, in your case, I would say you a virgin unless, personally, you define oral sex as going far enoght to say that your not a virgin. I dunno. It depends on how you look at it. But, yeah, generally, you would still be a "virgin" until it is actual intercourse as I have explaines. :). Hope this helped! Lemme know if you need anything else.
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do you think getting fingered or giving a handjob is to slutty for a 13 yr old? thanks♥
My advice is simply this. One, no, its not slutty, in a general sense. There are a lot of 13 year olds doing worse than that. Lol. But, if you have to ask, then its OBVIOUS that you arent ready and therefore its prolly not the right now for you. You should think about that. Thanks, love!
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I have this girl i met in darwin when i went for a holiday there and she likes me and i like her. But she dont wanna do long distance...
What do i do?
Ok... all you can do hunni is respect the fact that she has told you that she don't want a relationship with you because of th edistance. There is nothing more you can really do. Just let her know how you feel and leave it at that. If she still don't want to be with you then just try and get over her babe. Thats really your only option. Lemme know if you need anything.
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ok.... well i have been going out w/ this boy for about 4 months now and i really love him alott!!!! so i am 14 and goin into high school and yaa. so and latley my boyfriend has wanted to go to 3rd base w/ my (down muh pants) i no he is ready and i trust him but i dont now if im still to young or if i should jus do it or wait mann i am so confused ill rate 5
Ok sweetie, first off. If you are this confused about it all, then you prolly aren't ready. I have been there. When you are ready then you will know. Trust me. Just listen to your heart and be smart about it. When its time, you will know that your ready and it will be WONDERFUL for you and your bf. Best of luck babe.
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Thanx for your advice, I have been stressing out way too much! I also have all this other crap going on! This situation does not help at all! I kept googleing it and they say that there is a possibility that I can get pregnant and all of them say that! I don't know what I will do if that happened!
Its ok.... you will be fine hun :)
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I know you already covered this, but I just want to be sure...Please respond back! I'm very desperate and have not recieved any help...My question has 2 parts. Firstly, my last period happened January 8th.I should have started by now, but have been so stressed about this, and extremely stressed about school. Could stress have affected my period? Secondly,my boyfriend and I were messing around and before we knew it we were in our underwear. He was rubbing against my vagina with his penis but we both still had our underwear on and it was only for a little while. Then I looked down and saw that his underwear had a little wet spot on it (with pre-ejaculation), and my underwear was wet too (with my own discharge). After we both noticed this, we immediately stopped. As I said this encounter was very short--1-3 minutes tops. I am writing because I am so scared. Could I have gotten pregnant from the pre-ejaculation fluid on his underwear??...I have been so worried abou this!! Please help me. AS I said I have not recieved any help, so I appreciate any insight you can give.
Thanks.
Ok hunni, first of all you cannot get pregnant from pre-ejaculation on your underwear. This is because the sperm cannot live under those circumstances. So... no need to worry. Aside from that, you said it was only for 1 to 3 minutes. Its nearly impossible. I would not worry about it at all. Now, to address your next question, yes, stress can effect your period. If a woman is too stressed out then may have a light period or not have one at all. So, don't worry about it hun. Honestly, you just need to stop worrying and I am sure that you will see, everything is fine. :). Let me know if you need anything else. Try to relax sweetie!
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say it was 3 thin layers of clothing. He did ejaculate and I noticed that there was a wet spot on my shorts around the top of my private area, I am not sure if it went through my underwear or not, but my underwear was also wet, but that was probably my stuff. I am really scared that I will get pregnant. I will get my period approximately around Feb 9 so that is where I stand. I am really worried, what can I do?
First off hunni, I don't think that you need to worry that much. This will only give you a headache and cause you MORE problems. Stress and worrying can also make you miss your period or have a late/lite one as well.... so.....calm down and just wait it out. If you do happen to miss your period and your TRULY think that you could be pregnant then you should wait until 5 days or so after your missed period and take a pregnancy test. I seriously think that you will be ok though. Please try not to worry too much! Dry humping isn't the worst thing that one could do to end up in this situation. Haha. Best Of Luck! Let me know if you need anything! *Smiles*
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Is it possible for girls to have wet dreams? because i wake up and theres always clearish gooey stuff in my underwear. Oh, and in school i get it to. what is it? Thank you, i rate high :)
Lol. Hunni. It's just discharge! Nothing AT ALL to worry about! And about the wet dreams thing, I am pretty sure that it is possible for girls as well to get "sexually aroused" wile sleeping although I am not positive and I have not personally had this problem. It seem logical though. Just, don't worry hun! It's normal discharge is all! Just make sure to change underwear often and use a panty liner if it's really bad and make sure to stay cleaned off down there. Lol. Have a good one hunni! Relax!
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okay I need help big time!!! There's this guy I like a lot I love him soooo much!! We went out once and he broke up with me because he thought my best friend was running our relationship! which she wasn't(stupid excuse)but I thought I was over him and everytime I see him my fellings get a hole lot stronger! I really want to be with him but I don't know if he feels the same way. Now please don't tell me to talk to him because he's one of those guys that won't understand where I'm coming from!!! Please give me advice!!!
I think everyone did a god job at answering this question, but I wanted to add something. Call me a smartass, call me a bitch, I don't care. I am not trying to be rude. I just have to ask "How can you have a relationship with someone that you can't talk to and that don't understand you?". Seriously, let that sink in and think about it for a sec. Um..... yeah! It's NOT GONNA HAPPEN! Either try to talk to him and suck it up and get over it or MOVE ON sweetie. Sorry if I am harsh, but this is life and this is what is REALITY! Lol. Have a good one. Let me know if you need anything else! *Smiles* *Hugs*
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Well christmas is coming up and i think i know what im doing for my Girlfriend, if you have read my past questions, i'm doing this thing, i get a vase with 11 roses in it, and one glass rose in it. And a card on it that says "when the last rose dies is when i will stop loving you" Hence... a glass rose wont die. Then besides that im gonna do one of those build-a-bear things.. and a silver neckless. Sound good? anyone know a good place to get a silver neckless? like a heart emblem of what ever?
This sounds so sweet, but you might want to reconsider the wording of the card. It is kind confusing. You might say "A Glass Rose Never Dies and Neither will my love for you. Merry Christmas!" It just sounds more sensitive and sweet. Your a real charmer and I was VERY impressed to read this! Good Job! Your a keeper!
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ok im sry this is so long but i need this advice please read
ok so theres this guy that i went out with this summer and we broke up. i still really really like him and i talk to him still and were fwb(friends wiht benefits)and everything and he tells me how much he really really likes me and im all he thinks about and he says he wants to be wiht me but his sports, work, and school get in the way for him to have a girlfriend. and he doesnt want to hurt me again well the past week or so he hasnt really called and when i call him he is always hey can i call you back and he never does and ya i dont know if he still likes me or what but i dont know if i should wait for him or i should move on!!
please let me know soon i have wanted to know for awhile
Ok hunni, here is the thing, if this guy TRULY liked you as much as he says that he does and ALWAYS thinks about you, then he would want to be with you NO MATTER WHAT! If he wanted to be with you, he would be back with you already! Don't keep wasting your time sweetie! Just, LET HIM CALL YOU! If it is meant to work out, it will. Don't try to push it any longer! He will more than likely call you someday once he realizes that you are not contacting him. See, by not giving you direct answers and not talking to you that much, he is keeping you on a string so that you WONT move on and you will still BE THERE. Don't give him that! Make him work for it if he wants you back and prove himself by making him call you. It will be worth it in the end hun. I promise! Besides, if you starts calling you all the time, you will have NO DOUBT that he is interested and you will trust him more. Lol. It's a win-win situation babe! Hope I helped! Let me know if you need anything! *Hugs*
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My boyfriend, of almost 2years, just broke up with me. I am going out tonight with my best girl Kate, and we are going bowling. Is that a good Idea?
What should I do to keep my mind off of it? And what shouldn't I do?
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Hunni, I know exactly what you are going through. I JUST WENT THROUGH IT! My boyfriend of almost three years broke up with me for another girl that he didn't even know and who he met on the internet and who lives in California. The best thing for you to do is talk to friends and family about it and STAY STRONG! I know it is hard, but, in the end, it will be worth it. I am now over that jerk and with the LOVE OF MY LIFE! Trust me sweetie, you will be happy again one day. If you need anything, I am here for ya hun. *Hugs*. Hang In There! You are doing the right thing in staying busy. It will help! Just find a hobby and friends who care. DON'T sit around too much (Like on the internet, HAHA, which you are OBVIOUSLY DOING NOW). It will make you bored and you will think about it all OVER AND OVER again. Ok? TRUST ME! Let me know if you need abything once again! Thanks Sweetie!
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so i woke up in the middle ofthe night the other day... and you see i was going to pee and i heard scary sounds coming from the basement. I did what my mama always told me and went down there with a shovel that i always keepunder my bed. So i tiptoe down and find this person like rollingaround in the basement.. so i hit him.. and then omg this is horrible.. it was my sister andher bf!!! they were having sex:o whatdo i tell my mom?? and my sister?? how can i confront her? i dont think she is ready emotionly. Is 37 too young?? idk thanx I RATE HIGH!!!!
Wow! This really caught my attention. First off, WTF do you keep a shovel under your bed for? Thats kind of scary that your mom would ask you to do that unless you live in a really bad area in your city or something! No offense, but that is just creepy! Secondly, why would you go into the basement with a shovel and not turn on the light? I am assuming that is why you did not see your sister and her boyfriend clearly! You should have done this! Also, why on earth did you hit him in the head with a shovel? That is attempted murder!!!! Did you not say "Who are you?" or "Hello..... Who is down here?". That could have prevented a lot of problems! Lol. Now, as far as your question about the age of 37, IT IS NOT TOO YOUNG! OGM! Your sister should be able to do whatever she wants at that age! She is an adult and has been for a GOOD WHILE! However, WHAT ON EARTH IS SHE DOING AT YOUR HOUSE? If she is that age, she should be out on her own unless she has a medical or mental condition that does not allow her to do that. Ya Know? SHE OBVIOUSLY NEEDS HER PRIVACY and I am just wondering why she is there. As far as what to tell your mom and sister, I think the answer is NOTHING! Your sister is old enough and should not have to justify her actions. Ok hunni? I am not meaning to sound harsh with my advice either! Sorry if I do! Thats about all that I have to say, if you need anything else, feel free to ask me. I am always here! Thanks! *Smiles*
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Ok I have a boyfriend and everything and I am afraid that he will want to kiss me. I don't have a problem with that. Its just my mom. She is VERY protective and if he does kiss me I am afraid that someone will tell her and she will get really mad. So What can I do. I have already talked to her and she said I am too young. :(
13/f No Smartasses either!
Ok Hunni, I have a few comments for you. Fist off, I would not worry too much about someone telling your mom that this guy kissed you. Personally, I don't know anyone (besides siblings) who would do that. Kissing is just not that big of a deal! If you have siblings, however, I would not kiss your boyfriend in front of them. THEY COULD tell your mom or use it for blackmale if they get mad at you. Ya Know? But, if you really want to kiss your boyfriend, YOUR 13 and I say tell him that you want to. However, if you don't want to kiss him, then I would just wait til your ready. I would just talk to your boyfriend and tell him what your mom said bout kissing that way he is well aware of the situation. Ok sweetie? You may even want to talk to your mom again. If kissing your boyfriend is something you really want to do, then explain to your mom why you think your ready for that. Honestly sweetie, it's not like your asking to have sex or anything and you DID talk to your mom about kissing him before you did it (most kids would not care enough to do that) so I think she should respect that you talked to her and take that as a sign of you growing up. Ya Know? So, TALKING is the key here! Talk to your boyfriend and mom and DON'T KISS HIM AROUND SIBLINGS IF YOU DO DECIDE TO KISS HIM UNLESS YOUR MOM KNOWS YOUR GOING TO KISS HIM! Hope I helped hunni. You can ask me if you have anymore questions. Thanks! *Hugs*
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i need help. okay, i've been with my boyfriend for a while now, but there's a small little problem that i'm having in our relationship. i love him to death and i know that he feels the same way, but when he talks to other girls.. i often get jealous and feel as if he's going to leave me for this girl even though i know they are just friends, i feel like maybe he sees something more in the girls he talks too. i feel this way because in the past, every guy i was with.. left me for another girl or was seeing another girl behind my back. i just got used to it & so now everytime i get into a new realtionship, i feel as if the same thing is going to happen even though i know all guys aren't the same, it's just something that sort of stuck in my mind. i expect guys to leave me.. i guess it's so i won't get hurt like i did in the past. i've talked with my boyfriend about this and he understands why i feel like this because of past experiences but he always reassures me that there is nothing going on because he doesn't want any other girl in this world besides me & that he loves me more than i could imagine. i mean, we've even talked about spending the rest of our lives together. i don't always have this problem when i'm with him.. but then there are times when i do. i hate it a lot because i really don't wanna feel this way, i TRY to tell myself "hes not gonna leave you" and it works half the time but then other time it doesnt and i get really upset. just so you know, i do BELIVE that he loves me, i don't doubt that.. it's just i really don't know how to explain it. maybe someone knows where i'm coming from. the point is, is there anyway i can convince myself that he's not going to leave me? is there anything at all i can do? or am i gonna be stuck feeling like this for the rest of my life because of what has happened to me in the past?
Ok, sweetie, I think I can help. First off, when I was 16, I WAS JUST LIKE YOU! I had a boyfriend that was always telling me that he loved me more than anything and would be with me forever. He always reassured me that he would never leave me (unless I cheated on him - which I didn't). Even though he told me this all of the time, like you, I got jealous becuse all of his friends were girls! However, he was dedicated to me and just kept reassuring me that he wanted to be with me forever! Well, last August we went to college together and he got an apartment. We were 18 and 19! We had been together for almost three years! Well, I continued to be insecure and question his devotion to me. I didn't trust him! He eventually got tired of it and he will tell you this exact quote "I would have given you everything! But, since you didn't trust me, I got tired of it and it was easy to cheat on you." YES, THATS RIGHT! He ended up cheating on me because he was tired of me questioning him. He found some other chick in California (through the internet) and now he is HOPELESSLY in love with her. He makes her more happy than I ever did because he got annoyed with there being no trust in the relationship! I was hurt beyond believe for a while, but the fact is, we were TOO YOUNG, and so are you! Men mature later than girls do and the fact is that I wasnt even that mature when I met my ex and I never should have gotten as involved as I did! So, DON'T LET THIS BE YOU! Give your guy his space and don't question his friends because if you trust him and he knows this then it will be harder for him to cheat on you or fall for someone else becuase he wont want to break your trust. But, your really young and have almost your whole life ahead of you! If this guy is your "one and only" then it will work with little to no effort! I assure you! So, just try to trust him so you don't push him away! Now, on a lighter note, I have something that may make you feel better! I am now with a WONDERFUL GUY who I trust completely. Now, I wont lie, it is hard to trust after havng your heart broke by someone you thought would never hurt you. So, I understand how you feel. But, now, I am 19 and I am more in love with him than I could ever imagine! Wanna know the catch? I MET HIM WHEN I WAS 11 or 12!!!! We did the whole "boyfriend/girlfriend" thing back then and after my recent breakup I realized that I really cared for him and thought about him a lot and it turns out, were back together now and I am happier than ever. We were just too young when we first met and needed to mature! We plan on being together for a long time and we make eachother TOO Happy! So, I guess my point here is that you CAN meet that special someone when you are young. IT HAPPENS! So, don't be discouraged! Just know that you need to trust him and take some time to mature! Ok sweetie! Hope my story helps! Let me know if you ever need anything! *Smiles* *Hugs*.
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someone please help me i dont know wut to think..me and my bf have been going out for 2 months and now all of a sudden hes been talking bout this gurl name brittany(shes my friend)he asked me wut her last name is and he wants to c her myspace and all that.well normally when we r talking he says i love you before i do and wen he has to go he says i love you to me first,but today he didnt say i love you first,and hes talkin bout my friend brittany, but he sed the only person he will ever like and love is me and that will never change. and i think im thinking he kinda likes her but normally i would never think that cuz me and him are in a deep love relationship and we both love eachother SOOO MUCH but i dont know what i should do.what should i do,think, or say?someone please help me i never felt this way about him b4!someone please help A.S.A.P.(sry about it being soooo long)i rate very high
First off, I have a comment! If you have only been with this guy for 2 months and you already say that you love him, then I have a question for you. How long have you known him and how long were you friends before you dated? The reason I ask is becuase unless you have been in love before and are older, then I do not believe that it is possible to love someone whom you have not know for a long time in just 2 months. I think that it may be a time for you to take a step back in the relationship and talk to your boyfriend and examine your true feelings! Most guys will be honesst about their feelings if you ask them and tell them that you want the truth NO MATTER if it will hurt. Ok hunni? So, ask him! Most guys can't fall in love in 2 months! Now, as far as this other girl, Brittany, there is not much that you can do. If you truly love this guy, then that involves wanting him to be happy and if he ends up liking this other girl and she will make him happy then there isn't much that you can do besides let him go and be happy. It sounds like he has an interest in her! Just ask him how he feels about her! I am sure he will tell you (Like I said before). Now, as far as Myspace, thats really not a big deal! It's just a website and "A Place For Friends". The last thing you want to do is tie your guy down and try to control him. Guys don't like that and they retaliate and try to find someone else becuase they don't like it. Ok, sweetie! So, just let him see it! The key to all of this is COMMUNICATION! Talk with your boyfriend and find out whats going on. I wish you all the best! Thanks! You can ask me anything if you need anymore help. Ok darlin? *Smiles*
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what should i do.... today my boyfriend and i were fighting and i hit him... not to hard but he threw me down on the ground and hit me i think mabey 3 times... not hard... but enough to cut my ear open in 3 places... yea i know messed up... but ive been with him for 3 years and i love him to death and i cant leave him... thats not an option... what should i do?
Wow! Ok, I have been in your shoes. First off, dont ever feel like just because you have been with someone for a LONG TIME that you have to stay with them. You should never stay with someone JUST BECAUSE you feel sorry for them or you feel that you owe it to them and have to stay with them. THERE IS ALWAYS THE OPTION OF LEAVING THEM! So, for you to say that you can't leave him is not true. Trust Me! You Can! Secondly, I would suggest leaving this guy! I was with a guy for almost three years and for about the last year and a half of it, I WAS MISERABLE! See, it all starts with the mental abuse. There are usually control issues, verbal abuse, and prolly even mind games! I have experienced all of these! Then, once an argument starts to excalate to a certain point, after the verbal abuse, physical abuse becomes much easier! My ex boyfriend treated me like an angel until we got to college. Then he started getting really jealous of my friends and starting trying to control me. BEFORE I KNEW IT, HE SMACKED ME a few months later! It only gets worse from there! Trust Me! So, if he is already punching you, just imagine what will come next. Seriously! All of these things I have mentioned are like "Red Flags" telling you to get out of the relationship ASAP. I would suggest doing that! Don't feel like you can't! Lastly, if you HONESTLY want to work harded to make this work and you think you REALLY CAN then I would suggest getting help. I would say that you need to work on your anger manangement just as much as he does seeing as you HIT him first! But, hoenstly, would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone that has once "Threw You To The Ground And Hit You". Are these the memories you want to have of the person your spending the rest of your life with? I would hope not! Search for something more sweetie! Trust Me! There are nice guys out there! My current boyfriend is the best thing that has ever happened to me! I am so happy that it's unreal and you can be too! I hope you want that for yourself hunni! Well, please take my advice with an open mind. Let me know if you ever need anything! Thanks Sweetie! Best Of Luck! *Hugs*
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im not concited. but i am well liked at my school. everyone thinks im...
exsperienced such in the kissing section. well ... im not... when you come from my elementry u are like a goodie good. not that i am but what ever. so anyways i havnt had my first kiss cause im not a hoe and im saving it.
is that soo wrong. and if i do kiss someone. would it all just come soo much more naturally?
Ok, first off, to be a hoe has nothing to do with kissing. Kissing a guy or not does not make you a hoe, nor does it make you NOT a hoe. So, dont worry about rather or not you kiss a guy. It will happen when it happens. So, NO IT ISNT WRONG!
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On my sides are these marks, to be more specific my hips. I'm not sure if this is some sort of part of puberty I didn't learn about or something but it's starting to worry me. By the way I'm not fat, I play sports and I run and everything and I'm a vegetarian.. so I'm pretty skinny. I think maybe my hips are just widening or something, I dont' know, but can anyone tell me what the hell is going on?
Ok, these are stretch marks becuase, yes, your hips are widening. This is perfectly normal. Dont worry! There isnt much that you can really do about it hun. Hope this helps!
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ok my girlfriend has a abusive dad. hes always drunk and beating her. yesturday when i was visiting my girl, he was beating her up, i just got really mad. i couldnt control my self and i pushed him away. and i guess he was drunk and i was really angry he would beat up katy like that, but i beat him up pretty bad. am i right?
Ok, while I think you were right by sticking up for her, I dont know if beating him up was right. See, he is an adult and you should respect him even if he does not deserve it (if you want to be the better person). The best thing for you to do was probably to call the police and let them handle it. Hope I Helped and Best Of Luck To Katy!
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