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ok, i've been dating this guy for 2 months. and at first, i loved everything about him... and now i guess... im just losing interest. i've tried pushing him away slowly... cut down on hangin out... and everything... it just doesnt seem to work. i was planning on pushing him away, and stop hangin out as much, and then pull the... im confused and i dont know what i want thing. i mean... i do sorta like him still... but hes talking about marriage... im 16, and im not interested in that yet. i just wanna live my life. im not ready for a serious relationship, i thought i was, but im not. i do want to break things off, because with the way i feel, its just not going to work out... yet... how do i tell him i need a break... i dont want to shut him out of my life or anything... i just dont wanna be labeled as his... gf... i just wanna be friends, and hang out from time to time, and im not sure... just not couple things. how do i break things of temporarly with out breaking his heart, and shutting him out of my life?
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The best thing is BE HONEST. Arrange to meet with him and tell him exactly how you feel. Trust me, its not fair on the other person to give them lame excuses that aren't true. Thats happened to me before and its very obvious that its a lie. If you dont want to be with someone its a lot easier on the person you are dumping if you tell them the truth. At least that way they wont be thinking that you are lieing, and he can then move on with his life.
If your heart's not in it, there is no point in faking what you don't feel. I know its hard but it will be even harder if you lie your way out of it or just leave it up in the air.
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Tell him that you're too young to think of serious relationship and would rather be friends. That you want to get your career and life in order (school, career and family) before any serious relationship and that you two could still be friends. Tell him you want to figure out what you are going to do with your life, so when you do get married you will have the means to help support your husband and family when need be. Good luck to ya!
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just simply tell him you want to take a break and you just dont feel comfortable with such a serious relationship at the moment ... and if he doesnt understand what you are saying .. or doesnt understand why there is no need for you to even be with him ... sorry if that is a smart ass answer !!
hope this helps you !!
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Tell him the same thing you just sed when you were asking what to tell him! Explain to him that you still want to be friends with him, and maybe even really good/close friends, but you are just not ready for the kind of relationship that he wants. Tell him that you aren't exactly sure of what you want at this time in your life, so you just want some time for yourself to think about everything. If you still want to hang out with him every now and then, make sure he knows that too..so he DOESN'T think that you totally want him out of your life. However, if he really likes you a lot it might be hard for him to just be your friend. You have to be careful with the words that you use and how you say this to him tho, b/c he might take it the wrong way and get really upset.
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just straight up tell him that it's getting a little bit too far or going a little too fast (which ever fits). when a guy hears this, you can almost expect a reaction, so you have to be prepared for it. he might flip out, he might cry...who knows? but ne ways, you need to tell him what you feel ASAP! the longer you hold of, the harder it's gunna be on the both of you.
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