Mercy_x_Me's advice column

Hm.. are you getting out enough? Try not to stay in the house.. you will feel so useless. What are you depressed over? Maybe you could try seeing a psychiatrist and just talk out your feelings... I think maybe you just feel like life is pointless. If you give yourself something to do, like a project, or if you go and party at nights you'll feel less bored. Has something happened recently in your life thats gotten you down? Try and figure out what it may be, if you do let me know so I can help you even better. -blu

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OK i need sum advice! Theres this guy on mah street who i use to like n stuff.But at the time he didnt feel the same so i got over it.But now he likes me and he's kinda bugging me b/c now he likes me. I'm 13 and he's 14.And it sux cuz like whenever my older brother who is 15 has a guy friend come over the guy who likes me always starts talking to the guy n asking him who he's there to see! And im getting real pissed i dunno what i should do!! PLEASE help!!
(Alexia)

Yeah.. hes definetly just jealous. If you still feel for him just let him know.. but he cant be too clingy.. thats annoying.. you know? So let him know in a nice way.

XoxO
hope i helped!!!
MuAh

-crystal blu eyes-

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my friend Jay invited me to this party saturday night then a few mins later he said that I might not be able to go bc this girl that I don't along with will be there. But if i did wanna go I will have to ask this other kid. But me and this other kid aren't really friends. he's just planning it and the party is at jay's. So should I go?? Jay is afraid the girl will start stuff with me and there will be a huge fight. sry if this is confusing but thanx for the help

You need to tell Jay that despite the other girl you wanna come and party.. hes probably a cool guy if he made sure you knew your enemy or whatever was gunna be there. But what you should ask him is why he told you not to come instead of her.. thats hurtful! If you do go, be mature, if she talks to you or comments rude things turn around and IGNORE it. Please.. dont let her know anything is getting you down.. it would only feed her ambition. You can prove to anyone that your not a hot head like her... and people will like you so much better if you dont fight with her. She may not even say anything.

Hope I helped
Have fun!
XoXo

-blu eyes-

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Ok, I'm wondering if ladies find me or people like me sexy! A little about me, I'm 5'10" 160 pounds, I'm a punk/sk8r, I'm a very random funny person(as known from other question), and I have been told that I am very sweet. I'm also starting a christian rock band, in which I will bethe singer. I've been told that I have a beautiful voice. so how many ladies would find me sexy?

Your starting a christian rock band... awsome! I dont know you know you so Im not calling you sexy but you sound cool..

XoXo-
BlUe EyED bAbY

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hey im a 14 yr. old girl and i use to the jet thingy on my pool to get an orgasm, is that safe??

yeah..you really cant be harmed by it...lol..i wouldnt say its the most discreet and private thing.. lol.

XoXo
mEl

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hi k see I just got this really funny nice and sweet boyfriend well I was talking on the phone with him yesturday and I was talking about these new friends and He asked if they were boys and I said yeah and he got made at me and saying that I shouldnt have friends that are boys. What do I do???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!???????????

That is the typical start of an abusive relationship. Whether or not hed hurt you physically he isnt good for you. You should tell him that he cant have control over every aspect of your life and that having guy friends doesnt mean that they've taken over his spot..

HoPE i have helped ya

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*BiG bLu EyEs*

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Ok, My names Mike and I was wondering, I'm a very random person and will do anything to get a laugh from anyone. So. I do alot of random stupid things just to get a luagh, but sometimes the things I do make people think I'm just a retard. So, I'm wondering if anyone thinks that people like me are funny and great to have aound? And what I mean by people like me is, people with no care of what people think and will is unhibited and will act wild and crazy just for kicks.

OMG! I would kill to know someone like you. Im random like that too.. random people are the best... you sound like a load of fun... dont change for anything.. a funny guy is the best person you could be friends with... the only thing I would say is not to be desperate to say something funny cause then you might just say somehting wierd by accident.. haha.

Best wishes hUn

... XoxO
blu eyes

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i'm 12 and i started my 1st period june 15. i heard u were supposed to get it every 28 days and i'm about a week late if that's the case! could i be pregnant, i mean i havn't had sex, but could i be? plz help!

if you didnt have sex you cant be pregnant... lol... its impossible. When you first get your period its always a little funky, its normal.. dont worry about it... or you can even tell your mom... lol

hope i helped
XoxO

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What do i do when i hate my parents???
I have a question about what i should do in a very odd situation. I am moving from Cali to colorado springs with my stepdad and mom whom i both hate for many different reasons. I will be away from my friends and my dad. i will miss my dad but he is not in a situation where i can live with him but if worse comes to worse should i emancipate myself. .if not what should i try to do to make the situation better with no sucking up involved cuz that just is not in my personality.

Explain to your parents what you're going through. Tell them how hard its going to be for you... and ask them to please understand. Communication is the best way to express your feelings.. and you have got to do it sooner or later. Hating them wont help when theyre the only ones you'll know in Colorado Springs. Once there, it'll suck for a long time but eventually you'll make friends and unfortunately have to adapt. Keep in close touch with your other friends... keep talking online and when your old enough to live where you want to you can one day go back and be happy. Im sure you'll find some happiness eventually in colorado.. you cant be miserable forever and ever.

XoXo-- best wishes
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-cRyStAL blu EYeS-

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well, my horse is being trained, and i want her to trust me more. although, as a girl, she has a bitchy attitude. i know i should do groundwork, but whatelse could i do?? i can almost ride her, maybe in a few weeks.

will rate well!!

Ha. Thats funny.. my friend is going through the same situation. Well try grooming her and leading her by yourself. While doing this, talk to her, if she learns to know your voice, she will be forever loyal when you go to ride her... other then that ever heard of Linda Parelli? She has books and cool stuff you can read online that has everything and anything to do with groundwork.

Good luck
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I met a guy who was really nice and we spent like everyday together and just cuddled. Thats wat i had been lookin for for a while so it was great. Im 13 and he was 14 so it was good for meh cuz i like the lil bit older guyz. He was my friendz cuzin and he lived in PA but was visiting. Neways i kinda liked him on and off so it confused us both. I like being with him but his personality wasnt that great so i wasnt sure. When i only kissed him on the cheek and only let him do the same i think it really turned him off so he turned to another one of her friendz and they started goin out. I cryed and cryed and tried to talk to him about it and he was just a jerk. Now even thought he hurt meh and was mean i kinda miss being with him and kinda still like him. Why am i doing this to myself and is it a bad thing? I had pictures of us and i cut it up one day cuz he sayd cumin up was about gettin sumthin but then when i was like so u just used meh he was like umm no i dint say that. If i was gunna use u i wouda gotten sum booty. That stuff just makes meh so mad so i dont no y i bother. Thats y i need u. Plezzz help!

hun, looks like you just need to schedule a date with a box of chocolates and chick flicks all day long. Because this guy is a bit too flaky and probably no good for u. Also talk to your friend, (the one whos cousins with this jerk) and have her help you sort things out. I think the healthiest thing would be to move on, but if its really killing you then get advice from someone who knows him well...

Hope i helped
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k, so let's c...i realli like this one dude... and this dude use to realli like me...but now he's all kinda not kewl and stuff, and duzn't even wanna talk to me. and i still like him a whole bunch. i don't even think of any other guy. like if sumbody asks me for a list of let's say... The top 5 guyz I like..., i couldn't even give it to them, cuz it's only him... i don't even think of any other guy. and i kno he's pretty much not worth all the hurt and stuff at all. i mean, he's alreadi broken my heart once, but i still like him just as much or maybe even more than the last time, like wud do i do??? oh yah, he still sorta gives me reason to make me think he still likes me too...

~*NINA*~

the only thing there is to do is tell him. Go online or the phone, and be straight up. Tell him you still have feelings for him, and explain how much you miss him. Its ok to give him another shot but if he breaks your heart again... which he better not cause then he'd be a loser...then give up on him. This time around can be a test to see if hes really a jerk or not.

best wishes
XoxO
blu eyes

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this may be a weird question, but i just wanted to see what people thought of my situation:

i'm not saying this to be mean, but you have to know it to get the full picture - i have a cousin (21) who is sort of one fry short of a happy meal if ya know what i mean...she lives in another state and is now pregnant with the baby of a man of another race who she nolonger is seeing. i'm the only person in our family that she has told, but she claims that she is going to come to our home state (where all my relatives live) in december after having the baby without first telling anybody...my problem is that i don't want my relatives to find out that i knew and didn't tell anyone but i don't want to disrespect her by telling either...like i said, she's sort of odd and i know she won't understand where i'm coming from - anyway, she may not even come home cuz she never really does what she says, but it's still a big deal!

...sorry this was long/thanks in advance

Dont apologize for this being long, it needed some explaining :-D. So hmm.. lets sort this through. Well no, you totally dont want to turn your back on her and tell everyone. But you should explain to her the position you've been left with.Explain to her when people find out you knew and didnt tell anyone, they will be upset with you. Tell her you feel like monkey in the middle. Ask her politely to PLEASE tell someone else back at home so they can atleast know the truth and send her things so this baby has some clothes. Tell her you were put in a very awkward position...

Best wishes
-blue-
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I need help. I use to be bestfriends with this girl. We hung out almost every single day all the time last year and most of this year. Now that summer has come she works till 10 on the weekdays and on the weekends she goes away, I'm not allowed to go away with her from ym parents. Next yera we are goin away to different colleges not even close to each other. She always tries to make me feel bad for hanging out with my boyfriend and not her but she works till 10 everyday. What should I do?

Um.. she doesnt sound like too great a friend. But anyway.. I would try talking to her on the phone alot... maybe you guys can draw close that way. Or.. try to hang out with some other friends. Because your best friend really has a busy schedule! You know?

XoXo
best wishes
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-blu-

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i just reciently got an juvenile iguana, named Draco. hes pretty small, and verrrrry skiddish. whenever i put my hand in the cage, he spazzzzes out so badly. my mom and the pet shop ownver said he will sooner or later get over it and trust me. does anyone know how long it will take, and what i can do to help our relationahip grow?

please help---will rate well if answered;)

-britski-

hey there! ;-) .. well I know I dont have an iguana but you figure he'll eventually warm up to you! Just think of Darwin and Ms Timmerman. Lol.. best of luck

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okay here's the situation. my parents are going through a divorce. my dad has a good job, but my mom is only part time. to spite everyone, my dad refuses to buy groceries for the house and my mom cant really afford to either. so i have just been accustomed to rarely eating ( i usually only eat at work). now whenever i get hungry, i eat only a little of something and i feel really full.. like sick full. whats wrong with me? am i anorexic? im not skin and bones or anything, but i think im underweight ( im 5'2'' and 110 lbs.) ugh i think im broken :( help fix little old me

no, i think you are trying to do thr best for your mom, like saving enuff food for her. Try taking your money and putting it towards food.

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How do you break up or, tell a guy you dont want to be thier gf without hurting them??

well, let me change around what you said.. theres no possible way NOT to hurt his feelings. He might not feel hurt, or he may, even if you say the nicest thing physically possible just because he still really liked you. Just tell him something like this "I dont really wanna commit myself into a relationship right now, but i wanna be really close friends" its the best way, and u should try bein friends. It will help ya.

hope i helped
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-XoXo
BLu

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OK i asked the question earlier about the guy i met on vacation...all i kno is that he lived in north dakota with his dad who is in the air force and is moving to tennesse soon...i kno his mom lives in california and his first name is brendan...i guess ill never find him since i dont got his last name..:-( o well any tips on getting over him?

ugh you definetly should have asked for his number or something. It sucks but thats only a one shot type of thing. Sorry, theres no way to help you on that. Getting over him? It takes time. its a healing type of thing... :-(... but you'll get over it eventually.

xoxo
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-blu eyed babii-

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