Ever since I was little, I always loved talking to my family about their problems. I love being able to help people. I maybe young but I am very good at giving advice on Love life. I am very mature for my 14 years of age and I want to help people with their questions and problems. SO if you have a question, don't hesitate to ask because of my age
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My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years. We started dating my junior year of high school. We now live together (have for 2 years). When I mention getting engaged he just about turns green in the face. He is content with a small town life working at his fathers business (which is okay with me), but Im a dreamer and have a lot of goals for my life. We are complete opposites, but we even each other out. At 5 years I feel like I should be seeing some type of guarantee that were going to stay together... I feel like he should know rather Im who he wants to be with by now. I am not saying I want to get married now, (id be happy with a couple years of engagement), but I feel like I need to see some type of commitment to show me he's serious about us. I really do care about him a lot, but Im not going to settle for not chasing all of my dreams for no reason. Im extremely confused and have been for about a year now. Im not saying Im not happy with him, but it does bother me a lot thinking im changing my life for someone if were not gonna stay together! Id be 110% content if I just knew we were going to work out. I kinda feel like Im wasting my time if were not. Help? (link)
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It makes sense, you're anxious to know if this guy wants a future with you. Yes there is no rush, but it has been 5 years now, you should be able to sit down and be adults about this. I would sit down and talk to him, express that you don't want to be married but you'd like to know there is some form of commitment.
I hope this helped, I wish you luck :)
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I went out with my boyfriend for 7 months we broke up before and he left me for his ex he then he begged for me back and ended up leaving me again he use to go to different schools now he goes to mine and I have him in a class I love him so much I fell in love with him I have begged for him but it doesn't work I'm trying to make his gf mad do she can dump him buy she doesn't what can I do he needs to be mine again I live him so much I'm 17 btw (link)
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He's not the right guy for you. You shouldn't have to beg and plead for a guy to come back to you WHEN HE LEFT You for his ex. Also if you truly care about this guy, don't try and make his girlfriend mad and break up with him.
I wish you luck, but i don't think he's right for you. Your guy is out there :)
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I am an 18 year old female, I have been very close to my best friend for years. We have been like sisters and we know everything about each other. I have not for seen this as a problem until recently when I started dating a guy who is a mutual friend of ours we will call sam. Soon after my best friend started dating sam's best friend we will call matt. This didn't seem to be much of a problem until she started to interfere in mine and sam's relationship and getting upset with me when I was spending time with him or when I couldn't talk to her because sam and i were on the phone. She has recently told me that sam and I are getting to close and need to back off, while her and matt are allowed to do whatever and on the rare occasions I say anything I am told to butt out. Before dating sam I did not have much of a social life, as a result she was able to call me whenever. I would like her to stay out of mine and sam's relationship, I understand that she is just worried however I am also starting to wonder if its not just that she doesn't like the change that she can no longer just call me or ask me to do something that I might be busy. (link)
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I actually am/just went through something like this. I started dating my boyfriend a few months ago and my close friend kind of started getting upset way to often and trying to make me feel guilty so I'd pay attention to her. my best friend pointed out its probably because I've gotten really close to my boyfriend and my friend isn't the person i spend all of my time with anymore.
You just need to tell her what she's doing isn't cool and that she needs to stop interfering, especially if she'll get all defensive when you ask about her relationship.
I hope this helped, Good Luck :)
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Hi there I'm 16/f and my boyfriend and I have been dating for three weeks now, and well I need your opinions. Let me start from the beginning. My best friend and I used to like obsess over my boyfriend last year before I even knew him. We both saw him at school we made a nickname for him for when we saw him we could talk about him without him knowing. Ok so my best friend she already knew him because they went to middle school together and when we started "stalking" him last year which was our 9th grade year, she told me how she thought he was cute and how they talked and liked each other in 8th grade, but never dated and stopped talking, and how she still thought he was cute and all that hence the reason we talked about him all the time. Well this year, I actually met him and we started talking and started dating. Well when we were about to start dating and I told my best friend, she was like its not a good idea hes mean and saying stuff like that and then if he would want to walk with me in the hallway she would get all mad and yell at me and a lot of the time be like "if your going to walk with him I'm not walking with you and him" and stuff like that. Well that was right before our Christmas break. Well after Christmas break which was last week our first week back, she was suddenly ok with him walking with me and even with him sitting with us at lunch. Then one night all of a sudden my boyfriend and I are snapchatting my boyfriend suddenly sends me these snaps saying "after you went to bed last night, Meghan and I snapchatted a lot. That was the first time ive talked to her in two years. I was upset and shocked especially that my own best friend didn't tell me she is snapchatting MY boyfriend. She tells me everything. Well a couple of days when by and he hasn't snapchatted me sense that night but then three nights ago, I look on his top snaps because you can tell who is your best friends and who you snapchat the most and she is his second top score and same with her!!! so that means hes even snapping her and not even me! plus she told my other two friends in our group and even made a comment where she laughed and mentioned how hes in her top snaps! that really set me off then finally today at lunch, I looked down at my boyfriends phone to notice that they were TEXTING! so now they text and on top of that right when im there they text secretly from across the table. Now I know what the secret little random looks they give to each other is which is the fact that theyre texting! One huge thing that sets me off about all of it is my "best friend" not even telling me. I don't like them doing this it makes me so mad but im scared to bring it up to her that she'll yell at me or something or say your over reacting or something and to him I don't want to say because were working out other issues. Heck I don't know I just want to know what do you guys think about all of this? do you think im over reacting or what? please help!! thank you! (link)
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I would talk to your boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months, and my good friend (who is a girl) told me on a few different occasions about how she was talking to my boyfriend. I let her know i didn't appreciate it, so she stopped. I'm fine with them having a friendship, but he makes it known I'm his top priority. Your boyfriend should be doing the same thing.
You should let him know how much it bothers you. He may not know its bothering you (if he's oblivious) and it sounds like you don't have a very good friend.
I hope this helps, God Luck :)
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I've really wanted to join my HS' marching band, which I think is the best and biggest marching band in the county. I've had some little trumpet and baritone experience, but that was a very long time ago~ However I am in the HS' Honors Symphony Orchestra currently right now, and most of the people there have also joined Marching band. I plan to start out in the Pit section with no percussion experience at all, and I really just want to join my HS' Marching Band. Is it possible or not at all? (link)
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It is totally possible!! I have been in my high school Marching Band for two years, Marching band does not care about your experience. WE help make you better. Band camp is great for that. You should go for it, Band/marching-band is the great choice I've made in my life, and i never regret it. I hope this helped, Good luck :)
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Today, my past crush randomly popped into my head. I'm in eleventh grade now, which I haven't seen him since fifth. And for the past months I've been having dreams about this boy with longish hair at the back and full bangs. The dreams started as amazing. We were in class and kept glancing at each other. Then another dream I met him at high school. Another dream we met at lunch and we began talking about...well, I forgot. I believe that's what I wanted to do when my friend asked him if he liked me when we were at lunch. There were more dreams that I can't remember. The last dream, he had cut his hair a little shorter and he was my baby's daddy.
I looked back at my fifth grade yearbook, and he is DEFINITELY the guy I've been seeing in my dreams all this time.
What does this mean? Please don't tell me that dreams don't mean anything, because I KNOW they do. There's a meaning to these dreams and why I keep having the dreams about the boy I had loved back in elementary school. But...what is it? (link)
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Well crushes are big part of our lives, maybe your sub conscious was remembering one of your first crushes and it was a big thing for you. It could just be that even if you don't like him anymore or haven't seen him in a long time.
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Heyyy...* 14/F I had a crush on this guy for about 3 years now..* this weekend we held hand and so on but said nothing* it was juat like a silent move* I really like him* but I'm not gonna see him for a long time if I ever see him again* he lives 250km away* but his sister and me are very close * I really like him I'm crazy about him but my heart hurts really bad!* :( what should I do* (link)
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Ah girl, I totally understand!! I'm you age and I'm going through THE EXACT same thing. The guy i liked (and I mean almost in love with him) I would just stay in contact as much as possible, and (if he is going to be far away for a long time) and you think he likes you back, tell him. My guy and I "officially" confessed to each other after he moved and it was great knowing it was mutual and for now we are just great friends. I wish you luck, and i totally get you. My heart still hurts a little, but it has made stronger. It gets better, You will have to move on. And i understand it will hurt and you might not want to (i am finally getting there :))but it does get better. Good luck and I wish you the best of luck!
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So I am 14 years old and I write poetry. I have like a thousand notebooks full of my poems. I don't know why but I can't show them to anyone, I'm shy and embarrassed. It's like a secret, no one knows that I write them. So my problem is that I recently won a poetry contest and the prize is 500 dollars and I'll be published in a magazine but I don't know how to tell my parents. I know they will be proud but I like my poetry being a secret (ill be published under the name "unknown") so how do i tell them? (link)
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That's great you write poetry. it is nothing you should be ashamed about, are you afraid that you might not be good enough? If that is why; you won a contest!! Yes you should tell your parents. I honestly think you should just sit them down and tell them that you have been writing poetry and entered a contest and that you won. :) I hope this helped!!
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I Recently Started Dating My First Boyfriend, And I'm Sure Eventually We'll Kiss... Anyways, I Haven't Kissed A Boy - Ever - And I Don't Want To Do It "Wrong"...
He's Already Had His First Kiss And I Don't Want To Tell Him I Never Kissed Anyone Just Because It's Kind Of Embarassing And He Thinks I've Already Kissed A Guy. I Don't Really Know How To Kiss. People Say "Your Body Will Know What To Do", But How Will It If I've Never Done It? I Don't Want To Be "Unexperienced" And Stuff :/
Sorry For The Weird Question. (link)
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I think it wouldn't hurt to go online and look up tips, and or you could ask friends who have already had their first kiss. You'll be fine, and yes in some ways the body will know what to do. I wish you luck on your first kiss :)
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So I think i am/was friend-zoned by this girl i always liked, this year i decided to do something about it, so first i found myself a wingwoman(WW) so WW told her that she found out i liked her, and just yesterday WW asked her what she would say if i asked her out, and the girl i like responded: "I'm not sure..."........what should i do?? should i ask her out?? (link)
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So this girl said "I'm not sure..." I would honestly wait. Are you good friends with this girl? I would wait a little and stay very good friends,, if you feel like she likes you or is flirting with her, go ahead, but be very careful. Make sure she is giving signs. This is where your Wing-woman can help. Hope this helped somehow! Good luck :)
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Lately I have noticed that of my really good friends has gotten quite skinny. Yesterday really threw me off though because she was in the bathroom and I heard her coughing- a LOT. To me, I could never think of her being a bulimic, and if she was I would be really shocked. I mean, maybe she has some other health problem but I'm not sure. I'm concerned for her well being lately and while she was in the bathroom I yelled "are you okay?" When she came out she said "yeah I'm fine" but the tone of her voice or something told me that there was something wrong. Lately she has seemed and acted so down. I'm not sure what's wrong, can someone help me out? Should I sit her down and talk to her? (link)
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Yes, I would talk to her. Something serious (like an eating disorder)maybe be going on. Sit her down and express how you are concerned about her. I wish you the best of luck
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My daughter is 4 years old. She has purple eyes. Is this normal? Will this change as she gets older? What does it mean?
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Purple/Violet, Silver and red eyes are very rare. I think it should be no reason to cause alarm. Your daughter has a rare eye color which is very beautiful. :)
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My grandma choked me Sunday night and I did not do anything. I am 17 about to be 18 (link)
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Report it. Even if you did something to make her mad, that is considered child abuse. If you live with her or she's in your house (either one) report it to the police. If you are afraid/reluctant to contact the police and go to college/high school tell a trusted adult. I hoped this help. Good Luck
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I'm fourteen and I haven't started dating yet. I'm socially awkward and kind of shy (especially around boys, regardless of their attractiveness). I don't go to a traditional public school, so I rarely meet boys my age who would ask a girl out. But being a hopeless romantic, I dream of being in a relationship.
I recently went to a summer music festival for orchestral and chamber music where I met a guy who I really, really like. I can't stop thinking about him, even though we said goodbye a week ago. He doesn't like me back, not that way. He's eighteen and going to college next year. Since the world of professional orchestral musicians is so small, I thought I had a chance of playing with him again, but it turns out that he's not going into music. I might never see him again.
Should I try to get over him? (link)
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I suggest getting his number (I'm a 14/f and the guy I like is 17) you can keep in contact and just 'be friends for awhile' and get to know him and he will get to know you. I hoped this helped :) From one Hopeless Romantic to another
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Ok so my first day of eighth grade is coming up, (August 21) and I'm super nervous!!! At least 15 kids (out of 60 in 8th grade) left last year, so a lot more are coming in. Basicaly, I need advice on how to get people to like me on the first day (how to leave an impression). I have short blond hair, I'm white, I get strait A's, I'm 5'2, and 89 lbs, (I have health issues so I need to eat or I'll get really sick, but I just end up losing weight) and I'm 13. Ps: I reallly want a boyfriend this year ! I've had one before, but we broke up like 2 years ago. And it's really hard to get one because I 'hang out with a slut', and they notice her and not me :× ---Thank you! (link)
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Just be yourself. You don't want the other 8th graders to like the person your not. You want them to like you for you. Just be yourself. Nice and friendly. People will like you if you're nice and approachable. I'm going into my Freshman year and I totally understand what you're going through! Have a wonderful 8th grade year. I hope this helped, Good Luck!
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I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and I'm scared something is changing between us. I'm not sure if there is or not but I'm really scared there is something wrong. Well we just got back from a camp we went to together but I wasn't with him much at camp but something just feels different like I feel like he thinks there's something wrong but I don't want to tell him cuz it could make things worse and I love him soo incredibly much like we're so in love but I don't know about him... Wht should I do? Should we like hangout and see how things go? (link)
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I suggest you hang out with him. Maybe since you weren't with him much at camp he thinks that you were ignoring him. I hoped this helped somewhat, Good Luck :)
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What can you do for days to go faster , since your missing your boyfriend ? (link)
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Keep busy, start a new hobby, excersise, hangout with friends. Just keep busy
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theres this boy in my grade named cameron and ive liked him for 4 years and he says he likes me but i dont actually think he does..it really sucks because he likes a girl named savanna alot more then me and shes one of my bestfriends.. but she doesnt like him back... should i just give up on him or still like him? now for some details he makes me so shy and i cant talk around him and his smile is perfection and i actually think i love him hes so nice an funny an just amazing..How do i get him to ask me out? PLEASE HELP IM SO CONFUSED. (link)
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I hate wondering if a guy likes me or not (Believe me, I am going through this right now too, It does suck) and my first piece of advice is to become better friends with him! I don't know what grade you are in (It always helps to say that in your question) I'm guessing high school? I don't know. But no matter the age, It always helps to get closer to the guy or girl you like. Start talking to him a little more (If you both have facebooks sen dhim s afriend request) and just start getting to know him better. When you are comfortbale you could ask for his number (if he doesnt ask for yours first) it'll get both of you more comfortable with eachother. I hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck :)
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I'm 25 and just found out I'm pregnant... I have a huge situation here and it will be extremely easy to judge and say cruel things so if you are that type of person, leave now. I made mistakes and am ready to deal with the consequences but that doesn't mean that I am not a human being who needs help. So those of you who are real and really want to help and give advice that isn't rude, please help me.
The father of my child is married and I doubt he will be involved in any way other than child support which he has already agreed to... which is fine. I can't really blame him... his wife is aware and wants him to ditch us... again, can't really blame him.
I want to keep this baby so much. I already love it and I know I would be a good mom but at the same time I feel like the situation is too cruel to bring a child into. I know a LOT of single moms who do it alone and are great but given the circumstances... and where I don't have any schooling after high school... would it be better to place the baby for adoption? I already know how the adoption process works... I am extremely familiar with it, it's just a matter of if it's right for me and the baby.
Positive, helpful advice only please and as much as possible. 5 (link)
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Ok so you are 25 now and pregnant. You are out of high school so I guess you live alone? And you must have a job, I'm guessing? You love your unborn child alreayd (I find that really sweet:D) If you feel like you can support the child, and if you want to keep it, DO IT! Kepp your baby if you are finacially stable. You could also always ask your parents for help and advice. I hope this helped, and I wish you and your unborn child luck :)
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To start out, I am 20/F. My boyfriend of 6 years is 21. We have lived together since we were really young, about 17/18 years old. Our relationship has been practically perfect, we have always been best friends and we get along great. This summer, however, I went away to work at an internship. This wasn't the first time we had been apart for long, in fact, we dated for a year long distance, so being away at camp was nothing compared to that. But at this internship, I met another guy. We became great friends, and felt a really REALLY strong connection to each other. He is married, and I of course am in a serious relationship, so we never let our relationship go further than really close friends... until the last night, we shared our feelings that we really really like each other, but we have to continue on with our "real lives" because we are both happy with our SO's. So we parted ways, and now... everything feels different. I get frustrated easily with my boyfriend, I feel like I am no longer attracted to him, and I am somewhat bored. Furthermore, I feel smothered... I guess at this camp I learned that I am still so young, and I still have so much to experience.
It's only been a week since I got back, so I know everything is still very new, but I can't stand the feeling that everything is going downhill. I still keep in contact with the other guy, and we care about each other very much. I can't stand the feeling that I am making my boyfriend jealous when I talk to this guy, even though I never cheated on him or even thought about cheating on him. My boyfriend obviously suspects that I like this guy, and that he is losing me... and the worst part is, I don't even really want a relationship with the other guy, he's married and I would never want to ruin that, but I can't help feeling this connection to him that I have never had with anyone else.
I just want everything to go back to how it was before. I feel like everything is so complicated now, when before, i had everything figured out. To make things worse, my bf and I share so much more than just a relationship, we also have an apartment together, pets, bills, debts, etc etc. This makes me feel even more tied down and I don't know what to do. I know I need to wait longer and feel the situation out a little bit more, but I can't stand the feeling that I am hurting my boyfriend in the meantime. I want to tell him everything that I am feeling, but at the same time, I feel like that would only make the situation worse, since we are not at a point where we would just break up.
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Well, you like this other guy? Or at least deeply care about this guy? Your boyfriend seems to be picking up on that. He feels threatend that this other guy might being stealing you away. He's married and you are in a deeply commited relationship. You need to forget about him, like you said, your boyfriend and you have so much together. Do you still love your boyfriend? If you do, It will work out. You should talk to him, If you do love him assure him that you do. But I agree, telling him could make it worse... I'm sorry I can't do more. I hoped this helped to some extent... Good Luck
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