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I technically can't "date" until I turn 16. I've had boyfriends before but not ones you actually go on single dates with and things like that. My parents are okay with that kind of thing, but what if a guy actually asks me out? What should I do then? Thanks! (link)
you should tell them to wait. if they really love and respect you, then they will wait.


I'm a junior and on the prom committee with about 25-30 other people who cannot agree on a theme. Some of us want the traditional, formal, classy, starry, moonlit-looking, prom; but some people are trying to make it lame like a jungle theme. JUNGLE IS NOT PROMMMMM. how do i convince the rest of the committee that prom is a one-time deal and we want to remember it like it was all a dream?

A few of us girls decided on a paris-evening theme, with the dark city lit up on the walls and the eiffel tower, and that kind of thing so it's everything that any girl dreams prom would ever be.

No one in junior high or even elementary school dreams of their junior prom as being of a jungle or a luau. its just.. NOT prom material. I need to convince my fellow prom committee members just that. AND i need to convince them that it would be just as cheap as those lame themes would be.

Can anyone help me?! please.. its urgent. the next meeting is in 2 days. Thanks. (link)
just tell them what you wrote.

**JUNGLE IS NOT PROMMMMM.
**A few of us girls decided on a paris-evening theme, with the dark city lit up on the walls and the eiffel tower, and that kind of thing so it's everything that any girl dreams prom would ever be.
**No one in junior high or even elementary school dreams of their junior prom as being of a jungle or a luau. its just.. NOT prom material.


Hi, I am 15 and I will be 16 in March. My ex boyfriend broke up with me cause his parents were afraid he would get introuble with the law cause he is 19. We weren't doing anything sexual, is it still illegal to even date? I live in Michigan and I know the age for sex here is 16, but what about just dating?

Now he wants to wait till he moves out at the end of March or later to go back out. Cause he HAD to leave me or get kicked out of his house. Should I wait for him.. or move on? I really love him.. and he doesn't even know if we will ever get back together. I'm confused and heartbroken, any advice? (link)
you should wait until the end of march like he said. Then, if hes not ready... move on. i know this couple who is engaged and they are 15 years apart. im going to be in their wedding. after you turn like 19 or so, age doesnt matter. if you have to... move on!


I was just wondering if some of you had some ideas on how I could find a family to baby sit for. I'm not new to my neighborhood or anything it's just that there aren't many people that need baby sitters around here and if they do, they already have one. Thanks! (link)
you should go to a local church and ask the people there that have little ones. You can ask the pastor if you can put a sign in the nursery with your name and number on it. Thats how i started out. i went to my local church (which my dad is the pastor of) and asked them. some people came to me and said "hey what are you doin; on fri. night" or whatever. a church is a good way to get a family to babysit for. I have 2 from my dads church.

Smichele427


14/f

I am taking classes currently for babysitting, but I want to know more. I am going to start posting my number up for jobs, so what should I expect?? (from people calling all the way to what i should do with the younger children.) (link)
what i do... i babysit the younfer kids. the oldest child that i babysit just turned 7 last weekend. she has a 18month sister and a 4 yr old brother. I go on the computer with them to Nickjr.com and play the games with them. I sit down and watch Dora the Explorer with them. I cook them dinner... Ramen noodles, mac n cheese, heat up frozen chicken, popcorn etc. I also babysit another family that has 2 kids. a 7 yr old and a 4 year old. with them, since they dont have cable, i always bring over a movie. we watch the movie and sometimes i bring them over a hamburger from mcdonalds. we make hot chocolate together. Basically, since they dont have a computer that we are allowed on (it's a business comp.) we just watch movies and eat dinner. with the babies, like the 18 month girl that i watch, i feed her, change her, sometimes bathe her, and rock her to sleep. (i mostly babysit at night...) if you have any more ?'s lemme know!

smichele427


okay.. this may be long..
I really like this guy. We are best friends to like, the fullest extent. He is also my ex-boyfriend. He is known throughout my school as "the flirt" because he flirts with EVERYONE. Well, he is always telling me about girls he thinks are hot and who he likes and how his relationships never work out and like, how he wishes he could just have a good relationship that isn't shitty. We tell eachother everything. He came over a little while ago and we were hanging out and he started kissing me. To say the least, we began to make out. He came over again a few days ago and we were hanging out in the same place and we were really close, and cuddling and stuff like we did the other time but he went in for a kiss and i told him i promised myself i wouldn't make out with him. he understood. ive been trying to get over him. so we just hung out .. cuddled and stuff still but didn't make out. we kept getting closer and i couldnt help myself..we ended up making out again. but in between that, he kept saying things like "i dont want to love you" and then he was like "i don't want to makeout with you but i can't help myself" and i was like "why" and he was like "i don't know. i don't understand myself.. but i can't stop myself from loving you" and this was basically in between breaths and he was kissing my neck and stuff. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO (link)
run. run far away!!


I'M SO PISSED OFF AT HER!!! She ditched me this weekend, saying she was going to go to a party to get "messed up" and by her saying messed up I was thinking... drinking. You know, because she wouldn't ever smoke! Well today I went to her MySpace, and I saw pictures, so I was watching them, and I saw pictures of her and her little sister SMOKING WEED!! I WAS LIKE DUDE, WTF! She wouldn't have done that if she was with me! BUT NOOOOOO, she just HAD to go to that stupid fucking party! Another thing that makes me sooo mad is that she didn't even have the nerve to talk to me, and tell me that she was planning to go to the party, and she had all week! She didn't tell me until Friday night, when I had plans on going to her house. So she basically left me to go get high.

WHAT SHOULD I DO!
She's already dtole guys from me, and now shes smoking weed?!?

Please, Please, Please help me out!!!

-Thank you so much!- (link)
I would say ditch the bitch. she obviously doesnt care about you or anyone else. she will just continue to ditch you if you let her. just talk to her and tell her that if she keeps smoking, then you dont want to be seen with her because it will geive you a bad rep. if you hang out with someone who smokes when you dont. w/e. thats all i know to tell you.


What is the name of the Van Halen song in the "Darth Vader scene in the first Back to the Future film? (link)
who gives a fuck?


if i put on pressed powder.. does it cause freckles ? (link)
no freckles are caused by the sun. trust me. i would know. i used to have them alot when i was a little kid because i would always go outside for daycare but now that i sit at home and do didly squat, i have none.


i'd first like to say this is my first time getting back on this site for a long time and i looked back on my problems from before and this site has helped me one way or another somehow. well this time my problem is that its ether i have a problem with waking up so early because im a freshman in high school now.. witch would make sense except for the fact that i wasnt depressed at the begining of the year.. lets say the first nine weeks and a half.. i really started to notice it when my first high school boyfriend broke up with me. ever since then i cant become undepressed.. it seems like im doing it to myself.. well im trying as hard as i can to get threw whatever im going threw.. im getting my grades up so i can see my best friends more. (they all go to different high schools 6 of them!) um im also trying to eat more health because ever since the break up ive noticed ive been eating like a cow.. i gave up soda i think since summer.. and today i decide to give up choclate.. i had enough today to last me a life time.. anyway its a piece of cake to give up things like that for me.. even bread which is hard for other people.. well bread is the next step for me.. or pasta.. one of those well anyway i think u get the picture.. im trying to get everything good.. i dont know if anyone understands but i hope somone out there does.. well anyway i think im heartbroken and i dont know how to get over it.. i only went out with the boy for like a week and a half maybe 2.. but i liked him so much when i did.. at first when i was thinking of going for someone instead of him i thought i was breaking his heart.. it ended up that he broke mine.. (link)
whatever you do, dont resort to cutting like me. it makes more problems...


Why does everyone on this site always assume that because a father is a teenager that they are automatically going to leave their child? I asked a question on here about a month ago and all the answers that I got relating to my baby and his father were that he is going to leave me and my son because he is a teenager and a deadbeat? Thank you (link)
I dont know... but my cousin just had a baby and her boyfriend stayed with her. He even proposed to her. They are very happy together. People are just stupid and automatically assume.

Smichele
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1212.16 miles-- he is so far away, but only as far as my heart desires.


Today I decided to completley put my faith and trust into God, I really took him into my life today. However, I just started going to church last year so I was never baptised and never confirmed. Can I still expect to go to Heaven? What exactly does being confirmed or baptised mean? (link)
It is just a public statement that states that you have accepted christ. Trust me... my father is a pastor.


Ive got quite a tricky situation on my hands. My girlfriend (15) emailed me (15) and told me her parents were trying to get her out of their house and that she might have to move in with her best friend. The problem is her best friend is a dude. An eighteen year old dude that could easily take advantage of her. Now logic tells me I should be upset, but on the other hand I trust in her. Then I'm also worrying because the guy she's moving in with supposedly has a "sexual addiction". In my favor, however, he has a girlfriend. Do you think I should be upset or just trust that she wouldnt engage in anything with him? It's really gnawing at me. (link)
you are right when you say you have a tricky situation! I think that you are-in a way- looking out for her. i dont think you should be upset because she probably wont lay with him. being that he is way older. But in a sense you do have a right to be upset. She is moving in with another guy. chances are, you will be upset even if you try to control it because it is another guy! You should support her and try to see her as much as possible so that she will still know that you love her and wont have any reason to lay with another guy.

SMichele
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1212.16 miles-- he is so far away, but only as far as my heart desires.


Hey, I'm a 13 year old girl & my birthday is comming up really soon. My boyfriend wants to know what I want.. but I can't possibly think of anything, because I already have him. If you could give me some ideas that a 13 year old going on 14 would want. I'm into sports but I'm also girly. If you could give me ideas it would be greatly appreciated. I'll rate you! Thanks lots♥ (link)
well, i am a little bit older than you, but for xmas, i told my bf that i wanted a braclet... or a necklace. jewelery is a good gift for a guy to get a girl.

Smichele
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1212.16 miles-- he is so far away, but only as far as i can imagine


I'm 5'2" and weigh about 105 pounds. I am perfectly aware that I am NOT overweight. If anything, I am a few pounds underweight, and have no plans to lose weight. I have never been self concious about my weight.

Why do these girls who weigh even less than me and are taller than me insist on obsessing about losing weight!? Day after day I see these questions. "I weigh 50 pounds and am about 6 feet, am I fat like OMGZ?!?!" (Obvious exaggeration, you get the point.) What is wrong with everyone??... I don't want to hear that BS about "oh the media blah blah"... everyone blames EVERYTHING on the media. Why are all these little girls so freakin' impressionable?! I was never so impressionable to feel fat just because there was some anorexic model on the cover of some magazine. I think it's pathetic. Why are people like this? (link)
They are damn right stupid! I am not anorexic... i actually eat a ton! I am 15, and i weigh 90 lbs. I just have a fast metabolism. I went to the doctor about a year ago because i had strep and he told me that if i dont start gaining weight that he would have to put me on medication and i would have to be put in a center to be monitored. It is heretic though that i have a fast metabolism. My father was as thin as i am when he was 15. But, i have no clue why people would WANT to be anorexic or bulimic. (besides to drop weight fast.) I hate being as thin as i am! w/e. thats just me!

SMichele
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1212.16 miles-- he is so far away, but only as far as i can imagine


hey how old do you have to be to get your tounge peirced without your parents permission?
**sleepiesheep** (link)
you have to be 18... trust me... im 16 and i tried to get my tounge pierced and they said come back in 2 years. i've decided that i dont want my tounge pierced... i want to get my belly button pierced now...


Why does everyone think you HAVE to believe in something? Do you feel it's wrong to not put faith in a religion? I'm not religious in the tiniest bit. I know some people think that you never know what you're missing out on until you try it. However, I've never even cared or have been concerned with trying to find religion in my life. Why is religion so important? (link)
People want to think that there is a reason that they are alive... it's just something to live for. I guess it fills up the emptiness and longing to be someone. I dont belive in all that shit either!


does anyone know where you can buy leg warmers ? like, the kind that ballerinas wear. thanks (link)
go to any dance wear store... they will have some... like i live in Fl and they have this store called "On Your Toes". they have some! you can search online too.


Okay, so I'm in a bit of a weird situation. I haven't been in this situation since ninth grade, and I'm in college.
So my friend likes this guy...and this guy likes me...
Where I am is, I'm TRYING actively not to like this guy because I don't want my friend to get hurt, but he's talking to me and hanging out with me more and more, and I feel like I'm losing my battle.
We started hanging out because he and I have one HECK of a lot in common - like, it's scary. We all went out once and we ordered the same thing...in unison. Lol...
Yeeeeeeah.
So, um. I guess my question is, what do I do? My friend likes him, and he likes me, and I hate to admit it, but I'm starting to kind of like him, too.
I won't tell her I like him because, for one thing, I teased her ENDLESSLY about liking him, and I'd never hear the end of it. For another thing, that would cause such awkward friendship crap...I have, however, kind of half admitted to him that I'm starting to kinda like him...
So help me out, guys! (link)
who cares about your friend? you should tell her that you like him...


hello, i need help. guys just dont like me anymore. and im depressed, my best friend tells me things will be ok but i feel so alone. all i do is cry. its not looks, because guys hit on me and stuff, just like once they get to know me then run, if you have any advice please help.. (link)
same thing with me.... except, they dont like me because i isolate myself and id prefer to be alone than with people.




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