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I lied to him about having sex.
18/f
This could also be under "love life" but I value my friendship with him even more, so that's why I chose that category!
I did something terrible! My best friend in the world, who's the most honest person I know, and has liked me for approximately 6 months, deserves someone so much better in his life. I've had a crush on him on and off (and yes, we have kissed) but I never started dating him because I'm a stupid manipulative girl who just likes to flirt with other guys too much for her own good.
Not only have I toyed with this amazing boy, hurt his feelings, and pretended to be someone I'm not.. I have now also lied to him.
I guess I just wanted his attention because I told him that I lost my virginity and that it was a terrible experience, I even ended up fake crying in his arms (this is a big deal because I know it hurts him, upsets him, and makes him think so much less of me). But wait -- it gets worse. I told him that the reason I did it was because this other girl he liked for a while told me stories about things he said to her (which is true, but it happened several months ago and I claimed that it happened just a few days ago).
Then I tried to come clean and tell him I made it all up but he doesnt believe me! Because I was crying so hard, and shaking, and the story seemed so genuine he just will not believe that I lied.
At the end of the conversation he said "Stop pretending it didnt happen! THAT would make me stop talking to you. I would never forgive you.. it's so messed up."
What do I do? I don't want this great friendship to be ruined by a lie, but I know I have to tell him the truth because it will come out. There's going to be so much heartbreak.. WHAT DO I DO?
I know it's all my fault, I know I deserve it, I know after this story many of you would want me to suffer, but please.. please force out any ounce of sympathy you have for the situation and help me. He's the only guy who's ever cared about me like this.. I think I love him (as a friend or more, I'm not sure.. but that's besides the point).
Please you guys, please.. I need you to tell me what to do because I just don't trust myself anymore.
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print this out and give it to him. i dont neccessarily disagree with the person who first gave you advice but i do think that if you ever want your relationship to grow with him that he needs to know the truth. wont you just regret it if he never knows? this lie is a big one to just let drop. your desicion but it sounds like you want him to know with all your heart. and honestly i think it sounds like you like him more than just your best friend.
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Well this lie has ventured into more lies. Is anyone really being hurt about his lie other then you who feels bad about the lieing?
I'd suggest letting this lie go, stop worrieing about it, you yourself perhaps act like non of it was ever said.
He thinks it's the truth, you know it's a lie. Keep it to yourself as long as no one else is getting hurt.
I'd suggest really trying to pursew a relationship with him, but I also know that friendships that go to relationships that turn bad can be horrible things. You'd need to be really confiedence to try and pull it off.
I'm an attention whore, I know what it's like to always love to be center of attention, next time you want attention try being silly to get it. Don't lie. :
It's hurting you, it should.. Don't hurt your bestfriend. :(
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