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love, triangle? friendships
18-female. my guy friend is 17/m
so i've known lets call him "nick" for about four years now. he recently just broke up with his girlfriend of three years, yeah shocking! i've always liked him so i was kind of happy about it. but then i heard from my cousin that he was "talking" to another girl. i was really upset, becasue i mean really? another girl already? and so one night i was like nick is there something you have to tell me, and he was like well like what. and then i was like i hear you have a "new girl" and he was like what! no!! who?! and i told him and he was like haha noooo where did you hear that from and then he always denied it well then the next day he was texting me all day and this girl is my cousin's cousin if that makes sense and she invited herself to his house because my cousin is next door neighbors with nick. well i was like nick why dont you go over there to see your new girl? and he was like SHES NOT MY NEW GIRL! why do you think she is? i dont have a new girl, i dont want one. and i was like why would she invite herself over there, to see you? and he was like i dont know, cant we be friends and why do you care anyways? and i was like because i hate being lied to! and he was like you dont ever even believe me and he knows i have a trust issue and i felt bad because he sounded SOOOO convincing you know? so i was like okay sorry i belive you, i wont bring it up again. well then that night it was me nick my cousin and the "girl" at my cousins house. the "girl" tries to get ALL the attention, its quite annoying. well then nick asked if she wanted to play air hockey downstairs and so just them two went down and after they were done they stayed down there and we watching a movie!!! i was so pissed, but i wasnt going to say anything well because i told him i wouldnt bring it up again and i didnt want to seem annoying because i knew he would say shes not his new girl. i just dont understand though? and my cousin was spying on them and texted nick and was like stop being a "pussy" and kiss her and then he said they were talking about it? i almost started crying. what should i do? am i over reacting? i dont want to seem annoying and i've already brought her up twice before! do you think there just friends? i know hes attracted to me, its not like i'm looking for a relationship with him though becasue i know he wouldnt want to get into one right away. after that night, i havent talked to him at ALL. any suggestions, comments? what do you think is going on.
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crying won't solve anything.
just tell nick the truth. tell him why you get annoyed with you cousin's cousin. I mean you like nick and like you said maybe he is attracted to you. maybe he is trying to get you jelouse of him so tht you would tell him how you feel. you know how it is in comic books (girl confesses to boy). and believe me you are not overreacting. it's just what happens when you have a super cute crush.
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Im not gonna lie like everyone else below me. but i think he might have a little crush on this girl; but you can stop it before it happens. why dont you talk to him a little about it and tell him you kinda have a thing for him, but try to flirt with other guys a little and make him jealous. If he is attracted to you he should have no problem coming to you. it might take him awhile to get over his three year relationship. but hey, maybe your better than that girl :) i say give it time and let him know you are still there and you will stay by him, but dont wait too long, because sometimes it becomes a waste of time. and also make sure his ex girlfriend and him are completely done, because this happened to me kinda, we were dating for a while and boom his first love pops in and takes him. i just waited it out for a month or so and kept talking to him to see if they had any problems so that i could take him back. but just the other day i decided that he was a waste of time. so take your time, but dont make a waste of your time. good luck <3
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I think the answer may be in the question
he asked and you didn't answer. "Why do
you care anyways?" I don't think "because
I don't like being lied to", is what he
was looking for.
Look, this "new girl" probably means nothing
to him. You won't really know until you tell
him how YOU feel about him. Since you are
already (no offense) ACTING like a jealous
girlfriend, I'm sure he knows. Talk. NOT
about the "new girl", about you and him.
Too soon? Maybe so, but do it anyway. I
think he wants to hear it from you. :)
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Yes you are overreacting. Showing jealousy is not attractive to "Nick" at all. Your jealousy is most likely pushing him away. You can't fight with him about something like this because who he dates is none of your buisness. He will pick who he wants and you can't control that.
It does sound to me like he does like you, but let things take it's toll naturally. Don't rush into anything and don't accuse him of anything. Have some confidence and independence. He probablly just really likes this girl as a friend. It's okay for guys to have friends that are girls. If you see it as a threat - it will become a threat. You really don't have a right complaining to him about her because he's not your boyfriend (yet). Let him have his space - but don't stop talking to him. If he's into you he'll come around. Good Luck!
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OH MY GOD! lol Dude this guy may have just got out of a relationship, and isn't calling this girl his "NEW" girl, but dude like he's attracted to her, and talked about kissing her..
I'd seriously suggest telling him, "Look I'm sorry I was so weird about you being into that other girl. It's just "nick" I really would like to maybe have a relationship with you, when you're ready. I've liked you for sometime." You already said he's into you, he probable thinks you just see him as a buddy. So step forward girl, before that other "girl" does! >:| DO IT!
Don't miss out on your chance!! Go Go Go!!
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