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WE ARE ALL SUPER HEROS IN OUR OWN WAY.
Don't forget that! It's what we all are, and can be!
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my best friend has been going out with her boyfriend for about 2 months. this is her first serious boyfriend - shes 16, and im happy for her. only thing is, she is head over heels for him, but its really obvious he doesn't like her like that. i am NOT jealous, i would never date a guy in the same species as this one, haha, but im not the only one who has noticed the apathy on his part. she sets up all the dates, she asked him out, and he doesnt even hug her when they say goodbye! theyve kissed but to me it seems like a formality on his part. -i a really intrapersonal person, i can pick up others' feelings easily, but even my other friends notice-
also, she invites him everywhere when we have girl time. like, when its just her & me, its normal, but whenever she invites a handful of friends over, all girls, he has to come, too. i dont mind once in a while but its getting rediculous. he's obviously never had a girlfriend before (not to be mean but hes really nerdy and quiet, im not prejudiced against that type of guy 'cause i like shy guys haha but quite honestly he's just... boring) and is just riding the wave.
even worse, she kinda acts different around him. i mean obv girls act dif around their boyfriends but when all her girl friends are hanging out and he happens to be around, her attitude completely changes and shes not as fun anymore.
i dont know what to do. if i brought up the whole not inviting him places things, she might get mad at me, (i wouldnt blame her). also i do not want to be the one to tell her [and i dont think i should tell her... even though if anyone should, it would be me] he doesnt like her and break her heart. should i just stay out of this? if it was me, though, i'd want her to tell me.
opinions? thanks so much. (link)
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Alright WOW. Hmm.. Sounds like a handfull. As Much as you may know this friend and her boyfriend. Doesn't mean much, she may like to be different occasionally with her boyfriend, it sucks to be the same person everyday in my own opinion. Also, if she's his first girlfriend, it could just be different, and he's just you know different? I'd stay out of it, and if he does hurt her be there for her then, when she really will need you. Until then don't say anything, cause it could make up the possiblity is she will notice something, get weirded out, and lose something that wasn't ment to lose. :\ It's always a possiblity. I know you'd want her to tell you if she felt that your boyfriend didn't seem like he liked you, but if she seems happy right now, I'd let it go. :\ Things happen for a reason. :x
Lemme know how it all turns out. :) Good Luck Love.
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so as you all know valentines day is coming up.
i want to surprise my boyfriend with something sexy, but the problem is...i don't really have anything planned out yet haha.
so i was thinking something possibly with lingere but nothing to skanky, were teenagers, maybe just a cute top?
any advice for plans? thanks! (link)
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I really would have to say it depends were your located?
Could take a nice strole in the park or some where ubber beautiful, have a beautiful dinner set up, and as you said a lingere would be sweet, something unique perhaps. :) Just make it an experience he'll never forget. :x
Good Luck Love.
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18-female. my guy friend is 17/m
so i've known lets call him "nick" for about four years now. he recently just broke up with his girlfriend of three years, yeah shocking! i've always liked him so i was kind of happy about it. but then i heard from my cousin that he was "talking" to another girl. i was really upset, becasue i mean really? another girl already? and so one night i was like nick is there something you have to tell me, and he was like well like what. and then i was like i hear you have a "new girl" and he was like what! no!! who?! and i told him and he was like haha noooo where did you hear that from and then he always denied it well then the next day he was texting me all day and this girl is my cousin's cousin if that makes sense and she invited herself to his house because my cousin is next door neighbors with nick. well i was like nick why dont you go over there to see your new girl? and he was like SHES NOT MY NEW GIRL! why do you think she is? i dont have a new girl, i dont want one. and i was like why would she invite herself over there, to see you? and he was like i dont know, cant we be friends and why do you care anyways? and i was like because i hate being lied to! and he was like you dont ever even believe me and he knows i have a trust issue and i felt bad because he sounded SOOOO convincing you know? so i was like okay sorry i belive you, i wont bring it up again. well then that night it was me nick my cousin and the "girl" at my cousins house. the "girl" tries to get ALL the attention, its quite annoying. well then nick asked if she wanted to play air hockey downstairs and so just them two went down and after they were done they stayed down there and we watching a movie!!! i was so pissed, but i wasnt going to say anything well because i told him i wouldnt bring it up again and i didnt want to seem annoying because i knew he would say shes not his new girl. i just dont understand though? and my cousin was spying on them and texted nick and was like stop being a "pussy" and kiss her and then he said they were talking about it? i almost started crying. what should i do? am i over reacting? i dont want to seem annoying and i've already brought her up twice before! do you think there just friends? i know hes attracted to me, its not like i'm looking for a relationship with him though becasue i know he wouldnt want to get into one right away. after that night, i havent talked to him at ALL. any suggestions, comments? what do you think is going on. (link)
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OH MY GOD! lol Dude this guy may have just got out of a relationship, and isn't calling this girl his "NEW" girl, but dude like he's attracted to her, and talked about kissing her..
I'd seriously suggest telling him, "Look I'm sorry I was so weird about you being into that other girl. It's just "nick" I really would like to maybe have a relationship with you, when you're ready. I've liked you for sometime." You already said he's into you, he probable thinks you just see him as a buddy. So step forward girl, before that other "girl" does! >:| DO IT!
Don't miss out on your chance!! Go Go Go!!
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heya im that guy who posted the questions "its not quite love but i think about her, what is it? :S" and "ahhh! everyone knows!! XD what do i do hahaha" well anyways.. both of those questions were about this one girl who i'v recently started liking, since those questions iv made a little progress, iv told that "I think i like you" because im not sure because im so confused right now. she got a little red faced and start stuttering which i thought was sweet because i think she likes me a little too. we'v both said that we want to get to know eachother better which was great it made me really happy beacuse we had allready planned to go into town on friday this week (which is probably today if your reading this now) but about 2 hours ago she told me that she couldnt go :( its for a good reason though she had to plan somthing with her family. but im feeling a little sad about it, i was really looking forward to seeing her and being able to actually try and talk to her and just her for a while so I could get to know her and her get to know me. we only see eachother in college and thats not exactly the best place because everyone in my class knows i like her so they like to say little things every now and then to try and make me get all embarassed which is kinda funny but not quite what i want. i walked back some of the way home with her today after college which was nice, we had a little bit of smalltalk about course work and stuff we said on msn to our freinds but nothing major, i was feeling really good about friday untill she said :( what do i do now? organise another day to go into town with her? is it probably better to do that? because on of me freinds just invited himslf along lol.
hotsauce if your reading, please help ^_^ youve been really helpfull with my other 2 questions what are your thoughts on this situation kus i cant get a straight thought it anywere with out thinkin ill be missing her or somthing :( (link)
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hahaah. YOU AGAIN? Tisk Tisk boy!
Alright, just go ahead and set up another date. She's probable sad about it, and feels bad too. I bet she really likes you. Also, don't let people just invite them selves to go out with you and this girl when you do finally hang-out with her. Make it a one on one thing, unless she invites someone. I'd be better to do a single meeting with her first though, so when you do have like you're bestfriend and her bestfried go with you two you won't feel awkward with them around well you're with her. :x
Get her man! :D
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Ok well there is a guy that seems to like me. I've known him for a while and when I first met him I thought he was the best thing ever made, no joke. I was extremely attracted to this guy for reasons I can't really describe. We are into the same stuff and all but sometimes he can be very judgmental about people which is a huge turn off, but still I always liked him. But over time I figured nothing was going to come of it because although we talked and all, he never made a move. So I decided to try to stop liking him, which kind of worked. After that, I started liking an old friend who ended up asking me out. That was over winter break. Now, with school back and all, the guy I liked before and I have to work in a group project for theater. And all the time he sits extremely close to me and he, well I don't know what he does, but it's like I can feel his energy saying "I LIKE YOU!!". So there I am, having a blast from the past crush on this guy, while my boyfriend is off at another school. I love my boyfriend (not in love but love) but whenever I'm around this other guy all these feelings come back. I'd never cheat on him though but it's just feels wrong to think of another guy this way. What shall I do? (link)
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Well, you should ask him if he likes you more then a friend in anyway. It would be so much easier to decide what to do if you had an exact idea of how this friend of yours feels. I know it'll be harsh if he says no, but at least you'll know if he has/does ever want to have a relationship. Other wise love your boyfriend, and try to be happy. :\
I know it's hard to love someone when you're not exactly "in-love" with them.
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well to start off there is this guy named Jay and he and i were always together, dating constantly but never really official, we didnt make it official bc he was moving to another country, weird i know but we kept in touch alot in the begining of his move kept up with birthdays and holidays then a month pass by and no talking happend. :( well then my birthday comes and he calls me i was extremely over whelmed with my feelings for him and and started to cry again over him. well then two to three weeks later which leads to now he calls only bc he misses me and wants to talk to me. he gets all i miss you, i need you, flirty, remembering the past of us. im really trying to get over him. and he is the one that said its okay to seee other people and move on already. im trying to move on, there is this guy named Adam and i've known him before Jay and well i started to like him and he likes me back, and Jay saw us talking over myspace and asked what was going on between us? i told him that he was just a frined, did i do that bc i still have feelings for him? should i have said that we are talking? i like both of them the same i think. and well i dont think im in love with Jay anymore, he broke my heart. I did something that i rereted with this guy, i think i only did that bc i needed someone to love me, since i thought Jay doesnt love me, he comes back when im happy and moving on and when i need him he isnt there. so anyways is he just messing with me bc he hasnt found a girl in his new location? and he knows im always going to be there? well im clueless on what to do i like both Adam and Jay the same but one i loved with great emotions and the other one is like a best friend i can settle down with.
any suggestions?
btw: sorry for the long story. (link)
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Well not a problem, story helps someone else give you some sort of clue what to do with your decsion!
Alright it's a totally possiblitiy he (Jay) hasn't met someone in his new location, but he called you on your birthday, so he could totally miss you. I really suggest not getting back together with him.
I'd say go for Adam, if he's closer and make you happy, and you like him enough to love him and what not. He sounds like a sweet guy from what little bit you gave me.
Stay friends with Jay, I mean maybe some day you'll get back together with Jay, Until then you're young have fun! :D
Life is Simple. You Make Choices and don't look Back!
Don't tell him to leave you alone, You don't want him out of your life completly do you? :| That would probable hurt you just as much as him.. :\ Really try and ... move on "Relationship" wise, but be friends with him... :x i'd say.
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hey
i like this guy who is 4 years older than me. he used to be my manager and we talked alot through text message and back when he was still my manager we were flirting alot and he said Rules are meant to be broken but you just cant get caught. he got moved to another store, and hes leaving in a couple of weeks to go there. for 2 weeks he was being cold to me, then i messaged him asking him to come to a party with me, and he said that he will try but wont be sure because he couldnt get a lift. i ended up getting him a lift, but he told me that he will call me when he is ready to go but i still went and when i got to his house he said that he will come later because he didnt want to ditch his friend. i understood completely because i would do the same thing with my best friend, but i was still a bit pissed off.
then i texted him after the party saying "Damn you missed out on alot tonight" and he was like "Were still young, nothing that i cant make up for another time i hope..are u working tonight?" and i said "Well you missed out alot :P"
then later i said "You have to make it up to me for ditching me.." and he said "Really? Well i have the weekend off if thats any help.." and i said "Yeah it helps .. so what you gonna do to make it up to me?" and he said "Im still working on it..i could use abit of help" then i said "Sorryy youre on your own for this one.."
i was thinking maybe i could message him saying "Are you interested in me at all..or am i just being a jerk..?"
i really want to know what is going through his head! any ideas ? (link)
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This man sounds like he doesn't want to get into a relationship. Doesn't want to be tied down, perhaps? I really don't know, men can be so complicated.
I'd suggest just stop calling him or texting him. If he wants anything to do with you he'll totally get ahold of you. Plus I'm pretty sure there are other men in this world that would love to be with you.
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15/f
I have a moustache and it's getting darker because of the winter. I'm not going to wax or shave it but is there any cream i can use that is not expensive that works? Also, i am really embarrased by it and i don't want to put my face close to other's and talk with them. I haven't told my family about me being embarrased by it, we don't even talk about it. Please help!! (link)
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I don't know about creams. You could try to bleach it. I'm pretty sure they make some sort of bleaching kit for facial hair.
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this is deff under the wrong category but whatever.
how can i smoke pot in my room and hide the smell from my parents? (link)
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Genuis idea! Don't smoke it? Yeah I know lol.
Perhaps air freshners, open a window... uhm don't smoke it in your room? O.o
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Was that creepy person thing with the accent and the weird braids, supposed to be a guy or a girl?
I don't think it tells you in the movie.
I'm just curious. (link)
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Yes It was creepy, but woman! :D
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I having a hard time deciding if I should take online school or go to college campus. I have a job that I love if I leave I might loose it and its hard for me to stay away from my boyfriend when I don't have to leave but I hate it at hom a I"m sick of looking at the same old towm. If I leave I could make new friends help (link)
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hmm.. Well Yeah leaving has it's pro's and con's.
You could take Online Schooling for awhile, well you figure out what you want.
Which means you keep your job, you stay close to the man of your heart. Yet you're still stuck in the same crappy place... Which you will panic at one point that you'll never leave one day.
I'd suggest drop the job you can get another one some where else. You're young and have the time. I'd suggest college campus. Go see whats out there, when you're finally done, perhaps come back home and settle down with the man of your heart. :\
It'll be hard, finding a new job and a bit of distace from your boyfriend, but with patience and love and faith you'll make it threw, with No Doubt. :D
Good Luck with your choice.
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i do know who to explain the way i feel towards him (link)
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You want a way to express how you feel towards the man you're falling madly in love with?
Well perhaps you could just kind of tell him?
Explain that I don't know everything about you, but what I do know, has attracted me to you so much.. I feel as if I may be falling in-love with you.. If he feels the same way or some what the same way towards you, You'll be fine. :)
People shouldn't be afraid to be so frank. I mean, we all should be willing to make a wide jump occasionally. :)
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okay I am freaking out !!! me and my boyfriend tried to have sex. and he didn't cum or anything but he tried to put his penis inside me but instead it went on the side. but I'm just so scared that I could still be pregnant. we didn't use a condom either but even if his penis didn't go in it vagina but near my thighs, could I still be pregnant ?
p.s. this only happens because we landed on the wrong spot and it didn't go in but I'm just making sure. (link)
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I highly doubt that you're pregnat.
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well im super jealousof all my guys gal friends. like he has so many. and hes always texting them. i get jealous and then his neighbor. causehe waits for her after school and walks with her. and he walks with her in the morning. he says not to be jealous and for me to trust him. he wont hurt me and all that. i also get mad at the smallest things. if he says something jokingly ill get offended or something. and i always seem like im making him mad. then he tels me. i like it when you make me mad. so im like why is he so confusing! then i was telling him stuff i hate. like how i make him mad and how were always arguing andhe txts back. i hate that i love you. what do you think is up? i need advice please! like is this guy for real? how can i quit with all my jealousy and getting mad all the time at the littlest things. idont want to lose him. i cant picture my life without him.its going to be our 1 month on saturday. thankyou in advance (link)
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I use to be like that towards guys. It got old fast, cause they didn't like it much with me. I use to get told It was because I was so insecure..
You may not be able to stop the jealousie and anger, you may need to just come to terms, he's an amazingly awesome and sweet guy, and isnt' going to hurt you in anyway.. Which is hard, and can be bad. Especially if he does hurt you, then when you do get into another relationship it'll take forever to gain security.
Anyways, just try to realize he's a wonderful guy, don't worrie so much about him hurting you..
Unless signs point to such things.
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I lie all the time, and I'm great at it, I can fake cry and bring all sorts of symptoms to the table to make it seem genuine. It gets me int o a lot of bad situations but I can't seem to stop. I've tried writing up every lie and then trying to set things staright, I've tried praying.. what do I do now? (link)
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See a doctor about your issue? I mean I have no idea what to do when you contstenly lie. I mean I guess you could say your in denial about something perhaps. I use to feel like I was always being lied too. lol.
I really don't know. Lying is something you'll have to eventually let go, and speak only the truth.
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18/f
This could also be under "love life" but I value my friendship with him even more, so that's why I chose that category!
I did something terrible! My best friend in the world, who's the most honest person I know, and has liked me for approximately 6 months, deserves someone so much better in his life. I've had a crush on him on and off (and yes, we have kissed) but I never started dating him because I'm a stupid manipulative girl who just likes to flirt with other guys too much for her own good.
Not only have I toyed with this amazing boy, hurt his feelings, and pretended to be someone I'm not.. I have now also lied to him.
I guess I just wanted his attention because I told him that I lost my virginity and that it was a terrible experience, I even ended up fake crying in his arms (this is a big deal because I know it hurts him, upsets him, and makes him think so much less of me). But wait -- it gets worse. I told him that the reason I did it was because this other girl he liked for a while told me stories about things he said to her (which is true, but it happened several months ago and I claimed that it happened just a few days ago).
Then I tried to come clean and tell him I made it all up but he doesnt believe me! Because I was crying so hard, and shaking, and the story seemed so genuine he just will not believe that I lied.
At the end of the conversation he said "Stop pretending it didnt happen! THAT would make me stop talking to you. I would never forgive you.. it's so messed up."
What do I do? I don't want this great friendship to be ruined by a lie, but I know I have to tell him the truth because it will come out. There's going to be so much heartbreak.. WHAT DO I DO?
I know it's all my fault, I know I deserve it, I know after this story many of you would want me to suffer, but please.. please force out any ounce of sympathy you have for the situation and help me. He's the only guy who's ever cared about me like this.. I think I love him (as a friend or more, I'm not sure.. but that's besides the point).
Please you guys, please.. I need you to tell me what to do because I just don't trust myself anymore. (link)
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Well this lie has ventured into more lies. Is anyone really being hurt about his lie other then you who feels bad about the lieing?
I'd suggest letting this lie go, stop worrieing about it, you yourself perhaps act like non of it was ever said.
He thinks it's the truth, you know it's a lie. Keep it to yourself as long as no one else is getting hurt.
I'd suggest really trying to pursew a relationship with him, but I also know that friendships that go to relationships that turn bad can be horrible things. You'd need to be really confiedence to try and pull it off.
I'm an attention whore, I know what it's like to always love to be center of attention, next time you want attention try being silly to get it. Don't lie. :\
It's hurting you, it should.. Don't hurt your bestfriend. :(
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i really like this guy but im sure he doesnt like me but how do i get over him? (link)
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You could always find yourself a new person to like!
Or, you could get up the nerve to question him if he liked you, and would like to hang out sometime? I guess you could only do that if you can get the nerve up.
Some people are ment to be dated, they make a difference in your life and such.
Should really get to know him, see if he feels any emotions towards you. :x
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So, I met my current girlfriend at work. After she got moved to another store, we decided to date, and I soon after quit working for the company all together. At her new store, she works overnight shifts which require her to be by herself with one other clerk employee from 12:30am until 8am. She has befriended one of the overnight clerks that she works with (there are only two) and this clerk is the only person she has made friends with at this new store.
My girlfriend and I have been together six months, and there is quite an age difference between us. The clerk is closer to my girfriend's age than I am, so that makes me insecure. She assures me all the time that she doesn't like this clerk in "that way" at all, but I still get nervous. The clerk is gay (as am I, and obviously, my girlfriend) so it does broaden the chances of something happening between the two of them.
My girlfriend has told me before that she has gone out to breakfast with Angela (the clerk), but at first she told me that she just went to breakfast then randomly told me a week or so later that it was with Angela. Angela has also come over to my girlfriend's place for breakfast and spent 3 hours there, after working by themselves for eight hours.
My girlfriend informed me the other day that Angela broke up with her girlfriend, so my girlfriend is going to take Angela to one of the local gay bars to "meet someone new".
My girlfriend has said before that she'd been worried about "gravitating towards someone else" because distance has been an issue between the two of us, and I have told her my discomfort with Angela and she said if it bothered me then she wouldn't hang out with her outside of work. (Sorry if this seems scattered, just trying to hit all the details.)
So, am I out of line in wanting to tell her that I don't want her going out to the bar with Angela? Am I out of line in being uncomfortable with the two of them being together outside of work, and even inside of work since they spend so long together by themselves (aside from the stray customers)? Help please. (link)
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It's alright to feel uncomfortable. Have you ever tried to hang out with your girlfriend, and angela? Perhaps you all three can be friends? It's nice to be friends with co-workers. It givers your girlfriend someone to talk to about things that may be going on between you and her, or just other things she doesn't want to go directly to you about.
It's okay to not want them to hang out. I don't see how long that'll last though, it'll probable just make her lie to you and go hang out with her behind your back.
I'd suggest really trying t get close to your girlfriend and Angela. So that way you seem loving and caring, and interested in being Angelas friend. If you then can find trust between you, your girlfriend and this girl Angela perhaps there won't be so much discomfort and insecuirty.
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i posted a question about a day ago with the title "its not quite love but i think about her, what is it? :S" if you answerd that thank you muchy!! now i have another problem with the same girl xD i am the only guy in a class of girls who today all saw right through me and came out and asked do you fancey her!?! theres 8 of them and 1 of me.. so i went bright red and coudlnt talk for about 10 mins i told them that i think i do but im not sure (if you read my other question youll know why i dont know :P) anyway even though i didnt talk to her much today because well... im shy as hell (im working on it :s) but yeah first lesson today was allright not alot was said, we talked for a little bit then went back to working in silence with the class chatting away about boy freinds and what they did at the weekend, everytime some one said somthing that was slightly embarassing (which happens alot) we both looked up at eachother and smile and half laugh then go back to working. then we had a lesson apart... thats when all the girls in my class asked me if i did after some really bad lying that i didnt i just confessed and went bright red, got alot of hugs at that point lol. then the next lesson came and i was sat next to her again we didnt say a thing to eachother. which was pretty muich my fault because everytime some one saw us looking at eachother i got really really nervous and tryed not to do anything else... and my question is, what do i do now!? everyone in the class knows i like her a bit but im too damn shy to do anything about anything
whats my next move?
thanks alot for all answers (link)
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Dude..
Look I absoultly love that you're so like into this girl. You should just get up the energy to say, "Excuse me miss (name?) But I'd like to get to know you, would you like to have lunch together one day?" Or even, do a high-school trick, write a note and slip it to her some how! She's probable just as nervous as you love. You said she was quiet and kind of shy.
Just get up the balls to do it buddy. I believe in you!!
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well lets start by saying im a guy and im 17 still in college (a 6th form in an upper school really) pretty much all of today i have been thinking about this girl that i know hardly anything about. she added me on msn probably 2 days ago and we've talked a little here and there shes a year under me at school. i work in a big food store were i see alot of famillier faces at the weekend's and after about 6 hours of being at work and thinking about her for most of the day i came down from break and i could have sworn i saw her as i turned the corner coming back out in to the shop, my heart jumped and it pumped hard. then i relaxed it because it was some one who just looked alot like her because she was taller. but anyways if im thinkin about her this much but i dont think i love her what is it? :S its confusing i dont really know enough about her to want to get into a relationship or ask her out or anything... could it just be that i think she could be some one i would like to get to know better? shes really sweet and shy but quite easy to talk to once you get her going :P i dunno what do you think this is?
quick summary:
i dont love her
she is a friend though
i dont really know alot about her
i'v known of her for about a year now since she joind our 6th form
i think about her quite a bit and i dont know why
im confused, am i feeling hope?
iv also not had a girlfreind since year 10 (so its close on 4 years of being single) (link)
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First off. Awhhh There really are sweet guys in the world.
Also, lets see I'd really say you may feel something for her. I really would suggest getting to know her more. She probable likes you two. I wouldn't doubt it. Anyways, yeah love doesn't always start out as love. So probable try to catch her after classes or what not, and talk to her for sometime, and when you are confident enough as her out! ^.^ just for some coffee or what not to get to know her. :D make sure you tell her you want to get to know her.
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