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Heyy, my name is Brittany. I am sixteen years old, and I was born on the 9th of July. I am very different from most people I know, and I love that! I'm a virgin..I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs and I never have. I am selfish, stubborn, and most people would say I am spoiled. I hate not getting my own way. I dislike liars, and I can't stand being in a moving vehicle without any music playing. I love the color pink, and my favorite number is 39. Country music is my favorite, but I like a little bit of everything. My boyfriend's name is Brandon. I have obsessive compulsive disorder, and I am very paranoid most of the time. I worry a lot. I laugh a lot, and smile even more. I'm very insecure, and can be quite ditzy. I like giving people advice, when I can..My best friend's name is Katie. I am extremely lazy, and tend to be very random.
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i downloaded applesause to get you more colors for AIM

abnd i didnt like the colors and how can i find it on my comptuer (theres no icon for it so how can i find it!)

do i have to download it again?? (link)
You could go to the start menu and click on search. type in applesause and it should come up if it is on your computer somewhere, if it doesn't come up, try downloading it again from somewhere else!


hi i am 13 female i liek this 15 year old boi hes my brothers bff and i aksed him out and he said no and he wont tell my why? and i am in love with him what should i do (link)
Well did you have a good past with each other, like did you get along and everything? He might just not like you in that way, or he could just be saying no b/c he's your BROTHER'S best friend. But if your brother knew you liked him and was okay with it, then that probably wasn't the reason he sed no. Ask your brother or another friend to find out why he sed no. Or you could always just keep asking him yourself! I don't think you are in love either, you are too young. (my opinion)


I`m a pretty funny person and I`m average looking, I`m not popular but somehow every time I like a guy we end up going out. I don`t have a problem with this but everytime I get a boyfriend we go out for 3 or 4 days then I break up with him. Like my attention will actracted to another guy or something . Sometimes me and the first guy will get back together then break up again. What should I do ? I hate doing this all the time. (link)
Don't go out with everyone you like unless you are absolutely sure you won't like someone else in a few days. If you like a few guys at the same time, don't go out with any of them unless you figure out which one you like more.. you don't have to have a b/f either. being single can be REALLY fun!!


does any one know any songs similar to kaci brown or artists

and some other songs doesnt matter what type (link)
http://music.yahoo.com/ar-21630520-similar--Kaci-Brown

and also, here are some artists that I personally LOVE!!

Tim McGraw
Keith Anderson
Craig Morgan
Sugarland
Miranda Lambert
Faith Hill
Rascal Flatts
Josh Gracin
Kenny Chesney
Brad Paisley
Dierks Bentley
Gary Allan
George Strait
Garth Brooks
Trisha Yearwood
Toby Keith
Bobby Pinson
Montgomery Gentry
Joe Nichols
Gretchen Wilson
Shania Twain
Van Zant
Tracy Lawrence
Mark Wills
LeeAnn Womack
Martina McBride
Leeanne Ryhmes
Dixie Chicks
SHeDAISY
Dwight Yoakam
Keith Urban
JoDee Messina
Travis Tritt
Trick Pony
Randy Travis
Savage Garden
Blake Shelton
Jamie O'Neal
John Michael Montgomery
Reba McEntire
Sammy Kershaw
Alan Jackson
Hot Apple Pie
Steve Holy
Jason Aldeal
Jimmy Wayne
Billy Currington
Eric Clapton
Diamond Rio
Trace Adkins
Sara Evans
Andy Griggs
Joe Diffie
Big n Rich
Brooks & Dunn
Neal McCoy
Chris Cagle
Jessica Andrews
Darryl Worley
Phil Vassar
Terri Clark
Tracy Byrd
Buddy Jewell
Cowboy Troy
Trick Pony
Deana Carter
Green Day
Jessica Simpson
Celine Dion
Lifehouse
Sugarcult
Trapt
Three Days Grace
Sum 41
Story of the Year
Puddle of Mudd
Ryan Cabrera
Nickelback
Fall Out Boy
Blink 182
My Chemical Romance
Kelly Clarkson
FeFe Dobson
Evanescence
Edwain McCain
Red Hott Chili Peppers
Matchbox 20
Avril Lavigne
Ashlee Simpson
Mest
Papa Roach
Good Charlotte


This is long but like crucial in my life: Okay one of my friends broke into the popular jock's house and had a party while their whole family was on vacation (my friend and Mr. Popularity used to be friends a while ago, so my friend knew where the key is). So somebody spilled my name, but the truth was I went to Mr. Popularity's house without knowing he was gone! My friend called me and said "There's a party at [Mr. Popularity's Name Here]'s house." So me and my boyfriend went. But when we found out Mr. Popularity wasn't there we left. Well my mom was pissed at that already. Now my friend left his jacket with his name in it at Mr. Popularity's house. Before he confessed, he was lying about everything. So he said I had taken it at breakfast and that's how it ended up there. So now my mom thinks I shouldn't trust him and everything. Well how do I get my mom to see I didn't know Mr. Popular Jock wasn't home AND to trust my friend now? Opinions welcomed. I'll rate fives, no joke. (link)
Well if you have a past of lying to your mom and getting caught, chances are she might not believe you! I think the only thing you could do is tell her that you didn't know that the kid wasn't home and be really honest with her. If somebody doesn't trust someone however, it's usually pretty difficult to get them to by just simply telling them that they can. your friend doesn't sound like too good of a friend either, if he is spreading lies about you and getting you in trouble. just talk to your mom about it, she should understand! and as for that "friend" of yours..you might wanna think about getting better ones. no offense!


I need advice on what to do!!
well this is what is goin on im 15 almost 16 and im goin out with this boy named travis be 13 about to be 14 and we have been together for almost a year and at first things were good but now they arent to good and i dont know what to do because i really love him!! ok well for the past 2 weeks he has been acting real weird hes starting to do drugs and its messin him up and turing him in to someones else that isnt him...well hes been avoiding me for the past 3 days he hasnt called me in the past 2 days and today me and my best friend cortnie went up to his apartments to hang out and to see if he was really there and we go up there and he was there and he wouldnt talk to me and he was hiding from us and wouldnt answer his door or phone!! i really love him alot and its gonna hurt me real bad to break up wit him i just dont kno what to do im just really attached to him!!! if you could just give me some advice i would appreciate it!!
thanks
~*~*katie*~*~ (link)
let him go now. believe me it will be easier than if you wait any longer. I know it might be really hard for you to do, but seriously think about it..do you wanna be involved with someone who does drugs? you should probably also tell someone that he is doing drugs so he can get help before he gets too messed up! he doesn't sound like the kind of person I would want to be with anyways. I mean look how you sed he has been treating you. he sounds like a jerk, no offense! get rid of him....


ok well i have this friend and her boyfriend broke up with her because he didn't feel like them 2 were actually going out anymore, cause she lives 45 minutes away. He goes to my church and like so i seem him alot. Well after he broke up with her he started going out with another girl and my friend,was so mad and she was like i hate him and don't like him anymore. So i thought she was over him. Well a few days ago that girl broke up with him. SO he comes back to my friend and is like i don't know why i broke up with you, i love you and blah blah. well he told me he was going to ask her out again and i was hoping she would say no, but i found out that she said yes today. I don't want my friend to get hurt, again. I don't how to say she made the wrong decision, i don't want this boy thinking he can brake up and get back together over and over again, can u help? (link)
You could always just try to tell your friend what you think about the whole situation, although there is no guarentee that she will understand and not get upset or mad. I would probably try talking to the guy as well, and tell him not to hurt her, and tell him you don't want him to think that he can't just go out with her, break up, and go out again when he doesn't have anyone else! there isn't really anything else you can do. sorry to say but your friend is going to have to learn on her own..the hard way! if he does hurt her, just be there for her!


I am 15 year old male, gay, and attending High School. In the past year, I've come to terms with who I am and I've come out to 2 of my friends. My huge problem is that nobody my age comes out of the closet so I am going to be single for a while. I am despretely lonely and wanting someone to sweep me off my feet. I just feel so deprest and want to have a boyfriend like all the other straight couples have where you love each other and understand each other and comfort one another. My problem is that there is this guy that I like but he has no clue I exist. I think that he is gay. The signs are that he is in tennis, went to tennis camp and is trying out for the tennis team, is in drama class, his eyebrows look plucked, he looks well made up and his hair is curly and conditioned, he is fit, and all his friends are strangely attractive. I also see the way he looks at guys and can kinda tell. I really want to become friends with him so that I can be around him and be happy and possibly get him to come out to me and maybe even become my boyfriend but I don't know how to go up to him and become his friend. It's like I can't just walk up to him and say hey what's up because we don't know each other so I was thinking of bringing up tennis because I've started taking lessons and stuff and I'm going to try out for the team just so I can be there with him and possibly go to his camp and get closer to him. I just don't know how to become his friend or how to talk to him. What should I do? (link)
If you talk to someone else that knows him you could get his AIM s/n or his phone number and call him or talk to him online sometime. That way you might not feel as awkward as you would talking to him in person. Only try out for the tennis team if you actually like it. You don't want to be part of a team for something that you totally hate doing just for one person. Don't be afraid to introduce yourself to him if you can't or don't want to get his phone number or s/n!! Gay guys are usually pretty nice people, so that should give you another hint as to whether or not he is actually gay! But not all straight guys are jerks, so be careful with your judgement! Good Luck!


me and my ex have been broken up for 5 months now but I cant seem to get over him.
We happen to have a class together and we sit next to eachother (seeting chart). Well we didn't talk the first week we were in that class then on Friday he started talkin to me. And ever since then we've been flirting. I know that we will not get back together, but he confuses me sometimes because he starts the flirting at times. Then we both happen to have 1st lunch and there's this girl who is all over him and that when I first experienced jelousy, I wanted to rip her face off and smash whatever is left on the ground. I don't like to feel jelousy because I want to get over him. I just dont know what to do. (link)
There isn't much you can do about jealously except try and try again to move on and forget about it. If this kid is flirting with other girls in front of you, or when he knows that you are there..he either wants you to notice him more, or he doesn't care about the way you feel. If he doesn't know that you like him tho, he isn't do anything wrong. So make sure that if you want him to know, that you tell him you like him! Then see if he still flirts with other girls and see whether or not he acts differently towards you (in a good way.) A lot of guys with flirt with girls just b/c they are pretty, not b/c they like them or want to go out with them! Find out what is going on with him, and figure out who he likes! I know it's hard to get over someone, but if they don't like you anymore..it's the only thing you can do. And the only way you can find out if he likes you or not, is to ask him! So do it, and don't be afraid to!


my mom keeps telling me to do chores like take out the trash, do the dishes, and other stuff.but when i ask her to help she says it's not her job. so i ask then what is your job. and she says to be the mom. and so after that she orders me to do the dishs. and i say you do them. and she says you have to earn your keep. and so i say you dont earn your keep you dont even have a job. so i get grounded. why sould i work when my mom dos'nt. i dont think i was put on this planet to do dishes. and im not her robot. but i dont wanna be grounded. should i alpolage and destroy my pride or should i hold my feet down and stay grounded.

sorry it was so long.
i'll rate a 5 no matter what (link)
do you have AIM/AOL? if you do, IM me or give me your s/n! Mine is BrittanyMichx39

well it's normal for parents to want their children to help out around the house, but most parents either have jobs/careers or do some of the work around the house themselves. if she is making YOU do everything, and not offering to help, saying thanx, giving you an allowance, or just randomly buying small/inexpensive things for you, that is totally unfair. Do you have any brothers or sisters that help out around the house? what about a father? getting grounded for saying no isn't rite either, b/c what teenager/child DOESN'T tell their parents no when they are told to do something that they don't want to do! I do all the time. I think you should just tell her what you sed on here. and tell her that you are not the only one who can do things around the house, and that you feel like you have all of the responsibilities which isn't fair!


Ok me (14/f) and my bestfriend (15/m) are going out... weve been for 1 month but i just dont feel like its working out... we argue A LOT now over stupid stuff like hanging out or whos house too go over (stupid stuff), but before we went out we were cool and got along.. Never fought... i thought about it last night and i decided i dont want too go out with him anymore but the thing is, he was talkig to his best guy friend one day and his friend asked what would happen if we broke up... He was like id be pissed off and wouldnt talk to her... My bf doesnt even know i know this but that hurt me :(.. So now im scared too break it off because it could ruin the great friendship we had... HELP!!!! (link)
If he is a mature, true friend he will understand how you feel, and be okay with what you want out of the relationship. I know exactly what you mean, b/c that usually happens with me and my b/fs (get along better before you go out.) That is probably b/c when people are "together" they become more possessive with one another, b/c they think they are "theirs" now and that they can control them. Just tell him how you feel, and if he is smart enough he will realize that you two DID get along better before you were going out, and that you didn't used to fight. You could also just tell him that you want to take a break from going out, which is more-or-less breaking up, but tell him you wouldn't mind trying it again later on down the road (if you would want to try again) to see if things work out then! He should understand, if not..there isn't much you can do. Follow your heart!


one of my GOOD guy friends that i am extremely close w/got a girlfriend. this girl has been on and off with this other guy 15 times and she cheated on him twice. and now that my friend has a girlfriend i'm almost jealous of her. i don't think i like him, but when i see them together i kinda feel ignored or something. but he's not ignoring me... i don't know if i actually do like him b/c i know they wont last long and it'll be a 1-2 week thing, but when he was single i didn't feel this way... (link)
You probably feel this way b/c you are just used to getting all of his attention, or atleast more than you are probably getting now. Tell him how you feel, and don't be afraid to! You might not like him any more than a friend, you are just jealous that his g/f is getting more attention from him than you are. Don't worry about it too much tho, b/c you are rite..it probably will only last a few weeks.


Is it wrong for me to be a little jealous/upset that my boyfriend just left my house to go out hang out with his "Best Friend" [which I've never heard of] who happens to be a girl? (link)
Absolutely not! It is normal for you to get suspicious and jealous of other girls! I would too, especially if I knew nothing about her and he left my house to go hang out with her. That would really worry me, but I'd definitely ask him about it. If you do decide to ask him about her, but he doesn't really give you much detail..then you might want to be really serious with him and try your hardest to find stuff out about her. Tell him that you are just worried b/c you don't know anything about her and you don't want her to be someone that he likes and is just not telling you about. If he does tell you about her and they've been really good friends for a long time, I wouldn't worry as much. Just ask him, and don't be afraid to ask as many questions as you have to.


ok, i've been dating this guy for 2 months. and at first, i loved everything about him... and now i guess... im just losing interest. i've tried pushing him away slowly... cut down on hangin out... and everything... it just doesnt seem to work. i was planning on pushing him away, and stop hangin out as much, and then pull the... im confused and i dont know what i want thing. i mean... i do sorta like him still... but hes talking about marriage... im 16, and im not interested in that yet. i just wanna live my life. im not ready for a serious relationship, i thought i was, but im not. i do want to break things off, because with the way i feel, its just not going to work out... yet... how do i tell him i need a break... i dont want to shut him out of my life or anything... i just dont wanna be labeled as his... gf... i just wanna be friends, and hang out from time to time, and im not sure... just not couple things. how do i break things of temporarly with out breaking his heart, and shutting him out of my life? (link)
Tell him the same thing you just sed when you were asking what to tell him! Explain to him that you still want to be friends with him, and maybe even really good/close friends, but you are just not ready for the kind of relationship that he wants. Tell him that you aren't exactly sure of what you want at this time in your life, so you just want some time for yourself to think about everything. If you still want to hang out with him every now and then, make sure he knows that too..so he DOESN'T think that you totally want him out of your life. However, if he really likes you a lot it might be hard for him to just be your friend. You have to be careful with the words that you use and how you say this to him tho, b/c he might take it the wrong way and get really upset.


okay. So I really like love this kid and he said he likes me. We've gone out 3 times before. We were supposed to hang out after I got back from vacation (I got back yesterday) and I havent talked to him since. Now my friend just called me and he said he heard that the kid I like is gonna "hook up" (not sex) with this other girl. I don't know what to think now. He said he likes me and wants to hang out and like be together but I just heard that he's gonna hook up with this girl?? I don't get it. Is there any advice?? thanks! (link)
He probably just got tired of waiting for you to get back, and be able to talk to you. A lot of guys are like that, so don't be surprised when he gets a g/f even while he is telling you that he wants to go out with you. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, just telling you what I have experienced or seen. Especially if you and this kid have gone out three times before, he might think that he can just get you whenever he feels like he wants someone. He might also just keep you around so that he DOES have someone if he doesn't have anyone else. Don't let him keep you on the side til he can't find someone else! Tell him how you feel, and tell him how things are going to be with you and him. (be like.."you either like me or you don't, you either wanna be with me or you don't. i won't wait for you forever..so make a decision, it's now or never", or something along those lines.) He should make up his mind then! If not, he is just a confused little boy who wants to break some hearts.


This is... kind of odd, I suppose.
Please only read this is you are female.. and know what you are talking about?
I'm 13. I've had my... yeah...
But I've never liked a guy. Ever. Been kissed. Wanted to kiss. Never had a crush or a boyfriend or anything.
I have no interest in girls, either. Nothing.
I'm not shy around boys or girls.

What's up with me? :/ (link)
There is nothing wrong with you, and you don't have any reason to worry about anything! You should actually be glad. Once you start liking guys and actually dating, you will understand why I sed that! Guys turn out to just be a waste of your time, and the reason for your tears most of the time! You should enjoy this little phase while you still can. b/c believe me, that's all it is. A phase that sooner or later, you will grow out of and start liking guys and wanting to get a b/f. Be careful when you do start liking them tho, and make sure you choose a good one! Guys break your heart, and tell you lies! Atleast that is what I have concluded! You are just a good girl who isn't ready for a relationship yet! Getting your period has nothing to do with when you start being interested in guys either! That is just your body maturing. Sooner or later you will like guys and always want one around, trust me!


i just found sumthang on my boyfriends zanguh that was telling a gurl he knew that he loved her more that anything or anyone!!! im feeling really stupied for going out with him rite now and i dont no what to do and im not shure but it kinda sounds like hes cheating on me but im not shure so plz gimme advice i need it really badly!!!

i rate

DONNO (link)
First of all you HAVE to talk to him about this. Tell him that you saw it and you were wondering why he it telling this girl this stuff, what he means by it, and find out who this girl is! If he is telling another girl that he loves her, I would definitely get mad and probably break up with him .The decision is yours, but in my opinion if you keep this guy you will probably just end up getting hurt! Good Luck!


how do you create smokey eyes? like what is the proper technique/ (link)
The crease is very important to the smokey eye and it needs special attention. With a taupe colored shadow, or a mixture of gray and brown, pick up a small amount (to begin), and work it into the crease area. Continue until the area is well defined, with lots of attention to the blending process. Remember, the look we are after is smokey. Using the same color, sweep it around the corner and beneath the lashes to bring attention to this part of the eye. Taper off as you move closer to the inside corner of the eye. Liner is next on the agenda and you will want to smudge it deeply into the lashes. Placement of the liner depends on your eyeshape, but you can try completely surrounding your eyes with liner. If you find that suddenly you seem to have tiny eyes, pull back from completely encircling the area. The outer corners of top and bottom might be all you need. With your favorite mascara, coat lashes so that they play up the darkness of the eye area. Several coats might be necessary.

(http://beauty.about.com/cs/eyemakeup/qt/createsmokeyeye.htm)


Hey!
Does anyone know any really really romantic books for teens about like teen romances? & I mean like really romantic ones. But not sadd.
thanks! (link)
Here are a list of books/summaries that I found at this website:
http://www.saclibrary.org/teens/yaromances.html

Forever… a Novel, by Judy Blume
Two high school seniors believe their love is so strong that it will last forever.

Love and Sex: Ten Stories of Truth, edited by Michael Cart

Both Sides of Time, by Caroline Coony
He summer after her senior year, Annie, wishing she could have lived 100 years ago in a more romantic time, finds herself in the 1890s, and it is indeed romantic and very painful.

The Silver Kiss, by Annette Curtis Klause
A mysterious teenage boy, harboring a dark secret, helps Zoe come to terms with her mother's terminal illness.

Don't Die My Love, by Lurlene McDaniel
Luke asked Julie to marry him in the sixth grade. Now they are in high school and are deeply in love. When Luke becomes seriously ill, the couple wonder if their love can survive, now and forever.

What My Mother Doesn't Know, by Sonya Sones
Sophie describes her relationships with a series of boys, as she searches for Mr. Right

Hard Love by Ellen Wittlinger.
After starting to publish a zine, in which he writes his secret feelings about his lonely life and his parents' divorce, 16-year-old John meets and unusual girl and begins to develop a healthier personality.

If You Come Softly, by Jacqueline Woodson
After meeting at their private school in New York, 15-year-old Jeremiah, who is black and whose parents are separated, and Ellie, who is white and whose mother has twice abandoned her, fall in love and then try to cope with people's reactions.


ok well i am so beyond mad right now and i feel so beyond betrayed, but here's the story. on saturday at 2AM, i woke up thinking about my ex bf of over a year ago. i got on IM cuz i really needed to talk to someone about it. so i was talking to my friend "Jane". and i told her how i thought he was the right one for me and all that stuff and she was like oh you should call him and stuff. so later i did and he asked me to come see him. later that night i was talking to "Jane" and she goes umm we need to talk. and then she told me she was going out with "John". i feel so beyond betrayed and all she's doing is saying she's sorry when she just totally stabbed me in the back and i want to kill her right now!! if she really cared she wouldn't have done it in the first place right? please help me sort this out!
thx...by the way i'm 14/f (link)
Wow! This girl definitely does not sound like a true friend. Especially if she started going out with this guy rite after you told her how you felt! I wouldn't even talk to her for a while, but that is just me! Did she mention anything about liking him before you told her how you felt about him? Maybe she did like him but couldn't tell you or didn't want to tell you, and then after you told her..she felt like she needed to get him before you did. That was really uncalled for tho, and I definitely think that wasn't something that a real friend would do. Try not to let it bother you too much tho, b/c there are plenty of guys out there. Probably better ones, and by the looks of it..it seems like there are better FRIENDS out there too!




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