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this is kind of a weird question but I was wondering if anyone knows of a movie with a really good sex scene in it. Not a porn movie or anything like that, just a regular movie with a pretty steamy sex scene like the note book or something. Thanks! (link)
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Get Rich or Die Tryin'
The Illusionist
Trainspotting (i mean.. its kinda more like a porn haha, its not steamy.. but they dont show like penetration or anythin)
Wild Things
hope i helped !
x sweeethoney
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I was wondering if you would have any advice on what I should do to ask out the girl I love. She may know I like her, but she doesn't know my true feeling. I've made loads of poems about her, but I've never gave one to her. I don't want to just walk up to her and say "Wanna go out sometime?" I want to at least have a chance. :/ Help? (link)
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whatever you do DONT give her the poems. i mean, some girls may like that but ive gotten a few poems from guys that i guess 'loved me' and i didnt know... it was really creepy. (its a good personal thing, but sharin them is a bad idea)
i say just start talkin to her more often. like the advisor below me said, make the relationship comfortable. become a friend to her. talk about life, hobbies, problems, music, movies...etc. once you become comfortable with her you have way better a chance at just askin her out and havin a chance.
good luck ! :)
x sweeethoney
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Here's my situation:
My girlfriend wants me to give her a ride to school, because it gets cold up in our parts, and her car sits outside, so its always frosted over and unless she catches a ride with her mom, or leaves early on the bus, its impossible for her to get there. She hates the bus because the little kids on it are annoying and some mornings, her mom leaves early for work, so she can't catch a ride.
Giving her rides really isn't a problem for me, but it is for my Sister. She's 4 years younger than me, and it just seems impossible for her to get ready on time for me to pick up my girlfriend when she wants to be picked up. I tell her every night before she needs to get ready on time, and I still end up badgering her every morning to get out of the bathroom and on the road. If i try to talk to her about it on our way to school, she never listens. She acts way more immature than she really is (shes 14) and makes noises so she can't hear what im trying to tell her. Sometimes it frusturates me so much i threaten to drop her off right there wherever i am on my way to school (i have kicked her out a couple times and made her walk an extra few hundred feet to get there, (we live 10 miles away, so she's getting off easy)). She won't let me talk to her and she never learns the hard way. If she says anything to me its just whiny BS about how I do too much stuff for my girlfriend, and don't pay any attention to what anyone else [she] wants.
Of course, the obvious thing to try to do is talk to my dad about it, and ask him to enforce my sister's actions. But i've tried this and every time it happens she goes to him and whines about how she doesn't have her way, and always gets it her way. I've tried to make her ride the bus, I tell him its only fair that she rides the bus (just like I did when i was her age), and she whines and makes everyone's life hell for a while, and my dad just decides its easier to make me give her a ride instead of putting up with my sister, and I really can't blame him.
So all I'm really left with is to make my girlfriend wait for me to get there, or tell her i'll be too late to give her a ride. Every morning I do this, she basically ignores or crabs at me all day at school, and we always end up arguing about it that night on the phone. Since it's happening so often lately, Our relationship is really suffering. All she does is argue with me because I can't be there for her. and all I can say is that I'd be there for her if it wasn't for my sister. We never talk about anything exept my bitchy sister, and she asks me every morning if i can give her a ride and every night I lie and say ill be able to, just to make her feel alright, and so we dont have to spend more of the night arguing about it. Then every morning I end up banging on my sister's bathroom door, end up too late to pick my girlfriend up and get crabbed at all day in school and arguing with her every night.
Its just a terrible cycle that has kept going and going and getting worse and worse as it gets colder outside. I feel like i can yell and threaten my sister, kick and scream for my dad to make her listen and still never get any better off. Tonight on the phone, i was in tears trying to get my girlfriend to stop arguing about my sister and there was pure silence for like 2 minutes, then i asked if she was still there, and she just kept going on about how I don't have the guts to get what I want, how I can't get my sister to do what she wants me to make her do. I hung up. and havent heard from her in 2 hours.
And I think about how easy it would be for just one of them to change their habits and how hard it is for me to put up with them both. I just want to be a boyfriend for my girlfriend, but that doesn't stop the fact that my sister has to be my friend too, I really do get along with her when i'm not trying to make a point with her. And I am simply not the kind of person who can stand holding grudges against someone else, especailly someone as close as my girlfriend or sister.
Most of the time I decide it's better if i dont bother my dad at all with this crap, since all it is is a bunch of crap. To him, Its easier to make me take my sister and have my GF worry about getting to school because Sister raises hell every time anyone tries to deal with her. I don't want to try raising hell to get my way either, because then id be just as bad as my sister, and I have enough respect for my dad to leave him out of this. He has enough to worry about: He's our only parent and he needs a heart transplant.
I really just feel a need to be respected, not only by my sister, but by my girlfriend too, especially from her, actually. I just can't get any though. I don't know what the fuck i'm supposed to do. Its like im caught in this big argument between them, and I have to speak for both of them. yet either person I argue for, I really get nothing from it if I win.
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im an only child, but my best friend and her family are basically like family- so i deal with a bipolar bitch for a little sister haha.
basically, you have to put your foot down. dont bring your dad in this because obviously he cant deal with it. next time she takes to long, give her one warning. if shes not out of the bathroom or isnt ready, LEAVE ! it might raise hell but you have to take things into your own hands. respect is almost an impossible thing to achieve when it comes to nasty little siblings.
if this doesnt work, your girlfriend needs to get over herself and take the bus. she definitely addin on to the stress, and if your sister cant make it work she needs to try FOR YOU. yes, little kids are annoyin, but your sister is waaaay worse. you cant be whipped dude ! tell her you cant get there on time if you pick her up, and that you tried everythin else but its just not workin.
sorry about your situation, it seems like both your girlfriend and your sister need a reality check. they think that your life revolves around them and it doesnt, so start makin decisions on how youre gonna get to school with your best interest in mind, not anyone elses.
hope i helped, good luck !
x sweeethoney
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19/f
Lately things have been very odd for me health wise.
About a week ago It started with frequent gas. Then the one hiccup came. I hiccup only one time about every couple hours throughout the day. I am having more bowel movements than ever and I feel bloated, crampy, and nauseous. My breast are sore now and the past two nights I have not been able to sleep. And then to top it all off I woke up this morning with a nosebleed! I just feel sick and achy. I can't figure out whats wrong with me :(
Any ideas? I'm scared I might have ovarian cancer or something. Thanks. (link)
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could you be pregnant ? im pregnant right now, and i get very random solo hiccups. bloated, nausea, cramps, breasts sore, nose bleeds are all things that ive gotten so far.
if theres no chance you could be pregnant then i dont know what to tell you.
i highly suggest going to the doctor either way.
*to reply to your feedback, im not sure how soon you could get symptoms, but yes id wait a little while to take your test. first response tests say they can tell 5 days before your missed period. a doctor might be able to tell you sooner OR tell you what it really is.
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I think I have issues... every time im talking to a guy i start to like them then they always leave me... is there something wrong with me that I can't keep a guy... ??????????????? (link)
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well you probably give yourself up to easily (based on your subject and the way that guys leave you.) you cant make it easy for them or they get bored and will only use you for a hook up.
next time, dont let them know that you like them and dont be so eager to text/talk/hang out. give yourself some mystery. make yourself hard to get !
x sweeethoney
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What are some movies or tv shows about little girls and hardships that they face?
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the best movie for what youre lookin is 'The Little Princess'. yeah i know, the title sounds lame. but honestly, its suuuuch a great movie. its about a girl who is an outcast in a boardin school and is treated HORRIBLY.
hope i helped :)
x sweeethoney
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My Boss has always been really rude with me from the beginning, and now I'm on the verge of being fired soon. I just think I should resign from the job because I feel terrible by the end of my workshift (please read my additional notes, so I can explain in detail). (link)
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i know jobs are pretty hard to find lately with the economy and all, but your boss is being unreasonably rude and short-tempered with you. there is no reason for her to be this way from what youve typed here. she probably has stress and just uses you as a scapegoat. i think that you should quit before you are fired just to prove a point. even if i only had $5 to my name i would never ever put up with someone like that.
i say just call in one day that you arent workin and ask if you can meet with her. then tell her that you are quittin because you feel that you are treated unfairly. be as professional and cordial as possible so that can 'kill her with kindness' and show her that she hasnt gotten to you.
im sorry about your situation ! good luck
x sweeethoney
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I'm in a long distance relationship.
My boyfriend went home for christmas, he's gone for 1 month. And for some reason, I feel really bad making him come on skype to talk to me while he's away, cause i feel like the point of him being there is to be with family..and doing other things and such.
Anyway, we usually talk every couple days while he's away, but the first thing he told me was that in the airport..where he had to wait 6hrs due to delayed flights, he met a girl, they talked for 4 hours, and split a bottle of red wine. He said they talked about relationships, and i don't think he even mentioned me. Now hes home, and tells me he's been talking to his brothers gf all day on skype. But he can't tell me hes on?? He called me on skype for about 45 mins, his brother talked to me while he talked to his brothers gf, hahah messed up, i know.
But, it's not just that. He ALWAYS talks to me about his exes, and how he wonders what they're up to and stuff. I can't figure out honestly what it is, but all this other girl talk, and having fun with other girls, makes me SO jealous. I've talked to him about it once, didn't say anything when he was chatting about the girl at the aiport/brothers gf though.
Blah, i guess i just need advice. does he just seem like a flirty person? weve been dating 5 months, and he had talked about his exes even before we were dating. but now i just get so jealous, but dont bring it up, as i know its not a pretty trait to have. but then i sit here with my feelings hurt. ah, any advice?!
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honestly, if i was in your position i would be jealous too based on what he says to you and how he acts with other girls. honestly, if he had time to talk to his brothers girlfriend he definitely could have had time to talk to you. even though nothin happened with the girl in the airport, it was really unnecessary for him to tell you that 1. they split a bottle of wine and 2. that they talked about relationships. also, he shouldnt be bringin up his exes. thats just wrong and rude.
i think that the things he does are either because he tries to get a reaction out of you for his own satisfaction, or hes just an asshole. i think that you could find a way better guy, because obviously youre trustworthy and loyal if youve been in a long distance relationship with him for this long. break ups are never fun but i think that you should save yourself the heartbreak and hurt feelings.
sorry hun, messsage me if you need anythin :(
x sweeethoney
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what does adding -ita to the end of words mean?
like gordita (link)
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it technically means 'little'. im not sure about food-related things, but as a nick name thats what it is.
if your name was pablo, your family or friends might call you pablito.
hope i helped :)
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i am suicidal at present can not get my wife and my mother to get on no matter how ard i try (link)
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you need to explain that better, i dont understand what youre saying.
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17 F ok. steph is my cousin and we have been living together for as long as I remmeber. She recently turned 15 in september. And she's like my little sister we do everything together. Play all the time. We r basically insperable. Ok well she moved out like 1 weekago which is weird for me anyway. Well she recently confessed to me that last june she lost her virginity with this kid that she claims to "love". when she told me that i swear my heart dropped. shes like my little sister you know. we would always talk about losing out virginity when we were married. its so weird. like i just dont wanna see her hear me. and she told me not to tell my sister. whose 20 btw. i dont knnow if i should becuase if i dont tell someone and she has sex again and gets pregnant then i am gonna feel guilty becuase i didnt tell someone and we could have avoided this. i dont know im so confused and i feel like i cant have her near it just gets me so mad. she told me that she liked it but that she wouldnt do it again becuase shes afraid of getting pregnant. she was 14 when she lost it she recently turned 15 in sept. seriously i need some advice. she wants to hang out on saturday and i dont know if i can. when i see her i dont see that innocent girl now i see her with different eyes and anger for keeping this from me for so long and pretending that she was a virgin also for losing it. i really wish that she didnt tell me. i feel so dramatized. she was like my little sister, my bestfriend. now i dont know what to do or cant help but to feel this. its horrible. please give me some advice on all of this. thanks. (link)
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you are not god/her mother/her guardian, meanin you dont have the right to judge her OR keep her from doin somethin. i know it must have been hard for you to hear, but i think you need to worry more about yourself and not her. if anythin, make her promise you that shell use protection if she decides to have sex.
you tellin someone will not avoid or solve anythin, it will just cause more trouble for her and/or maybe cause her to lash out and have more sex.
you shouldnt be mad at her for this. its not your business, so i suggest you just forgive her and move on with your life.
x sweeethoney
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ok so last year i had my first kiss. it happened while we were kinda playing around, and i kissed up his chin and our lips sorta met and we kissed. i cant really remember how it went though! i know we kissed just lips at first and then put his tongue in my mouth and i followed his lead.
but i cant remember how it was tho for the life of me!
now im talking to another guy, and im probably going to be kissing him sometime soon. we have been talking and have liked each other for a while, and im really worried about making a good first impression. he has kissed plenty of other girls before though, and i have only kissed one guy and dont even remember how i did it or what it was like!?! this was a year ago. and even after the kiss it felt VERY surreal.
im so scared that im going to kiss bad when i kiss this guy. especially because in my firstkiss we didnt really lean in slowly or anything,and i know that this kiss will be like this. idk how to kiss someone normally! ah!
i dont know. maybe im just overeacting and freaking out for now good reason. but i really really REALLY want to make it seem like im a good kisser and that i know what i am doing. but hes had way more expericence then me, considering i dont even remember how to kiss.
help me please!
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ive had a lot of kissing in my experience, but everytime i dont for a while im like 'oh no ! i forgot how' haha.
just like you followed the guys lead the first time, do it this time as well. you just start off with a few pecks, then let him take it to makin-out. just follow his speed and pace... but if he goes farther then youd like him to then make sure to stop it, you dont wanna get uncomfortable.
youll do fine :) it usually will just come naturally ! if you freak out it will make it a lot harder for you to go with the flow of things. just dont stress it
good luck ! feel free to ask me anythin
x sweeethoney
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Okay so I'm a freshman girl. And okay I know I'm pretty attractive but one thing that really bothers me is that I'm like 5'6/5'7... and I'm a lot taller than all the other girls. Like, Ive always wanted to be a cute little petite girl. LIke I am already really skinny, I just want to be... not so tall. like I still wanna be skinny but haha, like I don't know. Luckily my boyfriend is like six foot but still. My height really bothers me. So my question is, guys? do you have a problem with tall girls? Is 5'6/'7 that tall for a girl? Just wondering. (link)
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i like girls if that counts ....
but guys dont ever really mind unless theyre super shorter than you. you have a boyfriend who obviously likes you for the you are. i was 5'10" when i was a freshman, ive always wanted to be your height.
guys usually like my height because they say im like a model, but you just have to find taller guys to date. ive dated both shorter and taller and none of them minded.
some guys might just have a preference for short girls, just like you might have a thing for tall guys. you just gotta find someone that likes you for who you are :)
i think youre fine the way you are !
x sweeethoney
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well 15/f and sorry if long . but me and my bestfriends we all chill and hang inside and outside of school well when they all got mad at me for breaking up with my boyfriend and they told me that i was stupid for it and the fact that i did it i told them to leave me alone and then they finally became my friend they said that they wont get mad well someone said that i said something about them and now that i said that they were a slut they said they dont want to talk to me and that they hate me should i confront them about some of the stuff i heard that came from there mouth about me or should i just leave me alone. (link)
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1. its really stupid for them to get mad at you for breakin up with your boyfriend. its your choice, obviously... thats just stupid.
2. if theyre your true 'best'friends then they would believe you over what other people say.
i think that you should just leave it alone and make new friends. you dont need people causin drama in your life. if they bring it up to you then tell them that if they were real friends they wouldnt say that they hated you and stuff. i know its hard but itll make your life alot easier.
(also try to use punctuation more, its hard to read when its all one sentence)
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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Im 14/f. So, everytime I shave down there I always get like razor burn or little red bumps. Ive tried shaving in a diffrent direction, just water, soap and water, shaving cream. But it still happens, do any girls know a way to make it stop doing that? (link)
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i suggest buyin an electric trimmer, they sell some with a razor on one end and a trimmer on the other.
what i do is only shave 1-2 times a week which gives your skin a chance to heal (you can still keep it shaped if you wantt if you wear a bathin suit alot or somethin) and wash down there every time you shower. use the electric trimmer to get all the long hairs, and then shave downward with the razor to get the short ones. also, use a moisturizin body wash when you do it so it doesnt dry out your skin. when i do this i dont get razor burn :)
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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I have been very confused lately.. Very stressed, actually always stressed and angry but what's really getting to me, is that I hallucinate, and I am not sure how to face it or ask for help or I don't know what the hell is wrong with me, like is this real hallucination or just my brain playing tricks on me.
You know when you watch a scary movie at night and you imagine someone passed by you.
It happens to me a lot you know, it's normal but it's been a month I don't just see shadows in the dark no I see it in the morning, I hear voices from cracks to laugh to squeals but that isn't all sometimes i am just hanging out on the couch and I feel it vibrate which is crazy because it lasts so long that I can believe there is an earth quake but its only the couch, and sometimes my bed.
You can call me insane/crazy because I think I am crazy
And if it helps I had drug abuse past, like LSD, purple hazel, speed. Stuff like that. Should I see a doctor or is this perfectly normal and my brain is just playing tricks on me. (link)
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things like LSD that make you trip/hallucinate can make you have flashbacks and cause you to see things that arent there, especially if you did it a lot. i did shrooms once and things like what youre experiencin stuck with me for a whole month after. id see things pop up from behind the couch that obviously werent there.
i really think this is why you are experincin this, but i suggest you go to a doctor just incase its somethin more. he might actually be able to help you even if it is because of the drugs.
hope i helped, and i hope everythin is resolved ! i know its scary but im sure youll be better soon :)
x sweeethoney
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im goin to peirce the topof myear myself but im abit worried about, what would i do if it gets infected ? and have you got vain in yur ears and if so what if i pop one of them. and also will it bleed ? if anyones got any more tips on this please tell me (: thanks (link)
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put a flashlight behind your ear, so you can see the veins if youre worried about it. ask a friend to do it for you. it most likely WILL get infected if you do it yourself. ive pierced myself a lot and everythin i have pierced got infected and i really dont recommend it.
when you pierce it it might bleed. leave the earring loose in the cartilage because it will swell up and if the earrin is too tight itll dig into your ear.
put ice on it before you do it. sterilize the needle by boilin it or clean it with rubbin alcohol.
good luck
x sweeethoney
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She was sleeping in a bed at a hotel for a bday party with a girl. The girl's boyfriend came in and they had sex in the same bed she was in. My friend, Julia is small. The guy turned over and raped Julia. She said she was disgusted blah blah. and the next morning the girl (who is an absolute whore and has a baby now) said "How could you do that?" to Julia!
This was a few years ago and my boyfriend wants me to tell her to tell someone. I want her to too. Her mother thinks she's a whore already and Julia says "it was so long ago. It doesn't make sense to say anything now." I don't know what to tell her. If he's done this to her I'm sure he's done it to others or is going to. By the way, I know who they guy is. I have seen him before. (link)
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tell her that the guy who did this to her really needs to be brought to justice so she can have peace of mind and also so that he cant do this to anyone else. emphasize the 'anyone else' part because that could really help her realize that its a good idea.
if she doesnt want to tell and it really compells you, you COULD do this yourself but it might wreck your friendship. so be cautious.
and the baby part is totally irrelevant. some people could really take offense to that, like myself who is a teen and pregnant. just be careful with your words next time.
x sweeethoney
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Hey everyone, I'm 14 year's old, and im pregnant. My family is broke, and struggling for money. My father just lost his job, and has less than 400 dollars in the bank. And im against adoption and abortion, i have no idea what to do. I live in Salt Lake City, Utah. I dont have a job, and i have no idea how i can get one at my age. And to top everything all together, I haven't told my parent's... i dont know what to do. Can they make me give up my baby? Please help, and soon.
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honestly, babies are VERY expensive (insurance, doctors, food, clothes, diapers, crib, stroller,..etc). at your age, you really cant make enough money to take care of a baby. plus- your parents barely have enough money to take care of you guys.
no they cant make you give up your baby but if they want you to they have a good reason. youre 14 years old, still growin up yourself. you guys cannot afford a baby right now and it wouldnt be fair to him/her if you couldnt properly take care of it.
rate me whatever you want, but i honestly think you should give it up for adoption. its truly not fair if to the baby for you to keep it. im not sayin that youd be a bad parent, but all the odds are against you. im havin a baby, but i can afford her and im older... but if i was in your situation, i would decide to give her up to give her a chance at life.
you absolutely need to tell your parents. theyre the only ones you have to help you through this.
x sweeethoney
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my boyfriend and i are trying to pick a song
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songs between a boyfriend and girlfriend kind of just happen... like your first dance, or the song playin when you had your first kiss, or a song that was playin when... etc.
i suggest you just pay attention to if music is playin when new things happen or you guys have a really good time, you know ?
hope i helped .
x sweeethoney
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