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semen does not die when it hits the air. it will eventually, but it's nowhere near instant. donation clinics wouldn't really work if there wasn't time to get it into the cup and freeze it. (link)
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Noted.
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How do I get this one girl to let me touch her butt at school out side and we are both eleven she has a good butt
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She may look nice to you but girls like class and not something crass. If you tried to touch her in this manner she would crack you one and it would be deserved.
Also, you would get in trouble with a lot of adults as it would be seen as an assault and borderline sexual and unwanted touch. If you asked her pretty much you would meet with the same result and a lot of trouble. It's different if she told you to but it's not happening. You can't get anyone to do anything they don't want to or haven't given consent for. You should show her more respect than you have been.
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Hey there(: I'm 15/f and I was wondering if there was anyway possible that you could somehow get pregnant by giving someone a handjob (link)
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No. Semen needs to enter your vagina for pregnancy. As long as your hand doesn't touch your genitals with semen on it there's zero chance. Even then it's remote as semen dies when it hits air or so I've always been told. It's fine.
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I was told long ago by educators and even sexual-health educators about the having to hit air to die thing with this bodily fluid. I've noted my gaffe but yes it has to physically enter your body for a pregnancy somehow. That part is correct and that's the main argument. Even I learn something new from the site now and then.
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me & my boyfriend been togather for almost a year , i realy love him . im suppr compfortable with him . he wants to hae sex. and im nervous about it .
idk why . maybe i feel to young(im not 13 or anything) ? or my parents will find out . or it will hurt . and im super scared of getting pregnate . but forsure we will use protection and hes not presuuring me ? i make the descison that i will do it , but thenwhen we r alone i chicken out . what should i do ? (link)
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It's your gut that's stopping you and believe me it's a pretty good thing. He may well be the right person and you trust and love him but the timing just isn't yet.
Right now you're very fearful about the first time and that's completely normal. Becoming pregnant is indeed a big deal and not for you right now. As long as you use condoms and invest in another kind of birth-control on-top the risk if both are used correctly is remote.
As far as parents finding out perhaps the best thing to do is be honest. They won't like your decision to have sex (none will) but if you ask for birth-control and show them a desire to be safe each time it's better than you doing it, maybe being pregnant (if not careful) or being caught.
Being a male I'm at a disadvantage to tell you if it hurts for a female first time. I'm aware of discomfort, friction etc. but as to anything else hopefully a female advice giver will tell you but it's a different story for each person.
I think what you should do is WAIT for now. Get more information on it and read up on what scares you about it still. I also suggest talking to an older female in confidence or a doctor, counselor (they can't tell your folks) and talk about it and your concerns before doing anything physical.
If your boyfriend loves you he will understand that things will happen but once you are comfortable. Talking to an older female who isn't your mother be it as sister, aunt, counselor, relative, friend's mom whomever about this is a good idea or tell your folks you are planning on becoming sexually active but want to be safe.
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Okay before i start. I would just like to say up front that I've never really been introduced to him or anything formally but we have messaged each other before.
So I'm 20F and I just moved to a new town and I've gotten to know some of the people who live here (people my age) i knew of the people here because we have mutual friends and so far everyone seems cool. I'm not close with any because I just got here. But there's this one guy whom I saw who actually visited my hometown for a little musical show him and his friends came to perform him. Ever since that night for some reason I managed to have a little crush on him. Knowing I would be moving to his area soon made me a little hopeful that we would eventually become friends. When I was at the show my friends were there with me. One in particular is 14 yrs old and she's pretty close to me. She doesn't have much friends her age but she lives back in my hometown. Anyway so I told her I thought the guy was cute and maybe I'll get to know him when I move. We added him on fb together and out
Of nowhere he messages her! Liked her pic! And idk he just started taking to her. Not flirting but talking in general and he even offered to give him her #. She doesn't have a phone though. Anyway he doesn't send me anything. Keep in mind he's my age, maybe a few months older.
I know he was in a previous relationship which ended pretty badly according to our mutual friend. But anyway so my friend and I were at this function at a church (btw hes a musician.)where we saw him and though none of us talked to him, he still managed to message her again on fb. I decided to message him. Now keep in mind I'm never bold about anything so this was kinda huge for me. I congratulated him on his performance and we talked a bit and I honestly thought we were off to a good start. I was just thinking that it needed a push and considering how he maybe felt about his past and girls, I would break the ice.
Well eventually he never replied. Time went on and I never saw him again. He's still active on fb. Just the other day my little friend liked some of his pictures and he liked one of hers back that I tagged her in so I got the notification. I was so happy to see that i got a notification from him saying he liked one of my pics. Well it turned out not to even be of me! It kinda hurt. Then he left her a wallpost. I don't see him actively use his fb so i again was a little jealous and she replied accordingly and nicely , Like she would to anyone. He didn't reply but then she posted a status and he commented on it like back and forth.
Do you see why I'm a little jealous. He doesn't even talk to me. And it's not like he doesn't see me enough because both me and my friend have seen him the same amount of times.
I'm starting to get the vibe that I'm way in over my head and I'm over thinking but part of me is worried that he doesn't find me attractive at all. I mean he's 21 and she's 14! And they message each other from time to time.
My mutual friend with him is also close to his brother and I've heard that he's only interested in slutty girls. And that his brother agrees to. My friend isn't slutty but she's at that age where she wants to look cute and grown. I'm not sure if that's what he likes but I don't know. I'm also aware he could be talking to other girls now. And he is aware there are girls out there that like him.
I would really like a 3rd person view on what you think. (link)
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Perhaps he knows that what you really want is a relationship and not a friendship or senses you pushing too hard. At any rate there's something about you that puts him off of you or he just doesn't like you on various levels. That happens sometimes.
When it comes to your friend it better be a friendship thing and they both know that or it's pretty damned creepy for him to show any interest in a 14-year-old. Then again he could be giving her advice, counseling her or encouraging her and that kind of thing is fine.
Also, mutual friends often have their own agenda and can be full of crap. I would listen to what they say about his preferences and be cautious but not accept the slutty girl thing as 100% true. But, if that's what he likes than you know you aren't the right person.
I wouldn't worry about him not being attracted to because it's not your fault. You no doubt are pretty but attraction has to be more than that and if he's not feeling it with you than it's okay. If I were you and he never responded and shows you zero attention I'd move on and find someone who does. That's where I see this.
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I've ordered a vibrator online before without issue and I just ordered another a few days ago. Then it hit me, will the post office know I ordered a vibrator? I was checking the tracking number and it was on my towns post office under "arrival scan" and that scared me because I know two people who work at my towns post office and the box will obviously have my name on it. But I don't want anyone to know what I bought. (link)
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The seller always sends items of this nature in packaging with your name on it in a way that nobody knows the contents. They do this so people will order from them and not fear others finding out.
When it comes to the tracing number all "arrival scan" could mean is that it arrived at the sorting plant to be shipped out to you or is out on delivery. There's simply no way anyone could tell what you bought.
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Hi,I'm Jazz and I'm 14.My bestfriend Damaris and Jasmine asked me to go to homecoming with them.I agreed,because I need to find something to bring up my mood.But now,I just don't wanna go anymore.
Whenever they ask me to do something with them,I say no,because I prefer to be locked up in my room alone,but they don't know that.
How do I tell her I don't wanna go to homecoming or her fifteenth b-0day bash,without making her think I don't wanna spend time with her? (link)
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The real issue isn't their invites and not wanting to hurt them it's why you won't go. It's NOT normal behavior at all for a teenager or anyone to want to be a hermit and locked in their room all day/night without interacting with others.
You really need some professional help to deal with this. I'm being blunt and honest that there's something wrong with your mental health if you are constantly moody and want to be locked in your room tan go out like normal teens.
You NEED to go and to challenge yourself by going and trying to have fun with them. They really want you there and you need to get out. Don't make excuses for not going. If you continue to turn down offers people won't bother with you. Will she get hurt if you declined? Maybe, maybe not but if you keep doing it she'll get tired of you real fast.
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Help, it is 9.3 inches long but only around 4 inches in girth. Will it get bigger, especially thicker? Please give real answers. I measured from the end of it to the tip. I started puberty at 11. (link)
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9.3 inches is considered ahem well-endowed. Can it get bigger, thicker, wider? In theory yes, because your body grows until you are 18. Will it? probably not because 9 to 10 inches is a lot bigger than the 3.5 inch flaccid and 5.5 erect of most males.
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Okay, so my name is Allison &' I'm f/14. So, my guy friend James is 15 and we both really like each other. Except that I know that he really wants to have sex.... I want to know if its wrong that he fingers me &' we get a little more intimate. I honestly think that I love him &' I think he loves me too. (link)
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Knowing that you aren't ready for intercourse is a good thing and you have to make sure he knows it and respects it. As far as fingering goes it's a form of masturbation but done by a partner and nothing bad can come of it.
If you feel comfortable with it great if not tell him. Either way it's normal and not considered unusual or wrong. You're the one in control of what happens regarding intimacy. You have to tell your partner where you draw the line and make him respect that. It's up to you what to do intimately and not considered wrong but you have to be ready for it and well-prepared. Don't be afraid to tell you partner what you don't feel right about.
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I am 14 years old and i have trouble in school. I am in 8th grade and i get tons of homework. My mom is really strict and if i have one piece of missing homework she grounds me for three months and takes away everything. So, Today.. I had a packet (a late one) that i couldn't finish on time. We had a weather Journal (you record weather for a long time) I was trying to do this, my packet, and my homework. My mom told me she wouldn't help me with my work so i told he i didn't have homework (while trying to finish it) She emailed the teachers and found i had late work and yelled at me. She emailed my teach back and said
"I don't know what is wrong with her! I guess i have to tell her other teachers that she's lazy."
So now all my teachers dont trust me and my mom hates me! She has teachers email her about work and i dont feel so good. I even cut myself twice. Cause i was afraid of the teachers. I am so scared i don't know what to do! Please Help! (link)
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I don't think you are lazy as you are trying hard. Your problem is a lack of organization and not dividing work up into what needs to be done immediately and what can take time. You have to stick to due dates. If you can stay on top of homework and do it to the best of your ability on time than nobody will have issue.
Your mother cares but expects more from you when it comes to your homework and doesn't want you lying to her. Her remark about you being lazy was wrong and stems from frustration and wanting you to excel.
Cutting yourself won't solve anything. I honestly don't think the cutting stems from this. It's a bigger problem and needs to be addressed by a medical professional usually a psychiatrist. If you're self-mutilating you need professional help and that's not being mean. It's the blunt reality of the situation.
As for school get yourself a note-book and write down the dates homework is due and go to each teacher daily and have them initial it before you leave so they know and you know what it is you're supposed to turn in. That should keep you on top of things.
Next if you don't understand something ask for help before you leave for home or get someone to tutor you. If your problem is in needing to do something at a really slow pace and that's why you're behind get tested for learning issues as special help would make you excel better and perhaps understand what you find hard and boost grades.
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I'm 21 and married. I'm 10 weeks pregnant, and as time goes on I become more and more scared. It has made me very aware that I honestly don't think I'm ready for it. I don't want an abortion, I'm very against that. What I want is advice on how to cope. I know that if it ends up being a successful pregnancy then I will be a mom in May. How do I come to terms with not being able to do some of the things I wanted to? I LOVE kids, but I wanted to be established in a career, have a few more years with my husband - just him and I - and to live life for a little bit with only having to worry about rent and how to handle a disagreement I have with my husband. Now, I will have so much more to handle on a daily basis. How do I do it? I wasn't expecting to have kids for a few more years... (link)
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If you and your husband love one another deeply and children in general than this may be a wonderful blessing. Maybe you are in the baby's life for a reason or him/her in yours to enrich it or teach you something about life or love itself.
There is no question that it will be difficult at times and you may feel you don't know what to do but I know you have your parents support and others to help guide you. Reach out to them they won't let you falter.
Life is something you can't script. You can plan for a career, education etc. but sometimes something else comes along. This doesn't mean you can't work, go to school or be a mom. What it means is that you may need to post-pone for a bit and come back to it as your child grows. It's a temporary sacrifice.
There's always adoption but I have a feeling that's something that would hurt you inside and be long-lasting to have to deal with.
I think you should embrace the opportunity GOD gave you and reach out to family and friends for help. Tell your parents that you're worried about a career and other goals and see if they can help you keep that on track while raising your child at the same time. There's a way. They can definitely mind their grandchild while you pursue those goals and work and give you time to yourselves so you aren't overwhelmed. It may have come faster than you wanted but could be the best experience of your life. As long as you have a support network and can reach out to people when you need help you will do alright.
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Hello,
I wanna hv sex wit my virgin g/f how to i convince hr to hv sex with me, Coz i really want it. (link)
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You cannot convince anyone of doing anything at all if they do not want to. All you can do is let your girlfriend know your desire and let her make up her own mind and accept whatever her decision is. That's it.
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Hey guys! Missed like the last 10 episodes of Hollywood heights! What happened to Chloe? How did she get hurt and how did Eddie die!?!?!?!? Full detail please :)
Thanks xoxo (link)
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Hollywood_Heights_episodes
Synopsis of what happens in each episode in the current season. If you Google the series name and episode guide you may find other sites that provide blow by blow spoilers but Wikipedia should be a good starting point for you.
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I have a boyfriend that i have been with for a year, but he has always been controlling and i went out with him shortly after i got out of a 2 year relationship. Throughout the relationship i am in right now my mind has always went back to the other relationship. It ended so randomly. It has been so hard to deal with the whole time. I'm sure people will just say stay with the bf you have ,but honeslty i don't want to be stuck with him for the rest of my life.I wouldn't get in a relationship right after but i really want to be with the guy from the past. It's hard to explain, sorry this is so confusing. I just need help now. (link)
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Here's what you did in short: You dated a guy and felt secure until something unexpected happened. Finding yourself without him and needing the security and love of a relationship you settled for this other guy to take his place. You made this choice subconciously.
It turns out this new guy is a bit of an SOB and that you really don't have love for one another and it isn't right. Now, that you have realized this fact you need to be responsible and tell the guy it's over.
The next thing you need to do is NOT get involved with anyone yet. Figure out what you truly need rather than want in a relationship before getting into this kind of rebound guy thing again--which is what he was and you didn't see at the time. Make sure your next beau if someone who treats you right and has all the right qualities than get involved. You have to take a mental inventory of what works in a relationship, what you did wrong, and what you won't settle for.
I know you still love the first boyfriend you mentioned and that 2 years is a long time when you're a teen to be together. You have to celebrate what was great about that relationship at the time and then accept what happened that ended it. Unless there's a way to repair what led to the breakup both of you will wind up in the same place inevitably as before. The behaviors leading to it have to change for any success.
It's normal for it to take a while to mourn a loss like that but if it's been 6 months and you have had another relationship something's wrong and you need to move on as it's not healthy and likely the other person has moved on too.
You need to find someone you can talk to about this and relationships in general and what you need and all of these feelings so you can move forward. It doesn't mean you are crazy but perhaps seeing a therapist will help you figure out the right approach for life after the first and second guy.
The other thing morally is that you have to tell guy number 2 it's not working rather than continue in something futile as he's going to get hurt controlling or not when dumped. Don't drag that out when you know it's going to happen. You can't keep up trying to love someone you don't and do not want to be with.
To sum things up: Get out of your current relationship pronto before either side is severely hurt. 2) WAIT! Figure out who you are, where you are going and what you want in a relationship before starting a new one or reviving an old one. 3) Realize that something led to the breakup of the 2 year relationship and either learn from that or find a way to repair it before even thinking about it. 4)Realize that your former partner may have moved on and expected that of you so you don't get hurt. 5)Above all else get a therapist involved so you can figure out difficult feelings about love, what you need and where you need as well as shouldn't go.
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Me and my boyfriend has been dating for about 3 years. His behavior has changed alot and lm confused because I don't kno whether to stay or leave. He used to be open to me and communicate with as well as always be there for me. But now its like he doesnt even care at all about this relationship. We haven't seen each other in almost 3 months as well as have sex with each other in 3 months and we live about 15 minutes away from eachother. Everytime I ask him questions about the relationship he always says "idk" or gets mad I even try to tell him how I feel but I don't think he care about that either. I know he loves me and but his actions shows something else. What should I do? Should I move on or try to work something out? (link)
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This isn't a relationship It's non-functional and you are
In limbo. Look, if someone lives 15 minutes away
And supposedly loves you but hasn't spoken to you in
3 months it's long been over.
He's being an A-hole for dragging this out and not telling you why he's being this way. Something isn't right and it's clear you need to tell him that and move on. The current situation isn't fair to you. He knows bloody well why the shitty treatment of you so his idk what's wrong assertion is bs. As much as you love him you don't need the aggravation and deserve better.
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Hi, im a m 15 in the 9th grade. Lately I realized I've been acting antisocial and that I'm slowly developing anger problems and sucidal thoughts seem to come to me more and more everyday. A year or so ago life wasn't the best but it was bareable, I had friends, fun and family was there. In the sence that they where there and we didnt fight as much. I wasn't doing to great in school but I was trying. Friends were there and we had a good time. But this year things changed. I got my grades up from a c/d average to an B+/a average. My friends and me dont talk as much since we dont have many classes together and we have drifted apart. I have maybe one friend who is also drifting apart from me. This is probably because more than 3/4's of my school abuse drugs and alcohol including my friends but i don't want to get into all that. So this obviously would result in them not really talking or being with me so im at home for the a good part now. My parents and everyone have suspicsions about me and drugs and that constantly annoys me. My family always seem to fight with me. My dads senial approaching 60 and my mother just doesnt seem like she can take it anymore. My 2 sisters seem tired. One is 26 that is unemployed and blames that on me and my parents any my other sister 21 is trying to do college but stays at home and cant take it. My mom just today said she doesnt care anymore about me. I recently stopped goign to school when I have problems at home and thats starting to affect my grades. I ask for very little things at home yet my parents always but there priorities and sisters priorities before me and I dont think i can take it anymore. Help please. (link)
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Don't skip school or allow your grades to fall when you worked your ass off to get there. Your mother does love you but is speaking from a very negative place and needs professional help herself. Your whole family does.
What you should do is find an adult be it a relative, friend's parent, teacher, counselor etc and tell them your story and how awful it is at home and ask for their help because you cannot cope and have a ton of stress on you. They will definitely do all they can to change things around for you and give you a healthy outlet to vent.
If you are having thoughts of death or suicide that isn't normal and you should go to an ER immediately and tell them you can't function and are scared you will act upon them without help. There is ZERO embarrassment in either scenario to tell them you are overwhelmed and cannot function and need help.
As for your sisters that's just the way they are. Don't allow them to bother you nor what you mom says as all three need to wake up and find help on their own.
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I'm seriously at the end of my tether, I have nobody to talk to about what I'm goin through and nobody cares whether I'm dead or alive, I just wanna end the pain. (link)
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I'm here and I will listen to what you need to say. It's evident you are depressed and cannot function. Things may be horrendous to you now but there's always a way to fix a situation like yours that doesn't require death at all.
You don't need advice on death. You need advice on how to reclaim your life and start living it and enjoying it. What you need to do is go to an ER immediately and be honest about not functioning and thoughts of suicide. They will provide treatment and get you feeling normal and enjoying life in the long run. That's better than dying over anything. If you need to vent hit my inbox up.
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I had asthma when I was a kid. I haven't had problems with it since I was 14(I'm 21 now). Well I recently had an asthma attack and the fact that I have asthma will put my job at risk. Suffice to say I like my job and losing it is not an option. I've been doing research and I'm trying to figure out what could have caused it. I don't have allergies, I hadn't done anything outside the normal range of exercise I'm used to. I haven't gained any weight. I weigh 185. I've been in this area for 4 months and I keep my room very clean. I run all the time and work out too. My diet is not different or anything. Is It possible it's coming back? If so what are some causes of attacks so I can avoid them? P.S I can't just quit this job I have to wait until my contracts up. The whole point of this is to avoid having to get kicked out early. (link)
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You didn't say what line of work you were in. This is why I don't see how you would lose a job over an illness like this. They can't fire anyone legally over a known illness.
I'm not 100% versed on asthma but I do know one thing in general from what you have written you're pretty stressed out in general. That's NOT good and stress definitely can trigger something like this.
What you need to do is see a doctor. Tell them you have not had a single problem with it at all for 7 years and suddenly had an attack and continue to experience minor issues with it. Ask them WHY? and then ask them "HOW DO I MOVE FORWARD? They will give you the knowledge to stay safe and do your job. Tell them how stressed that job is making you. There's a correlation and it ain't worth killing yourself over.
Once you see the doctor talk to your boss. Level with them that you have asthma and it has been dormant for 7 years and not an issue when you were hired but has resurfaced now and you recently had an attack that could have killed you and you are concerned, have seen a doctor, and are scared for your job and livelihood and ask what can be done to make things easier on you and still be productive at work?
They legally have to help you or if it's best for you to move on can let you out of the contract for health reasons. Worse comes to worse you have to move again at least your health will be in check. The building you are in could also have something in it or that room making you sick too.
The employer will be more concerned with your life and health than anything else and will especially if you are doing well bend over backwards to make things work out. But I do think over all that you have a ton of stress going on that you need to release as it affects you greatly.
Perhaps someone with the same illness can give you some tips but I would definitely visit your doctor and learn how to keep it in check there's no reason unless your doctor comes up with one that you can't still work.
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Hi, I'm only 15 and I need some advice. About 3-4 weeks ago my boyfriend came, wiped it off, then stuck his **** inside for only a second or two. About a week ago I had what I thought was a period but I started reading things about implantation bleeding and I feel like that's what it could've been. I had 2 periods in September. I'm stressing over whether I'm pregnant or not and I'm not sure if I'm hallucinating these symptoms by thinking about them or what. I took a pregnancy test yesterday and it was negative. Someone please tell me if I'm just stressing or not. (link)
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You should see your gyno about your concerns. They can tell you with 100% certainty that you are or aren't pregnant. More importantly they can also figure out why you had vaginal bleeding 2 or more times in a month and if it has anything to do with your implant.
It's a good idea to go. You could be stressing and not pregnant as the test you took indicated but finding out why you're bleeding twice a month may be your bigger issue.
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Okay, I'm shaking right now. 8( I just noticed the tip of my penis is swollen & red. (No pains) I've never had sex, never done drugs. I think it may possibly be a reaction to dust, I say this because I just pulled an old quilt out and as I lay down, my eyes became super irritated, like badly, red with the eye goo. All the while I was mastrabating under the quilt 8( The quilt was old & probably dusty. IDK what to do!!! This is sooo embarassing 8( Its not the whole tip, just the hole. (link)
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It sounds like it was a case of that area coming in contact with a comforter you had an allergy to based on the watery eyes etc. you also mentioned.
If this doesn't die down see a doctor which we are not. When you go you'll need to now the hole from which urine flows from and ejaculate for that matter is called the urethra.
That hole and area around it are what is swollen. Tip of penis (looks lie a mushroom if circumcised or like that when foreskin retracts) is called the glans. It sounds to me like chaffing or it being severely irritated from contact with the bedding.
ADDITIONAL: As for your eyes make sure you throw away the comforter and change any clothing that came in contact with it, your body and your face. Shower and then wash your face and your eye-lids. Your eyes should stop stinging and watering soon after unless it's unrelated and you have pollen or hayfever.
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