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Hello, my name is Sarah and I'm a sophmore in highschool. I've been through many exhausting and depressing trials with friendship and drama and know my fair share of heartbreak. If you have a problem I'll be here to answer so don't be hesitant. :]

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people told me about squats and lunges for toning legs.. what are those? please explain..

plus.. spring break is a week and a half. i want to get up every morning, weight lift a little, stretch, and go walking. approx. how long should i fast walk, to tone my legs, how far, and how fast will it work?

i need to look better in a swimsuit in other words, please respond fast, ill rate high!!

A lunge is where you step forward and bend the forward foot down. You want your back knee to almost touch the ground but not completely. Then you do the same with the other leg. I don't think you should do too many first time because they can make you REALLY sore.. And squats are just like the name, squatting down and standing up.

One thing is.. you should give yourself time to rest.. or eat lots of carbs to get your energy back because if you don't you'll just burn yourself out and it's dangerous. I'd say do a hard work out every other day, and do a less stressful one between. To walk I'd say about 2 miles on the hard days half a mile on the easy ones. And the weight all depends on how much you can lift. On the hard days do as much as you can safely, and on the easy days do about half of that.

Good luck! :)

!Sarah

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hey, i just had an idea to make my friend a cd. One with cheerful songs so when she's feeling sad it will make her feel better. Does anyone know some good songs that will put her in a good mood?
Thanks!

Be Happy - by Bowling for soup sorta makes me happy when I'm down.. xD

I'm too tired to give more suggestions.. haha

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what happens when ur best friend likes you and u like them but going out might ruin the friendship??

It depends on what you want.. do you want something more.. or do you treasure the friendship you have, more than you think a relationship would be good.

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Usually my periods are very, very regular (right down to the minute), but this month I got my period two weeks early. Not to mention that I usually have a pretty heavy flow and horrible cramps, but this is just spotting and I have no cramps at all.

Is there something wrong with me? Am I mistaking some kind of nasty disease for my period? (I'm a virgin in every way possible, unless someone raped me in my sleep.)

Is the liquid brown? And if you are feeling a little bit of pain, you might want to see your doctor, it could be a yeast infection. Also, if you are about a year into it sometimes your period is still even a little fickle.. so don't worry too much..

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I really want a boyfriend.All the boys say how ugly I am and that they'd never go out with me! I have brown hair and blonde highlights, brown eyes, a few light freckles, I guess you could say I'm thin, why don't boys like me?? there are girls at my school who look just like what I described and the boys go NUTS for them. It's because they're cheerleaders. I don't want to be a cheerleader, but i want a bf. Should I become a cheerleader?? Can anyone tell me why boys hate me???? I'm not mean to them at all!!!

why should anyone be this desperate for a boyfriend? Maybe you are trying to hard.. I mean, have you ever thought that maybe all the guys around you.. are only looking for a bj? You don't want to be one of those girls.. and you don't want to be a cheerleader just to get a fucking guy.. ok? ok.. I'm guessing your in the jr. high area.. Listen, hormones are probably driving you to feel this way.. *sigh* I haven't ever had a boyfriend.. and really, knowing that middle school relationships almost NEVER make it, and only a handful of highschool ones do makes me think that it's probably better to wait for someone right when I get older..

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okay big health project and the question is what turns a girl on about a guy?

hmm.. for me.. emo boy hair, definately good. But usually.. I think if the girl isn't one that's sorta slutty, respect.. trust, genuine caring.. I know that if a guy just came up and touched my ass or something he should expect a punch in the center of his face..

anyway..

saying sweet things you only hear in movies is nice.. refer to 'the notebook' haha..

sorry for the lame answer.. :/ just this question seemed to entertaining to answer than to just pass up.

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how do i get pictures on a digital camera on the computer...i know by a cord thing but where do i plug it in? thanks!

usually you use a firewire cord, there should be this funky arrow thing on the cord and on the back of your monitor should be 2 maybe 3 slots for them.. plug cord into slot, cord into camera, and your computer (if it's a good, smart computer.. ) should recognize the camera.. with the camera should come some sort of program for it on a cd.

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Hey! I my classmates make fun of me and talk behind my back cause of my weight limit i mean i am a little over weight and i try to keep in shape. Why is everyone so mean to me? I never do anything mean to them? I dont get it? why do kids have to be so mean.

kids always set themselves apart from other people. Some people are different in the way they are shaped because everyone's metabolism is different (how easily you digest and dissolve your food into your system). The slower your metabolism the harder it is to lose weight for someone because the fats have more exposure to your system and can't be dissolved as easily. You are you, and kids are cruel.. I'm suspecting your in middle school? well these are the worst years I'd have to say if you are different from the rest and different people.. people are so superificial and aren't mature enough to realize that the world would be boring if we were all the same.. *shrugsigh*

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ok here it is...i moved into a two family house,,,the people downstairs are related to the peopl i lived with upstairs but they have no relation to me...understand? well, the girl downstairs has a baby and a boyfriend. i always had a crush on him but ignored it because i knew it was wrong, but one day we made plans to hang out without everyone else and kept it a secret and thats how it all began and now i have moved out of that house but i continue to see him on the low. i still go to that house because my family still lives there and i am close to this guys daughter and girlfriend, i love him so much and i know how wrong i am! and i always feel bad because im hurting all these ppl around me but no one understands that i really love him! plz no negativity i just need some point of view! i hurt so bad because i am in love with him but i cant keep going like this! i tried breaking it off with him but i just love him so much and i cant turn away and say no to him!

Well, first I don't think this guy should be cheating on his girlfriend.. I mean, he probably 'loved' her at the time they got that baby. If the two aren't going to get married though I think maybe it'll be time to move on.. He can still help out with the girl and her child. I really think you should try your hardest to distance yourself from him and date someone else because you may love him, but what your doing is really wrong in my opinion. I'm not flaming you or anything but it sorta is.. *sigh* If I were you, I would do my best to break it off with him for a while and trying to find someone to go out with that's a little younger.. I mean.. 18 and 23 is still sort of a significant age difference. You've got to let the two that are together right now, work things out before you make a move.. it's the cold hard truth..

- I tells it like it is
!Sarah

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My 'friend' is ruining my life!!!!!!! She talks crap on me and ALL of my other good friends all the time! She spreads rumors that arent true! She is a SLUT and she is pround of it! You just can't stop her she is like this bug you just can't kill and I don't know what to do! What can I do to make her stop doing this?!?! She has new friends now, and I know she is going to ruin their lives as well. I dont want them going through the pain I went through because of her. THey say they don't like her at all, but they still are nice to her and hang around her. I know if they keep making her think that they are freinds that she will go around and screw them over jsut like she did to me and my other good friend. What can I say/do to make it stop before it happens? Thanks! I RATE HIGH! :)

Why do you care so much about the other people? I say it's their funeral.. teh

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I was babysitting at a place over an hour away (I was spending the night there too), and I was charging my cell before I left, and I guess I forgot it was on and charging, so I had left it at home when I left (accidentaly) and it was charging until about noon the next day... maybe later, so if I estimated it would have been from 4p.m to maybe 12:30p.m, not quite 24 hours, but about 3 and a half hours less.

2 questions...
Is it bad to leave you cell on when you're charging (my cell will still charge)
And is it bad to keep it charging for so long (even if it was on accident) Thanks!

no... I think that would be good for your phone if anything.. Your phone can't overload with energy.. xD but an interesting question though that woke me up a little.

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one group of my friends drink a lot and i dont really care that much about it. im not against it or anything. my only concern is that i know sometime i will be involved in a situation where i will be asked if i want a drink... the thing is, i have never drank before, i don't want to say no, but i don't want to get the reputation that i always do that stuff. whats your advice?

oooOOhhH PeeER PreSSuuure... lol

haha, well.. my advice is you should try and stay away from those situations as much as you can. Know that you have the choice to say 'no' your friends don't control your actions, and if they are good friends they will respect your morals. :)

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I hae to close friends that are pregnant. Unfortunantly one was raped and the other one was by her boyfriend. They are both considering abortion. Why is it that people think it is all right for my friend who was raped to get an abotion and the other one isn't. Both are still killing and innocent child...Please help me understand the difference!!

The girl that was raped did not have a choice in having that child. Having a child at what I'm supposing your age can ruin your entire life. It's not fair to her in my opinion because of someone else's sick desires. However, the other girl probably chose to have sex with her boyfriend. SHE MADE THAT CHOICE so don't you think she deserves the punishment of having to raise the child more? I mean, she made that decision, and now she'll have to suffer the consequences.. Don't do the crime if you can't do the time.

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Hey I was wondering how do you make a collage(on the computer)? Like with all your pics and stuff. Do I do it on paint? Can anyone give me step by step instructions on how to do it?

There are many ways to make one but the only decent way is if you have a decent paint program. If you are really interested in that sort of thing then you can save up the money to buy Paint Shop Pro 7.0, it's a REALLY good program for that sort of thing. It cost about 150 dollars.. but I think it's worth it if your going to use it alot..

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i know alot of girls probably do this.. but i always compare myself to models and girls who i believe are prettier than me.. im always putting myself down and looking in the mirror finding everything thats wrong with me and wishing i was perfect like other girls I know... does anyone else do the same.. how do you get over it

the models, first of all, that are in magazines are all photoshopped to death.. none of them really look that way. and two, most of them have to have surgery to look good anyway. Someone envies you all the time.. even when you don't realize it someone might envy you the tiniest bit for something that you don't even see in yourself. Know you are beautiful in your own way, and that you are more beautiful on the inside than any of those models or other girls will ever be. :) hope I helped, if you need anymore advice I'm always around.

!Sarah

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OK so my BFF's little brother is completely discusting!!! He acts very preverted even to me! It's sooo gross. He does things that are well REALLY inapropriate! Oh man when ever my friend and I try to tell him to stop, he will just ignore us and tell me I am sexy. Ya it's that weird for peet sakes hes only nine! How do I get him to stop?!

slap that little pervert across the face! no.. but seriously.. ignore him, all guys that are in the 9 to 18 year old range are oddly and grotesquely perverted..

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I like this boy called Daniel, but I don’t know what to do! Today in PE my friends were saying, "Let’s call Lauren's (my) crush Daz, as a code name. As in Daniel" (they have these sad code names for the boys they fancy, like carrot and cabbage). I didn't tell them that I fancied him, but they must know, and plus in art, one of them asked if I fancied Dan. I shook my head but I was smiling a bit so I guess they knew =( I'm really scared they'll tell him! he said he liked my drawing in art, and that it was better than his, and he kept touching my foot with his foot under the desk too. and my friend was making fun of me, and he stuck up for me, then he said "I'm only defending Lauren" when my mate asked why. that was a few days ago, and now he's just ignoring me (I think he was looking at me, but I was scared I would start blushing if I looked at him, so I guess I'm ignoring him too) I'm real shy + ugly lol so I don’t know what to do! I'd love to go out with him but I'm scared my friends would laugh because they always fancy popular, 'hard' boys who get into fights. Dan is really sweet and mature. and plus he probably doesn’t even like me =/ any easy tips on flirting for SHY people? 'Cos I’m not good at flirting lol =\ please help? Thanks =)

sounds like he's got the flirting down just fine for you. Just don't resist it, add a bit of your own flirting into it... and I have a question.. are you austrailian? xD fancy.. mate.. xD sorry sorry.. I'm just a stupid american don't mind me.

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okay well my best friend is always telling the people i like that i like them!! and she's always mean and like, yeah you have no friends, haha im just kidding! and then she says that the kid i like, matt, would never like me. and its really annoying.

And my other best friend is ALWAYS up on the guy i like. and if i stop liking them, she loses all interest. its REALLY annoying.

have you tried telling your friends they annoy the hell out of you? Talking usually works if you want to know what the hell is going on.

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so today i asked a guy i really like to be my b/f and he said yes after keeping me in suspence for a few hours during the school day. hes really shy all the time so i asked him out. im afraid this relationship isnt gonna work out cuz he wont call or talk to me... should i give it some time to get comfy (if yes, how should i help him) or just tell him to forget it?

I'm sorry to say it, but I don't think really really outgoing people and shy people work.. I'm sort of a shy person myself and I hate really, really loud people.. if you aren't going to be comfortable with how he is I don't think it'll work..

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Hey! I know, I ask a TUN of questions about tracK!

but, I have a meet on monday! (Im asking this on Saturday Morning) and I have HORRIBLE pains in my knees and ankels when i run, and after i run i have the pains in my ankels. it always feels like my i am going to sprain my ankel!

I have pratice in about an hour!

so, i need some help! what should i do to make myself go faster, despite the pains.

I know how to at the meet because i only have to do it one time, but at pratice wtih the continous working, what should I do??

and any ways to go faster, and im in the 4X1 relay! anyone have sugestions for that either?

Also- I know what the pains are coming from-its the track.

:/

sorry its so long, but i only have a little over one hour before i have to leave for pratice!

Thanks In Advance!

-*KelC*-

hum.. hum hum.. Well, having the fact that I do play soccer.. I would know some things about speed, though there are two kinds of speed, and two kinds of ways your muscles can adjust. In your muscles are fast twitch and slow twitch reflexes. Fast twitch are more for the sprinting type of thing your talking about, where as slow twitch are more for the cross country or endurance runner. Down side to these muscles are that you can never have high levels of both, you are one way or another, or at least this is what my coach says. (who knows, he's a crazy old person.. *shrug*) For this, because soccer players need to have plenty of speed, he has a speed camp to build up the fast twitch reflexes in our muscles. There are a lot of small little things that make you have to react and move faster that we do at soccer, primarily a "speed camp" my coach holds... some examples..

( picture provided under each description )

hoops - he sets some plastic hoops out in a sort of flower pattern, you jump and change which foot is in the hoop every time and go all the way around the circle. Sometimes we do about like 3 reps one way, and then 3 the other. Since you don't have hoops, just take some chalk and make circles on the ground.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v292/Jadewolfen/soccerhoops.bmp

hurdles - There are small hurdles we use (he sets some wood blocks ontop of cones so that it's lower than a normal hurdle) and you do two steps in between each going as fast as you can.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v292/Jadewolfen/soccerhurdles.bmp

crates - You those plastic crates? the ones that you can see inside, and they are those boxes. Well, that can be an easy tool. Just set it down, opening facing the ground. Jump over the box, placing your foot on the top (the one that's closest to the box on that side) You can do this in intervals, like pyramids. 30 sec, 45 sec, 1 min.. back down. And who says you have to use a box, use your little brother if you want, anything you can jump over will do.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v292/Jadewolfen/soccercrates.bmp

I hope I provided plenty of ideas for you, good luck with track.. :)

p.s. excuse the sloppiness of my pictures, just thought that would more easily explain things..

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