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my boyfriend has kissed so many girls (and boys) that its just ridiculous. i have never been kissed. the thought of kissing him makes me really nervous. i'm not asking for kissing advice. but when we do have our first kiss, how bad am i going to be? lol. i mean is he going to be really turned off by me being inexperienced? share your stories, plz, i am nervous. :(

Hehe hi!

Man, when it was time for my first kiss, it was so weird. My bf (who happened to be my VERY first date - and first bf afterwards) dropped me off and as I was 'waiting' in the car (too much Hollywood for me, I know) he asked if he could kiss me. I thought, wtf, why is he asking? So i ended up telling him that I know I will suck at it since it will be my first time. He told me to close my eyes. I did. And he kissed me. It wasn't French, no tongues. Just a normal kiss. My mouth wasn't even open.

I left the car thinking that he's never gonna call again. But he did! This was 8 months ago, now we're still together =).

Btw, he thought that I was just saying the first kiss thing to make him feel special. He didn't even believe me in the first place, haha. Now he does. But he never felt that I hadn't been kissed before even though I warned him.

Don't be nervous. =). If you want, let him know you're still a lip virgin. It'll make you feel better, trust me. You're not gonna suck at it. It will come naturally.

Think of ice cream....

=)
Best of luck!
Kay.


And he will NOT get turned off, trust me. He'll feel happy and special that HE will be the one teaching you. =)

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So i use to date my best friends older brother like a year ago.. I'm very close with his younger sister who happens to be my best friend...After me and her bro broke up i promised her i would never do anything with her brother again...well a week ago her bro broke up with his girl and i was tryin to be supportive and i invited him over my house...The thing was there was none home but me and i didnt think anything of it..When he got to my house we were jokin around and then we started making out..One thing went to another and he whispered in my ear let go up to your room...and we did and things just happened..alot of things. The thing is i feel guilty about it and i feel liek i should spill with my friend, but i feel if i do that then she wont talk to me and trust i kno if she doesn't talk then shes not worth it but she is...he got back with his girl and i really dont even like him at all....It was def. a one time thing but should i come clean...this not only could ruin my friendship but his relaitonship and trust me,,hes also like my best friend so why ruin it....
Me and him just had a F.T.F moment...lol

Hey,

I think that when you come clean and tell your best friend, she'll be okay with it. A friend like her should appreciate your honesty... If she didn't and she got upset and stuff, well, that's her prob. 'Cause you've done your part and told her.

Remember, your conscience is clean. What's happened has happened. I guess this is the time when you will find out who your real best friends are.

Best of luck
Kay

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I'm looking to lose maybe 10 pounds. I know it's better to eat more small meals during the day than a few big ones, so I'm doing my best to accomadate that plan. But I'm not very good with figuring out how to distribute the meals to be a good size so I have enough energy but I'm not over eating, and how to balance out the nutrients.

For breakfast, I love eggs with cheese and like toast or something... I'm not sure if that's a great idea but it's always my favorite. If it's not good, what else is a better initiative?

For lunch it doesn't matter much but my cafeteria's selection isn't very healthy so I pack my lunch - anything that won't spoil in my locker is fine, so suggestions here would be great :)

For the meal before my sports practice, I would want something quick and not needing any preparation. I only have a few minutes to eat it if I was going to have a small meal here, so would a protein bar or something along those lines be good?

Dinner isn't my decision usually, but most nights I eat a spinach salad and something along the lines of a chicken cutlet and a vegetable or pasta.

I'm trying to also drink a lot more water to keep myself hydrated for my practices and I drink milk for the calcium.

I know that was a lot but if anyone can recommend some foods to make this plan work it would be great!

I know exercise is a huge part also but I think I got that down, lol.

Thanks in advance!

http://www.cabbage-soup-diet.com/eating-plan.html

You might find that good. Some say it's unhealthy, I dunno. Looks to me like you love veggies, so the above site would be of great help!

And you can also try www.sparkpeople.com. They give you a personalized diet plan according to how much you wanna lose and by when. It also gives you TONS of alternatives for food if you don't like what's assigned for you. (requires registration, might frustrate you if you're not that patient ... )

Best of luck!
Kay.

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Are there any websites that can give advice about collges, kind of like the stuff you don't learn on the tour..or like rate certain aspects of collegs? if any one knows of any sites or books thatd be great thanks

Hey,

Try this one.

http://www.collegeboard.com/splash/

You can always ask your school counselor as well. I'm sure she'll have lots more info about this than anyone here...

Best of luck!
Kay

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What are some good songs to play at a wedding?

"Beyond the Sea" - any version really. I only know the Robbie Williams one XD.
"Power of Love" - Celine Dion (am not a big fan of that one, to be honest...)

I think this will help.
http://www.wedalert.com/songs/index.asp

There are links there for songs meant for:

1. Ceremony music
2. Cocktail hour music
3. First dance songs
4. Mother/son (groom) songs
5. Father/daughter (bride) songs
6. Group dance specialty music
7. Last dance

Then there's a list of nationalities and stuff (Greek, Irish, etc.) and also themes like the 70's and 80's. Blah blah.

I think you'll like the site. I know I'll use it when it's my time!

=)
Have fun

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Does anyone know of any tips on relieving a mild-severe sunburn? How long will it take for it to go away? And once the burn is gone, how long will it take for the tan line to fade? Any tips on speeding up the process? Thanks in advance!

Hey,

I know the feeeling! I got sunburnt when I was in Thailand 3 weeks ago. It was bad...First, I looked like a roasted chicken. Then, it started to hurt so bad, I couldn't carry anything or have anyone even give me a hug! After that, my face started to peel (it gets really dry - reallllly nasty =() then my shoulders, then my back and then my arms.

Wherever there was 'red', now it's all tanned. It's been three weeks now, but there's one hell of a clear tan on me! - it's quite embarassing 'cause I wasn't wearing my swimsuit properly and one strap of the top is kinda 'not there', etc. You don't wanna know XD.

I don't have tips on speeding up the process...I've heard that rubbing lemon chunks over the tanned areas works. Also, stay away from the sun (or wear long sleeves) as much as you can till it goes away. If you're asking about the healing bit, then go to the nearest pharmacy and get an 'after suntan' lotion/gel thing. It cools your skin down and doesn't make it peel as bad (as mine =[).

Best of luck ==

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Ok so I usually release some of my anger during football and wrestling. Now those are done. I need some ways to release the anger but punching a punching bags does not help. You have to understand i am 6'4 310 and strong i am always carefull cause i can actually kill someone and i am afraid that i will, and i really dont want to kill someone. I dont feel that i am going to kill someone not like that bu i keep my self calm all the time and all the anger is inside built up and if someone pushes the wrong button. god help them. I am not a pretty sight when i get mad which is rarly theres not many people if any who dont like me but still. So if you could help, i dunno meditate or something which i dont know will help but something.

Hmm...I don't know how old you are, but whatever. Research stuff about Buddhism. I'm not asking you or making you consider to convert (if you're not a Buddhist). I've found that they're the calmest people I've ever met. I'm not Buddhist and am not promoting it in any way. But they've got the massage stuff, yoga, meditation, etc.

Try joining a yoga class. Listen to 'sounds'of nature (they're this music thingy but not songs ... just sounds of nature: waterfall, rain, jungle, etc.)

Hope this helps.
Kay.

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i want whiter teeth without going to the dentist and
getting it done. like i want a toothpaste that whitens
teeth. any advice?

Meh, they all say that they whiten your teeth but that's total *bleep*. If you go to the pharmacy, they might have the kind that you want, although they could be expensive.

How about those gel thingies that you put on your teeth and leave em on for 2 hours i think or 10 mins, not sure (BIG difference, i know, sorry..) and you wash em off and voila, white teeth! The pharmacy also has that.

Keep smilin!
kay.

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my mom is having surgery on wednesday because she has a hole in her heart and i'm really scared, what are the chances of living & the risks? any further information is greatly appreciated..thank you

no google please

My mom has heart probs. But I asked this qu. to my dad.

"80% of the time, it's a success". That's what he said. I'm sure he knows a lot about this stuff 'cause my mom's been going through heart 'issues' a lot lately, and you know...

I hope everything works out just fine. Be hopeful. I am.

And please let me know what happens. Don't be scared...stay strong.

*hug*

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Okay, so my friend basically left me a message on AIM asking if I knew who Emilie Autumn was then he left. Bleh. Anywhos, I checked her out and pft, she's an awesome musician. I love her style and her voice and the fact that she plays violin. Anywhos...getting off topic.

Has anyone else heard of her on here & does anyone know what stores might sell her CDs? I can't exactly buy it online [I'm 14/f and I don't think my parents would approve of her & so I can't buy anything online since I don't have a credit card]. Thanks =)

Hey,

I'd love to help you, but I can't think of any stores 'cept for Virgin Megastores...

And one more thing - I think you'll like Rasputina.
Try downloading "Gingerbread Coffin", "The New Zero" and "Wish You Were Here" by Rasputina.

There's loads more, but the above are my faves.

I hope you'll like em!

Kay. =)

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I would like to know if a straight people read or watch homosexual stories. is it because they might be gay ect. Or support them?

i have no clue where to put this qeastion in what category. so sorry

Hey,

I'm straight. But have prolly seen every homo movie ever made. And read all these stories and books and stuff.

It's mainly because I support them in a way, and also because I find it to be absolutely beautiful even though it's against my religion, culture, yadi yadi yada.

But I'm not gay. =)

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I'm 15/f. I'd like to say I understand the people at my school but I can't. It seems as if all anyone cares about is getting drunk and having sex. It annoys me so much, I just don't understand why most of the girls seem like (in lack of a better word) sluts and all the guys are just pigs. My question is how do I put up with all of this when it's right in my face every day?

Thanks in advance...
-Puzzled

Hey hon,

I know it might be hard to ignore them and stuff but you can fight back, trust me. I was first introduced to porn when I was 12. I saw my first live sex scene when I was 8, so pretty much, I had a corrupted and scarred childhood and the "Stork Hotline Delivery" for "where babies came from" became a bullshit for me AGES ago! However, I didn't change at all. I didn't wear makeup like all the girls did, didn't wear short skirts and flirt with whoever male crossed my way.

I guess it's the 'thing' to do these days, you know? It's not completely peer pressure ... I'd say they've been influenced and they're sort of passing it on. I lived amongst perverts for 10 years. And I resisted. I'm sure you can do it too.

It's difficult at first, trust me on that one. Act like being normal and not into sex is the 'thing' this century. It confuses them a lot. Getting drunk and having sex is old news - it's time you 'create' the new 'fashion'.

Sorry I made this long. Hope it was useful.

Kay. =)

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15/f. Is it possible to be at such an early age?

1. I don't trust ANYONE. Not even my parents. Nobody understands. Nobody WANTS to understand. They don't want it to be their problem. They shrug it off. My parents make up excuses to not have to deal with me, since I'm at the *uncontrolled teen* stage of my life.
2. I cut myself
3. I don't talk to anyone. I'm antisocial, and I seem to hate everyone/everything.
4. I cry for no reason. I'm very sensitive and have gone through a lot of personal pain in my life. (getting raped).
5. My parents's pressure over school is KILLING me
6. I seem to have the need to be PERFECT at all times, and it's driving me CRAZY.
7. I think life is worthless. I think *I'M* worthless. I'm incredibly pessimistic.
8. I want to see a therapist and have had suicidal thoughts.
9. I have a really serious case of OCD.
10. Nobody in school like me. People reject me/ignore me, and never want to talk to me. I have absolutely NO friends. And the people that ARE supposedly my friends, have no trust from me. I believe they're there to just use me and screw me over. I don't consider them anyone towards me.
11. I have no one to talk to. Nobody to spill my feelings onto and have them help me.
There are many more *symptoms*. But I didn't want to make it too long. This is pretty much an outline of what is happening to me. Am I seriously depressed?

Hey hon,

I did this depression test thing and I know the questions well. The way you get evaluated is if you answer 'yes' to 5 or more of the questions(something like that), you're definitely suffering from depression. To me, it looks like you've answered more than 5 of the questions already..

You can find out more about the test if you google "depression test" and you'll get tons of different kinds.

If you want to be absolutely sure of what your next step should be, consult a counselor or a therapist (doctor) and they can do the chemical depression test thing. Of course, that's more accurate and will help clarify things better.

I hope you'll get through this.
I didn't but .. =) i'm letting time drive my car this time.

Best of luck hon.

Kay.

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15/m
well i allready started to shave last year. because i didnt like the facial hair at all. and now it is starting to grow quicker, but if i were to shave everyday, would it screw up my skin? like in the long term? i have sark skin, so when i do shave,m the skin goes a little greenish. so yeah, any help? thanks

Hey,

Use the Nivea shaving gel thingy for your skin. It's amazing, my dad uses it. He's recommended it to every male being I know - well, almost.

If you're not going out or something for the weekend, don't shave. Let your skin 'rest' for a bit, you know? And I agree with the previous comment, your hair will grow faster and thicker the more you shave. Leave that till you're 20 something XD.

Best of luck!

Kay.

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I was supposed to get my period on April 14th.
However, I THINK my boyfriend popped my cherry on the 12th when I was getting fingered. There was a little blood; but I felt no pain. I waited for my period to come but it didnt, and my boyfriend fingered me again on the 14th. Once again; there was blood, but not a flow like my period. Is that normal that it keeps bleeding? How will I know when its my actual period so I can use a tampon?

I don't think it's your period...Might be PMS though.

Popped cherry? Maybe. Am not sure, so I don't want to say anything that's wrong. Don't want to risk that.

Sorry I'm useless...I just wanted to answer your question 'cause it was up there and no one had answered it yet.

=)
Kay.

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my bf's best friend and his other friend asked me out.i said no of course but now their all fighting.i feel like its my fault but its not.their not even thinking about how it makes me feel but right now i feel like their treating me like a doll.my bf doesnt know that his bbf asked me out he just knows his other friend does.my bf and i havent seen or talked to each other for ages because his phone is broke.we are going back to school tomorrow.we dont go to the same school but im afraid my bf and his friends will have a massive fight.to be honest they all have a bit of a temper.i dont want any of them to get hurt because their all of my friends.is it my fault their like this?what should i do?i m feeling really down over this.

Hey,

It's not your fault at all...You did the right thing. You were honest and you stayed loyal to your bf. In my opinion, I think he's just gonna 'forget' that i happened and when it happens again, he's gonna strike. OR he's gonna go up to the guy and let him know that "hey, she's mine, back off", you know?

I don't think it'll get serious unless it turns into some dramatic Shakespeare scene...That might be caused by insults or self-defense stuff. You know guys... But no one will get hurt, don't worry. Your bf knows that it will make you feel bad.

And remember: it's not your fault!

Hope it turns out well. Lemme know how it goes!

Kay.

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well i got engaged to my bf adam like a week ago, and for the past few days, i`ve been having dreams about this guy sam that i used to like..i`ve never even met him, though. like, last night my dream was that i was on the phone with my friend kimmy, and i saw that sam had put up an away message, and it was like 'bored, let`s start a chat room, or call me and we`ll record it'
and i told kimmy 'LETS CALL SAM!' and sam walked past me and got pissed.


and then another one, i was on the phone with him and he told me he loved me..


i don`t really remember the other ones, but i know they were about him. these dreams just won`t stop!!!

gah.

Hey.

You might not like him as you used to and stuff, but there's this something inside of you that wants you to go up to him and let him know that you liked him and get to meet him in person. Maybe like that it will go away... Or it could be a sign for something, no idea. He might stand for Adam in your dream, you never know.

I think it's the past coming back to you as you're moving forward to a new future. You can ignore the dreams and focus on being with Adam or you can let them bother you =(. I think it's just a matter of time.

=) Best of luck and congrats!

Kay.

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I feel as if I'm driffing a way from him because we would argue but making love after was good. Now I feel as if I have no feelings for him, he made love to me but I have nothing for him I couldn't come because there was a block I felt it and I couldn't come because of it. I care for him but I don't know if I still love him in the way I used too. Help me if any one can.

I know I'm still too young to answer questions such as this one, but I will try my best! (my profile says I'm 17 - but I'm 18).

Maybe the fact that you're arguing with him so much is making you drift away from him. Sure, you still care for him and stuff, but the way I see it, it's more of a freindship type of thing. You know, you argue with the person, then make up then everything's ok..Maybe the arguments are making the links between you and your husband weaker...

Maybe if the arguing stopped, everything would be back to normal, I don't know. What's causing the argument anyway? Is it 'cause of him or you? Is he under stress or pressure from anything? Are you under pressure? ... Think of these questions. You might find the answer to your question like that.

Hope I helped and best of luck.

Don't worry, everything's gonna be ok.

=)
Kay

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ok so my address bar isn't showing up what should i do???

Go to 'view', 'toolbars', 'address bar'.

Or just 'view' then 'address bar'. It's somewhere under 'view' on the menu tab.

It's been a while since I used PC (I use a MAC) so I'm not sure if it's right. Hope it is though!


=))

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How do i get him to have sex with meh when i want him to and not just when he wants to?

Try turning him on...If he's the type that gets turned on easily, do the strip-tease dance thing.

There's a lesson on youtube, actually.

http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=striptease+dance+lessons&search=Search

Pick one.

I'd do it - with schmexy lingerie and all that.

I'm useless, I know, but I hope I helped!

Kay.

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